One of the most frustrating things about dating is not knowing what the guy wants from you. Is he serious about you or does he perhaps just want to hang out with you? The good news is there are signs he is getting ready to ask you out that can help you decipher a man’s behavior.
Truth be told, when it comes to guys, they can be a tad confusing sometimes. You can hardly tell what they’re feeling and what they’re thinking, so you spend most of your time analyzing their body language and actions.
I know it frustrates you that he’s not directly telling you his intentions, but guys can be like that.
Perhaps the guy you’ve been texting on social media just wants to be friends and nothing else. Or perhaps you’re just too afraid to look for the signs he isn’t interested in you at all.
Let’s face it, you already know the answer to your question of whether or not he’s going to make the first move on you. It could be that you’re scared to face the truth because maybe you won’t get the answer you were looking for?
But either way, it’s better to know where you stand with a guy. You shouldn’t waste your time on someone who clearly wants to be just another guy friend to you.
You deserve the truth, even if it means that you might end up disappointed.
Signs he is getting ready to ask you out
“Is he going to ask me out?” The question that keeps you awake at night.
You have all the right to be mad at your guy if it’s been a couple of months and he still hasn’t made it clear whether or not he’s interested.
Don’t expect a man to come straight up to you and say that he likes you because most of them aren’t like that. But there’s no point in banging your head against the wall trying to figure out what’s going on with him – there are signs that he’s getting ready to ask you out.
Once you know that a guy wants you, then you can decide what your next step is. But be careful and don’t confuse playing around as a sign that he sees you as a romantic interest.
Nevertheless, by knowing what his intentions are, you get to control the entire situation and you have all the power you need to make him crazy about you.
Then all you have to decide is if this is something you want or not.
1. He can’t take his eyes off you
You’ve heard people say that eyes are the windows to our soul, right? Well, in most cases that’s true and you can find out more about a guy’s feelings just by analyzing his eyes.
A clear sign he is getting ready to ask you out is when he makes prolonged eye contact with you. It’s one of the first indicators of someone’s affection that you should never dismiss.
I know that you must be thinking how hard it is deciphering a man’s intentions, but that’s not true at all. The problem is that you haven’t looked for the right clues.
Prolonged eye contact is something that you can’t hide no matter how hard you try. Your man enjoys watching you because has feelings for you, even though he’s too afraid to admit it.
And he’s not aware of his actions – he’s doing it on a subconscious level. He can’t take his eyes off you because his body and mind are attracted by your appearance and personality.
By staring deeply into your eyes, he’s actually trying to connect on a deeper level with the essence of your being – your soul.
Looking into your eyes and getting lost in them feels exciting and soothing at the same time. On top of that, he’s doing it because he wants to memorize your every facial expression and word.
He can’t look away because he is getting ready to ask you out. And when he finally does, he wants it to be perfect.
2. You’re feeling the vibes
You know that strange sensation that you get every time you see each other? And you know that you shouldn’t ignore that feeling, right?
It’s called intuition and it’s something that you should always listen to.
It can tell you much about what a guy wants from you and whether or not he’s flirting with you.
If he is getting ready to ask you out, then you’ll probably feel some positive tension between you two. Now that doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s going to make a move right now, but it does show that he wants you badly.
So, go ahead and listen to your gut. Don’t just ignore those feelings because they will prove to be right in most cases.
If you’re doubtful of your intuitive voice, then this is the right time to start listening to it. Because if you listen to it, you’ll see it’s definitely one of the signs he is getting ready to ask you out.
3. He makes you his priority
Wondering how to know if a man is genuinely interested in you?
The best way is to see where you rank on his priority list. If he never makes an excuse not to see you and instead makes an effort to have time for you and be there whenever you need him, then you can be sure that he likes you.
A man like that will never force you to question him because he’ll prioritize you over everyone. Besides, not making an effort is always a red flag and you shouldn’t entertain any man like that.
You know that you’re his top priority if he’s always there for you when you need help with something.
On the other hand, if he constantly belittles you and hangs out with his friends more than with you, then he’s not the right guy for you.
A man who prioritizes you will always text you back no matter how busy he is. He won’t let you wait for days to hear from him again.
Also, he’ll immediately apologize when he does something wrong.
In these things, he’s proving to you that he cares about how you feel. And, he’s ready to do anything to make you smile.
If you ever wondered how to spot a good guy from a player, this is one of the biggest telltale signs. It’s these little things that make all the difference.
He won’t cause you heartbreak and he’s sure to ask you out very soon.
4. The “time” clue
Do you already know each other for quite some time and now you’re wondering what his future plans are?
If so, then notice when exactly he wants to hang out with you.
If he sees you as nothing more than a coworker and wants to be your male friend, then he’ll usually agree to a workday lunch or an after-work drink. He won’t suggest that you meet up later than that because he’s meeting other women in the evening.
On the other hand, if your man suggests meeting for a drink or dinner at night or asks you to join him for a movie on a weekend, that usually means his interest in you is more than platonic.
He wants more time together so that he can get to know you on a deeper level.
5. He wants to know all about your schedule and time
Does this man send you text messages or ask you directly about your plans for the weekend or your schedule in general? Does he seem a bit too interested about when you’re getting off work so you and he can hang out more?
If so, then there’s probably a reason why he’s doing it – he wants to know you better.
A great sign that a man wants to be more than just a best friend to you is when he wants to know all about your schedule and time. I mean, there’s no point in him asking if you’re available if he doesn’t have something in mind.
A man who is getting ready to ask you out will show interest in your activities and how you spend your free time.
You don’t have to be a relationship expert to figure this one out. He’s probably asking you all those questions because he wants to know when’s the perfect time to ask you out.
You need to understand that men don’t like to be rejected. I mean, no one does, but with guys, it’s a bit different since their ego is very important to them.
That’s the reason he’s asking you about your schedule as it will help him determine when it’s the right time to make a move.
He wants to know whether you’re a busy woman or if you’re flexible. He has to be sure that you’ll accept his invitation before he asks you out and that you’re not just going to make excuses about being too busy.
And he may even go to extreme lengths to find out if you’re available or not by asking your mutual friends. That’s an undeniable sign he is getting ready to ask you out.
6. He’s curious about your love life
Spending time with you is obviously a huge deal for him if he’s romantically interested in you. But how can he make a move on you if he doesn’t know if you are single or have someone else in mind?
That’s why when it comes to one’s love life, curiosity has always been our best friend.
You can decipher man’s emotions just by interpreting how curious he is about you. And I’m talking especially about your love life.
If the man you’re into doesn’t know whether your single or dating someone else, then he’ll try to find out by asking lots of indirect and direct questions about your love life. He may even feel courageous and ask you about your previous relationships as well.
It could be that he subtly enquires about what type of men you’re attracted to, if he’s your type, what you would change about him, and stuff like that.
Or he might even ask you directly, “Are you seeing someone?”
There are tons of questions that he could ask you, so listen carefully.
It might seem to you as if an ordinary friend would ask you these types of questions, but trust me, there’s no single guy out there who would ask you so many questions about your love life if he’s not really into you.
Being curious about your previous relationships and love life is a good sign he is getting ready to ask you out.
7. He touches you
Remember how I told you that you can decipher a man’s intention by analyzing his body language?
Tell me, does the guy you’re interested in hug you? Does he linger and feel slightly awkward whenever you two are together?
Perhaps he plays with his shirt a bit or stares at you for a long time. Humans tend to be awkward when they’re around someone they like.
So, a surefire sign he is getting ready to ask you out is when he finds excuses to touch you whenever and wherever he can.
Maybe he compliments you a lot on top of that and notices every small change about you. And every time you see each other, it’s like he already has a compliment prepared just for you.
Those are all telltale signs that he’s romantically interested in you.
So, if you want, you can reciprocate his body language and throw back some compliments, but most importantly, you need to smile.
On the other hand, if you’re not into him, then don’t encourage him to keep going. Tell him that you’re nothing more than friends before he gets disappointed.
8. He wants to know more about you
There are two ways a guy can find out more about you. He can either ask for your phone number and text you or he can approach you and ask you questions in a face-to-face conversation.
Perhaps you two met on some dating app and now he’s liking all of your pictures, even those that you posted a long time ago. Maybe he asks stuff about your childhood, like what your favorite toy was and who your best friend was.
All those questions are perfectly acceptable because he wants to know more about you and your past.
It’s also one of the biggest signs that a man is interested in you and that he likes you a lot. He’s preparing himself to ask you out by knowing as many things about you as possible so he can plan the perfect date.
The thing is, he’s totally mesmerized by you, so his subconscious is telling him to gather as much information about you as he can. It’s in our human nature to act like that when we like someone.
His desire to get to know you comes from the romantic feelings that he has for you. He won’t directly tell you that he likes you, but by observing his behavior, you can gauge his intentions.
9. He showers you with compliments
One of the first things that come to mind when you think about men is that they’re not talkative human beings, right? They’d rather show you how they feel through their actions than string together words to express their emotions.
That part is left to women as they’re great at verbalizing what they’re feeling.
And even if men are giving you compliments, they’re usually more about your physical appearance and how you look.
But when a guy is getting ready to ask you out, then he’ll find another way to make sure you know he’s into you. He won’t just compliment you on your looks, but on your personality as well.
This is a clear sign he’s genuinely interested in you and getting ready to ask you out. Those guys who only have words for you when you put on your best dress only want one thing from you, and that’s to get you into their bedroom.
But a man who has romantic feelings for you will try his best to let you know that you’re as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside.
He may compliment your sense of humor or the fact that you have a kind and soft heart, it doesn’t matter. What does matter is that he’s the right guy and his heart is in the right place.
10. He listens carefully and remembers all the little details about you
Do you want to know when a guy is ready to take it to the next level? Well, if he’s listening to you carefully, remembering everything you say, and paying attention to details, then you know he’s serious about you.
It’s a well-known fact that most guys aren’t really detail-oriented, but that all changes once they fall in love with that special someone. If he likes you, he’ll pay close attention to your every word, gesture, and action.
He does that because he wants to know what you’re thinking and what personality type are you. And the only way to figure that out is by observing you.
Perhaps he’ll comment about how your quirks are rather cute to him or how he never saw anyone do certain things before like you did.
Either way, you can be sure that he’s thinking about asking you out if he’s noticing the little things about you.
11. He texts you frequently
Are you wondering why he texts you so frequently and sends you those good morning and good night text messages? There’s only one possible explanation – you’re on his mind constantly!
Sometimes men can get carried away and start texting you lengthy romantic paragraphs in the morning and when you go to sleep.
While it may be cute and sweet at first, as time passes, you’ll definitely think that something is wrong with him. And who knows, he could be a manipulator in disguise who’s trying to lure you into his trap.
But him simply wishing you good morning or good night with a few words is a surefire sign he is getting ready to ask you out. He may even use a couple of emojis just to liven things up a bit so you don’t get bored.
I don’t need to remind you that guys rarely use emojis unless they’re really into you. That’s a pretty obvious sign he’s into you and getting ready to ask you out.
12. He teases and flirts with you
It’s no secret that men like to tease and flirt with girls that they like. It’s something that they do from a young age. Also, it’s the only way for them to get closer to someone they like.
And if you didn’t know it by now, men show their affection by teasing and flirting. This can include jokingly hinting about you two dating or having kids, and any other type of joke that will get you to smile.
By joking around about those things, he’s actually testing the waters to see how you’ll react. He needs to know if you’re interested in him before he makes the first move.
Sometimes men can overdo it with the whole teasing thing, but keep in mind that he’s doing it because he’s totally smitten by you.
He can’t help but subtly show you that he wants you, so take it as yet another sign he is getting ready to ask you out.
13. He makes excuses to reach out to you
When a man has serious feelings toward you, then he’ll use any opportunity he can get to see you. He’ll even pretend that he needs your help even when he doesn’t.
If you’re looking for a sign he is getting ready to ask you out, this one is clear as day. He’ll be there for you when you need him the most – no matter if it’s in the middle of the night or if he had other plans.
Unlike players who are pros at making excuses to avoid responsibility, this man won’t have any issue with tackling problems and challenges – especially for you.
You see, a man who tries to reach out to you frequently cares about you more than you think. He wants to spend as much time as possible with you.
Is he asking me out indirectly?
Is he asking you about your plans for the next week while making sure you know when he’s available? Did he already ask you about the things you like to do on the first date? Is he cracking jokes about how you two would have a great time hanging out alone? If these situations sound familiar, then he’s asking you out indirectly.
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