There are times when we’re so focused on recognizing the signs that someone likes us that we fail to see all those red flags that someone is playing with our emotions. We don’t recognize that we’re actually in a relationship with a manipulator whose only goals are to torture us and turn our life into a living hell.
It can be frustrating to see that a man is taking you for granted when all you’ve ever wanted is for him to love you the way you love him. Instead, you’re stuck in a relationship with an immature, toxic person who only uses you whenever it suits him.
He desperately needs you and he’s addicted to playing with you and that’s why he tricks you into staying with him. I’ve been through all of that and I’ve managed to survive and so can you.
I don’t even bother thinking about whether or not he misses me; that’s how little I think about him. I went through hell and back to pick up the pieces of my broken heart and I learned my lessons.
The truth is you can think that he loves you with everything he has but it could be that he’s playing games with you and that everything you know is just a big lie. That’s why I’m going to list a few signs that show he’s playing with your emotions and isn’t sincere about his intentions at all.
1. He’s interested in other women
The thing about men is that they’re not very good liars. Usually, they get entangled in their own lies and eventually get caught out by their woman.
On top of that, women have this sixth sense and they can feel when something is off. The problem is when he doesn’t even try to hide that he’s interested in other women and instead does it in front of you.
When you’re unable to see it, you don’t actually know it. You can’t be hurt despite him being such a sleazeball.
On the other hand, when he shows you that he’s interested in other women in front of you, well, that can hurt like hell. His actions prove to you that he doesn’t care about you or your emotions at all.
He doesn’t even respect you enough to tell you that he wants some other woman and not you. He has the audacity to flirt with others while you’re with him.
That’s proof he’s playing with your emotions.
2. He makes you feel worthless
When the two of you are together, you almost feel as if you’re not good enough for him, like you’re some ordinary girl who isn’t smart or pretty enough for him.
But you have to understand that this is not on you. This is not your fault.
You wouldn’t feel that way if he didn’t treat you like that. His mean jokes and ruthless comments decrease your confidence more and more every second that you spend with him.
He thinks that he’s funny because he laughs at his own jokes but in reality, he makes you feel worthless. He doesn’t think about the consequences of his actions and doesn’t pay attention to whether he’s being cruel toward you or not.
3. He doesn’t have enough time for you
A man who’s genuinely in love with you will spend almost every second of his free time with you. He won’t use any excuses as to why he can’t make it or why he didn’t visit you when you were sick.
On the flip side, if he doesn’t have enough time for you and isn’t as available as he was before, then you can be sure that he’s no longer interested in being in a relationship with you so just he’s playing with you.
Perhaps you didn’t notice it at first because you were just starting to get to know each other. You thought that he was the perfect boyfriend who would never harm you in any way.
But as you spent more time together, his mask came off and he showed his true face. He got bored with you and that’s why he wanted to spend less time with you.
For the most part, he uses some meaningless excuses as to why he can’t make it to your date or why he won’t come over to your house. He has started to distance himself from you.
You two spend less and less time together and you’re slowly losing the feeling that you have a boyfriend. He’s playing with you instead of telling you how he feels.
4. Your relationship changed for the worse
Does your boyfriend keep avoiding meeting your family and friends? Does he try to keep you a secret?
If so, then he’s playing with your emotions and isn’t in love with you at all.
Your relationship should have moved to the next level by now. Instead, he’s trying anything he can to let you or others know he’s not in a relationship with you.
He isn’t asking to spend more time with you but instead seems distant. This is a sign that he’s not serious about you and is using you until someone better shows up.
He doesn’t care about your emotions because you’re not that important to him.
5. He pays attention to you only when you’re not there
A guy who’s playing with your emotions will often use one specific tactic to keep you around – the hot and cold game.
That means he’ll be interested in you only once he sees that you’ve taken matters into your own hands and distanced himself from him.
Only then will he call you all the time, though whenever you’re close to him, he won’t give you the attention you deserve. He’ll just push you away and make excuses as to why he can’t meet up with you.
These kinds of men want to have you in the palm of their hand at all times. They don’t want to be with you but they still want to have you as an option.
And if your man is like this, then you have to save yourself before it’s too late and leave him.
6. He’s always lying
At first, you notice that he lies to you about small things that are rather irrelevant and you tell yourself that it isn’t a big deal at all. But later, as your relationship starts to get more serious, his ‘white lies’ become way too frequent.
Eventually, you find out that he’s a pathological liar who doesn’t know how to speak the truth. Such a man is capable of lying to you about anything and everything.
It doesn’t matter to him whether it’s about his past or about what he’s doing, his only intention is to convince you that he’s telling the truth no matter what.
That’s when you know he’s playing with your emotions and that he’s actually a manipulator.