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I Walked Away And He Came Back: Did My Plan Backfire?

Are you struggling to decipher your man’s intentions? Is he sending you mixed signals and you don’t know whether he’s really into you? Well, I’ve been in your position so I walked away and he came back. I never believed that walking away can be so powerful, but it actually is.

If you are facing some problems with your partner or aren’t happy with the direction your relationship is heading, then it’s vital to know when it’s time to pull the breaks and walk away from your partner. Perhaps you want to test him to see if he still cares about you, or simply need some space to think about whether you have a future together.

Either way, walking away can certainly force a man to reevaluate his feelings for you. After all, you want your man to commit to you, right? Well, the best way to achieve that and to turn an unhealthy relationship into a healthy one is by choosing yourself and your mental health over him.

I get that you’re a bit skeptical, but I tried it myself and it worked. I walked away and he came back. I couldn’t believe what happened next. He called and texted me day and night saying how much he misses me and how he wants to give our love another chance.

That’s why I decided to write this article to help you realize you’re worth more than you think and you shouldn’t allow any man to play with your emotions ever again.

How I walked away for him to come back

Being separated from the man you love can be terrifying. Understandably, you’re a bit hesitant to try this out, so that’s why I’m going to give you some advice as to what you should do to effectively pull him back.

Don’t worry about the consequences too much. Even if he leaves you for good and never returns, you can be sure that you saved yourself from heartbreak. If you don’t hear from him ever again, then you’ll know that it wasn’t meant to be anyways and you’ll be able to find your happiness elsewhere.

Either way, here is how I went about it while I was waiting for him to come back to me. Try these tips out for yourself.

1. I stopped initiating conversations

I Walked Away And He Came Back Did My Plan Backfire

The most important thing to remember while trying to pull him back to you is to stop yourself from calling and messaging him first. And that’s exactly what I did. Normally, I was the one who initiated texting because I couldn’t stop thinking about him.

I wanted to know how his day was going and when and where we were going to see each other again.

In the beginning, he was quick to reply to those messages. But after a while, he distanced himself from me and started ignoring me. That’s when I decided to implement this tactic and see whether he’d come back to me or not.

I stopped contacting him first because I realized that a relationship should always be equally two-sided.

So, if you can relate to this, then my first advice to you is to put your phone down and resist the urge to reach out to him. After a while, your man will realize that you’re no longer the one who always starts the conversations and he’ll miss speaking to you. That’s when he’ll change his habits and start to get in touch with you first.

When this happens, don’t grab the phone immediately to reply. You don’t want to look desperate, right? Your goal is to show him that you’re not an easy woman, so don’t come across as overly eager. Be a bit “unavailable” because it’ll only make him want you more.

2. I kept myself busy

Another thing that helped me quite a lot was to rearrange my priorities, once I had the time to think about them.

I put him a bit lower on the list than he was before because I wanted to focus on myself. Of course, I still cared about him, but he didn’t need to know that, so I kept myself busy.

You have to put your life before him. After all, the most sacred and important relationship you need to nurture is the one you have with yourself.

Show him that you’re not afraid to be alone and that he isn’t the be-all-and-end-all of your life.

Think back to the time you two weren’t together. Remember the things that you did that made you feel satisfied and happy. Start doing them again.

Perhaps you enjoyed going on road trips with your friends or you spent more time building up your own business. Whatever you did to keep your mind occupied, start doing it again.

I understand that it might take a bit of time for him to realize that you’re a busy woman. After all, he’ll probably think that you’ll call him in a couple of days, but only you know the truth.

Finally, when reality hits him, he’ll want to see you more. He’ll start asking you out, but you need to remain busy.

Show him that you’re in control of your own life and that you have better things to do than to wait for him to reply. He’ll probably be attracted to you again once he sees that you’re an independent woman who makes her own decisions.

3. I didn’t stalk him on social media

With modern technology being what it is today, it’s fairly easy to contact someone. Most women make the mistake of stalking their ex-partner on social media once they walk away since they’re still feeling attached to him.

I knew that. That’s why I decided to limit my time on my phone and instead, focus on self-development and working on my self-esteem.

I made the decision not to post anything on my social media profiles because I knew he’d be looking at them. I refrained from liking or commenting on his photos since I knew that I’d look desperate if I did.

So, if you want to attract your man again, take a step back from social media and keep yourself occupied with other things.

This can be very powerful if you’re normally connected with him on social media. He’ll definitely notice that you stopped commenting or liking his photos and come running back to you in no time.

He may even search for your name amongst his other likes, and even use fake profiles if you haven’t been interacting with him.

By not speaking to him in real life and then on social media either, you’ll become a mystery to him. You’ll challenge his mind and that’s when he’ll start chasing after you. Perhaps he’ll even contact your friends and ask them about you and whether you’ve found someone new.

4. I didn’t wait for him

One of the most important things that I learned when walking away is to never wait for a man. This doesn’t require any physical reaction on your end.

Instead, it’s more about you than it is about him. You need to prepare yourself to go through life without him if it ever comes to that.

In your mind, you need to decide to walk away, and that’s what I did. I stopped waiting for him to message me, ask me out, or even to call me to see how am I feeling.

It may sound confusing and disheartening to you because, after all, you’re doing all these things to get him running back to you. But you have to make sure you’re not waiting around for him.

The epiphany came when I knew I was going to be alright even if he never spoke or saw me again. I promised myself that I would take things slowly and if he came back then I’d know that my mission was accomplished. And he did.

Perhaps you don’t get the same ending like me, but don’t dwell on it too long. Let it wash over you and turn over a new page in your life.

Show him how strong you really are. You don’t need a man to feel worthy, you’re perfectly fine on your own.

At the end of the day, it’s better to be single than in a loveless relationship.

Why a man comes back when you walk away

I Walked Away And He Came Back Did My Plan Backfire

Walking away should make a positive change both in your relationship and your life. It can give you the answer if you’re questioning whether or not he’s the one for you. On top of that, it helps your partner realize what he can lose.

By showing your guy what he’s missing out on, you actually take control into your own hands. I walked away and he came back because I was determined in my goal and I vowed to never let anyone take me for granted ever!

In this part, I’ll list a couple of reasons walking away is so powerful in how it affects your partner’s behavior and your relationship.

1. Your value increases by walking away

When I walked away from him, I actually showed my partner that I’m completely aware of my value and worth. I proved to him that I’m not going to settle for anything less than I deserve and that I won’t allow him to mistreat me in any way.

This is one of the reasons he came back.

Once your partner sees that you’re courageous enough to walk away, he’ll realize that you’re worth more than he initially thought. Finally, he’ll accept that treated you poorly and that you never deserve that kind of behavior.

Perhaps your man made you feel insignificant and replaceable. Maybe he didn’t show in his actions that he’s happy to have you but rather acted as if he could easily live without you.

By walking away, he’ll see that his life will only get worse if you aren’t part of it. He’ll feel how bad it hurts when he finds himself in the position of potentially losing you. He’ll also see how valuable you are and start appreciating you more.

My man changed completely when I walked away. He knew that losing me would be the biggest mistake of his life. That’s why he came back.

2. He’s afraid of being alone

This one really surprised me – when he told me that one of the reasons he came back was because he was afraid of being alone. Even though men act tough and strong, deep down, they’re scared to face the reality of being single and lonely.

You can use this as a positive strategy to make your man fall in love with you again.

When you give him enough space, you’ll instill this fear and he’ll come running back to you. This is a drastic measure that can change the entire narrative of your relationship.

Keep in mind that men are drawn to people who treat them right and given them genuine love. No man in his right mind would ever leave a woman who gives him the support and love he needs.

By walking away, you’ll make him chase after you. He’ll feel empty inside and only you can make him feel whole again.

That’s why your absence will drive him back to you. And this is a sign that leaving him was the right thing to do.

3. It builds a deeper connection

Losing someone you love is a traumatic experience. It seems as if their memory will never fade away and you lose your purpose. But walking away and later reconciling with your partner pushes a positive change in your relationship in every way.

So, I walked away and, fortunately for me, he came back. Why?

Because leaving him caused an intensity of feelings to flood through his soul and heart. He couldn’t bear to spend another day without me. As a result, my affection towards him also increased.

That’s why my action only strengthened our connection.

So, as you see, walking away is really powerful if your partner genuinely cares about you. Both parties will develop an increased sense of fondness unlike ever before, which is why being patient is worthwhile.

In fact, you’ll both benefit when you decide to walk away because it’s something you wouldn’t do if everything was normal between you two.

4. Men like to pursue women

I Walked Away And He Came Back Did My Plan Backfire

A man’s innate desire is to go after what he wants. That’s why if you’re the one always putting effort into your relationship, he’ll become bored and lazy and won’t fight for you anymore.

Coming off too strong can be a real turn-off and force him to break up with you. In a situation like this, there’s no balance between you two and your emotions won’t be reciprocated.

Generally speaking, a man likes to receive attention from his woman, and to deny him of that will make him only more invested.

If this sounds familiar to you, then walking away from him will prompt him to naturally chase after you. You’ll be surprised how much time and effort he’ll invest in going after you.

Truthfully, men like the drive of sweeping a woman off her feet as it boosts their ego and makes them feel proud of themselves. By using this to your advantage and pushing him into this stage, he’ll value you more than he ever did before.

5. He learns from his mistakes

I walked away and he came back. Why? Because he learned from his mistakes. Understandably, this act could shake your relationship and force a man to feel like he has an important choice to make. But that’s exactly your goal.

The truth is, most people don’t realize what they have until they lose it.

If you walk away from him, you’ll make him wonder where he went wrong. He’ll ask himself if he’s the one to blame for your breakup and start retracing his steps to find the cause.

After he finds the root of your problem, he’ll adjust his behavior and mend his ways. In the end, he’ll come to realize that his lack of investment and emotions led to you leaving him.

Sometimes, you need to pluck up the courage and do things you never thought you were capable of doing for the sake of protecting your heart. And this is one of those things.

So don’t be afraid to face facts and do what needs to be done in order to get your man back.

6. He misses the attention

It’s extremely unhealthy to be in a one-sided relationship as your needs and emotions are never reciprocated. On top of that, if you’ve given your man surplus attention, then he’ll know he has you in the palm of his hand and won’t bother chasing after you.

That happened to me, but I used it to my advantage, and here’s how.

I simply cut him off and he started to miss me. I walked away, used the no-contact rule, and after a couple of weeks, he started going out of his way to see me.

If you find yourself in a situation like this, then just leave him. The power of doing that is hidden in the little things that make him dependent on you.

This action is effective because it’ll help him realize the areas of your relationship where you add value. In the absence of it, he’ll feel uncomfortable and empty.

I get that you’ve been a devoted girlfriend to him. Just like me, you’ve always given everything to the other person and never held anything back.

You provided him with the emotional support that no one could give him except you. And during your absence, he’ll feel the impact of it.

As a result, he’ll be reminded of how important you are in his life and how he can’t stand being without you.

7. It increases his possessiveness

No man wants to see his woman with another guy. Generally, men are rather protective of the people they truly care about.

Even if your man acts as if he doesn’t care, let me tell you straight away that this isn’t true at all. Men are born possessive and jealous.

And the second you say to him you’re walking away, his natural instincts will kick in. He’ll be all over you, just like mine was, texting you like never before, asking your mutual friends where you are and with whom.

But that will only happen if you keep your dignity and maintain that high-value woman status.

8. It ignites his true feelings for you

I Walked Away And He Came Back Did My Plan Backfire

Most men don’t like to express their feelings to their women simply because they don’t want to show their vulnerable side to anyone. But under the disguise of his big ego, your man definitely has some feelings for you, I can tell you that.

But it’s ironic how those feelings only emerge if you push him to be honest about them.

In many cases, the reason for unhealthy relationships is that there is an imbalance in emotional investment between a woman and a man. Usually, women are the ones who do most of the work to maintain a healthy relationship.

And men tend to be passive about their emotions because there’s nothing to ignite it.

I was in a similar situation where my partner was cold and distant, and that’s why I decided to walk away. Only then was I able to push him to the edge and make him realize that he genuinely wants me.

You can do it too if you see that your man isn’t putting any effort into your relationship. In the end, he’ll realize he needs to open up about his emotions if he ever wants you to come back to him.

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