Think aloud
‘No answer is an answer’ is something we often hear, but never quite understand.
Texting has become such a normal occurrence to us these days that we can tell how interested in us someone is just by the texts they send us.
How often does he text you? Does he leave you on read? Both of these are things to consider when you’re still in the ‘talking stage’ with a guy.
You know that a man who’s interested in you shows that through his texts as well, but what about if you don’t get a response at all?
No answer is an answer
We’ve heard this too many times. If a guy doesn’t respond to your text messages, then he simply isn’t interested.
You can’t date anyone these days without overly analyzing the texts you receive and the texts you send them.
Why aren’t men simply straightforward instead of playing these games? We might just never know.
Instead of trying to explain to you why men are so afraid of being upfront about what they think, let’s figure out what ‘no answer is an answer’ really means.
1. If he actually wants to talk to you, he will
A man who is truly in love with you or has any interest in you will try his best to talk to you. He will go out of his way to text you back or call you.
You won’t have to overthink how long it takes him to respond to your text messages because you will always get a reply that explains his lack of response.
A man who truly cares about you will never make you reread all of your texts just to analyze what you might have said to upset him.
If he is really interested, he will reply before you ever start questioning yourself.
2. Especially when you catch him using his phone all the time
The thing that hurts the most is when you catch him using his phone all the time, but your messages stay unread.
You might just go into a room and see him smiling down at his phone, but you never get a reply. What kind of a sick and twisted game is he playing?
Even if you send him a text, right at that moment, you can see the way he chooses to ignore it.
Yeah, that man just makes a conscious decision to not reply to you, even though he’s always using his phone. Listen, no answer is an answer.
3. He texts back when it’s convenient for him
Your texts end up unanswered for days and he texts you that horrible ‘You up?’ message.
That hurts more than anything because it becomes quite obvious that he doesn’t respect your time.
It becomes obvious that he doesn’t care about you, but only cares about your body.
He thinks that he can text you out of the blue, without even reading the texts you sent before, and demand your attention.
The sign that he isn’t interested is right there.
4. When you confront him about it, he gets defensive
You have tried talking to this man about his texting habits, but he simply doesn’t seem to care.
Another scenario is that he changes his behavior for a while and then goes back to his old habits.
I know that after confronting him, you feel like you have accomplished something, but if he doesn’t stick to his word in the long run, I’m sorry to say, but he doesn’t care.
A man who does care will take your words into account and show you that he will work on this issue.
You will be able to see his efforts in the long run and you won’t have to question him ever again.
5. He ignores you on purpose
No answer is an answer – especially if a man does it on purpose.
Let’s be honest. We’re on our phones 24/7. We’re always scrolling through social media and we’re always trying to keep up with the newest trends.
Even if he doesn’t use social media that much, he’s still playing some kind of a game.
You know just as well as I do that men do not put their phones away for even a second.
So for him to scroll past your text every single day, multiple times a day, is a conscious decision.
He simply doesn’t want to answer and he does it on purpose.
6. He thinks you’re annoying for double texting
What may have happened is that you texted him once, asking if he wanted to go out for something to eat or if he wanted to go to a bar.
However, he didn’t respond and you were left waiting for hours.
You waited, of course you did. You wanted to give him space because he might have been busy.
After a while, you got restless, thinking maybe the notification of your text didn’t show up on his phone.
So you ended up texting him again.
When he ended up seeing your texts and actually replying, he told you that you were annoying and clingy for doing that.
The fact that he didn’t reply for a long period of time simply didn’t cross his mind.
Yet he takes the liberty to call you names and make you feel bad for texting.
Well, you might just never reply to his ‘You up?’ texts ever again.
See also: Sometimes, The Things Left Unsaid Mean More Than You Think
7. You won’t be afraid if you’re texting the right guy
‘No answer is an answer’ is just a phrase but it holds so much meaning. Believe me when I tell you that the right guy won’t play any games with you.
The right guy will look forward to talking to you, via texts or calls, and he will talk to you.
You will never have to overanalyze the text messages you have sent and you won’t have to wait ages until he replies.
If he does play games, then just leave him on read once and for all. You are worthy of someone who won’t just text you when it’s convenient for him.
You deserve someone who will put an effort into contacting you and talking to you. So don’t settle for someone who obviously isn’t interested.
You really do deserve better.
