Think aloud
Betrayal by infidelity must be the most painful and heartbreaking act a person can experience in their life.
Yet no one is safe from a person who is ready to do those things to someone who loves and cares about them.
Personally, I don’t believe that all cheaters are bad people. There are those who just don’t feel happy or appreciated in their relationship.
However, I do condemn the act itself. There are other ways that you can face those problems and resolve them.
Despite being one of the worst feelings, breaking up with a person who doesn’t fulfill your needs is better than cheating on them.
A relationship is about creating a safe place and trust, which should not be broken or violated in any sense.
However, you are probably reading this because you cannot understand or comprehend the behavior of the person who betrayed you.
You need to remember that in no way should you blame yourself for his actions.
You were faithful to him and you shouldn’t take the blame for what happens next with your relationship.
The reason for him cheating could be unhappiness, problems that you had but didn’t address, or maybe he wanted some space.
Cheating happens when a person just enjoys someone else’s attention instead of yours. They set aside their moral compass and decide to be unfaithful.
However, they aren’t looking to cheat. It is something that just occurs as a result of an opportunity that is presented to them.
There are men who are not worth your time in the first place and they see women as just numbers.
Despite that, some women think about forgiving and getting back together with their boyfriend.
I’m not saying that you should not give him a second chance, but you should be careful and weigh things up.
You should know that there are different types of behavior a man can exhibit after being caught cheating.
1. The, “I didn’t do it, I swear,” type
This line is a classic, and whoever has experienced cheating even once has likely heard it.
Even after you confront him and show him the evidence of his betrayal by infidelity, he will still reject everything and say it is not true.
Sometimes these types of men might display aggressive behavior and take a defensive stance because they want to act believable.
His fight or flight instinct kicks in and he fights through denial.
Denial gives him a sense of security because rather than accepting the fact that he got caught, he makes it look like only a suspicion.
When a man is caught, he looks for the easiest way out possible and denial is the perfect tool for such an escape.
It is very difficult to argue with him if you have no evidence, but if you have caught him in the physical act, then he might say, “It is not what it looks like.”
2. The, “It is your fault and not mine,” type
First, let me tell you that no matter what he says after you catch him cheating, infidelity by betrayal is never your fault.
You should never feel guilty for something that you didn’t do.
Well, this behavior differs from the first one in the sense that he tries to shift the blame.
He might accuse you of not making him happy or that your activity in the bedroom does not fulfill his needs.
Whatever the case might be, he tries to shift his betrayal onto you, as if you are the one to blame for his actions.
He acts cowardly and doesn’t take responsibility for what he has done.
He wants to protect himself from feeling guilty and wants to act like it is your fault.
Like I said at the beginning, cheating cannot be justified.
No matter what problems you have been facing or how unhappy he is, cheating should not be an option.
If he is so unhappy, then he should have been a man and ended the relationship and not have cheated.
There is no excuse for such behavior, especially if he blames everything on you.
3. The, “It won’t happen again, trust me,” type
The best thing a man can do when he is caught cheating is admit it and try to apologize for it.
But sometimes they just say that it won’t happen again and you believe them.
Those who cheat once will cheat again, according to several scientific papers.
I’m not saying that his intentions are not true, but you should be careful as he might not follow through with them.
If he displays this type of behavior, it is up to you to decide whether he’s worth giving a second chance.
Maybe you have faith that he will change or you know he possesses the potential to be better. Then go for it, but observe his actions.
4. The, “I can’t believe how badly I screwed up,” type
Maybe this is the best outcome for such a horrific situation because he realizes that he has broken your trust and realizes the mistake he has made.
You should consider giving him another shot because he will show remorse and will do anything that’s in his power to make things right again.
Your partner might become less secretive now that he has been caught and might give you the passwords to his social media accounts and call you every time he goes somewhere just to tell you his whereabouts.
5. The, “It was just physical attraction,” type
When a man wants to be annoying after he has been caught cheating, he will say this.
For him, such an act is purely justifiable because of the physical attraction, and that’s that.
He might say, “It meant nothing to me,” but he actually doesn’t respect you if he says this.
Being physically attracted to someone means that he felt some kind of connection toward that person.
And if he feels a connection toward another person, then he is not worth your time or trouble.
You want a partner whom you can trust and feel secure with.
You don’t want someone whom you need to tell what is right or wrong just because he doesn’t know how to behave in a relationship.
