When you see signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you, you should give up on him.
If he’s not ready for a relationship, there are plenty of men who are.
A man who shows signs he’s not ready to commit is a man who’ll only waste your time, even if he likes you.
I know how you feel. It seems that he’s into you, but whenever you want to discuss becoming something more than friends, he acts weird.
You’re completely confused because he’s giving you mixed signals.
Well, let me tell you a personal story. I was interested in a certain man, and I knew he wasn’t ready for a relationship but he liked me.
Since I liked him even more, I was willing to wait for him to finally be ready. That day never came, and I only wasted my time.
So, if you’re thinking, “He’s not ready for a relationship but likes me, so I should wait for him,” don’t. Some men simply aren’t the type who will ever be ready to commit.
Women fall in love with those men all the time, but they never get them to commit to them.
When he says he’s not ready for a relationship or shows signs he’s not ready to commit, you need to let him go.
You need to know that nothing you do could ever change his mind.
I know that you want to be with him, but wait for someone else who will want to be with you.
That someone will want to be with you as much as you will want a relationship with him, if not more.
You deserve to be with that someone, and you’ll never notice him if you keep hoping that this guy will suddenly change his mind.
If he’s not ready for a relationship with you, he never will be, and you need to accept that.
Cut him off completely and avoid seeing him because he actually might be a player.
What I mean is that there could be more girls who are hoping that he’ll finally be ready to commit.
You don’t want to see that, so, when you see the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you, just find someone who does.
This man you’re interested in could only hurt you. If he’s not ready for a relationship, you can’t force him to be in one.
Of course, you could try, but even if you succeed, do you really want to be with someone you forced to be with you? He will only hurt you in the end.
If he says he’s not ready for a relationship or shows signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you, do yourself a favor and let him go.
Trust me, you’ll thank yourself later.
A man like that is not the man you want to give your heart to because he’ll only break it.
You deserve better, and there will come a man who’ll be thrilled to get a chance to have a serious relationship with you.
Anything else is simply not worth your time. Here are all the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you, even if he likes you:
1. He isn’t interested in learning more about you or your life
A man who wants to be with you will be curious about you and will want to learn more about your life.
If the man you’re interested in never asks you many questions, and never bothers to remember the details you tell him…
I’m sorry to tell you, but he’s just wasting your time.
Whenever you talk about some important events, he forgets about them, and never even asks how they went.
He is only interested in himself, and he’s probably a narcissist.
Do you really want to be with someone who thinks only of themselves?
Even if that’s not true, he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, and he’ll only waste your time.
Wait for someone who’ll remember every single thing you say because he’ll be that interested to know everything about you.
That is the only person who’s worth being with, after all.
2. He always cancels the plans you make
The two of you make such amazing plans that you honestly believe that he’s crazy about you.
However, he constantly cancels those plans, sometimes even at the last minute.
When you are supposed to see each other, you call or text him, but he simply ignores you.
The first time he does this is a major red flag. Doing this constantly means that you’re not a priority to him, and he sees you only as an option.
Do you really want to be someone’s option when you can be with someone who will never stop choosing you?
A man who wants to have a relationship with you will always have time for you.
He’ll enjoy making plans with you, and he’ll never cancel them unless there’s an emergency.
You deserve to be someone’s priority, so wait for someone who’ll always put you first.
3. You don’t really go on dates
He seems to like you, but you never seem to go on a date, at least not a real one. You always hang out at your place, and he brings takeout like pizza.
It seems very romantic because you watch movies together and have a great time.
This could count as a date, but as for going out in public and having a real date, you never do that.
Most men would take you to a restaurant for dinner, but he never goes anywhere with you in public.
This sounds like the reason he doesn’t want a relationship with you is because he’s already in a relationship with someone else!
Why else wouldn’t he want to be seen with you in public? He probably just doesn’t want to get caught cheating.
No matter how much you like this guy, you need to walk away from him.
He doesn’t have serious intentions with you if you are never seen with him in public.
4. He is hot and cold
If he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, he won’t be that interested in having conversations with you.
Of course, when someone doesn’t want to spend time talking to you, it’s clear that they aren’t interested in having a relationship with you.
However, he occasionally shows you a lot of affection, and you get to have his full attention.
It happens every now and then, but the next day, he starts ignoring you again.
Why is he hot and cold, and what does it mean? Well, he wants to keep you around, so you will be available when he wants to talk to you and see you.
He is just stringing you along because he likes keeping his options open. He probably just enjoys the fact that you like him.
However, when a man truly likes you, he will want to talk to you every time he sees you.
He will even text you every day just to check on you and find out what you’ve been up to.
A man like that won’t be hot and cold, because he will know what he wants – you.
He will show great interest in you and your life and will want to know what’s going on with you even when he’s not there.
You have to understand that when a man wants to be with you, he will make you see that, and it will be perfectly clear.
A man who is hot and cold, on the other hand, isn’t really that interested in you, and he’s probably just playing with your heart.
5. He says he doesn’t want a relationship with you
A lot of guys will openly say that they aren’t interested in having a relationship.
They aren’t looking for something serious, and they will tell you about it directly.
When a man says something like this, you need to believe him. A lot of women still go after these guys, especially when they tell women that they like them.
Just because he likes you doesn’t mean he wants to be with you. He is probably looking for something casual, which you should not settle for.
If you do, he will probably only break your heart, so it’s best to give up on him as soon as he says he doesn’t want a relationship.
Some guys are simply players, and they never want to settle down.
Don’t fool yourself that you will change him because if he doesn’t want to change, he never will.
6. He doesn’t want you to meet his friends or family
If he doesn’t want to be with you, he will not try to make you a part of his world.
This means that he will keep you and his personal life separate, so he will not want you to meet his friends or family, and you will see that he has no intention of ever introducing you to them.
If you try to ask him about it and tell him you would like to meet the other people in his life, he will find an excuse so he can refuse.
A man who wants to be with you will proudly introduce you to everyone he knows, especially his family and friends.
Of course, he may be a little nervous about it, but if he has serious intentions with you, he will do it.
He will also be very interested in meeting your family and friends and will care a lot about making a good first impression.
This is because he will plan to have a future with you, and those who mean a lot to you will mean a lot to him as well.
7. He is always too busy to be with you
Maybe he told you that he likes you. However, whenever you want to see him, he says that he’s just too busy.
There’s always something that prevents him from seeing you, whether it’s his family, his boss, his friends, or his ex.
You need to understand that those who want to spend time with you will always make the time.
If he wanted to have a relationship with you, he would never be too busy to hang out with you.
In fact, it would be a priority to him, and he would choose it over anything else.
8. He doesn’t want to put a label on what you have
“I don’t want to put a label on what we have.”
If you have heard this sentence from him, you should know that he doesn’t want a relationship.
He won’t want to talk about what you have and will use this sentence to avoid the topic.
What happened when you asked him about what your current relationship is? He probably tried to distract you somehow, or changed the subject.
Maybe he’ll even act like the questions about commitment scare him, and say that everything’s going too fast.
This is a trick men use to blame women for asking such questions.
When a man wants to be with you, he will not hesitate to put a label on what you have.
In fact, he will want everyone to know that you’re his girlfriend so that no one will try to steal you away from him.
He will want to discuss your relationship and put a label on it even more than you do.
9. He often disappears on you
Sometimes you don’t hear from him for days or maybe even weeks, because he often disappears on you.
This is one of the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
Guys who tend to disappear like that are often actually players, so he could be seeing other girls as well.
When a man suddenly disappears on you, most often it’s because he has someone else he’d rather be with at the time.
If you can never be sure when you’ll talk to him or see him again, it’s a huge sign that he isn’t interested in having anything serious with you.
10. He doesn’t make plans for the future with you
If he doesn’t want to be with you, you will see that none of his plans for the future ever include you.
He doesn’t think that he’ll see you in the future so he can’t even picture a future where you’re a part of it.
When a man doesn’t make plans for the future with you, it’s most often because he doesn’t want you to be a part of it.
Even when you try to bring up the subject of future plans, he will try to avoid it and talk about something else.
Maybe he’ll tell you about the plans for the future that he has, but he won’t ever ask about your future plans.
You won’t be included in his plans for the next few months… Maybe not even for the next couple of weeks either.
This proves that he doesn’t want to have a relationship with you, and you should forget about him.
A man who cares about you will enjoy talking about the future with you, and you will always be an important part of his plans.
He will also care a lot about finding out what your aspirations and goals are regarding the future.
This will be important to him not just to see if your plans fit in with his, but to be able to imagine the life you could have together.
You will be sure that he wants to be in a long-term relationship with you because he’ll show you that by talking about the future with you.
That’s the man you should be with.
11. You can’t rely on him
You can’t count on him, nor trust him, and that shows that you shouldn’t be wasting your time with him.
When a guy is undependable and unreliable, it’s because he doesn’t want to be with you, and you’re not a priority to him.
Maybe he often cancels the plans you make or gives vague answers about where he’s been.
This all shows that he doesn’t want to have a relationship with you.
If he had serious intentions, he would try hard to honor the commitments he has to you, as well as keep his promises.
This guy, however, constantly lets you down, and it’s a major red flag.
Don’t waste any more of your time on a guy you can’t rely on. Do you really want to be with someone you can’t count on anyway?
12. He doesn’t open up to you
If he hasn’t really opened up to you, it’s because he doesn’t want to have a future with you.
Opening up and showing you his vulnerability isn’t worth it to him, because you aren’t someone special to him.
Why would he bother doing all that if he doesn’t want to have a long-term relationship with you?
You will often feel like he keeps a distance between the two of you and isn’t real with you.
He will always be calm and cool and will never open up and let you know how he really feels.
You won’t get to learn a lot about this man. As a result, you’ll only know what he lets you see, never finding out what’s behind it.
When a person doesn’t want to open up to you, it’s often because they don’t consider you as a person they can do that with.
Don’t think that the reason for that is something you did wrong, because the reason is that they just don’t care enough about you.
When a man loves you and wants to have a relationship with you, he will show you his vulnerable side and open up to you.
Of course, he won’t do it right away, but once you get to know each other, he will let you meet the real him.
He will do this because he wants to have a future with you and trusts you with his past memories and all his emotions.
A man who cares about you will also be interested to learn everything there is about you.
He will ask you about your feelings and your past and enjoy listening to stories from your childhood.
13. He never gives you his full attention
When the two of you are together, he is always distracted.
He often looks at his phone, and you always have to repeat what you say because he doesn’t pay attention.
When a man is disengaged and distracted while spending time with you, it’s pretty clear that he’s not that into you.
His mind is always elsewhere, and he never seems present.
This is proof that you’re not important enough to him to give you his full attention.
A man who loves you will always give you his undivided attention, and he will cherish every word you say.
That type of man will show you how much you matter to him, and you deserve that.
14. You’re the only one who puts in the effort and initiates things
You always message him first, and you’re the one who suggests that you see each other and spend some time together.
He never puts in the effort to be with you like you do. This is because he doesn’t want to have a relationship with you.
You have to initiate things because you know that he won’t, so you arrange for the two of you to meet up.
A man who wants to be with you will always think of a lot of reasons to spend time with you, and he’ll suggest that you meet up.
He will text you first whenever he thinks of you, which will be every day.
Don’t end up in a one-sided relationship with someone who obviously doesn’t care enough to put in some effort.
Why would you choose that over being in a healthy relationship where both partners are equals?
If this man doesn’t care enough to put in some effort, you should stop chasing him.
When you meet the right man, he will chase you.