My boyfriend’s Snapchat score keeps going up…
He says he doesn’t even use Snapchat, but his score keeps going up, and it’s making me think that he’s lying to me.
If you can relate to this after checking your boyfriend’s Snapchat score, you should know that it doesn’t have to mean that he is hiding something from you.
Let me help you understand the way the algorithm of Snapchat works because this could explain the increase in your boyfriend’s Snapchat score.
When a user sends and views Snaps or posts a Snap, Snapchat adds points.
I already told you that my boyfriend doesn’t use Snapchat, but his points keep increasing, which made me want to learn a little more about this point system.
I realized that Snapchat doesn’t add points at the exact time you earn them.
Points often stay frozen for some time after sending a Snap, so they get updated once you have probably even forgotten about earning them.
Maybe this is the reason behind the increase in your boyfriend’s Snapchat score if he told you that he stopped using this app.
It could be that his points were just updated a long time after he earned them.
Another important thing that you should know about Snapchat is that it rewards people who start using the app again if they haven’t used it for six days.
This means that your boyfriend maybe didn’t the app for a while, and recently did something and earned a point for it, so Snapchat rewarded him with six points for returning to the app.
There are more things that will help you figure out why your man’s score has increased, as well as whether he is cheating on you or not, so keep reading.
My boyfriend’s Snapchat score keeps going up, so I did some research to find all the possible explanations, and I’m about to share them with you.
We will look at all the possible scenarios, and I will help you find out if your boyfriend is cheating on you, as I said, but first, let’s look at some other things Snapchat does that could be the explanation for this increase in points.
Did you know that Team Snapchat occasionally sends Snaps? Team Snapchat sends promotional videos and pictures to users all around the world, to inform them about new features.
As you already know, opening a Snap will give you one point, so gaining points really isn’t that hard.
It’s enough for your partner to simply open the Snaps he receives and his score will go up.
If he only opens a Snap and doesn’t respond, he will get one point for that, and don’t forget the six points he will be rewarded with if he hadn’t used the app for a while.
I’m telling you this because the most important factor is how many points exactly your partner’s score is going up by.
If his score is up by a hundred or even more, then there could be something else going on; this would mean that he has opened dozens of Snaps or sends his Snaps to a lot of people.
He receives points for every Snap he sends, regardless of whether the people he sends them to open them or not.
If his score has increased by a lot of points all of a sudden, this could mean that he probably sent Snaps to a lot of other users at once.
Maybe this is the explanation that applies to your situation, but you shouldn’t confront your boyfriend anyway… not before you’re sure he could be cheating.
If you don’t trust him enough, it will make him trust you less too, and when there’s no trust in a relationship, it’s bound to fail.
Don’t confront your boyfriend about it, especially if he only got ten points or a few more.
He probably sometimes opens Snapchat out of pure boredom, and it’s very likely that you have no need to be worried.
Don’t criticize him or violate his privacy, and don’t obsess about it either.
If you are really worried about the possibility that he’s cheating on you, just keep reading, and you’ll see all the signs of possible cheating in this article.
There are a few more things you need to know before we get there, however.
Maybe your partner’s score keeps increasing every single day, and you think that that’s a huge warning sign but it doesn’t have to be.
Some people actually use Snapchat as their primary social media platform, just like others mainly use Facebook, for example.
When someone uses Snapchat this way, they send videos and messages, create and watch stories, and do all the other things they can on this app.
That is perfectly fine, and you shouldn’t attack your boyfriend because of it.
He could be using it only to have fun and talk to his friends, just like you use some other social media platform.
On the other hand, your boyfriend could be hiding his activities on Snapchat from you.
If he hides from you who he Snaps with and doesn’t want to talk about it, it’s not that innocent, and you have every right to be concerned.
Alternatively, he could be embarrassed about using Snapchat and might think that it’s better to keep it a secret than letting it cause problems in your relationship.
Maybe his ex was very jealous when he talked to other people on Snapchat, so he doesn’t want you to see those conversations, thinking that you would react the same as they did or he could think that having some privacy in your relationship shouldn’t be an issue.
There’s only one way you can fix this problem. Talk to him, and make sure not to be offensive when you do it.
Let him know that you won’t be jealous if he shows you the conversations he’s been having on Snapchat.
If he agrees to show you, and there’s nothing there that could threaten your relationship, just let it go.
On the other hand, if he refuses to let you see it and starts acting defensive, there’s not much you can do about it.
Tell him how much it would mean to you if he was transparent with you, and try to improve the communication between the two of you, so that your relationship will be better.
Assure him that you do not doubt his loyalty to you, but that having a relationship where you tell each other about what you do on social media platforms means a lot to you.
Don’t threaten him, just try to encourage him.
As long as you ask him politely, if he respects you enough, he will let you see what you want.
If you have repeatedly asked him very nicely, and he still doesn’t want to do it, you should ask yourself whether he’s the right man for you.
He probably won’t change, which means that you’ll have to accept the fact that he’ll always act secretive regarding his conversations if you choose to stay with him. It’s up to you whether you can do that or not.
You’ll soon find out about the signs that he’s cheating on you, but let’s first explain a few more facts.
Some men like to compete with each other by getting the highest Snapchat score as possible.
They try to increase their score as much as they can, so they send a lot of Snaps just to earn more points.
Guys like that use Snapchat as a place to have fun, escape from reality, and show off.
Even though this may not be the kind of hobby you would like your boyfriend to have, it’s still a possible explanation.
He could just be competing with someone, but if that bothers you, he should definitely stop.
Before we look at some scenarios that will help you understand exactly what he is doing on Snapchat, let’s talk about checking your boyfriend’s Snapchat for a second.
What caused you to do that?
You don’t trust him completely for some reason, but what is that reason? Has he cheated on you before?
Has he given you a reason to doubt his faithfulness, or does the reason have more to do with you than him?
If you have trust issues, you should definitely give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt, but if he has given you a reason to doubt him, you could be onto something.
Either way, it’s important that you know why you think that he could be cheating on you before doing anything else.
Is it just his Snapchat score, or is there something more?
Whatever it is, you need to be sure that you have a good reason to doubt him before confronting him; otherwise, you could only create unnecessary problems in your relationship.
I already told you how important trust is in a relationship, and if you can’t trust your partner, there could be a big problem, even if he’s not cheating on you.
Make sure to collect your thoughts before letting him know about your doubts, and keep reading to make sure that you do see signs that he’s cheating on you.
Let’s first look at some Snapchat score patterns, and what they mean, so you can be sure whether there’s a reason to doubt him.
1. Are there a lot more Snaps received compared to how many have been sent?
Just click on your partner’s Snapchat numbers, and you will be able to see whether most of the Snaps have been received, or if there’s a balance.
There are two scores, and the first one represents sent Snaps while the other one represents received Snaps.
If your partner has a much bigger number of received Snaps than sent ones, you can relax because even though people are sending Snaps to your boyfriend, he doesn’t care about them.
2. Are the numbers of sent and received Snaps almost equal?
Maybe your boyfriend told you that he doesn’t use this app, but if you see that his score has increased and that the numbers of sent and received Snaps are almost the same, you can be sure that he’s lying.
Just because he’s lying about it doesn’t necessarily mean that he is cheating on you, but the fact that he’s lying is bad anyway.
3. Does his Snapchat score increases significantly when you’re not with him?
If your boyfriend’s score increases significantly when you’re not with him, you need to talk to him.
Pay attention to the score and check it again a couple of times before you confront him.
Do it especially when the two of you aren’t together. If you notice a pattern, there’s something fishy about it, and your boyfriend could be cheating on you, but it’s too soon to tell.
Check for the other signs that he’s cheating before you do anything about it.
If you are worried that he could be having an affair and the way he acts makes you suspicious, you need to check if he uses Snapchat to cheat on you.
Before you confront him about it, you have to have some sort of proof for what you’re accusing him of; otherwise, you will only create a problem.
You need to be sure that he’s cheating before you accuse him of something like that, and the way he uses social media isn’t enough.
As you have learned already in this article, there could be many explanations regarding the way he uses Snapchat, so, to know whether he is cheating, you need to look for other changes in his behavior as well.
There are a few things about his Snapchat profile that could make you suspicious, and I’m going to tell you about them, but you need to keep reading to see the rest of the signs that he’s cheating on you to be sure.
The other signs are more about his behavior than the way he uses the app, and it’s very important that these signs exist before you accuse him of cheating.
It’s always best to have an honest conversation.
I already told you that my boyfriend doesn’t use Snapchat but his points keep increasing, and it got me worried.
After I checked if there were signs he was cheating on me, I realized that I didn’t have to worry about it, but eventually, I told him about it.
I didn’t tell him that I doubted his loyalty, but I told him that it bothered me that he had a Snapchat profile, and, since he didn’t use it, why would he need it?
He realized that I was jealous for no reason and told me that, but after I explained to him how much it would mean to me if I didn’t have to worry about his Snapchat profile, he simply deleted it.
I’m not proud of how I behaved, but he knows about my trust issues, so he understands why I’m so jealous.
I don’t know what will happen in your case, but having an honest conversation is never a bad idea.
Here are the signs he’s cheating on you on Snapchat that might show you that there’s no need to freak out about this or to warn you that you have a reason to be worried:
1. Your boyfriend has a long Snapstreak with another girl
A Snapstreak means that the two users have been sending photos or videos to one another each day for at least three days.
If your partner often uses Snapchat and sends more Snaps to one particular girl than to other people, it could be a sign of cheating.
Of course, they could be just friends, but there’s a way to check if this is something you should worry about.
If this girl is not someone you know, and he doesn’t want to tell you about who he talks to on Snapchat, it’s suspicious.
On the other hand, if you know that girl, and he doesn’t act defensive when you ask him about his conversations on Snapchat, it could be nothing to worry about.
Don’t forget that Snapchat allows people to send secret messages that disappear after being received.
To know for sure whether he is cheating on you, be sure to check for other changes in his behavior that I’ll mention soon.
2. His Snap Map shows strange behavior
The Snap Map allows users of this social media platform to find out the location of their friends who use Snapchat if they allow them to see it.
If your boyfriend doesn’t allow you to see his location, it could be a warning sign.
You can ask him to share his location with you, because, if he does, he’s not hiding anything from you.
If he doesn’t want to do that, there could be a reason to be suspicious, but if he doesn’t want to share this information with anyone, it’s probably nothing.
On the other hand, if he shares his location with everyone except for you, he could be cheating on you.
3. One particular contact of his has an emoji next to her name
If you don’t know who the girl with the special emoji is and he acts prickly when you ask him about her, he could be hiding something.
Emojis often denote those who you talk to the most, so this could mean that that girl is special to him for some reason.
4. He spends a lot of his time using Snapchat
If your boyfriend doesn’t usually use social media too much but has started spending a lot of time on Snapchat recently, it could be a warning sign.
Of course, he could have just gotten interested in Snapchat for fun, but a sudden change is always suspicious if he hasn’t given you any explanation.
5. There’s nothing on his Snapchat
Snapchat might be deleting the messages he sends, but you can still see active messages and contacts.
If he has been using this app a lot lately, but there’s no proof of it when you look at it, it is suspicious.
He could be careful not to leave any evidence, and if he has been deleting everything he sends when you’re not with him, he could be hiding something.
6. He has started to act strange recently
Maybe he changes his password on a regular basis, or acts defensive a lot lately, and this change in his behavior is what’s causing your worries.
When you’re together, and you notice him using Snapchat, try to move closer, and make it obvious that you’re trying to see what he is sending.
If he freaks out about it or gets angry, it could be because he’s hiding something from you.
7. You’re not his first contact anymore
Most people use Snapchat to communicate with the people they love, so your boyfriend probably uses it to send you messages.
You were the first contact in the list of people he frequently talks to, but now you’re not even on the list anymore.
This means that he has been talking to others much more frequently than you, so you could ask him who his favorite contact is now.
Watch his reaction carefully, and if he doesn’t want to tell you and acts prickly, that’s a bad sign.
8. He has been acting differently lately
Maybe the two of you were really close before, but he has recently started to act cold.
He is also acting secretive and doesn’t seem to enjoy spending time with you.
In fact, you get the feeling that he would rather spend his time with someone else.
He’s distancing himself from you and spends a lot more time without you than he used to.
Your boyfriend is also constantly using his phone other than just for the Snapchat app.
When you want to see who he is sending messages to, he refuses to let you.
You catch him smiling while he’s looking at his phone, and when you ask him about it, he acts defensive.
These are the biggest signs he’s cheating on you, but if there aren’t any of these, it could be nothing.