There are so many ungrateful people that it’s almost considered to be a virtue. Being ungrateful is surely not a virtue, and having an ungrateful heart can do you more harm than good.
Ungrateful people are not happy people and you have probably realized that if you know some of them.
Are you tired of your ungrateful friends?
If you want to avoid ungrateful people in the future, you should know about the signs of an ungrateful person to be able to recognize them.
You’re going to find out all about it, as well as ways to deal with ungrateful people.
Dealing with ungrateful people won’t always be easy, but with my help, you’ll learn how to handle them.
Having an ungrateful heart is a problem because it prevents people from finding true happiness.
Being ungrateful isn’t good for the ungrateful person, but it’s not good for those around them either.
So, you’ve probably grown tired of dealing with ungrateful people but I’ll make it easier for you…
Just try not to become one of those ungrateful people yourself, even though we all have those moments.
Let’s first see how you can recognize such a person so that we can proceed to the ways to deal with them.
Signs of an ungrateful person
1. It’s impossible for them to feel satisfied
Things may be going great for them, they could be meeting their goals, achieving their targets, and have everything they want but they are never really happy.
They are never satisfied.
There’s always something more they want, something that isn’t perfect, or a reason why it’s still not good enough for them.
Of course, having goals is a good thing but not taking a minute to be thankful and happy for what you have achieved is bad.
Ungrateful people always have something more that they need… and they never stop to be thankful for what they have, which prevents them from being truly happy or satisfied.
2. They are envious
Have you ever looked at the great things others have or have achieved and wished that for yourself?
For these people, it’s not just about looking up to those successful ones for inspiration.
Unfavorably comparing their life with the lives of others is a characteristic of those who are ungrateful.
That envy fills and consumes them so they can’t be satisfied with what they have.
Someone else always has something better, and they want it and the saddest part is that even if they get it, they still won’t be happy.
There’s always someone else they can be envious of.
3. They are bitter
Getting angry is easy for them, and it doesn’t take much to make them mad.
Maybe they are resentful about their past but they could get upset about something that’s happening now just the same.
Have you ever met a bitter person who’s happy? It’s an impossible combination.
Why would these people withhold from themselves the right to experience true happiness?
Whatever happened to them in the past should stay in the past, and what’s going on now is something they can change so why be bitter?
4. They feel entitled
The truth is, most of these people have suffered before.
They had very bad past experiences, which probably made them that way.
However, because of their traumatic past, they feel entitled to a lot from others and the world.
I have caught myself thinking that way too. My past was terrible, and I suffered a lot.
Now that my life has changed and all my dreams have come true, I somehow feel as if I’m entitled to it.
If bad things happened to me, don’t I deserve great things now?
Maybe so, but it doesn’t make me entitled to them, nor should I be ungrateful for what I have now.
5. They always ask for help from everyone
Many of us have trouble asking for help from others.
We avoid bothering others with our issues because we don’t want to make them uncomfortable or we’re simply too proud.
Those who are ungrateful, however, happily ask for help. There’s constantly something they need help with, and they need it desperately.
Somehow, they believe that your help is something they have earned, so they don’t need to say thank you.
Maybe they did something nice for you once and for that one thing, they’ll expect eleven in return.
6. They’ll never forget if you didn’t help them
So, they will definitely ask for help but what happens if you can’t give them the help they need?
Maybe you have a good reason why you can’t do what they asked, and you tell them about it; you simply can’t help them even if you want to.
Nevertheless, they will never let you forget about it. It’s like the worst thing you could do to someone who’s ungrateful.
They will remind you of the time you didn’t help them and consider it a sign that you aren’t truly their friend.
7. They do not genuinely care about other people
Selfishness and consistent ungratefulness are, in fact, often linked.
Doesn’t the world revolve around an ungrateful person?
Well, they think so, so they believe that it is only natural that those around them should be doing things for them.
For that reason, they don’t really empathize with the needs or suffering of others. After all, it isn’t their problem, and they can think only of themselves.
8. If they don’t need anything from you, they won’t have time for you
These people contact others only when there’s something they need from them.
They won’t call you to check up on you or ask you to meet just to chat.
The thing is, taking people for granted is normal to them.
They don’t see others as friends or family members, but as people who can perhaps do something for them.
If they don’t think they can get something from you that’s useful to them, they won’t bother talking to you.
9. They always play the victim
Some people pretend to be a victim, but not these people; they truly consider themselves to be victims.
All people have problems, but they have the worst ones. They are always worse off than others.
Have you ever tried complaining about something to someone who’s ungrateful?
They probably gave you several examples to prove they had it worse but they wouldn’t accept your advice or sympathy.
All they need is for you to acknowledge that they had it worse than you… worse than anyone else, for that matter.
Maybe they really have had a tougher time than most people, but why go through life playing the victim?
At one point, you have to stop being a victim in order to become a winner.
You have now seen the signs of an ungrateful person that will help you to recognize if someone has a problem like this but you need to understand that it’s part of human nature to have moments of ungratefulness.
We are so caught up in our own lives and worries that we neglect to appreciate the sacrifices others make for us.
Just think about yourself for a second and recall the times when you acted like an ungrateful person.
If you can’t think of anything, you’re either an extraordinary person, or you’re in fact lying to yourself.
However, there’s no need to lie. Just because you’ve had moments of ungratefulness doesn’t really mean that you’re one of the ungrateful people.
All of us slip up from time to time, but we don’t all expect others to do things for us without ever thanking them.
Even if we don’t show it, most of us are well aware of how lucky we truly are.
Ungrateful people are actually those who are generally ungrateful most of the time.
What causes them to be that way?
Well, it could be their upbringing or their past but some people are simply those personality types that expect more from the world and from others.
They are incapable of understanding why they should be thankful for the great things that happen to them, or for the good things others do for them.
So, how do you know whether it’s temporary or if the person’s genuinely ungrateful?
It’s really hard to tell but I hope the signs of an ungrateful person helped you figure it out.
These people can negatively influence your life, and dealing with ungrateful people is never easy, especially when they’re your friends or family members.
Let’s make it clear once again that ungratefulness isn’t a virtue.
Spending time with someone who’s ungrateful for what they have or for the things others do for them can annoy you.
However, the worst thing is that their ungratefulness could rub off on you.
There are ungrateful people all around us, in all aspects of our lives, but I’m talking about when they are your family members or friends.
Read on to find out the ways to deal with the ungrateful people in your life.
Ways to deal with ungrateful people
1. Let them know how it makes you feel
This conversation is not going to be easy, but you need to lay it all on the table. Let them know how their ungratefulness is making you feel.
They probably aren’t aware that you feel underappreciated because of their behavior.
If you care about them, just assume that they aren’t doing it knowingly or deliberately because this could be true.
Find the perfect timing to sit down with them and have a sincere conversation.
Be calm but firm when you explain how you feel and make sure to tell them about specific examples of what you consider they don’t appreciate or take for granted.
Don’t make it feel like you’re accusing them because they’ll certainly have a negative response if they feel that way.
Just make it clear that you’re simply expressing what you’ve been feeling.
You need to give them a chance to say they’re sorry but prepare yourself to not get to hear those words.
2. Consider their point of view
How will they interpret your behavior? It’s crucial to be aware of this.
Is there something you have done that could be interpreted as demanding or even ungrateful?
You may be sure that you’re right, but it still matters to try to see things through their eyes and also take into consideration what that person is experiencing that might have caused such behavior.
Maybe it’s just temporary.
They could be struggling with some tricky situations or tough emotions and in that case, they need you to be there until they manage to work it out.
Of course, it could instead be just who they are.
3. Set clear boundaries
What is unacceptable behavior and what isn’t?
You need to make that perfectly clear to them and make it plain what you won’t do and what you will do for them.
The important part is to stick to it.
They will most likely attempt to push your boundaries, but show them that you won’t budge.
4. Know that it’s okay to give up if nothing works
Is this person you care about consistently demanding or ungrateful toward you?
Have you tried talking to them and setting clear boundaries?
If nothing works, you need to know that it’s okay if you want to give up.
The role they’ll play in your life is up to you to decide, and it’s fine if you want to take a step back.
You can avoid being alone with them and choose to see them only in a group of people or maybe you’ll choose to completely stop maintaining that relationship.
It’s up to you to decide, and you have every right to give up if they aren’t willing to change their behavior toward you.
If they negatively affect your life, you have to find a way to prevent that from happening… even if it means not allowing them to be a part of your life anymore.
However, try the previous steps first.
Give them a chance to change and improve.
If they simply can’t or don’t want to, it’s fine if you want to give up, and you have the right to.