Have you ever wondered how some couples make a fairy tale out of their love story? It seems so easy, yet you’ve tried it and you know it’s complicated. Here are some tips on how to make your boyfriend obsessed with you.
I honestly don’t know why, but I feel like we need a disclaimer here, so here it goes.
Nobody wants a stalker in their life!
Being in love is a wonderful feeling, and having someone to call your boyfriend or girlfriend is something special. Before we start talking about how to make your boyfriend obsessed with you, we have to clarify something else, just to get things out of the way.
You have to keep in mind that all those heart-melting love stories took some time. Relationships require hard work, a lot of communication, and patience. If you’re not ready to give up your freedom yet, please be honest.
I’m sure there is a reason why people say that the best artworks were made by the saddest artists, but I don’t think the world needs more heartbreaks.
Okay, now that we cleared that up, let’s have a real talk. How are you going to make your boyfriend obsessed with you?
10 proven ways how to make your boyfriend obsessed with you
Every relationship is one-of-a-kind. I’ve been in this world long enough to know that.
All those I-have-butterflies-in-my-stomach and my-knees-are-shaking-when-I-see-him stories are sometimes so hard to believe. Am I right?
From my perspective, none of these things will happen if he’s your Prince Charming. You’ll just know he’s the one, and you’ll feel more like yourself than you’ve ever felt before.
It will feel like coming back home. You’ll be calm. And you’ll be safe.
There are relationships where the two of them are acting as best friends and lovers at the same time. Then you have those who are a bit uptight and are not showing love towards each other when they’re in the company of others. And you have those less wholesome, but I’m not going to talk about them.
We meet people on a daily basis and we decide who deserves our time. Then, we fall in love.
Even if you’ve been in a relationship for some time, or you’re just at the beginning of one, I’ll give you 10 tips on how to make him obsessed with you.
Let’s tackle the topic together and discover how to make it happen!
1. Be you(nique)
The best way to grab (and keep!) a man’s attention is just by being yourself. It’s really that simple!
Be yourself when you’re around your boyfriend. Show him your vices and virtues. Maybe not all at once, because the poor guy may run away, and we don’t want that.
Be quirky. Be adorable. Be childish. Be flirty and playful. Be you. Give him something he’ll remember you for. Try to occupy his mind in a pleasant way.
That way he’ll remember you on random occasions and he’ll catch himself thinking about you during the day. He’ll start noticing little things that remind him of you and he’ll crave you.
For example, if your favorite color is yellow he’ll smile every time he sees something yellow like a yellow T-shirt or a sunflower. If you like cats, he’ll think of you every time he pets one.
If you want to make your boyfriend obsessed with you, be spontaneous because it will keep him wondering what is your next move. He’ll enjoy all the adventures you may have together and will look forward to them.
Then again, don’t be someone you’re not just to impress the guy. The right one will love you for all that you are. – no questions asked. I promise!
2. Be confident
As long as you’re confident in your uniqueness, that is breathtaking! There is nothing more appealing to a guy than when he sees a confident woman.
I know it’s easier said than done, especially if you are insecure; but nobody says that you have to go out and hold a presentation in front of a bunch of people to prove yourself to someone.
And I’m also not talking about turning you into a narcissist. Rather, you should be proud of who you are.
Be independent, but let him be your hero. Be humble, but know what you have to offer. Shine your light on people around you and accept yourself the way you are, all your flaws and imperfections. And turn them into your strengths.
Head up, shoulders back, and walk confidently.
You’ll change your opinion of yourself and you’ll make it easier for others to love you. Because, when you know your worth, you won’t settle for less and the right man will admire that.
3. Be mysterious
If you want to make your boyfriend obsessed with you, take one step at a time. Don’t be an open book right from the start – let him earn it.
There should be layers upon layers to you. It is way more attractive for a man to spend some time discovering things about you than to have it all served on a plate as soon as he meets you.
You have to always keep him curious. Keep him wondering what your next move will be or how far are you actually ready to go for people you care about.
Are you being sarcastic or funny? Are you emotionless or do you care too much? Let him guess!
People tend to ask questions just so they could get those juicy answers out of you. So the next time when somebody asks you something personal, make it about them. Turn the focus of the conversation towards that other person.
Afterward, they’ll think highly of you and remember what a great conversation you had. But what do they actually know about you?
That’s the point.
If you’re being mysterious, you’ll have your boyfriend’s attention longer and he’ll definitely be obsessed with you. Just pay attention not to overdo it. That can make him give up or think negatively about you.
4. Be kind
Always be kind. We never know what people are going through in their lives.
Sometimes, a genuine smile can do wonders. The words “thank you” and “please” may change someone’s day. Being kind will not only help you win his heart but keep it as well.
Laugh at his jokes even though they are not always funny. He’ll appreciate it.
Give him a compliment every time you feel like it. As much as you like when someone compliments your new dress or hairstyle, men like to hear it as well. So next time when you see him in that shirt that makes your jaw drop, tell him!
Make him feel loved and valued. Think about all the small things he does for you to prove how much he cares about you.
What is his fave chocolate? What kind of books does he like? Next time you go on a date, remember this and bring him something. He’ll be obsessed with you, and try harder to keep you by his side.
There is a little girl playing in a park and her colorful ball ends up next to you. Give it back. Or help that old lady to cross the street. You’ll feel good because you did something for someone (even though it really is a minor thing), his eyes will sparkle and his heart will melt.
Have you experienced people saying that you’re sunshine in a human form? Or that you made them laugh today? Did somebody tell you their day is better just because they have received a text from you?
That’s the kind of woman a man will show off to the world and he will be proud to call you his girlfriend!
5. Be vulnerable
Wondering how to make your boyfriend obsessed with you? Well, you’ll need to talk about all the things that made you the way you are. Tell him about all of those experiences that shaped you into the person that’s standing in front of him.
Share with him what hurts you and what makes you happy. What are your biggest hopes and dreams? What did you want to be when you grow up? Once he sees that you’re open with him, he’ll want to be just as open with you.
Do you remember how we’re taught not to cry in front of other people? Forget that!
In order to make your boyfriend obsessed with you, you have to be emotional. I’m not saying you should be whining all the time, but shedding a tear here and there will only strengthen your relationship.
You’re a human being and you have emotions. All of them are expressed in different ways and most of them include tears. Don’t be worried if he’ll like your red and tear-struck face or not. If he’s the right guy, he’ll love you no matter how much of a mess you are.
Honestly, he’ll probably hug you because none of us know how to react when somebody’s crying. And he’ll be silent with you if you need it. That’s how your relationship will grow stronger. You’ll connect on a deeper level and that bond will be hard to break.
6. Be there for him
Yes, yes, yes! Be his cheerleader and his biggest support. Whether he needs you to comfort him, or he just shared some good news with you, be there for him.
Does he need help with moving into a new place? Let him know that he can count on you. Offer him your help, but don’t get offended if he turns it down. He wants to show off in front of you as well.
Show him you appreciate him for who he is and that you admire the person he became. Make him understand that.
Is he about to have a job interview? Boost his confidence. Remind him of the good qualities that will help him land that job. Cheer him up and encourage him. Sometimes we forget our worth in those stressful situations. He’ll appreciate it a lot and he’ll probably smile on his way there.
Try to memorize all that makes him proud of himself and gives him a feeling of accomplishment.
Celebrate his small wins. This will make him realize what kind of a woman he has by his side and It’s going to make him obsessed with you.
But also, be ready for all the downs he may face. Don’t turn your back on him when he’s going through a tough period. Show up for him, give him some advice, or just be there. He’ll cherish the silent moments as well.
If you show up for him when he needs you the most, your boyfriend will be obsessed with you. I can guarantee that.
7. Spend time with his friends
I’m not saying that you should forget your friends, and all of a sudden start hanging out with his friends, no.
What I want to indicate here is that you should be nice towards his friends. It’s really important for you (and your relationship) to meet those people with whom he spends the majority of his time. They are part of his life and will (most likely) stay.
So the next time when he calls you to hang out with his friends, accept the offer. It may be a bit uncomfortable in the beginning, but if you find a common ground with them, that’s how you will truly make your boyfriend obsessed with you.
First of all, you’ll show him how confident you are because it takes courage to just randomly show up in a group of people who are already friends. Especially if you’re the only girl in the room.
The second thing he’ll value highly is your will to meet people he cares about. Lastly, your effort to make them like you.
And bam! That’s how you make your boyfriend obsessed with you.
Imagine how happy he will be when they start talking about how beautiful and friendly you are. You’ll show him that you can integrate into his social circle easily, and he won’t have problems bragging around and eventually introducing you to his family.
As I said earlier, I’m not saying that you should forget your friends at this point. He has to go the extra mile and meet your friends too.
You also have to see how he’ll behave around them and if they’ll like him or not. But we’ll talk about that some other time.
8. Be passionate about what you love
Are you painting in your free time or playing a musical instrument? Find some time to show him all of it!
This way, he’ll start to appreciate the time you’re spending with him more, and you’ll have something to talk about. Tell him about all your goals no matter how big or small. Also, talk with him about your aspirations in life.
Tell him about all the countries you want to travel to and all the places you want to explore. Talk with him about different cultures and let your eyes light up!
Most guys find it extremely attractive when a girl is passionate about something and that’s exactly what makes a guy so obsessed.
Show him what makes you special even if it’s just a hobby you took up recently. He may even come up with ideas that you could do together and are somehow related to what you love to do.
If you decide to go on a road trip and you said you can play guitar, I bet he’ll ask you to bring it with you.
Or if you’re into painting, he may plan a date and ask you to bring a canvas, brushes, and colors, so you can be creative together! Also, be ready for him to use every opportunity to brag about this side of you.
9. Be vocal about your needs and feelings
Nobody wants a person that doesn’t know what they want, and neither does your boyfriend. If you are sure about what you want and are confident about your feelings, this is how you’ll make the guy obsessed.
When you don’t agree with something, stand up to him. Be brave and express yourself! This way you’ll either earn his respect or he’ll run away. In the second case, you shouldn’t even care – you don’t need a guy like that.
Don’t be optimistic that he’ll understand your anger and hurt behind the “I’m fine!” sentence. He won’t. Unless he has a female best friend or previous experience.
He may notice that something is wrong, but unless you openly talk about what’s bothering you, he won’t understand it.
If you think that you’re not spending enough quality time together (which is really important in a healthy relationship), talk with him about it. Maybe you’re just overthinking it and he may help you see the situation from another angle.
Also, encourage him to be the best version of himself. That way you’ll keep the spark alive and without a doubt, he will chase you.
The way you’ll need to elaborate on your needs and feelings, he’ll have to do the same in order for you to have healthy communication. We cannot read each other’s minds.
When you’re trying to figure out how to make your boyfriend obsessed with you, you need to know that you don’t have to be available for your boyfriend 24/7. You have your own life, friends, and hobbies that utilize your time.
Honestly, how many times did you get an instant reply to your text?
If you answer his message right away, he may think you’re desperate to have a conversation with him or that you’re using your phone the whole day. Neither is good.
On the other hand, being unavailable sometimes is how you’re going to make your boyfriend obsessed with you. You shouldn’t do this often, because he may think you’re playing with him, so be fair.
Don’t let him wait a day or two just to answer a simple text message. Don’t pull him around by his nose if you are not in the mood to go to that music festival he invited you to.
In fact, using a cliché excuse like “I’ll have to check my calendar” may be useful. You’re being funny and at the same time, you’re telling him that you maybe won’t be available every time.
This also adds up to the mysterious part that we were talking about before. Keep him interested by leaving something to the imagination.
Bonus tip: Love yourself
For anyone to be obsessed with you, you have to love yourself unconditionally and embrace all your imperfections in a big warm hug.
Think of some witty comebacks and make yourself memorable. Stand out from this world filled with bad people. Be comfortable in your own uniqueness!
Always be ready for an adventure and challenge him in ways that will make him obsessed with you. Help him think of you when you’re not present and make him long for those times when you were together.
Be subtle when you’re giving him compliments, you don’t want him to think you’re worshiping him. Or that you’re a stalker.
Be someone he can have deep and meaningful conversations with. Learn something new every day, be mindful. Appreciate (and tell him) when he teaches you something you didn’t know before.
Discover all the ways that make you special and be ready to bring them to light.
Take care of yourself, both mentally and physically. Meditate, do yoga or start jogging.
Nurture your hair, skin, and your feminine appearance. Don’t minimize the importance of this one, just because it seems so basic.
It’s definitely not the most important, in my opinion, but this is how you make your boyfriend obsessed with you as well. I’m not trying to say that you have to look like a model or put on a lot of makeup to be more appealing to his eye.
All of the things that we have mentioned in this article are going to make you attractive. Grow as a person and get prettier every day. Love yourself, so another person can love you as well. And in the end, mesmerize them with your smile.