‘How much do you miss me?’ is one of those questions that should come with a manual. There are so many ways to mess up the answer.
If you play your cards wrong you could ruin your chances with the guy you like. Or even worse, you could end up misleading the guy you have absolutely no intention of being with. So, how do you respond when he asks how much do you miss him?
If you’re still in the dark about what to say when someone asks you if you miss them, don’t worry. There are so many different things you could come up with, and I’m sure you’ll find what you’re looking for if you keep on reading.
How to respond to ‘How much do you miss me?’
If you’re anything like me, expressing your true emotions is one of the hardest things. You’re such a people-pleaser, and you feel the need to agree with everyone to avoid hurting their feelings.
Not only that, you’re kind of stuck on this crazy idea that you have to be on good terms with the whole world! As a result, you feel trapped when a guy asks you if you miss him. That’s completely normal and much more common than you might think!
If you’re wondering how to respond to this question, just ask yourself if this guy is someone you like or if it’s someone you’re not very fond of. Trust me, you don’t want to respond ‘I miss you so much it can’t be measured!’ to a guy you don’t even know very well. What if he asked you jokingly and wasn’t expecting a serious reply at all?!
There are certain things to keep in mind when replying to someone you love versus someone you don’t even like. If you make an effort to be truthful, you have nothing to be afraid of. Continue reading to find more inspiration on how to respond when someone asks you how much you miss them.
How to respond to someone you like?
At the risk of repeating myself – just be honest! If a guy you like asks you to tell him how much you miss him, you surely want to give him the response he’s hoping to get. He probably already knows you like him so you don’t have to be afraid of accidentally telling him too much.
Now, let’s dive in a bit deeper. If you just met this guy, went on a couple of dates with him, you want to keep your replies sweet and simple.
By asking if you miss him, he’s just teasing you and testing how far he can take the conversation. If you haven’t had the what are we talk, you can use this opportunity to show your playful side.
On the other hand, if you’re in a long-term relationship and your partner asks you if you miss him, he’s probably just looking for some reassurance. Guys tend to act tough in front of the world when in reality they need just as much love and attention as we do.
So, next time he asks you to tell him how much you miss him, don’t hold back! Make sure to share with him exactly how you feel, throw in a variety of cute expressions, and feel free to use his favorite nickname. Shhh, I won’t tell anyone he loves being called Pappa Bear!
Most of the time replies like ‘I miss you a lot.’ aren’t enough, so here are some cute, romantic, and funny ideas you can use. Choose wisely, and make sure you only pick those replies that fit your situation.
25 romantic responses to ‘How much do you miss me?’
1.’There are no words to describe how much I miss you!’
2.’I miss you more and more every day.’
3.’I miss you to the moon and back. Wait, it doesn’t go like that!’
4.’I miss you as much as you miss me, and then some more!’
5.’How could I miss you if you didn’t leave my mind even for a second?’
6.’I don’t miss, I kiss!’
7.’I miss you so much I want to smother you with my love this instance.’
8.’As much as I miss eating McDonald’s at midnight.’
9.’This much! (insert cute emoji of your choice)’
10.’I had no idea you could even measure the magnitude of how much I miss you.’
11.’The more important question is how much do you miss me?’
12.’I miss you so much I should get paid to do it.’
13.’Don’t worry, you’re always on my mind.’
14.’Can you count to infinity?’
15.’I only miss you a little – a little too often and a little too much.’
16.’I’m on my way to see you!’
17.’I miss the way you look at me, talk to me, and hold me.’
18.’John Legend messed up. All of me misses all of you!’.
19.’Take me out on a date and ask me again.’
20.’Just enough to get impatient. When will I see you again!?’
21.’I’m not really sure if I can tell you since I’m afraid you’ll run away once you realize how much I miss you.’
22.’You go first!’
23.’If you think missing me is hard, you should try missing you!’
24.’Shut up, and kiss me.’
25.’I despise every moment I spend away from you.’
How to respond to someone you don’t like?
Responding to someone you don’t like can be tricky. You want to ignore his messages and avoid awkward situations, but you also don’t want to hurt his feelings. It’s not his fault you’re not interested!
So, you could always try letting him down gently. Next time he initiates a conversation and asks you if you miss him, explain to him that you’re not on the same page. He might get upset at first, but he’ll appreciate you not leading him on.
On the other hand, you might be dealing with someone who doesn’t take a no for an answer. In that case, you’ll have to be more direct (or even rude).
Sometimes that’s the only way you can get someone to take you seriously! Replies like ‘I don’t think we’re on the same page’ will not work, but here are some better ideas you can choose from.
25 funny responses to ‘How much do you miss me?’
1.’Oh, I miss you like a fool misses the point.’
2.’I think you have the wrong number.’
3.’Who is this?’
4.’I think you made a mistake. I don’t miss you at all.’
5.’I just saw you.’
6.’Howard, we work together. Don’t be creepy.’
7.’I don’t have time to miss anyone.’
8.’Do I know you?’
9.’The number you have dialed is temporarily unavailable. Please, don’t try later.’
10.’Don’t take this the wrong way, but… Have you been drinking?’
11.’Not as much as you’d want me to!’
13.’It’s been a while, hasn’t it? We should keep it that way.’
14.’Why do you ask?’
15.’You don’t give me the chance to miss you. You’re always there.’
16.’We don’t know each other like that.’
17.’Umm, you’re my boss.’
18.’Are you sure you have the right person?’
19.’I’m just going to leave that one on read.’
20.’You should have left that one in drafts.’
21.’It hasn’t even been that long!’
22.’Oh, I do miss you, but my aim is getting better.’
23.’Howard, you will be hearing from my lawyer.’
24.’Don’t waste your time.’
25.’I would notice if you didn’t come to work, but I would be too busy celebrating.’
What does it mean when a guy asks you ‘How much do you miss me?’
You can relax, most of the time this is a positive thing. Guys tend to be really sweet and caring when they’re in love, and it shouldn’t come as a surprise when he asks you if you miss him as much as he misses you.
Maybe he just needs a reminder or a confirmation that the two of you are on the same page. This is especially true for new relationships, when he’s just realized how much he likes you. He might feel intimidated by his emotions, so he wants to make sure you feel the same way.
On the other hand, there is a slight possibility he might be toying with your feelings. Some guys find amusement in making a girl fall for them, and you should be careful not to give in to temptation. This situation isn’t common, but it’s better to be safe than sorry!
Still, there are several other possibilities to keep in mind. What exactly does it mean when a guy asks you how much do you miss him?
1. He’s testing you to see if you like him
I have to admit, I have mixed feelings about this situation. On one hand, he might be testing to see if you like him because he’s too shy to ask you. There is nothing wrong with being shy, and the fact that men get scrutinized for being nervous about girls upsets me.
On the other hand, he might be testing you because he doesn’t know what he wants. He wants to check if you miss him (aka, if you like him) before he decides how he truly feels about you. It’s even possible he’s asking other girls the same question and he will choose the one who responds in a positive way. How cowardly of him!
Even if you like him, don’t give him the satisfaction of telling him that. You can write a witty response to his question (like ‘Not as much as you miss me!‘) and wait to see how the situation unfolds. If he truly likes you, he’ll make sure you know it.
2. He likes you but is too shy to admit it
Believe it or not, guys can be insecure! If you just started dating he might be wondering whether you feel the same way about him. He’s too shy to ask you directly, so he’s just dipping his toes in the water and avoiding the real question.
It’s kind of cute if you think about it. At least he’s making an effort!
Word of advice – if you feel the same way about him, just tell him. It’s already hard enough for him to ask you how much do you miss him. It would take forever for him to ask you if you like him!
So, put on your big girl pants and make the next move. Respond to his question in a cute and flirty way, but make sure to tell him exactly how you feel. There is nothing wrong with missing the person you like!
3. He’s manipulating you
Unfortunately, there are situations where a guy might ask you ‘How much do you miss me?’ just so he can use your response against you.
Luckily for you, it’s easy to recognize this pattern of behavior. If he only talks about his feelings jokingly, never tells you he likes you or misses you, and never talks about the possibility of the two of you becoming a couple – it’s pretty clear what he’s doing. You should run for the hills before it’s too late!
At this point, if he asks you how much you miss him, don’t be afraid to come across as rude. He did nothing to deserve a better response.
You could play with him a little bit, and send him something along the lines of ‘I miss you as much as a fool misses the point.’ Or, you can be direct and just send ‘Don’t waste your time.’ Either way, stay away from him.
What to do when you miss him too much but don’t want to come off as clingy?
Maybe you’ve been dreading this question for a different reason. What if you miss him too much, but you’re afraid to tell him that because it will make you look bad in his eyes? You don’t want to come off as clingy, especially if you just started dating. But at the same time, you can’t control your emotions!
It’s completely normal to feel a little overwhelmed. Love is like that – it takes you by surprise and before you know it, you’re sitting at home, planning your future children’s names, and checking if his last name goes well with yours. Trust me, you’re not the only one feeling that way.
But, you want to be careful. If you tell him how much you miss him right away, you might find yourself single in no time. Guys aren’t known for performing well under pressure, and they are more likely to stick around when they don’t feel forced. So, what do you do when you miss him too much but don’t want to come off as clingy?
1. Don’t suffocate him
You don’t want to bombard him with questions like ‘Do you like me?’, ‘Do you miss me?’, ‘Why do you like me?’, especially if you just started dating. He probably likes you just as much as you like him, but he doesn’t feel the need to constantly reassure you.
Don’t expect him to have enough patience to respond to hundreds of questions each day. It might sound harsh, but such behavior makes you look insecure. You wouldn’t want to be with an insecure guy, would you? You miss him, but he doesn’t have to know that this instance. Leave some room for mystery.
However, I’m not saying you can never initiate conversations about your feelings, or send him cute texts to remind him you’re thinking about him. Just make sure to draw the line at some point. Finding the balance between being cute and being obsessive will keep both of you happy for a long time.
2. Put down the phone
Ask yourself if you’re giving him enough space to concentrate on things other than you? It’s so tempting to send him cute texts, tag him on relatable memes, and remind him of cute pictures you took together. But, your day shouldn’t consist of the constant back and forth over the phone.
Think about it – you’re not giving him enough space to focus on himself, his work, and other issues he might be dealing with. Not only that, you’re not even giving him a chance to miss you. If he’s constantly replying to your texts and phone calls he won’t feel the need to ask you out on a proper date.
So, next time you’re tempted to text him try doing something else. You can call your friends, do your nails, or take a walk to clear your head.
Trust me, you can find better things to do while waiting for him to text you when he’s ready. Also, his texts will feel so much more special knowing he’s texting you because he actually misses you!
3. Focus on yourself
Being needy in a relationship often means that a person doesn’t have any other interests in life. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have enough time to sit around wondering what your partner is doing. You should be able to enjoy life away from him and focus on your own priorities and passions.
So, start piano lessons, join a library or find a hobby that will help you make new friends, and you’ll instantly notice a change. You’ll no longer feel the need to spend all your time with him, and you’ll stop feeling so lost every time he leaves. Most importantly, you won’t even have the time to constantly call and text him.
Having new interests will also help you build your self-esteem. It might seem challenging at first, but once you find out you can achieve so many things on your own, you’ll flourish.
Additionally, focusing on yourself will make you that much more attractive in your partner’s eyes. There is nothing more beautiful than a confident, successful woman who doesn’t need a man to keep her entertained.
Obviously, relationships are hard. You’re constantly worried you’ll say something wrong that will ruin your chances with the person you like.
I get it, you don’t want to get too attached and risk coming off as needy, but you also don’t want to keep all your emotions to yourself and have them think you’re not interested.
It becomes even harder when the guy you like starts asking questions like ‘Do you miss me?’ and ‘How much do you miss me?’. You have no idea how to respond to him without revealing your true emotions. You don’t even know if you should tell him how you feel!
What if he doesn’t feel the same way? What if his intentions aren’t pure and he’s only playing with your emotions? There are so many things that could go wrong, and I completely understand why you feel overwhelmed.
Nobody said being a woman was easy. So, what do you do when a guy asks you how much do you miss him?
Just be honest! There is nothing worse than lying about your feelings. You might think you’re protecting him from getting hurt, but how do you suppose he’ll feel when he finds out the truth?
Just make sure you let him down gently (assuming you don’t feel the same way he does). You can choose to have a serious conversation or give them a witty reply that will ease the pain of rejection.
However, if you have the opposite problem and you’re not planning on rejecting anybody, apply the same rule. Talk to your partner and tell him how you feel. What is the worst thing that could happen if you admit to him that you miss him? He might not miss you back?
But what if he does? What if your confession was all he was waiting for? Now that he knows, there’s nothing keeping you from starting an exciting new relationship and being happy. Find that confidence within yourself and just do it. You have nothing to lose but so much to gain!
Lastly, don’t expect to find the answer to all your problems on the internet, but you can definitely count on finding some well-intended advice. I’m always happy to help!