You’ve just gotten over the initial shock of your ex blocking you on all social media when you notice you’ve suddenly been unblocked. ‘He unblocked me but there’s still no contact! What does that even mean?’
If you’re left feeling confused and searching for reasons why he’s changed his mind, then keep on reading.
We’ve all been there. After several messy breakups and immature men, you kind of get used to their pattern of behavior. It’s certainly not the first time an ex blocked you on everything without a word of explanation! But, you didn’t expect such a sudden change of heart this time.
Now you can’t stop thinking and overanalyzing the situation. You’ve put a stop to your journey of self-discovery because you’re wondering what made him reconsider? What could have possibly happened in the meantime to make him eat his words and unblock you?
If the reason he’s unblocked you is that he’s not over you and wants you back, why hasn’t he contacted you yet? Is he waiting for you to make the first move? Stop for a moment and think – you definitely don’t want to make any rash decisions in this situation.
Why has he blocked you in the first place?
Figuring out why he blocked you in the first place might help you understand things better. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus – it just goes to show that men often do things beyond our comprehension.
On the other hand, you also have to hold yourself accountable. If you did something to provoke the breakup, you shouldn’t be surprised that he reacted so immaturely and shielded himself from all contact with you. He might have spent this time apart trying to get over you.
He might have even made a mistake and realized it right now. Messy breakups tend to draw the worst side of us, and your ex might have let his hurt ego lead the way when he decided to block you.
When you think about it, it doesn’t even matter who ended it. The blocking game is always a product of anger, pain, and desperation. You want to prove yourself to the world, and show everybody you can make it on your own! Chances are that’s what your ex was trying to do before he decided to withdraw his initial decision.
So, he unblocked you but there’s still no contact from him. How are you supposed to react to that? Is he waiting for you to make the first move? There are so many reasons why he might have unblocked you, so it’s best you think before you act.
He unblocked me but there’s still no contact: 10 possible explanations
You don’t want to make any rash decisions before you sit down and completely overanalyze and misread the situation, right? Don’t worry, I’m just joking – but you should make sure you know what you’re getting yourself into before you call him and break the no contact period.
So, if you’re thinking ‘He unblocked me but there’s still no contact – What does it mean?‘, think no more. Here are 10 possible reasons why your ex has unblocked you.
1. He unblocked you because he’s curious about your life
If you were hoping he unblocked you because he wants to get back together, you might end up feeling disappointed. It is very likely for an ex to unblock you after some time just to check how you’re doing.
After all, he’s just a human being, and it wouldn’t be the first time our curiosity got the best of him. He might be wondering whether you’re still single or if you’ve moved on with someone new. He might want to scan your socials to see whether you got that job you applied for or you moved out of the city. Or he might just be nosy!
The point is – don’t jump to any conclusions. There’s no contact yet, but he probably has a good reason. If he unblocked you with the intention to restore communication, he’ll let you know when he’s ready.
2. He unblocked you because he realized he was immature
This one is a no-brainer, your ex might be second-guessing his decision to block you in the first place. If you ended things on a bitter note, had a messy fight, and said things you didn’t mean, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that he decided to block you.
Don’t get me wrong, blocking someone on social media is such a low blow. But some people can’t deal with seeing their ex’s pictures, posts, and comments all over the internet. It takes a lot of guts to be able to walk away from someone with dignity and respect.
Take a breath – this doesn’t mean he’s planning on contacting you at all! This might be his way of letting go of the past and learning from his mistakes.
3. He unblocked you because he wants to make amends
That contact you’re waiting for might be just around the corner. If your ex realized he made a mistake, he might be unblocking you hoping you’d give him a chance to make amends.
You can look at this from two perspectives. He might be waiting to see your reaction to help him decide whether he should contact you or not – this screams coward to me! On the other hand, he might be giving you some time to think about what you want from him before contacting you.
Either way, you should decide what you want. If you have no wish to rekindle the old flame, just move on with your life and ignore him, regardless of his next move. But if you do want to get him back, the best thing you can do right now is to be patient and wait it out.
4. He unblocked you because he’s bored
‘He unblocked me, but there’s still no contact!’ – you scream internally so no one can hear you. But, should you be happy about this new development in your love life? What if he unblocked you just because he’s bored?
It wouldn’t be the first time. Men are famous for wanting to keep tabs on their exes as if to show they still have some control over them. There is nothing interesting happening in his life, so he unblocked you to check what you’ve been up to.
If you still have mutual friends, it’s very possible they told him how well you’re doing after the breakup. So, he decided to unblock you just so he could stalk you as though his life depended on it. Don’t be fooled by his interest – this behavior is a huge red flag!
5. He unblocked you because he wants to mess with you
Some men are the very definition of toxic. If your ex unblocked you just to torture you, send you inappropriate messages, and mess with your newfound happiness, you better remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible.
‘He unblocked me but there’s no contact!‘ Be happy he hasn’t contacted you yet! If and when he does, make sure to carefully observe how he talks to you.
If he’s putting all the blame on you, throwing shade, and making you look like a terrible person, he should be the one on the blocked side of the relationship (or rather the ugly aftermath of it).
Maybe he’s even toying with you. If he’s blocking and unblocking you constantly he might be trying to play with your emotions. He knows you’ll notice and react, so don’t give him the satisfaction.
6. He unblocked you because he heard that you moved on
Having mutual friends with your ex means he can easily keep tabs on you. It doesn’t matter if he asked them himself, or if they accidentally told him because they had one too many glasses of wine. The point is – he unblocked you because he heard about your new boyfriend.
So, what should you do now? He unblocked you but he hasn’t contacted you yet. It is possible he might just be curious. There’s nothing wrong with your ex trying to find out who you’re dating, but you should be careful if he’s planning on reaching out to you in hopes of getting you back.
If you think you might still have some feelings left for him, be respectful to your new partner. Don’t drag him into this situation just because you don’t want to be alone after a messy breakup. It’s best to be honest with him and, more importantly, with yourself.
7. He unblocked you because his rebound relationship failed
Argh, this is the worst! He blocked you on all social media so you couldn’t see how soon he moved on with someone else. His rebound relationship failed, and he has the audacity to unblock you as if you wouldn’t connect the dots.
He is thinking of you because he has no one else to think about. He is trying to fill the void his rebound relationship left, so he’s unblocking you to check if you’d give him a second chance. How pathetic!
At least he hasn’t contacted you, yet. If he does, keep in mind that you don’t owe him anything. Regardless of how ‘nice’ he is, and how ‘changed‘ he seems, don’t hesitate to let him know you’ve moved on. Who needs enemies when you have friends like him?!
Trust me, you deserve better.
8. He unblocked you because he’s going through a rough patch
When we’re going through something painful in life we tend to look back at the past searching for a glimpse of happiness. If your ex is going through a tough time, it is possible he unblocked you because you were the first thing he thought about when he was trying to cope with his emotions.
If you’re the light he sees at the end of the tunnel, he may reach out to you. The two of you shared such happy memories in the past – it’s only natural he’s trying to find comfort and solace with you.
Keep in mind – if you have no interest in getting back together with him, make sure to let him know. You can still offer him a friendly conversation, or a shoulder to cry on (if you want to). Just make sure both of you are on the same page.
9. He unblocked you because he wants to get back together
‘He unblocked me but there’s still no contact!’ Be patient, he might be waiting to see your reaction before he decides to jump in and swoop you off your feet.
This one is also a no-brainer. The most common reason your ex might unblock you is that he wants you back! He realized he made a mistake and now he’s trying to make it up to you. The end of a relationship doesn’t mean the end of all feelings, and it is very possible you still feel the same way about him.
Before you act on your emotions ask yourself – can the two of you work past the issues that led to your breakup in the first place? And don’t forget to observe his actions, too. If he didn’t ask you out on a proper date, apologize, and change his actions, why would you even consider taking him back?
All of this is important, and you have to take it into consideration when deciding whether starting all over again is worth the effort. When love isn’t enough, effort makes all the difference. Make sure he treats you right this time, and if he doesn’t – you’re better off without him.
10. He ublocked you because he’s completely over you
It hurts to look at someone who was once your entire world and see them with somebody else. It might seem immature, but in certain situations, the block button seems like the only option. He put up a wall to avoid getting hurt.
He might be trying to see whether he still has any feelings for you. And if he’s strong enough to unblock you after months and months of desperation, he probably doesn’t.
He simply no longer hates you. He bought himself enough time to process the breakup, make peace with it and slowly forgive you. As much as it hurts to hear – don’t expect him to contact you. Unblocking you is his way of letting you know he’s moved on, and so should you.
He unblocked me but there’s still no contact – Why hasn’t he contacted you yet?
They always advise you against getting back with your ex. You’re not even sure if that’s what you want to do! But, ever since he unblocked you, you’ve been patiently waiting to see his next move.
You’ve read everything about why he might have unblocked you, but you can’t help but wonder what is he waiting for? Why hasn’t he contacted you, yet?
1. He doesn’t plan on contacting you at all
This might be difficult to hear, but there’s a big possibility he unblocked you without the intention of contacting you. He might have done that out of curiosity, because he’s completely over you, or even because he wants to show you he’s become a better person in the meantime.
Don’t expect him to reach out, because chances are, he probably won’t. Don’t get your hopes up just because he decided it was a good time to reappear in your life. He probably wasn’t even sure you’d notice he unblocked you unless he contacted you himself.
2. He hasn’t contacted you because he’s having second thoughts
‘He unblocked me but there’s still no contact!’ If your ex unblocked you because he’s having second thoughts and trying to figure out whether he wants to get back with you or not, you should sit still and do nothing.
Firstly, why would you want somebody who has to think about wanting you back in their life? If he could go months without contacting you, maybe he should continue down the same route.
Secondly, if he wants to contact you he will do it in his own time. Think of it this way – it probably took him a lot of courage to unblock you after the messy breakup you had. He needs some time to think before he contacts you and stirs the pot.
3. He hasn’t contacted you because he’s waiting for you to make the first move
No surprise here! He made sure to send a message by unblocking you, and now he feels as if it’s your turn to reach out. It might sound weird since he’s the one who blocked you in the first place, but men’s sense of logic has always been flawed.
He’s hoping you’ll take the hint and make the next move. So, it’s completely up to you to decide what to do. If you were looking for an excuse to reach out, look no more. You could always call him and ask if he’s bumped his head and lost his memory! It’s a sure conversation starter.
Should you contact him, then?
This is a matter of pride and emotion. If you still have feelings for your ex you might consider making the first move. On the other hand, if you’re not sure how you feel about him anymore you might be in a bit of a pickle.
Ask yourself this – how exactly did you find out he unblocked you? Did you spend hours and hours searching for his Instagram account, checking if you could send him a friend request on Facebook, or looking up his number on WhatsApp trying to see if he’s online?
Or did you accidentally stumble upon one of his new posts realizing the reason you see it is because he most likely unblocked you? It’s not your fault his name popped up unannounced! If anything, you were unpleasantly reminded of his existence.
If you’ve been stalking him in hopes of seeing his online status light up, you should rethink your choices. You’re just asking to get hurt. Even if he unblocked you because he wants to get back together, there is no guarantee your relationship will work out this time.
If you just happened to notice he unblocked you, blame it on social media and their pesky notifications. You weren’t looking to spend your afternoon confused wondering what it all means. So, just stop! This entire situation is designed to backfire and cause you emotional damage.
He unblocked you, but…
So, he unblocked you but he still hasn’t contacted you. It’s safe to say he’s probably rethinking his actions and trying to figure out what he wants to do next.
It could mean he’s completely over you, or he wants to get back together with you. Your ex is the only person who knows what’s going on in his head.
Don’t waste your time obsessing over a guy who doesn’t know what he wants. You should focus on yourself and your own happiness. Don’t forget – you were doing just fine before he showed up!
Even if he ends up reaching out to you, it’s so much better to ignore him, and act like you didn’t even notice he unblocked you. You will seem more confident and in control of the situation. You don’t want your ex to think he can just barge in and demand attention, right?
‘Waiting for you is like waiting for rain in a drought. Useless and disappointing.’ Let’s finish with the wise words of Sam Montgomery (A Cinderella Story).
Don’t get sucked into another messy situation with your ex just because he might want you back. If he wanted to be with you, he should have worked harder to keep you.
After all, he’s the one who blocked you. Let him come to you, explain why he decided to distance himself, and beg for your forgiveness. If he does that, you’ll have a tough decision on your hand. I have faith you’ll choose to do what’s best for you!