Think aloud
It’s indeed tough to love an overthinker. But the good news is it’s not impossible.
When you think about it, an overthinker is a person who is confused most of the time. And that’s why many people find it difficult to settle down with someone who overthinks everything.
When you love an overthinker, you love someone who can’t just switch their brain off whenever they want. They’re constantly thinking about a thousand things at once and have a thousand more questions.
An overthinker’s mind works differently. They don’t process things like the rest of us do because their mind is a complete mess.
Most of the time, they’re unable to control their thoughts. They’re constantly trying to dissect and organize those tangled thoughts into categories as it’s all floating around in complete chaos.
You may think that they’re calm and collected, but as soon as something happens or if they find themselves in an unfamiliar situation, they start overthinking things.
Their beautiful mind starts asking questions like “What if…” and “How will I manage…” They’re constantly worried and nervous about the possible outcome.
That’s why an overthinker takes one thing at a time. They don’t act impulsively. Only once they gather enough information about the situation will they then make a decision.
They won’t act unless they’re one hundred percent sure it is the right thing to do. And when they’re done with one thing, they start overthinking about the next.
It’s tough living this way – being labeled as an overthinker.
That’s why loving a person like this is challenging. You need to have a lot of patience when you love someone who overthinks. You have to find a way to calm their storm and avoid making the situation worse than it actually is.
It’s difficult to understand an overthinker, but not impossible.
An overthinker needs to be certain that you won’t leave them once the going gets tough. You need to show them that you’ll always be by their side, no matter what happens.
They won’t believe mere words and promises. You have to show them that you’re trustworthy and that you’ll have their back at all times.
And if you break your promise, then they’ll start overthinking even more, which will take you back to square one.
They’re looking for someone who’ll save them from being suffocated by the endless questions inside their mind. You have to learn how to calm them down and pull them back to reality.
There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel and for every problem, there is a solution. Reassure them of that. They need to be sure that you’re going to work together to solve issues.
To love an overthinker, you need to have a lot of understanding.
Even when you think that everything is alright, remember, they don’t see the situation as you do. They’re always scared that something terrible might happen.
Don’t be surprised if you’re flooded with questions, as it’s only natural for them to question second-guess everything. They don’t purposefully have mood swings. They’re afraid of being hurt, so that’s why they analyze everything.
Their thought process is different from ours. They can’t magically decide to control their mind and get rid of the thoughts that are keeping them up all night.
It’s tough loving someone when they’re a mess, but that’s exactly what you should do even when they doubt themselves. You must show them empathy and prove to them you’re always going to be by their side.
Let them see that you also have a vulnerable side and that there are some things that you’re afraid of, too. They have to know that they’re not alone in this chaotic world.
Show them that they don’t have to be afraid to tell you what they’re worried about.
If you’re the type of person who doesn’t like to tell your partner that you love them a hundred times a day, then you can’t be with an overthinker. Why?
Because hearing that constantly makes them feel more relaxed and calm. Those three simple words might mean nothing to you, but they mean the world to an overthinker.
You have to remind them that they are beautiful as they are and don’t have to change.
Emphasize how gorgeous their mind is and point out their good sides and qualities. By doing so, you’re helping them chase away their anxiety.
It’s difficult to love someone who questions everything, including you, but it’s totally possible. You just need to be prepared for anything as you never know how they’ll react in certain situations.
I understand that loving an overthinker is hard, but isn’t love hard? Don’t all relationships have their challenges?
An overthinker may indeed drive you crazy, but you’ll love them even more for that. The more a person grows on you, the more is at stake.
The good thing is that an overthinker will never leave you. They’ll be loyal to you for the rest of your lives. Their love is unique and pure because they don’t let random people walk into their lives.
They appreciate everything that you do for them. They’re aware of the fact that they can be difficult to love. But that doesn’t mean they don’t deserve to find true love.
Their love for you will never fade, no matter how many flaws you have or how much of an oddball you are. They’ll look beyond the things you did in the past and accept you as you are.
And most importantly, they won’t give up on you two so easily.
