Think aloud
You are days into the no contact rule and you start searching for, “Does he miss me during no contact?” articles.
You miss your ex-boyfriend but you are not sure what is going on inside his head.
Does he still feel love for you? Does he want you back? Is there any probability that you two could get a second chance?
Before we get deeper into that, let’s see how the no contact rule works.
What is the no contact rule?
The no contact rule represents a period of time in which you cut off every type of communication with your ex-boyfriend.
The point is to give him enough space and time that can make him realize that you are the only person he wants.
If done correctly, it can turn a bad heartbreak into a second chance and radio silence into a new relationship.
The no contact period can last anywhere from fifteen to sixty days, depending on how long you decide.
However, if you don’t do it correctly in the first place, the chances are that it won’t be as effective as it should be.
The philosophy behind the no contact rule is that you give your ex-boyfriend space where you completely ignore him and pretend that you have forgotten about him.
By this point, he expects you to call or text but he receives nothing. It makes him wonder if you have moved on and why there is no sign of you.
This especially happens if he tries to reach out to you but instead of a reply, he receives complete radio silence.
The more silent treatment he gets, the tougher it is for him to understand what is going on. But the no contact rule has another purpose too.
It helps you understand whether you really want your ex back!
With the no contact period, you have enough ‘ex-free’ time in which you can really get clear with yourself.
Do you even want a second chance? Is there any love left for him? Would you be able to work it out if you started again?
So, the main point is to fix your own life and understand what you really want while possibly getting the chance to have your ex-boyfriend back!
“Does he miss me during no contact?”
Now, let’s get deeper into the question that bothers all of us when we apply the no contact rule!
“Does he miss me?” “Is he thinking about me?” or, “How could I know that he wants me back?”
Frankly, the no contact period will give you a hard time.
As heartbroken as you are, you wish for comfort. And that comfort usually came from your ex-boyfriend.
You will think about him all the time but you won’t be able to know if he’s thinking about you.
Every obstacle you come across will make you wonder if you should break the no contact rule and call him.
“Maybe that’s the better option. He will forget me if I continue with this.”
But the moment you pick up your phone and call him, any hope of getting back together will be dashed.
Instead of pulling him closer to you, it will only push you away from him.
Men love to chase and they love challenges. You making the first move makes him realize that you are raising a white flag and admitting defeat.
That leaves no room for him to chase you as you are giving yourself to him, without any effort.
So, instead of wanting to get back to you, he will abandon any intention of a second chance that he may have had in his mind.
You will be left broken-hearted, blaming yourself for why you even made a move.
However, if you want to be sure that the no contact rule works and that your ex-boyfriend is thinking about you or maybe even planning how to get his ex-girlfriend (aka you) back, then you should look for the following signs.
If you notice that he does most of these, the chances are that he spends a lot of time thinking about you and that there is still a lot of love for you left in his heart.
Welcome to the male mind. Let’s see what’s happening there and whether you are still the only person he thinks about.
1. He makes changes in his appearance
Women aren’t the only ones who make drastic changes to their looks after a breakup. However, the difference is in the reason behind the change.
A change in a woman’s appearance is usually a sign of a bad breakup and a desperate try to run away from her past.
On the other hand, men do it because they want to get your attention.
He may get his hair cut or grow a beard but it will probably be similar to something you’ve always asked him to do.
For example, if you always wanted him to grow longer hair, the chances are that he will do it now.
The reason is that he wants to attract your attention and he wants you to notice him.
This can give you an answer to your, “Does he miss me during no contact?” question.
If you see him trying to improve his physique or experimenting with his looks then he’s probably thinking about you.
It also means that he’s trying to find a way to make you notice him because he wants to try a relationship with you for the second time.
2. He stalks you on social media
Social media is the easiest way to remain in someone’s life without having a direct interaction with them.
It also means that it is the easiest way for you to see if he’s thinking about you during the no contact period.
First of all, social media is a great way to show him that you are not sitting at home suffering, but that you have moved on.
You need to use that to your advantage.
Now, back to your question, “Does he miss me during no contact?”
As I already mentioned, a great way to see if he’s thinking about you while you are giving him the silent treatment is through his interactions on your social media profiles.
You may be asking how.
Well, if he’s the first one who sees your Instagram stories, no matter what time you post them, then he’s thinking about you and stalking your social media to see how you are doing.
Day or night, it makes no difference to him as he will be online most of the time, waiting for your text message.
Another great way to tell if he’s been spending a lot of time on your profiles is if he accidentally likes your photo, especially if it is one that was posted a long time ago.
He can unlike it but you will still get the notification. (This works for Instagram and only if you are offline while he likes the photo.)
The way he interacts with your content on social media is a great way to see if he’s thinking about you during the no contact period.
If he doesn’t care about you, why would he be spending time on your profiles, scrolling through your posts? Think about it!
3. He posts breakup-related posts on his social media
If you want to get an answer to the question, “Does he miss me during no contact?” then you should also pay attention to his social media profiles.
It’s not only important what he does on your profiles, but also on his.
If he posts a lot of breakup-related songs or quotes, or simply expresses some of his feelings online, it’s probable that he’s thinking about you.
He still misses you and he wants you to notice him.
Social media is a great way to express his feelings, clear his mind, and let you see how he feels about you.
He wants you to give him a second chance but he’s still not sure how.
That’s why he will use his profiles to get some answers from you – whether he should call you or not.
When he sees that you are not giving him any signs (aka liking his posts), he will start to think about you even more.
“Why isn’t she responding to this?” can only make him chase you harder. The first time you like one of his posts, he will start losing interest.
4. He acts weird and confused when he accidentally sees you
If you ever run into him and you notice how he has no idea what to do or how to act, it’s probably because he has been thinking about you A LOT.
You may believe that it has nothing to do with that but think about it. If he hadn’t been thinking about you, why would he seem nervous when he sees you?
Shouldn’t he casually go about his business? Instead of that, he has to try hard to establish eye contact and acts nervously.
He may even walk past you a few times in order for him to get your attention.
He is still nervous as he doesn’t know what his next step should be. Because of that, he will act confused if he accidentally sees you.
The good thing is that it gives you a yes answer to your, “Does he miss me during no contact”? question.
5. He’s still not dating
If he misses you and spends his days thinking about you, he still won’t be able to engage in the dating scene.
It is hard to move on when you can’t get your ex out of your head, right? Well, that’s exactly what’s happening to him.
If your ex-boyfriend still thinks that he has a good chance of getting back together with you, he won’t waste it by hanging out with other girls.
He will be preoccupied with the thought of winning you over.
He knows that by going out with other girls, he won’t be doing himself a favor. It can only make you lose interest in him. He’s not willing to take that risk.
6. He’s dating to make you jealous
In the same way not dating is a sign that he misses you, constant dating also means the same.
If he keeps going out with every single girl he stumbles across, it probably means that he can’t stop thinking about you.
He is using rebound relationships as a way to get you out of his mind but it probably isn’t working.
He wants to make you jealous and he’s waiting for your response to it, but if you don’t give him anything, it will make you even more attractive to him.
Don’t think that just because he is jumping from girl to girl that he has forgotten about you.
The chances are that he can’t stop thinking about you but has no idea how to change that.
7. He talks to your mutual friends about you
Usually, all couples have a group of friends that both partners know, so you two spend a lot of time with them.
Once the relationship ends, those friends become your mutual ones and they represent a great opportunity for getting info about your ex.
If he has been asking around your mutual friends about you and how you are doing, then he still misses you and can’t stop thinking about you.
He wants them to tell you that he still misses you so he uses them as a way to get info from A to B.
The moment your ex-boyfriend asks them about you, he is sending you a signal that he wants you to give him a second chance.
You are on his mind and he misses you badly but doesn’t know what he should do.
That’s why he’s testing the waters so he can get a better idea of what his next step should be.
8. He reaches out to your best friends
If he also includes your non-mutual friends in the process of finding out what you think about him and whether there is a chance of getting back together, it means that he misses you during this no contact period.
It takes guts to reach out to your ex-girlfriend’s friends (who usually end up hating you because you hurt their good friend).
If he’s willing to do that then he’s willing to ask for a second chance. He just needs to make sure that there is a possibility of getting back together.
9. He’s still in contact with your family members
What gives you a better answer to the question, “Does he miss me during no contact?” than his constant efforts to stay in touch with your family members?
If he’s willing to wish your mom a happy birthday, occasionally calls your sister to check on her, and offers to help your brother fix his car, then he’s willing to try with you a second time.
He wants to prove to you that you should give him another chance and what better way than staying in touch with your family.
His male mind thinks that this is a great way to get your attention.
Letting go isn’t an option so he sticks to everything important to you just so he can show you that he misses you.
10. He constantly tries to contact you
If you applied the no contact rule but he still tries to constantly contact you, then it’s clear that he still misses you.
He can’t keep things the way they are and he simply has to see how you are doing.
When he doesn’t receive a reply, it makes him think even more about you.
He will think about the reason you two broke up and if he realizes that it was his fault, he might try to make things right.
The first thing he can do is reach out to you as he feels the need to get in touch with you.
At this point, your reply will feel like a drug – it will lift him high into the sky.
He will be willing to change and work on himself if you give him a second chance.
He needs your validation and then he will be willing to work on everything else.
Your job is to say yes and he will be more than happy to try to prove to you that you both need to try a second time.
When he calls you, messages you, or even comments on your posts on social media, it means that he still misses you.
He just needs to get you to answer him. After that, he will try to show you that you two are meant to be.
11. He becomes angry when you don’t answer him
If he keeps sending you text messages but receives no replies in return, the chances are that he will send you an angry message, saying how immature you are.
The point is that he still misses you because he hates the idea of receiving the silent treatment from you.
Trust me, if he wasn’t thinking about you, he wouldn’t mind if you didn’t reply to him.
He wouldn’t even reach out to you in the first place but if he tries to contact you and gets no reply every time, his immediate action will be an outburst of anger, which means that he still misses you.
It hurts him (and his ego) that you are not paying attention to him. (It even makes him want you even more.)
I’m not saying that this is a healthy reaction, but you can expect it if he still misses you.
12. He gets jealous
If he still misses you and thinks about you during the no contact period, he will show clear signs of jealousy.
Whenever he sees you with another guy, be prepared to expect his face to fall.
He might even send you numerous jealous texts.
He will try to blame you for moving on while he’s still stuck in the same place, waiting for you to give him a second chance.
His broken heart suffers even more when he sees you with someone else. He has a hard time letting go, especially if he realizes that you already have.
So if you want to see whether he still misses you, look for signs of jealousy.
A lot of the time, they can be your answer to the, “Does he miss me during no contact?” question.
13. He promises that he will change
A sure sign that he still misses you is if your ex-boyfriend promises that he will change.
This means that he has spent a lot of time thinking about your relationship and the mistakes that he made.
He may even make some changes in his behavior just so you can give him a second chance.
If he’s aware that his previous mistakes led to your breakup, he will try to fix them.
He will tell you that he’s only human and that you should forgive him if he’s willing to change.
If he approaches you full of promises, convincing you that you should give him a second chance because he’s a changed man now, it just means that he’s desperate and that he doesn’t know what he should do next.
The bottom line is that by observing your ex-boyfriend’s behavior, you can get an answer to your question of, “Does he miss me during no contact?”
It’s normal that you will miss him during the no contact period but I have also shown you how to know whether your ex misses you too.
Yes, the no contact period is a great way to get your ex miss you but before you engage in it, you need to be sure that you want to try a second time at all.
We spend a lot of time thinking that getting our ex back is the best option but sometimes it only happens because the process of letting go gets too hard.
If you now have an answer and you realize that your ex-boyfriend still misses you, try to think about whether you are ready to give him a second chance.
He may still have some love for you but are you both on the same page?
All of a sudden, you may realize that you only like the idea of having someone around (and that isn’t the way to go).
