So, you want to hurt a narcissist’s ego, am I correct? You want to show him that he can’t just play games with you whenever he pleases. You want to remind him that you’re a woman who isn’t just going to stand on the side and take his abuse!
But you forget your own power when things start to get out of hand. The narcissist in your life knocks your self-esteem and makes you feel like you’re nothing in comparison to him.
You end up completely heartbroken. You feel like you’re going crazy and there’s nothing you could ever do to make him regret hurting you like this. Can you even hurt a narcissist who believes that he’s the incarnation of God?
Well, I can positively tell you that there are so many different things you can do in order to hurt him and his ego. Because, believe me, his ego is much more fragile than you think. It’s a very thin layer of glass that he keeps up to protect himself, but you can shatter it.
And if you’re thinking about the moral dilemma of this little spectacle, don’t worry, he abused you and hurt you. Emotionally and mentally. He should have a taste of his own medicine.
1. Feign indifference
It doesn’t matter if you do care about something that he’s saying or doing, just feign indifference. Don’t give him the satisfaction of your attention, but instead, simply walk past him and pretend not to care.
He will do so much just to get a rise out of you, so don’t let him get that.
When you let him upset you, you’re actually giving him validation. He feels that he holds the reins because he’s managed to get a rise out of you. Keep calm and pretend as though nothing he says or does bothers you.
Also, watch out for the small reactions you unknowingly give him, like the automatic raise of a brow or something else, because that in itself could be enough for him. You should be in a total state of indifference.
And when he does ask you something, just brush him off. His poor little ego will bruise every time you don’t give him an answer.
2. Ask him for proof when he claims something
More times than not, he’ll try to convince you of some bizarre lie that he made up on the spot. Don’t ever let that happen to you because, before long, he’ll be piling up one lie on top of the next.
What you should do is make him prove everything.
If he says that he can play an instrument, tell him to show you how good he actually is. When he says that he’s doing something for work that you find to be suspicious, also make sure to check it out for yourself.
Never believe a word he says unless he has evidence of it.
This will bruise his ego because he will have to show you everything and you’ll figure out that he’s lying right away. He’ll feel completely embarrassed and ashamed.
3. Don’t let him humiliate you, be the one to humiliate him
Narcissists aren’t by default in the highest order of the social food chain. They get there by humiliating others and putting them down. This way, they feel better about themselves while you feel completely awful.
He’ll mostly do this by trying to humiliate you in front of other people. He’ll ask you about something that you probably know nothing about, just to get a rise out of you. He wants everyone to see that he’s the superior one.
Don’t let him have that.
What you want to do is to look at him as if you’re disgusted and tell him to Google it. You can even spice it up by saying something like: “What? The big boy doesn’t know how to use Google? What a shame. I thought you were smart.”
And then just walk away.
4. Sarcasm is king
Sarcastic remarks will bruise his ego before you even know it. Mock him for everything that he says and does. When you know that he’s lying, don’t hold back for a second!
Be warned, though. He will try to be the more sarcastic one, but outsmart him.
When he realizes that you’re the one who took the lead, he’ll get even more defensive and even try to break you by offending you and saying something that will actually hurt you.
But don’t let it get to you. Just know that his opinion doesn’t matter.
5. Laugh at him
This won’t just hurt a narcissist’s ego, it will shatter it!
There’s nothing that a narcissist hates more than being laughed at. He loves to be the funniest guy in the room, but it’s a completely different story when he’s the subject of everyone’s laughter.
You may look a bit crazy with this one, but don’t let that frighten you. I mean, you do have to be crazier than he is in order to play his game better than he does. So laugh your heart out!
If you have nothing to laugh about, then just put him in his place whenever he starts to act as if he owns the world. He’s the joke. So laugh at him.
6. Pity him
“Aw, poor little guy. Did someone make you angry? I’m so sorry for you.”
“Sometimes I really pity you. I mean, look at you. Imagine having to be you. What a tragedy.”
You may want to pity him in a sarcastic way as well, but “genuine concern” works wonders, too.
I mean, who wouldn’t pity a narcissistic man who doesn’t know how to maintain a basic friendship? Not to mention a relationship? It’s sad when you think about the fact that he hasn’t had a genuine emotion in years and that deep down he actually hates himself.
Don’t do this in an empathetic way, because he’ll get happy to have earned that sympathy. He doesn’t deserve it.