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When You Love Someone So Much It Hurts…

When You Love Someone So Much It Hurts…

So what can you do when you love someone so much that it pains you? Not much, but it is true. Love can literally hurt you. It can hurt you so much that you find yourself on the ground, thinking about just one thing – a way out of it. Really, you feel like dying and it can be out of a million reasons. There could be a million different reasons that loving someone gets you through, not just emotional, but also physical pain.

But, before jumping to any conclusion please keep in mind that I’m not talking about loving and losing. I’m talking about pure love. Happy one. One that brings a smile to your face.

Why does it happen and what can you do when your love for someone is so strong? Some people say that love hurts only when you are afraid of losing the person you have next to you. But, I really don’t share that opinion because I was in a long-term relationship in which I didn’t have any fear of losing my partner but it still hurt me. Love hurt me.

So, what’s the point? So what when you love someone so much it hurts you but, on the other side, you don’t have any fear of losing the person that is lying next to you? I’m almost sure it must be one of following reasons…

You and your partner are in a long distance relationship which can be very painful. There’s nothing wrong with you if you get an actual ache inside your body, your mind, and your soul. When you love someone so much talking on the telephone and seeing each other every now and then can be a real disaster. I can totally understand that position because years ago I was in that kind of relationship for a year. It was a year full of love, but also full of some strange sadness. Bitter-sweet love. Bitter-sweet sadness.

Love hurts when you love someone more than you love yourself. And yes, of course, you can love someone more than you love yourself and no, not only when we talk about your kids. You can love your boyfriend or girlfriend, your husband or wife, more than you love yourself. So when you love someone so much it can be really painful knowing that they’re going through some difficulties in their life, such as health problems, problems at work, family problems, etc. or when they’re facing the dark side of life – a death of a loved one or, or, or… There could be millions of reasons for experiencing the difficult period of life and when you are witnessing it for the person you deeply love, it’s not a surprise that you feel strong pain. Real one.

Love hurts because you care. This one is very simple, but it is also very true. When you love so strong it means that you care for that person. You care if he or she is okay during the working hours. You care if he or she is safe when you are apart from each other. When he’s going on business travel, you care about the safety of the trip. About safeness of the airplane and their accommodation. Also, about their busy schedule.

When she’s going to see her parents in the city where she grew up, you care if she’s going to drive slowly. You care if she’s going to bring her telephone with a full battery so that you can call her in a matter of few seconds if you need her, or, of course, so that she can call you if she needs you.

Love hurts at the beginning of the relationship. Some people tend to think that love can hurts only at the beginning of the relationship when your emotions are still all mixed up. Those people say that when you love someone so much it hurts it must mean that you are still experiencing the romance which is very different from the exact love. In their mind love is something that is calm. It is some kind of quiet strength, while romance brings you to the point where you are going through some kind of dramatic emotional state.

To be honest, I don’t share that opinion. I’m holding the side that says that pure, old love can hurt you. It can make you feel the pain that goes through every part of your body. The one that stops in your mind just to remind you it’s there all the time and then it goes directly to your heart. If you are not now in a position from which you can understand this, I’m not going to tell you that you don’t love him or her enough, but what I’m going to tell you is that I wish that one day you’ll have an opportunity to experience the power of true love through true pain. It will show you up how a man is capable of loving to the bottom of his heart and deeper.

I want you to know that no matter the reason. No matter if you love someone so much it hurts because you are in a long distance relationship, or you love someone more than you love yourself, or you simply care, or you are holding the thought that love hurts only at the beginning of the relationship… I want you to know that when you love someone so much you are experiencing the deepest evidence that you are human. And that human is much more than most of us on a regular basis think.

Because if we are capable of loving someone that much, we are capable of changing the world just by the love that we’re feeling. What’s more than that? I don’t think there’s something more, but I think that we must stop searching for more besides the love that we are giving and accepting.

We don’t experience it too often. But when we do, when we do love someone so much, it is a pure evidence of our kindness, empathy, and capability to love. Isn’t it? So at the end, I want you to know that I went through it. I went through various emotions. Through ups and downs. But the second I got to touch, to taste, to smell the feeling of belonging and caring for the other part of me, for the person who makes me complete, I came to know that besides all negativity I will be holding my joker.

I will be caring my joker card in my pocket and that joker, that joker card will always be his smiling face on the cover of my smartphone as well as his number which will lead me to hear his voice in a matter of a moment. Single moment. Single sign. That’s all you need when you love someone so much it hurts. Just a single sign from the person you love and it will be alright. It has to be alright. Believe me, because when you love someone so much any other way is no way at all. It must be him or nobody else. It must be his voice, his smile, his hand to show me the way. All else is nothing. Nothing when your love is so strong.

When You Love Someone So Much It Hurts…

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    Regardless if you believe in God or not, read this message! Throughout time, we can see how we have been slowly conditioned to come to this point where we are on the verge of a cashless society. Did you know that the Bible foretold of this event almost 2,000 years ago? In the book of Revelation 13:16-18, we read, “He (the false prophet who deceives many by his miracles–Revelation 19:20) causes all, both small and great, rich and poor, free and slave, to receive a mark on their right hand or on their foreheads, and that no one may buy or sell except one who has the mark or the name of the beast, or the number of his name. Here is wisdom. Let him who has understanding calculate the number of the beast, for it is the number of a man: His number is 666.” Speaking to the last generation, this could only be speaking of a cashless society. Why? Revelation 13:17 tells us that we cannot buy or sell unless we receive the mark of the beast. If physical money was still in use, we could buy or sell with one another without receiving the mark. This would contradict scripture that states we need the mark to buy or sell! These verses could not be referring to something purely spiritual as scripture references two physical locations (our right hand or forehead) stating the mark will be on one “OR” the other. If this mark was purely spiritual, it would indicate both places, not one OR the other. This is where it really starts to come together. It is shocking how accurate the Bible is concerning the implantable RFID microchip. These are notes from a man named Carl Sanders who worked with a team of engineers to help develop this RFID chip “Carl Sanders sat in seventeen New World Order meetings with heads-of-state officials such as Henry Kissinger and Bob Gates of the C.I.A. to discuss plans on how to bring about this one-world system. The government commissioned Carl Sanders to design a microchip for identifying and controlling the peoples of the world—a microchip that could be inserted under the skin with a hypodermic needle (a quick, convenient method that would be gradually accepted by society). Carl Sanders, with a team of engineers behind him, with U.S. grant monies supplied by tax dollars, took on this project and designed a microchip that is powered by a lithium battery, rechargeable through the temperature changes in our skin. Without the knowledge of the Bible (Brother Sanders was not a Christian at the time), these engineers spent one-and-a-half-million dollars doing research on the best and most convenient place to have the microchip inserted. Guess what? These researchers found that the forehead and the back of the hand (the two places the Bible says the mark will go) are not just the most convenient places, but are also the only viable places for rapid, consistent temperature changes in the skin to recharge the lithium battery. The microchip is approximately seven millimeters in length, .75 millimeters in diameter, about the size of a grain of rice. It is capable of storing pages upon pages of information about you. All your general history, work history, criminal record, health history, and financial data can be stored on this chip. Brother Sanders believes that this microchip, which he regretfully helped design, is the “mark” spoken about in Revelation 13:16–18. The original Greek word for “mark” is “charagma,” which means a “scratch or etching.” It is also interesting to note that the number 666 is actually a word in the original Greek. The word is “chi xi stigma,” with the last part, “stigma,” also meaning “to stick or prick.” Carl believes this is referring to a hypodermic needle when they poke into the skin to inject the microchip.” Mr. Sanders asked a doctor what would happen if the lithium contained within the RFID microchip leaked into the body. The doctor replied by saying a terrible sore would appear in that location. This is what the book of Revelation says: “And the first (angel) went, and poured out his vial on the earth; and there fell a noisome and grievous sore on the men which had the mark of the beast, and on them which worshipped his image” (Revelation 16:2). You can read more about it here–and to also understand the mystery behind the number 666: https://2ruth.org/rfid-mark-of-the-beast-666-revealed/ The third angel’s warning in Revelation 14:9-11 states, “Then a third angel followed them, saying with a loud voice, ‘If anyone worships the beast and his image, and receives his mark on his forehead or on his hand, he himself shall also drink of the wine of the wrath of God, which is poured out full strength into the cup of His indignation. He shall be tormented with fire and brimstone in the presence of the holy angels and in the presence of the Lamb. And the smoke of their torment ascends forever and ever; and they have no rest day or night, who worship the beast and his image, and whoever receives the mark of his name.'” “The coming of the lawless one (the Antichrist) is according to the working of Satan, with all power, signs, and lying wonders, and with all unrighteous deception among those who perish, because they did not receive the love of the truth, that they might be saved. And for this reason God will send them strong delusion, that they should believe the lie, that they all may be condemned who did not believe the truth but had pleasure in unrighteousness.” (2 Thessalonians 2:9-12)” Who is Barack Obama, and why is he still in the public scene? So what’s in the name? The meaning of someone’s name can say a lot about a person. God throughout history has given names to people that have a specific meaning tied to their lives. How about the name Barack Obama? Let us take a look at what may be hiding beneath the surface. Jesus says in Luke 10:18, “…I saw Satan fall like lightning from heaven.” The Hebrew Strongs word (H1299) for “lightning”: “bârâq” (baw-rawk) In Isaiah chapter 14, verse 14, we read about Lucifer (Satan) saying in his heart: “I will ascend above the heights of the clouds, I will be like the Most High.” In the verses in Isaiah that refer directly to Lucifer, several times it mentions him falling from the heights or the heavens. The Hebrew word for the heights or heavens used here is Hebrew Strongs 1116: “bamah”–Pronounced (bam-maw’) In Hebrew, the letter “Waw” or “Vav” is often transliterated as a “U” or “O,” and it is primarily used as a conjunction to join concepts together. So to join in Hebrew poetry the concept of lightning (Baraq) and a high place like heaven or the heights of heaven (Bam-Maw), the letter “U” or “O” would be used. So, Baraq “O” Bam-Maw or Baraq “U” Bam-Maw in Hebrew poetry similar to the style written in Isaiah, would translate literally to “Lightning from the heights.” The word “Satan” in Hebrew is a direct translation, therefore “Satan.” So when Jesus told His disciples in Luke 10:18 that He beheld Satan fall like lightning from heaven, if this were to be spoken by a Jewish Rabbi today influenced by the poetry in the book of Isaiah, he would say these words in Hebrew–the words of Jesus in Luke 10:18 as, and I saw Satan as Baraq O Bam-Maw. The names of both of Obama’s daughters are Malia and Natasha. If we were to write those names backward (the devil does things in reverse) we would get “ailam ahsatan”. Now if we remove the letters that spell “Alah” (Allah being the false god of Islam), we get “I am Satan”. Coincidence? I don’t think so. Obama’s campaign logo when he ran in 2008 was a sun over the horizon in the west, with the landscape as the flag of the United States. In Islam, they have their own messiah that they are waiting for called the 12th Imam, or the Mahdi (the Antichrist of the Bible), and one prophecy concerning this man’s appearance is the sun rising in the west. “Then I saw another angel flying in the midst of heaven, having the everlasting gospel to preach to those who dwell on the earth—to every nation, tribe, tongue, and people— saying with a loud voice, ‘Fear God and give glory to Him, for the hour of His judgment has come; and worship Him who made heaven and earth, the sea and springs of water.'” (Revelation 14:6-7) Why have the words of Jesus in His Gospel accounts regarding His death, burial, and resurrection, been translated into over 3,000 languages, and nothing comes close (the Quran about 110 languages)? Because the same Spirit of God (YHVH) who created all people likewise transcends all people; therefore the power of His Word is not limited by people; while all other religions are man-made, therefore they tend to primarily stay within their own culture. The same God who speaks to all people through His creation of the heavens and earth that draws all people around the world likewise has sent His Word to the ends of the earth so that we may come to personally know Him to be saved in spirit and in truth through His Son Jesus Christ. Jesus stands alone among the other religions that say to rightly weigh the scales of good and evil and to make sure you have done more good than bad in this life. Is this how we conduct ourselves justly in a court of law? Bearing the image of God, is this how we project this image into reality? Our good works cannot save us. If we step before a judge, being guilty of a crime, the judge will not judge us by the good we have done, but rather by the crimes we have committed. If we as fallen humanity, created in God’s image, pose this type of justice, how much more a perfect, righteous, and Holy God? God has brought down His moral laws through the 10 commandments given to Moses at Mt. Siani. These laws were not given so we may be justified, but rather that we may see the need for a savior. They are the mirror of God’s character of what He has written in our hearts, with our conscious bearing witness that we know that it is wrong to steal, lie, dishonor our parents, murder, and so forth. We can try and follow the moral laws of the 10 commandments, but we will never catch up to them to be justified before a Holy God. That same word of the law given to Moses became flesh about 2,000 years ago in the body of Jesus Christ. He came to be our justification by fulfilling the law, living a sinless perfect life that only God could fulfill. The gap between us and the law can never be reconciled by our own merit, but the arm of Jesus is stretched out by the grace and mercy of God. And if we are to grab on, through faith in Him, He will pull us up being the one to justify us. As in the court of law, if someone steps in and pays our fine, even though we are guilty, the judge can do what is legal and just and let us go free. That is what Jesus did almost 2,000 years ago on the cross. It was a legal transaction being fulfilled in the spiritual realm by the shedding of His blood with His last word’s on the cross crying out, “It is finished!” (John 19:30). For God takes no pleasure in the death of the wicked (Ezekiel 18:23). This is why in Isaiah chapter 53, where it speaks of the coming Messiah and His soul being a sacrifice for our sins, why it says it pleased God to crush His only begotten Son. This is because the wrath that we deserve was justified by being poured out upon His Son. If that wrath was poured out on us, we would all perish to hell forever. God created a way of escape by pouring it out on His Son whose soul could not be left in Hades but was raised and seated at the right hand of God in power. So now when we put on the Lord Jesus Christ (Romans 13:14), where God no longer sees the person who deserves His wrath, but rather the glorious image of His perfect Son dwelling in us, justifying us as if we received the wrath we deserve, making a way of escape from the curse of death; now being conformed into the image of the heavenly man walking in a new nature, and no longer in the image of the fallen man Adam. Now what we must do is repent and put our trust and faith in the savior, confessing and forsaking our sins, and to receive His Holy Spirit that we may be born again (for Jesus says we must be born again to see and enter the Kingdom of God in John chapter 3). This is not just head knowledge of believing in Jesus, but rather receiving His words, taking them to heart, so that we may truly be transformed into the image of God. Where we no longer live to practice sin, but rather turn from our sins and practice righteousness through faith in Him in obedience to His Word by reading the Bible. Our works cannot save us, but they can condemn us; it is not that we earn our way into everlasting life, but that we obey our Lord Jesus Christ: Jesus says, “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’ (Matthew 7:21-23) “And having been perfected, He became the author of eternal salvation to all who obey Him.” (Hebrews 5:9) “Now I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away. Also there was no more sea. Then I, John, saw the holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from heaven saying, ‘Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and He will dwell with them, and they shall be His people. God Himself will be with them and be their God. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.’ Then He who sat on the throne said, ‘Behold, I make all things new.’ And He said to me, ‘Write, for these words are true and faithful.’ And He said to me, ‘It is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End. I will give of the fountain of the water of life freely to him who thirsts. He who overcomes shall inherit all things, and I will be his God and he shall be My son. But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.'” (Revelation 21:1-8)
  2. Donna says:
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    You are so right. So very right.
  3. Bob Fukenugger says:
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    This was helpful. I agree. I love my wife so much that it can be a lot. I think reading this cemented the issue for me (self esteem). Thank you
  4. Leon says:

    This brought so much clarity, I loved it. Thank you.