Think aloud
To love and be loved – that’s what we all strive for. We spend the majority of our lives searching and looking for real love and what’s difficult to grasp is the fact that many of us won’t even experience the beauty of it.
But there are things that are worse than that. Imagine being with someone and not being sure whether or not their feelings for you are genuine. Imagine hugging, kissing, and loving someone, and not getting your feelings reciprocated.
Unfortunately, the are many fake relationships out there, and a lot of people struggle to find a way to escape them. So, what to do when someone pretends to love you? Can you escape that vicious circle of being hurt constantly and is it possible to recover from it?
Truth be told, most men and women refuse to accept that their partner is pretending to love them. Usually, they live in an imaginary world where they’re happy and safe, and don’t want to see things as they really are.
They fool themselves into thinking that everything is okay when reality is far from it. Eventually, when the time comes to face those problems, they’re mostly confused and disappointed that they didn’t recognize the signs earlier.
Therefore, if you want to know what to do when someone pretends to love you, first you have to accept the truth and not avoid any of the red flags. Only then will you be able to take steps to save yourself from heartbreak.
Remember, such relationships lack any genuine emotions. Generally, one partner does all the work while the other just sits back and enjoys the ride while they can.
So, what should you do when someone you love is pretending to love you back?
1. Lay all your cards on the table
Expressing your emotions and opinions to your partner can prove difficult sometimes. That’s especially true if you have a partner who ignores you and doesn’t listen to you at all.
This is why you need to be ready for everything. You can’t choose to confront them about your emotions and suddenly pull back in the middle of your conversation.
Be sure that you’ve read all the signs they’re pretending to love you and then sit down and talk with them.
Take some time to think about the things you want to ask them. If you want to find out why they’ve been taking you for granted, then make sure you know how to get that information from them.
You can tell them you’ve noticed they haven’t been giving you any attention when you’re alone or that they behave differently when you’re out with their friends.
I understand that you love this person, but you don’t deserve to be half-loved, remember that.
2. Communicate your feelings
Once you’ve figured out what to say to them, now comes the hard part – confronting your partner. Keep in mind that you need to be respectful and not insult them in any way.
Be sure that you create a safe environment where they’ll be encouraged to share their feelings too. Their opinion matters as much as yours.
Now that you’ve done that, you can openly communicate with them and tell them why you think your relationship has been fake. Furthermore, you should say what you expect from them so that they know what bothers you.
In the end, if they don’t want to change at all and tell you that it’s all inside your head or that you’re looking for problems where there are none, then you have all the proof you need and you must walk away.
Even if you give them a second chance, everything will stay the same and you’ll only get hurt again.
3. Don’t let them throw you off scent
Your partner may continue displaying signs they love you or perhaps try their best to hide the truth from you, but you need to keep your ground and stay firm.
Even if they mention old issues that you’ve been having, keep in mind that they’re doing that only to distract you from the real problem.
Stay focused on your goal. Don’t allow them to disrespect you any further and show them that you mean business.
4. Staying friends is impossible
I know you genuinely love this person, but they don’t feel the same way about you. Perhaps they’re using you because they’re bored and don’t have anything else to do. And the thing is, staying friends with them is impossible.
You have to take some time for yourself to let your emotions settle down and plan your next step. If you try to be friends with them, there’s a possibility that they might take you for granted again.
Let them go and focus on your future. After all, it’s better to be single than in a pretend-love relationship.
5. Enjoy your single life
It’s their loss and not yours. You came out as a winner because you regained control over your own life and now you should enjoy it to the fullest.
Even if single life terrifies you, you have to keep on going if you ever wish to recover from a fake relationship.
Don’t waste any more of your precious time or energy on someone who doesn’t deserve you in the first place because he’s pretending to love you. Get out there and live your best life. Invest your efforts into someone who will actually appreciate you for who you are.
There are so many beautiful things out there waiting for you to discover. You only need to be brave and be prepared to step out of your comfort zone.
