A Letter To My Future Wife About Our Perfect Marriage

A happy marriage
By Peyton White
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This is dedicated to my future wife. Oh, how beautiful it is to say those words. It must be the best feeling in the world to call you that.

I don’t know who or where you are, but having the opportunity to call someone ‘my wife’ gives me the sense that I fully belong to someone.

To my wife,

I want you to be mine forever. It brings me comfort, bliss, and joy when I say those words aloud.

I couldn’t be more grateful that you chose me over any other man and that our love is sealed for the rest of our lives.

I always dreamed of someone saying, “Yes,” to me. It’s something that I have always longed for and I never imagined that it would be you.

The day you gave me your heart and said, “Yes,” was the happiest day of my life.

I still find myself in disbelief that you are the one destined to be with me forever.

Every day, I pray to God to protect you when I’m not able to do so and my heart is filled with happiness and delight.

Without you, I cannot imagine how my life would be. You are the one with whom I realized what it means to have unconditional love.

With you, I learned how to love and what it really means to love someone.

And I do love you, my wife.

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Love is such an interesting thing. It brings out the best in people and it gives life new meaning.

It gives you an opportunity to explore yourself without fear of being left alone.

You are not the most important person anymore.

Because of love, another person becomes the reason why you wake up in the morning, and because of that, you want to make them feel good about themselves.

My reason for such a feeling is you. You are my centerpiece and you are my reason to wake up and my reason to sleep.

You give me such comfort that sometimes I’m afraid of what I would do without you.

The purpose of my life has changed. It became you.

To my wife, I want to say that all the other girls I dated were wrong and now I know why. I know you are the right one.

Learning with you every day brings me joy and a sense of fulfillment.

Because of the enormous love that I have for you, I want to tell you that you are my soulmate, my only one, my wife.

I hope we will have a healthy and successful marriage.

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I want you to know that having the perfect home or car or a large savings account doesn’t matter so much to me.

They do not constitute a healthy and successful marriage. There are far more important principles that you and I should focus on.

My wife, I hope that our love will be filled with love and commitment.

We have already decided to spend our lifetime together, so for our marriage to be happy and successful, we need to love each other.

Love is just a commitment that you make to another person.

Those explanations and portrayals of love that we see on television are not true, they are fictionalized.

I know I will make you angry, I will make bad decisions, I’m only human after all.

However, what I can promise you is that I will be committed to you forever.

For us to succeed, we need to have love and commitment, as they are at a relationship’s core.

Even if we have ups and downs, both good and bad times, we made our decision to stay committed to each other, and that is what truly matters.

A marriage cannot go well all the time. Our love won’t be easy. There is no love and no marriage which hasn’t experienced bad moments.

Commitment is easy when things are good, but true love is displayed when life throws rocks at you. That’s when you should remain committed.

Being faithful to my wife is more than being physically committed to one person.

It also means to be committed by devoting your eyes, mind, and soul to that one person.

I believe that if we love each other, we will stay faithful. We will devote our mind and body just to each other and we will not sacrifice what we have.

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We know that our love is eternal and we know that we are enough for each other.

No other person will ever come between you and me. We will cherish what we have and we will devote our time to fulfilling each other’s needs.

I know that being faithful requires a lot of self-discipline and awareness of the consequences.

However, my wife, I believe that you have that because that’s one of the reasons I chose you.

I refuse to accept that anybody could come between us and I refuse to accept that you would compromise your faithfulness.

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Our marriage will have weaknesses, as this is inevitable. The faults are always shown quicker in marriages than relationships.

A healthy marriage requires that you and I accept our flaws, accept that we are not perfect, and ask for forgiveness if we need to.

That’s one of the essential building blocks of a successful and healthy marriage.

You and I should never hold an attitude of superiority because it will only bring resentment and will stop us from moving forward.

We need to show humility. Our marriage will take time.

Everything in life that is good needs time to grow and it needs space. It requires being invested in someone.

Our marriage will be the most intimate and deep relationship that you can have. And to achieve that, it takes more time than in any other relationship.

Also, my wife, for our marriage to succeed, we need to have honesty and trust.

However, as you know, trust takes time. And I will be patient, believe me.

Certain things don’t take time, like being committed and being selfless.

However, trust always takes time. It isn’t something that can be built in a matter of weeks. It takes months or years for someone to truly trust you.

A healthy and successful marriage requires us to have healthy and respectful communication.

We shouldn’t stop talking about our hopes, dreams, or fears, even when we have kids.

We should always be open to talking about what is in our heart and soul, and not just when talking about our kids’ lives.

Communication is the foundation of many things, like commitment, patience, and trust.

I truly believe that we will succeed in all of these things because we have each other.

To my wife, I expect you to…

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Express your affection. I might not admit it, but I want you to always express your affection for me.

Sometimes it is hard to express what you want; I know, believe me. However, it is sometimes harder to show that you need to feel that affection.

We men are difficult to read at times. Sometimes, we don’t know what we want and you should be aware of that.

There are times when we crave affection. However, our ego gets in the way and stops us from showing what we truly need.

So, my advice would be to show me that you care about me. I’m not going to deny you love or affection.

I’m not that type of man who rejects the precious things you get from your loved one.

If you show me that you love me, I will definitely cherish that.

I might even compete with you for that – who can better show affection to whom. It will be like a marriage contest between us two.

I’m not going to reject love, especially not from you, my wife, the most beautiful person I have ever met in my life.

I don’t want you to insult me just because you want to motivate me to change. Sometimes you do that.

At times, women think that being harsh to a man will make him be better and change but that’s not the right approach.

It will only lead to rejection and anger and then we will have problems in our marriage.

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I want to be a guy who does the best that he can, a guy who does everything that is in his power for our marriage.

I’m lucky that I have found a person who will do the same for me.

There will certainly be tough times, but I’m ready to put all my effort into our love and marriage.

Don’t misunderstand me, but I expect you to show me appreciation and gratitude for this.

I want my efforts to be acknowledged as I’m going to do the same with you.

I believe that you are going to be appreciative of everything that I’m doing for our marriage to work out.

If I fix things around the house or if I take care of the bills, I would like to be appreciated for that.

Other stuff that I sometimes don’t do will come in time, believe me. Maybe I’ll open up about starting to change things that have been missing.

If you respect me, there is nothing that we cannot conquer.

I want assurance that I’m awesome, heroic, and competent. It will only bring us closer together and make our marriage even stronger than it actually is.

Another thing to keep in mind is that I need you to let me be a man. I don’t want to be smothered by you.

If you give me space and the opportunity to be a man, be certain that I will seize it.

I will drop the remote, come out of my cave and hand you my heart; I will commit to you emotionally and I won’t be afraid of losing my masculinity.

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Fights will happen and you know that. But the thing is, you need to give me some space.

I don’t want to pressure you for instant conflict resolutions as that will only push me away from you, and that is something I don’t want to happen.

I need time to isolate myself and process my thoughts. Marriage is new to me, and I would like you to allow me to sometimes complain and express myself.

I will eventually come around, but sometimes I need to be heard.

I would like to be accepted by you. Accepted in the sense that this is me and I hope you like me and won’t change me.

I’m an imperfect human being whose only goal is to make you happy and make you smile.

I know that I have flaws. I know that I need to work on them.

But I hope you will still love me for who I am and not try to change me in a way that you deem fit.

I love you for who you are and I would not change a thing about you, unless you thought that those things should be changed.

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My wife, I would like you to have patience and understanding with me. There are no rules to follow in marriage and it will have its rough patches.

During those times, I hope that you will stay patient and show understanding because I know you are capable of both.

I hope you will understand that I’m only a human being who is still learning how to behave in marriage.

I will try my best, don’t worry, you just need to have patience with me.

To achieve a happy state in our marriage, we should grow together, which will certainly take time.

It will empower me and give me strength in times when I need it the most.

Along the way, we will encounter shame, anger, depression, and fear.

However, we can conquer anything if we stick together. In togetherness lies our strength.

I want you to never lose the attractiveness that you possess. And I’m not talking about being physically attractive.

I mean the type of attraction that goes beyond the physical, something that is impossible to achieve if a person isn’t ‘the one’. And I know you are.

I want to connect to you in a way where sparks fly and I want you to carry yourself like you did before I married you.

I want you to love yourself, to have a passion for life.

At the end of the day, I want your companionship. I expect that at the end of the day, our love will transcend everything. I want a companion for life.

If we play our cards right, I believe that our love will be eternal.

I want to succeed with you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I have found my wife, which is pretty rare.

After you arrived, everything fell into place. I know I made the right decision to marry you. You are a mature, emotionally-healthy woman and I love you.

To my wife, I promise you…

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To be protective.

Despite having our differences and having fights once in a while, I promise that I will be there for you no matter what the circumstances are.

I was taught from a young age that women are delicate beings.

You should never abuse them in any way possible, but rather be protective. I promise you I will protect you in any situation.

I won’t be the type of guy who won’t stand up for his wife. There are guys who just ignore when someone insults their partner. I won’t be that guy, I promise you that.

I deeply and truly love you and I want to show you that. Actions speak louder than words and I believe that is true.

When someone insults you, that is a sign of disrespect. To support your wife means that you won’t let anyone insult her.

I will show you that I love you by doing just that, protecting you from those who don’t respect you, and I will never tolerate someone’s insult or if someone says any mean jokes about you.

I want everybody to know that I have your back and that I’m on your side because you are my wife.

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Another thing that I can promise you is that I will take care of myself physically.

I know that you hate those men who change how they look after they get married, but I won’t be that guy.

I will put effort into my appearance just like you will too. You being comfortable around me is my priority.

Most men tend to neglect their appearance after they become too comfortable with their wife.

One of the reasons why romance disappears in a marriage is because of this – appearance.

The attractiveness seems to disappear and the only thing that is left of the marriage is an empty shell.

I want to make an effort to look good for you.

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I know you will appreciate it because you know how bad I am at choosing clothes, but despite that, you know I put in the effort and that will show you how much I love you.

Being married to you isn’t just about us being husband and wife. It means more than that.

We are best friends. Our bond transcends that of an ordinary marriage. You are my partner in crime, my partner in life.

When every single happy thing happens to me, the first person I want to call is you.

You are the one who is the most important person to me.

If something good happens to me, I immediately pick up my phone and call you because you are my dearest and closest friend.

As you are there for me, so I will be there for you.

If you have any issues or problems that need solving, I hope that you will come to me first and I will try my best to solve them with you.

Through thick and thin, you are the one.

I know that you think men are not sensitive beings, but I promise you that I will try my best to show you that I love you.

It will be worth it because you are worth it.

I will move mountains and swim across oceans for you.

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I know you love romance, so I will try my best to be a romantic soul.

Those moments when you least expect it, I will shower you with kisses and hug you all day just to show you how much I love you.

On a rainy day, I will make lunch, put on a movie and we will cuddle all day while listening to the sound of the rain outside.

I know that you will appreciate those little acts and I know they will brighten your day.

Just like me, I know you have flaws and faults. As a good husband, I will promise you that I will accept the good and the bad.

I will focus on all the good things about you and ignore the bad ones.

My promise to you is that I will support you with every decision you make.

I won’t laugh at your dreams or hopes because I know that would break your spirit.

I want you to know that even if everyone laughed at you and thought an idea of yours was silly, I will stand by you and support you until the end.

You can achieve anything in this world alone, but I will make it easier for you. You can always count on me.

Someday, when we have kids, I promise you I will be the best father I could possibly be.

I will be there for our children and I will play with them every day. We are in this together and I want you to be proud of me.

My dear wife, I promise you that I will treat you the way I want to be treated, with love and respect.

You are the best thing that happened in my life and you will be protected and your love will be cherished.

I know that we have a lot of work ahead of us, but we are a team. Some might say we are a super team.

I know we will make it work and live happily ever after.

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