Think aloud
If there are signs your ex is waiting for you to come back, there’s a good chance that you’ll be together again.
Of course, it depends on you, but I’m assuming that you still care about him and want him to want you back.
Still, you shouldn’t immediately run back to your ex when you see these signs your ex is waiting for you.
Sure, he probably wants you to, but he needs to be the one who makes the first move.
This is especially true if he was the one who ended your relationship in the first place.
Most of the time, the one who initiated the breakup needs to be the one who initiates getting back together.
If the two of you are considering getting back together, there’s something else you should be aware of as well.
Think about the reason you broke up. Has anything changed so that reason doesn’t exist anymore?
If so, you could probably be happy together this time around. However, if the reason is still there, it will probably cause the same problems again.
Exes can get back together, and it often happens but how does it end?
Well, sometimes it works out the second time around… but sometimes it ends in another breakup, which hurts even more.
This means that you need to really think things through before getting back together to prevent getting hurt again.
Your ex is most likely the same person he was when you dated him.
If you couldn’t handle any of his major flaws, you probably won’t be able to now either.
On the other hand, it’s true that people can change. They can, but most often, they don’t.
Maybe your ex is someone who is willing to work on himself and in that case, there’s hope.
Are you going to give him another chance? It’s completely up to you, but please don’t rush into it without thinking things through first.
Maybe you still love each other deeply, but you have to be aware that love isn’t enough to make a relationship work.
It’s necessary to have love but it takes a lot more for it to succeed and make you happy.
Are you both willing to put the effort into having a healthy relationship?
Sometimes couples need to break up in order to realize how much they actually want to be together.
Maybe that’s the case in your situation.
Your ex might not have realized what he had until he lost it, and he has no intention of repeating that mistake.
Is he willing to work on things that drove you apart the first time so that they won’t happen again?
If he is, maybe you’ll finally be happy together the way you should have been all along.
Here are all the signs your ex is waiting for you to come back:
1. He makes you remember the good times
Do you and your ex still keep in touch? If you do, it’s not really over between you two, is it?
When he talks to you, he makes you remember all the good times you had.
He mentions the times you laughed together and all the happy memories you have.
If your ex is trying to make you recall the happy memories from your relationship, he wants to create some more.
This is one of the biggest signs your ex is waiting for you to come back.
He wants you to forget about the bad things from your relationship and think only of the good ones.
Instead of mentioning the reason for your breakup, he wants you to forget about it.
He wants you to remember the way you felt when everything was great and feel the same love again.
If all this makes you less angry or upset with him, he has accomplished his mission.
Eventually, when he mentions a good memory, he’ll probably say that things could be like that again.
2. He is working on improving himself
Maybe your ex is looking better than ever now that you’ve broken up.
This could be because he wants your attention, but he could be after someone else’s instead.
Maybe he just needs a change in his life or is trying to look good to make himself feel good.
It could be anything really, but when he works on changing the things you didn’t like about him, it’s all about you.
One of the clear signs your ex is waiting for you to come back is when he works on the things that bothered you.
He wants you to know that he can change and that things can be different if you give him a second chance.
This is a very good sign that there’s a lot of hope for your relationship.
It shows that he doesn’t want to let the same problems happen the second time around.
He wants you to notice that he’s willing to work on himself so that you will give him a second chance.
In this case, you should definitely consider it.
3. He makes you wonder what would’ve happened if things had been different
If your ex wants to get back together with you, he’ll talk about the things that could have gone differently in your relationship.
He wants you to think about the future and realize that everything could be different if you give him a second chance.
He could say something like, “What if I hadn’t made that mistake?”
What would’ve happened if he (or you) had done something differently? Questions like these are signs your ex is waiting for you to come back.
4. He hasn’t returned your things or taken his back
When your ex really wants to move on, he’ll take back all of the things that he left at your place while you were dating.
He is making a clean break by collecting all of his belongings, therefore giving you no hope that he’ll return.
When your ex isn’t over you, he’ll do the opposite. He will let you keep his things and hope that he’ll get the chance to come back and use them again.
He’s probably hoping that you’ll call to ask what you should do with his belongings.
He also won’t give you your things back. When you call him to get them, he’ll suddenly be unavailable.
He’ll think of a lot of excuses not to give you your stuff back, and that’s because he wants you back.
All this means is that for him, it’s not over. He’s not ready to make the breakup official and probably hopes that you’ll get back together.
5. He reaches out to you
You broke up, so why is he still texting you or talking to you? Maybe you think that it’s because he wants you to know how mad he is, but it’s not.
A person who is mad at you and wants nothing to do with you anymore will cut off all contact.
He reaches out to you in the hope to win you back, even if it’s not what he talks to you about when he contacts you.
At some point, these conversations you’re having will become a regular thing, maybe even a daily one.
He will make a lot of excuses to get in touch with you.
Maybe something reminded him of you, he remembered something, or just wants to know how you’ve been doing.
One of the clear signs your ex is waiting for you to come back is when you talk to him even more than you used to when you were together.
He just wants to find his way back into your life, and he does so by constantly reaching out.
You always have the option of not picking up the phone when he calls if you don’t want him back.
6. One of the signs your ex is waiting for you is that he drunk dials you
Even if your ex doesn’t usually call, but drunk dials you, it could be one of the signs your ex is waiting for you to come back.
Maybe he manages to hold it together and keep quiet when he’s sober, but it changes when he drinks.
Alcohol makes people brave, and it helps him find the courage to tell you how he really feels.
Maybe he’ll drunk dial you to pour his heart out and let you know how much he misses you.
Even if he doesn’t call or text, when he’s drunk, he’ll probably try to get the message across in some way.
He could post something on one of his social media profiles that will show that he’s thinking about you or maybe he’ll write you an email instead.
7. He takes the blame
Be sure that your ex would never in a million years admit fault if he didn’t want you back.
Regardless of what the problems were in your relationship, he’d never take the blame, not even a part of it.
He didn’t while you were in a relationship, right? However, now that you’re broken up, he admits guilt.
He admits that he didn’t treat you the way you deserve and that he acted like a child.
What’s more, he even encourages you to blame him for all the bad things.
He does this because he wants you to know that he understands you and that he is ready to change.
Maybe his unwillingness to take the blame and change was the main issue in your relationship.
Now, he wants you to know that it won’t be the second time around.
He is suddenly aware of his mistakes and feels sorry for letting them happen.
When he lost you, it made him see that he should have been better to you.
He probably loved you deeply, and still does, and he doesn’t want to make the same mistakes again.
If he gets to be with you again, he’s not going to let himself lose you again.
8. He goes to places where he knows he’ll see you
If your ex didn’t want you back, he’d avoid the places you go to no matter what.
How come you’re running into him so often then? Once or twice could be just a coincidence, but if you regularly see him, it’s not just random.
He purposely goes to places where he knows he’ll see you. Maybe one of your friends even tells him your whereabouts.
Does he talk to you when you ‘accidentally’ run into each other? Maybe you can even tell that it wasn’t an accident and that he had a speech prepared.
This is one of the clear signs your ex is waiting for you to come back.
9. He always has something new to talk to you about
Maybe you said that you wouldn’t ever talk to him again, but here you are, talking to him again.
Your ex somehow always has a reason to communicate with you. He always has something new to tell you or something he needs to ask you.
All he wants is to keep the communication going and get you to like him again. He wants you to get used to constantly talking to him again.
Regularly talking to you helps keep him informed about all your feelings, wants, and needs.
This information is very important to him because he needs it to get you back.
10. He is constantly available to you
Whenever you need a favor from him or just want to see him or talk, he’s available.
If he does things for you, he’s not over you. No ex will run an errand for you unless they want you back.
This is something you can easily test. Simply ask him for a favor and see how he reacts.
If he’s willing to do what you asked, he most likely isn’t over you. He does these things for you because he wants to get on your good side again.
Why would he want that unless he wants to get back together?
11. He stalks your social media profiles
The two of you broke up but stayed friends on social media, and it’s not that uncommon. The unusual part is that he’s really active on your profiles.
You get more comments and likes from him now than when you were in a relationship. It feels like he’s stalking your social media profiles.
He likes your photos, checks your Instagram stories, and even Retweets the things you Tweet.
When your ex constantly appears in your notifications, he clearly wants to get back together.
Your social media profiles are windows to your life, a life he wants to be a part of again.
12. He shares his gloomy attitude on his social media profiles
What has your ex been posting on his social media profiles lately? Maybe he posted a sad status saying that his life feels empty or something similar.
He could post sad songs or even one you used to listen to together. What’s more, he could be sending you a message through the things he posts.
He knows that you’ll see his post, so he posts something that only you can really understand.
If you want him back, you might want to learn the steps to get your ex back.
They can work even if there are no signs your ex is waiting for you to come back.
13. He talks about you to your friends
Maybe your ex doesn’t talk to you, but he talks to your friends, which is a good sign.
He doesn’t want to directly tell you that he wants you back, but he sends you a message through your friends.
Have your mutual friends heard from him lately and has he been mentioning you to them?
Maybe he even told them that you’re an amazing woman and that he’s a fool for letting you go.
He knows that they will tell you about it, and that’s the reason he told them.
It’s a great way to let you know how he feels without being obvious and having to face your reaction.
14. His friends tell you that he wants you back
So, maybe he won’t talk to your friends, but he will surely talk to his. If he wants you back, rest assured that his friends will know about it.
Even if he hasn’t used those exact words or hasn’t told them at all, they know him well enough to tell.
This means that some of them might reach out to you to tell you about it.
They want their friend to feel good again, and they know that you’re the only one who can make that happen.
15. He isn’t dating anyone and doesn’t try to make you jealous
Has he stayed single since the breakup? Sure, it could just be his decision to enjoy the single life again and get some rest.
However, if he’s showing some of the other signs too, he obviously isn’t over you and that’s why he’s single.
On the other hand, he could show up at places you frequently visit with a new woman beside him.
Does this mean that he loves her? Actually, it could mean that he still loves you.
He could be trying to see whether you still love him enough to get jealous and this especially true if he’s not in a serious relationship.
16. If he gets jealous tells you that your ex is waiting for you
How does your ex react when he sees you flirting with another man who’s into you? If he gets angry or annoyed, he still cares about you a lot.
An ex who doesn’t want you back would wish you all the best in your dating life.
He would actually encourage you to find happiness with someone else.
Instead, your ex is jealous, and it proves he wants you back.
17. His new girlfriend hates you
If your ex is in a relationship with someone else, is it one of the signs you will never get back together with him?
Not necessarily. If his new girlfriend hates you, it could be because he’s been talking to her about you a lot.
Maybe she knows that he still has feelings for you and that’s the reason why she dislikes you so much.
18. One of the signs your ex is waiting for you is that he wants to be friends
When your ex wants to be friends, it’s very likely that he doesn’t want to be just a friend to you.
Do you know what happens almost every single time exes become friends?
They eventually get back together and this is the reason why he wants to be your friend in the first place.
Who wants to be friends with their ex? The truth is, almost no one, unless they ultimately want to become more than friends.
It’s a lot easier to get your ex back once you become their friend, and your ex knows that.
By being your friend, he can stay a part of your life and slowly rebuild what you used to have.
Sure, there’s always a slight possibility that he actually wants to just be your friend, but do you know how unlikely that is? It almost never happens.
Even when it does, in most cases, eventually those partners who became friends become partners again.
This means that even if it’s not a part of his plan, it’s still probably going to happen if you become friends.
19. He tells you that he misses you
We can’t forget about the most obvious sign your ex is waiting for you to come back.
When he openly tells you that he misses you, it’s clear that he wants you to give him a second chance.
Maybe he tells you that he misses being around you and getting to spend time with you.
He could talk to you about how fondly he feels about the relationship you had.
Of course, you can miss your ex but not want them back, but then you don’t tell them about it.
If he has told you that he misses you, you should definitely think about whether you want him back or not.
Are you wondering what to text your ex when you miss him? He might be wondering the same thing because he misses you too.
