“I’m so into this guy. Should I tell him how I feel?” Don’t worry girl, we’ve all been there at least once during our lives. I know it seems like a tough question, but it actually has a simple answer.
And the answer is yes, you should definitely tell him how you feel. That said, I know you’ve heard it from your friends before, and a simple “Do it. Why not?” doesn’t sound that convincing.
That’s why I’m here. I have prepared the top reasons why you should do it. There are plenty more, but I only chose the best ones for you.
After you read them, you’ll feel confident enough to finally speak your mind (or should I say your heart!) Are you ready to take the plunge?
“Should I tell him how I feel?”: 15 reasons why it’s a good choice
Since you’re here now, I now see that you’re more than ready for some changes. And that’s a great start! You have the will and the strength to work toward reaching your goals. Luckily for you, that’s all you need!
Let’s not wait any longer because you’ve already spent lots of time overthinking this. Scroll down for confirmation that you should stop asking yourself “Should I tell him how I feel?” and start talking already.
1. He probably won’t figure it out on his own
Sometimes we think that men will figure out how we feel about them even if we don’t tell them. But in reality, they are mostly pretty bad at reading signs. So even if you drop a huge hint in front of them, they will probably pick it up and hand it to you without realizing anything.
You can even test this theory. Before confessing your feelings to him, make it really obvious and you’ll see how he still won’t figure it out. Not all men are like this, as there are some overly confident ones who think everybody likes them. But you’ll know which one of these types your man is.
2. You won’t have to wait for him to make a move
Another good thing that your confession will bring is that you won’t have to wait for him to make a move. Because that could take ages. Some girls even lose their feelings by the time their love interest decides to ask them out on a date.
That’s mostly because guys are afraid of rejection even more than we are. They see you as the most beautiful, fun, charming, smart person in the whole world, and they believe you can choose whichever guy you want.
Then they get insecure that they aren’t good enough for a girl like you, so they decide to postpone their confession. However, you can prevent that if you take the lead and be the first one to suggest going out.
3. You might find out that he feels the same way about you
Since you like the guy, it’s very likely that you’ve known him for some time. Maybe you’ve only texted each other and never gone out, or you’re already on good terms since you’re in the same friend group.
Whatever the case, one thing is for sure. You’ve spoken to him and you like him for his personality and his appearance.
If he’s never tried to dodge a conversation with you or seemed uninterested, then there’s a big chance he likes you too. Why wait then? Tell him that your feelings are real and be the first to make a move. You’ll probably find out that he feels the same way about you.
4. Even if he isn’t into you, you’ll finally get an answer
This is probably not the case, but let’s cover all possible outcomes. Let’s say you told him how you feel about him, but he told you that he only likes you as a friend, or that he’s interested in some other girl. I know it might feel like it’s the end of the world, but it’s not.
Even if he’s not into you, you’ll still get an answer. Not the one that you hoped for, but one that will show you it’s time to move on. And even though it’s sad, it’s a good thing that you won’t have to hang around waiting for something that wasn’t going to happen anyway.
5. It will probably make him like you more
Men are mostly the ones to make the first move. And they’re used to it, but deep down, they would really like to feel chased at least once in their lives. So, take the chance, and make him feel that way. Confess your feelings to him and render him speechless.
Even if he’s unsure whether he likes you enough to start dating, this action is bound to make him like you even more. And it might help him make a totally different decision. Or motivate him to finally ask you out on a date.
He’ll think that you’re different from the rest, and he’ll probably fall for your confidence too. As they say, “Confidence is attractive.”
6. There’s no reason you shouldn’t tell him
Seriously? What’s the worst thing that can happen? You tell him that you’ve liked him for some time and he tells you that he doesn’t see you that way? At worst, you stop being in each other’s lives afterward.
But we’ve just talked about this. Even if he doesn’t tell you he feels the same way about you, it won’t make the earth stop spinning. Yes, it may be difficult to hear those words, but it will also set you free in a way. And you’ll be able to go and find your real soulmate who’s waiting for you somewhere out there.
7. You’ll feel better
No matter what happens, you’ll definitely feel like there’s a weight off your shoulders.
Hear me out. If he tells you he’s not into you that way, then you’ll feel better because you’ll finally know the answer to the question you’ve been asking yourself for so long. And as I said, you should be thankful that you get the opportunity to meet the one you’re meant to be with.
But, there’s a huge possibility that he likes you too! If that’s the case, it goes without saying that you’ll feel MUCH better. So either way, it’s a win-win situation for you.
8. You won’t risk missing your chance
Sometimes when we wait for something for too long, it ends up never happening. Why? Because we missed our chance. We should’ve reacted sooner, but we didn’t and our opportunity to reach our goal is now gone.
So if you really like the guy, be careful about how long you wait before deciding to do something about it. Never forget that there’s a possibility you’ll risk missing your chance if you miscalculate your waiting period.
Give yourself a deadline, and use the time to devise a plan on how to express your feelings in the best way.
9. It could make both of you happy
Okay, you might be pretty sure that he likes you too, but you’re wondering why he isn’t doing anything about it. Then you start doubting everything about the two of you. Does he like you as a friend and that’s why he’s so open with you? Or does he really want to date you?
If you tell him how you really feel, you might do the one thing that will make both of you happy. Because if you’re so close, he might be overthinking the same things as you. So help him out by confessing your feelings first and prove to him that he’s everything you want in your life.
And if you’re really meant to be, you’ll have a great love story to tell your grandkids one day.
10. You’re just stressing yourself out by waiting
You might lie to yourself that you aren’t bothered by waiting for him to make a move, but you can’t lie to me. I’ve been there, girl. I know how it goes. We try to calm ourselves, but every day we wake up hoping that today’s the day he finally asks you out.
Then when nightfall comes, and we realize we’ll have to wait longer, it affects our mood. How long do you want to keep doing that? Especially when you know that there’s a way to stop it. And it’s by being honest about your feeling for him.
So, what are you going to do? Continue stressing about it, or try to change something?
11. He’ll get some answers too
Believe it or not, he’s also spending time thinking about you. I said that men are mostly bad at reading the signals we give them, but they still can sense that something is going on. It’s just that they don’t know exactly how to identify it.
They’ll ask themselves questions like “Why did she say that? Does she like me or is she just teasing me? Does she think I’m her best friend? Or maybe she wants me to make a move? Why doesn’t she just say something?”
If you make a move, you’ll help him get some answers too. You definitely know how difficult it is to seek answers, so imagine how he feels. Help the both of you by confessing your feelings.
12. He will respect you
Men aren’t used to not being the first ones to express their feelings. So if you surprise him by telling him how he makes you feel, he’ll definitely remember that day till the end of time. And he’ll respect you so much for the action you’ve decided to take.
On top of that, he’ll probably tell his friends about what you did, and you’ll gain respect from them too. And even if he didn’t fancy you as much as you do him, he’s sure to start liking you more.
He’ll realize that you’re different than the rest and that you’re the kind of girl who knows what she wants in life. And that’s so attractive.
13. You won’t be alone, you have people who support you
Sometimes we feel alone. Especially if we have a big decision to make, and we’re consumed by the stress it brings to our lives. But you should never forget that you have friends and family who are always there to hold your hand. People who will never leave your side, no matter how hard life gets.
So if you need some motivation before telling him how you feel, go ahead and talk to the people you love the most. Ask them for advice; you know they’ll try to help and encourage you. And on top of that, if things don’t turn out the way you wanted them to, you’ll still have someone to help you get through it.
14. Playing games is overrated
We’ve all seen those pieces of advice that tell you to play some games with men. That you should ignore his calls and messages, make him jealous, act uninterested or cold, play hard to get, and so on.
These things can be helpful if we just use a few drops of them, but anything more than that is just toxic and, quite frankly, just mean. On top of that, it can make the guy you like annoyed by your behavior. If you overdo it, it will become obvious and you’ll look so desperate.
Who wants that? No one! So be careful when you’re trying to play games. In my opinion, the best thing to do is be honest about how you feel and act accordingly. And if you really want to play games, go for flirting.
15. Why wait?
Now that we’ve reached the end, I just have one question for you. Why wait any longer?
I hope you’ve found the motivation you needed to finally make a move. And that you’ll never ask yourself “Should I tell him how I feel?” again. There’s no need to fear change. Besides, chances are he is in love with you too.
How do I know that? Easy. Because who wouldn’t like a beautiful, strong, unique woman like you!
So, quit waiting around. Go get him, girl!