Think aloud
I understand it’s difficult for you to not think about him right now. After all, you gave him a piece of your heart and he walked over it as if it was nothing.
But trust me, one day you’ll wake up and he won’t be the protagonist of your story anymore. He won’t pop into your mind in the middle of your busy workday, stopping you from being happy. Also, he won’t be the first thing you think of when you wake up and last thought when your head finally hits the pillow.
He’ll be just a distant memory you visit from time to time and nothing more. His importance will slowly fade away as you give yourself time to heal.
You see, one day, you’ll wake up and the burden you carried for so long will wear off. He’ll suddenly become insignificant to you.
You’ll realize that he was keeping you from reaching your full potential and making your life a living hell. You’ll see that he was breaking you apart piece by piece and that he never truly loved you.
He served you empty promises and told you lies because he was afraid to be alone with his own thoughts.
But despite that initial hurt you felt, you feel peace now that he’s no longer part of your life. His words and actions don’t bother you at all and you see things clearly for the first time in months.
He was never the man you were intended to marry. His intentions were never to satisfy your needs and wishes. Instead, he was the worst mistake you ever made.
One day, you’ll wake up and you’ll realize he wasn’t your soulmate.
He’ll fall from the pedestal you kept him on. He never treated you the way you deserve to be treated. He always put in just enough effort and did the bare minimum to keep you from leaving him.
He always asked for more even though you gave him everything you could, and yet you never received anything in return. He always counted on you to be there for him, but you could never rely on him.
Yes, you were in a relationship with a man, but at the end of the day, you felt alone and confused.
One day, you’ll wake up and all those questions you had will disappear.
Your mind will be free from those constant questions about why it didn’t work out or why he mistreated you so badly. You’ll stop blaming yourself for everything bad that ever happened in your relationship.
You won’t even wonder if you were enough for him because you’ll finally realize that you were. You’ll see that he was the problem and not you. It was him who wasn’t enough for you. His love could never satisfy you emotionally.
And one day, you will wake up and not be haunted by the past anymore.
When all the dust settles down and you embrace the emotions you feel, you won’t think about the times he hurt you or any of the other bad memories. Instead, you focus on the good ones.
And you emphasize the good so much that it becomes part of who you are and you start longing for it. You reminisce about the times he’d give you a warm hug and kiss you on your lips. And it hurts.
But on that sunny, bright day when you’re finally over him, you won’t think about the good or the bad times anymore. You won’t live in an imaginary world where the two of you are still together because you’ll be busy with your own life.
One day, you’ll wake up and the pain will be gone.
He’ll be nothing more than a distant memory of a love that used to exist once upon a time. He’ll be the one who showed you what a relationship should not look like. Someone you used to know, an important lesson you had to learn.
He’ll be somebody you don’t care for anymore and that will be your greatest victory.
One day, you’ll wake up and you won’t miss him anymore.
You won’t miss him because you’ll finally understand that love wasn’t real at all. You had some fun times together, but more often than not, he made you feel worthless and scared.
But you’re starting a new chapter in life, one that doesn’t have his name written in it. You have your own dreams and goals that you want to fulfill.
You’re on a mission to become a superwoman and there’s no one who can stop you. There’s no man on earth who could hurt you the same way he did.
You finally understand that he lost a wonderful woman. A woman who was ready to give her everything to a man who didn’t deserve her at all. And that’s something he has to learn to live with.
