Think aloud
‘‘Penny, we are made of the particles that have existed since the universe began. I like to think those atoms have traveled 14 billion years through time and space to create us so that we could be together and make each other whole.’‘ If this doesn’t make you want to have a nerdy boyfriend, I don’t know what will!
Even if you haven’t watched a single episode of ”The Big Bang Theory”, chances are you’ve heard about the incredibly delightful love story between Leonard and Penny. The two of them seem to have paved the way for all the unlikely couples of the world.
When it comes to romantic love that can sweep you off your feet, you can’t argue with the fact that nerds take the cake. There might have been a time when they weren’t the most popular pick among women, but that’s no longer the case. Women have finally come to their senses!
Let’s be honest, women have wasted years and years of their lives pining over the stereotypical bad boys. We get it, they’re attractive! But… That’s simply not enough. While washboard abs and chiseled jawlines do make for a good conversation starter, they don’t keep the conversation going.
Why wouldn’t you want to have a nerdy boyfriend? He’s incredibly charming, insightful, and interesting. He’s an excellent listener and he would never make you feel like you’re annoying him with your questions. You could probably pick any topic in the world and he would have something to say about it!
And, if you’re someone who thinks dating a nerd means playing video games and watching Star Wars over and over again, you couldn’t be further from the truth. While there’s nothing wrong with either of those things, there’s more to these guys than meets the eye.
What makes a nerdy boyfriend?
When you hear the term ”nerdy boyfriend”, what pops into your head? A scrawny guy with glasses who can’t stop reading comics and geeking out over his favorite sci-fi movie? A socially awkward guy who spends most of his time in the library reading books on astrophysics?
You’re a little confused, but you’ve got the spirit. Most nerds have grown accustomed to numerous stereotypes they’ve been linked to throughout history. But… If you’re trying to be in a relationship with one of them you should learn the appropriate lingo.
First things first, there’s a difference between nerds and geeks. ”May the force be… Equal to mass times acceleration!” Ever heard of that one? Believe it or not, that might be the best quote you can use to understand whether you’re dating a nerd or a geek.
Nerds are typically socially awkward guys who are incredibly intelligent. They enjoy reading books, learning everything about topics they’re interested in, and mastering different skills. They usually work in the field of mathematics, physics, or computer science.
And, according to the Urban Dictionary definitions, a nerd is “a four-letter word with a six-figure income.” Most women love being in a relationship with someone who’s successful in their field of work. It’s not about money, it’s about success and power. Cue the nerdy boyfriend!
On the other hand, geeks are typically guys who are enthusiastic about a particular topic. While they are knowledgeable, their knowledge is typically related to particular fields. They’re collectors and love gathering different things and trinkets related to their interests.
Now that you’ve learned the appropriate lingo, you can buckle up and embark on this journey! What makes nerdy guys such amazing boyfriends?
14 undeniable reasons why your nerdy boyfriend is a real catch
If you spent most of your life dealing with your average Chad the football player type of guy, chances are you’re ready to move on and never look back. You don’t have a personal vendetta against conventionally attractive men, but you’ve been played in the past and you know better now.
Why would you keep on reading the same book over and over again when you didn’t even like the ending? There are so many interesting books out there waiting to be read and all you need to do is give them a chance! With that painfully obvious metaphor out of the way…
We should continue talking about all the reasons why you need a nerdy boyfriend in your life. Not only is he incredibly intelligent and charming, but he will also go out of his way to make you feel loved and appreciated. He’s nothing like any other guy you’ve ever dated!
1. He has a great sense of humor
Talk about how many people considered lame misogynistic jokes funny! You thought you were the only one who wasn’t laughing at things like ”Today is Internation Women’s Day. It was supposed to be yesterday but they took too long to get ready and park their cars.” Ha-ha, so hilarious.
Your nerdy guy might be socially awkward at first, but once you get to know him better you will see how incredibly funny he can be. He will surprise you with his witty humor and light-hearted candor. And if you happen to understand his puns and references, you will make him the happiest man in the world!
If you were wondering how to make your nerdy boyfriend happy, you just need to make an effort to learn more about his interests. You don’t have to get better at astrophysics, but if you understand his Star Wars references you’ll have him eating out of your hand in no time!
2. He has interesting topics for conversation
Going above and beyond just to keep the conversation going, trying to talk about something that interests us just to be labeled as weird, making small talk because there’s nothing else to talk about – we’ve all been there.
Nerdy boyfriends don’t have that issue. They’re incredibly knowledgeable about different things and they can keep the conversation going regardless of the topic. They have a unique take on every situation and they aren’t afraid of exploring topics they haven’t talked about before.
Aliens? Astrology? Shadow people? Your nerdy boyfriend is guaranteed to have an entire debate about the most random topic you can think of. He will never consider anything you say weird because he knows better than to judge people based on their interests. Your quirks are safe with him!
Don’t get me wrong, he won’t shy away from stating his opinion even when it isn’t in line with yours. You won’t be able to pout your way out of an argument. But, this experience will only inspire you to work on yourself, learn new things, and beat him at his own game!
3. He might become a billionaire
Do you think Marck Zuckerberg’s high school crush had any idea he was going to become a freaking billionaire in just a couple of years? She’s probably beating herself over not giving him a chance when she had the opportunity! I’m not saying your nerdy boyfriend will become a billionaire, but…
Most nerds do have a higher chance of succeeding in life because of how intelligent, and resourceful they are. They don’t have to attend high-profile colleges or work at successful firms, but they will always find a way to turn their knowledge into profit.
They’re much less highly to struggle when it comes to acquiring an appropriate position, and there are many prestigious careers open to them. Who wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who’s passionate, driven, and successful?
At the risk of sounding like a true party pooper, you definitely shouldn’t be with someone just because they might become a millionaire (or a billionaire) at some point in their life. But, their accomplishments are certainly not something you should overlook.
4. He isn’t afraid of commitment
Nerdy boyfriends have a completely different mindset when it comes to relationships. Chances are your nerdy guy isn’t going to cheat on you, ghost you, or dump you for no apparent reason. He doesn’t have the time or the energy to deal with all that drama.
He is perfectly happy being in a serious relationship with someone he loves, and he isn’t interested in fooling around, flirting with other women, or trying to find someone better. Trust me, he’s too busy trying to figure out how he was able to land the woman of his dreams in the first place!
He wants to spend every moment of his day making you laugh, having neverending conversations about the world, and cuddling on the sofa. You don’t have to worry he’s going to wake up one day and decide he no longer wants to be with you. Your nerdy boyfriend is all in!
5. He’s awkward and shy, but…
Bear with me on this one! Your first instinct might be to label these two personality traits as inherently negative, but please, hold your horses. How many times have you left the bar annoyed because you couldn’t get some creepy dude to stop hitting on you?
It seems as if most men think it’s socially acceptable to demand your time, attention, and your number just because they buy you a drink. ”Apart from being hot, what do you do for a living?” Walking away is the only appropriate response if you hear this jaw-dropping literary expression.
But, there’s hope! A nerdy guy will come up with unique and adorable ways to catch your attention. He might be awkward and shy before he gets to know you better, but he will surprise you with his witty remarks as soon as he gets more comfortable.
Trust me, he’s worth the wait!
6. He appreciates you
Nerdy guys tend to value their relationships more because they haven’t had much luck with relationships beforehand. Don’t get me wrong, you shouldn’t generalize him just because he’s a bit cumbersome and doesn’t know how to talk to girls. But…
Most nerds do have a hard time growing up. It’s quite possible that your nerdy boyfriend might not have been the most popular guy in his school, which left him feeling inadequate and inexperienced. Now that he’s managed to land the girl of his dreams, he doesn’t want to let you go!
He would do anything in the world just to make sure you have everything you need. He wants you to feel loved and appreciated every single day of your life, and he isn’t afraid to show it. What a breath of fresh air fighting against the odor of toxic masculinity!
7. He values your personality more than your beauty
Have you ever been in a relationship where you couldn’t go one day without wearing makeup or shaving every inch of your body? You’ve been conditioned to think you weren’t beautiful or desirable unless you were perfect. When you’re dating a nerdy guy, you don’t have to worry about these things!
There’s nothing you could do that would make you less attractive in his eyes. He didn’t start a relationship with you because of your appearance. He took the time to get to know you as a person, and he fell in love with you because of the way you made him feel.
People think nerdy guys are desperate to be in a relationship with any girl they find attractive. That’s simply not the case. They know better than to waste their valuable time on someone who doesn’t contribute anything to their life. Relax, you can be yourself around him!
8. He doesn’t judge your weird quirks
Not only does he values your personality more than your beauty, but he doesn’t consider you weird when you’re being yourself around him. When you’re dating a nerdy guy, you feel completely comfortable with showing him every side of yourself without the fear of being ridiculed.
Trust me, he won’t bat an eyelid if you unbutton your pants because you’ve eaten too many slices of pizza. He won’t think you lost your mind when he catches you bawling your eyes out because your favorite American Idol contestant didn’t go through. If anything, he’ll cry with you!
Nerdy guys are the least judgmental people in the world. They’ve experienced a lot of negativity in their life and they learned how to live their lives without the approval of others. Believe it or not, when you’re dating a nerdy guy you don’t have to worry about anything.
You want to listen to positive affirmations as soon as you wake up because they make you feel better? Your nerdy boyfriend might even join in. You want to buy a collection of creepy porcelain dolls off of Craigslist to check if they’re haunted? Go for it!
9. He’s down to earth
You’re used to dating Chads of this world with their fancy suits and incredibly expensive dinner reservations. While there’s nothing wrong with leading a lavish lifestyle, you might be getting bored with this charade of perfection. You might find some peace dating a nerdy guy.
Nerdy guys would rather invest in their education, knowledge, and mindset than their appearance. Don’t get me wrong, they aren’t cheap and they certainly don’t mind investing in enthralling experiences with someone they love. But, they’re also incredibly low maintenance.
If you have some time on your hands, you might want to try this social experiment. Try giving your nerdy boyfriend a compliment – tell him he looks beautiful, you love the way he did his hair, or you love the sweater he wore. Trust me, you will make his entire day!
Now try telling the same thing to the type of guy you used to date. Handsome, confident, narcissistic, douchebag – does that sound familiar?
Chances are this type of guy will smirk and say something along the lines of ”I know, right.” Let’s all agree that nerdy guys are so much better!
10. He’s romantic
When you give him a chance, a nerdy guy will prove to you he can be the best boyfriend you’ve ever had. He will go out of his way to make your wishes come true. He will surprise you with flowers, take you on spontaneous trips, show you new places, and provide you with endless cuddles.
Who wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone like that? Your nerdy boyfriend might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but that shouldn’t stop you from being with him. You know better than to judge people based on what others have told you about them.
A nerdy boyfriend will make you believe in love again. He will open the doors for you and let you borrow his coat when you’re cold. He will walk you back to your place – not because he’s hoping you’ll invite him in, but because he cares about your safety. He’s a gem!
11. He’s empathetic
Let me guess! You had your share of guys who called you dramatic and sensitive when you tried to explain you were hurt by something they did? You’ve been gaslighted into thinking you’re the one to blame for every negative situation?
When you’re dating a nerdy guy, you don’t have to worry about hearing condescending comments like ”Is it that time of the month, again?” Even if it is, he’ll make sure you get the physical and emotional support you need. He will make an effort to understand what you’re going through.
And that’s incredibly important! Not a lot of guys have the desire to learn about things they don’t understand. They tend to brush everything under the carpet because they’re incapable of dealing with their emotional side. They don’t even know what empathy is!
Your nerdy boyfriend doesn’t have that problem. He’s perfectly in tune with his emotional side, and he isn’t afraid of being vulnerable with you. He will show you how much he cares about you, stay up all night talking about your plans for the future, and support you no matter what.
12. He doesn’t play mind games
Another wonderful thing about dating a nerdy guy is that he doesn’t feel inclined to play mind games with you. He doesn’t feel the need to gaslight you into thinking you did something wrong. You know that classic player attitude where he shows interest one day and doesn’t return your calls the next?
You don’t have to worry about any of those things when you’re dating a nerdy guy. He’s passionate and genuine, and he certainly isn’t interested in being with someone who isn’t ready to have the ”What are we?” talk. He doesn’t play mind games because he wants to keep his cards open.
He simply can’t be bothered with playing hot and cold hoping it would get him closer to someone he’s interested in. He’s way too mature to involve himself with someone who requires playing games in order to be entertained and interested.
If you feel the same, your nerdy boyfriend might tick all the right boxes. You won’t have to wait to see who’s going to call first or who’s going to say the famous three words. The two of you can have so much fun together, be completely authentic, and be comfortable with who you are as people.
13. He doesn’t like going out
When you’re dating a nerdy guy, you don’t have to worry about him hitting the clubs every Saturday night and flirting with every woman he locks eyes with. Not only is he incredibly socially awkward, but he also doesn’t like spending time in crowded places.
The two of you are a match made in heaven. He loves staying in, cuddling up on the couch with you, and binge-watching your favorite movies. You can go from watching his favorite superhero motion pictures to the top ten nineties romantic comedies. You can’t argue that the two of you work well together!
A nerdy boyfriend will make you forget you ever dated anyone else. You can’t believe you had to spend your precious time on the bleachers pretending to enjoy watching Chad the football player run aimlessly around the pitch. Argh, he wasn’t even that good of a player!
Give your nerdy guy a call and he will be thrilled he gets to spend the night at home with the girl of his dreams. Trust me, there’s nobody else in this world who would enjoy watching you eat your body weight in popcorn as much as he does. Lucky girl!
14. He’s incredibly handy
There’s no shame in admitting you need some help around the house from time to time. You might have a bug on your computer, a barely functioning dishwasher that’s in desperate need of repair, or even a pesky check engine sign on your car that just won’t go away.
When you’re dating a nerdy guy, you can count on him to help you with pretty much everything. He probably spent his entire early life trying to learn new things and experimenting with them until he figured them out. A nerdy boyfriend will find a solution for all your problems.
Look at it this way. If he’s passionate about computers, then he’s probably good at taking things apart and fixing them. If he’s a math enthusiast he might enjoy tackling your tax accounts for you. There are so many benefits that come with dating a nerdy guy!
Is having a nerdy boyfriend worth the hype?
It absolutely is! There’s a reason why nerdy guys are taking over the dating scene as we speak. They are incredibly intelligent, charming, and sensitive.
They never play mind games, manipulate you, or make you feel as if you’re blowing things out of proportion. In addition to that, they make for great relationship partners because they aren’t afraid of commitment or being in tune with their emotional side.
Lastly, they will never judge you. They know better than to form uneducated opinions and ridicule someone for something they’re passionate about. They’re loving, caring, and empathetic. So, if you happen to have a nerdy boyfriend… Consider yourself lucky!
