So, you broke up with your boyfriend and you want to make him regret losing you. The thing is, heartbreaks are difficult.
A breakup can be filled with regret, especially if you thought you would spend the rest of your life with that person.
When they experience a breakup for the first time, most women want to get revenge on their ex-boyfriend.
I’m not judging you, I was also someone who wanted revenge when my ex broke up with me.
However, as you try to move on, it might feel like it is an impossible mission. You may feel like the only way to move on is to get your ex back.
You start to question yourself with, “Will he come back?” or, “Has he moved on with his life without me?”
Giving your ex a second chance might save you heartache in the beginning, but if you’re thinking about making him regret losing you, giving your ex a second chance might not be a good idea.
He might want you back, but remember that men pull away when they don’t see you as a challenge anymore.
You need to remember that self-worth and dignity should always come first. Your self-esteem should not be broken and it should be in first place. Never settle for anything less.
I know you were in love, and that makes it even harder for you to comprehend what happened.
Nevertheless, you are on the path to getting him back, but how do you know that he regrets losing you?
An ex-boyfriend might miss you, and there are certain patterns of his behavior that will confirm this fact.
First, I will talk about the signs that your ex regrets losing you, and later on, I will focus on how to make him regret losing you.
Signs he regrets losing you:
1. He uses every opportunity to call you
Although you agreed to have no contact, he still uses every opportunity to hear your voice. The no contact rule does not seem to work out.
Worry not, as I will try my best to assist you with your issue and try to explain what he is trying to achieve by doing this.
He might want to stay friends with you or will try to act like a best friend. His romantic feelings might have disappeared, but the time he spent with you is precious to him.
He is regretting losing you and that is fine.
A guy who tries to remain friends with his ex-girlfriend might be seen as a weak man by his friends; remember that. He is risking everything by trying to stay friends.
Another reason why he calls you might be because he truly and deeply regrets his decision of leaving you and now he wants you back.
He might use WhatsApp, or other social media, just to try to hear your voice.
If you want to find out the reason why he is calling then you should look at his behavior, as it will tell you more than you think.
When he calls you is also important and it will give you an opportunity to get inside his mind.
2. He will give in to alcohol
Your ex-partner has started to drink a lot of alcohol and drowns his sorrows in it.
This is a huge sign that something is bothering him, and guess what? It is you!
His self-confidence is shattered and now he is drinking his sadness and sorrow away, and in no time, you will find him come running back to you.
A guy who is deeply unhappy will drink in large amounts and will flirt with other women.
By doing this, he is trying to fill the void that was created when you broke up.
You will rarely find any positive changes happening when a man leaves you or you leave him.
He will have a hard time letting go of the happy moments that he experienced with you, so he might even drunk-call you.
There are many reasons why he would give in to alcohol, but the main one is that he wants to get you out of his mind.
This is his cry for help. His friends might say that he is over you if he is hitting on other women, but this is far from the actual truth.
His friends know that whenever he drinks, the only thing that he talks about is you. He will probably dream about getting back together after losing you.
If he posts pictures on social media of him drunk, believe me, that is a sure-fire sign that he is miserable and lonely, and doesn’t have a hold on his own life. Your man regrets losing you.
3. He might withdraw from society
After some time, he might retreat to his own world. He might exclude everyone from his life or he might delete his social media accounts.
You might ask yourself, “What does this mean?”
Well, the answer may be simple. He might be trying to gather his thoughts on whether he wants you back in his life or not.
He stays away from other people so they don’t fill his head with unnecessary thoughts. Everything that he does, he does by himself.
He simply went ‘no contact’ with everyone, which might suit him.
He wants you back. By going no contact with everybody he knows, he wants to send you the message that he is only available for you, his ex-girlfriend, if you ever want to go back to him.
This might seem like manipulation, but he is a desperate man with desperate thoughts and measures.
He can’t really survive without you.
Even the tiniest things remind him of you and your time with him. from movies and restaurants to different food and the places you visited.
Everything reminds him of the time when you were together, and now this seems to be amplified even more because you are not by his side.
At this point, you should worry more about his mental health than anything else.
He might feel depressed and call you or send you a simple text message, so he can start a conversation just to feel normal again, like in the old days.
His loneliness has taken over his life and he wants to change that.
4. He makes life-changing decisions
Do you know those habits that he did not want to change when the two of you were in a relationship?
Things like not taking out the garbage or the way he approached certain problems?
He just shrugged it off and told you that you needed to accept him the way he was.
And as soon as the two of you broke up, you actually noticed him changing those same habits, the ones that used to get on your nerves.
That is a great step toward winning you back, since you were eager to change him. But the real question is, do you want him back?
He tries to remember each day what you didn’t like about him and he takes real steps to change them, to change those habits and that behavior that pulled you away from him.
The thing is that anyone who is around him will notice these changes.
Some of his friends will say that the breakup was good for him, as you couldn’t accept him the way he was.
At the end of the day, you know that those changes were your idea.
He is trying to redeem himself by trying to change his habits, and this is his attempt to get his ex-girlfriend back.
5. His social media behavior is suspicious
A guy who has a broken heart will eventually regret losing the one who loved him and it will affect his social media behavior a lot.
If your ex regrets losing you, he will change his social media to the point where it might seem to you that he is stalking you.
He may be the first to react when you post a picture or a status. Keep an eye on those things.
He may be drafting a message to you on the Facebook Messenger app. Maybe you will find the three dots appearing in your chat.
Or he might go to the other extreme and start posting things to show how he is having the best time of his life.
He might post pictures or Tweets to force you to think that he doesn’t care about you anymore. It’s just one of his cheap tricks.
Maybe he is a narcissist and wants to manipulate you by posting pictures.
Perhaps he will take photos with a couple of mutual friends just to throw you off. Don’t fall for that!
The reality is that he is not having a good time but he wants everybody else to think he is.
The truth is difficult to comprehend sometimes. He is hurt and he is regretting ever letting you go.
That sense of false happiness will only deceive those people who don’t really know him.
However, you know him maybe too well. You will notice the change in his posts and you will recognize his cry for help.
He is manipulating you and he’s aiming these things at your emotions to bring you back to him.
6. He acts like nothing happened
Your ex might act as if nothing happened.
He might still ask you about your day, he might try to probe into your personal life or he might even try to find out about any new people you have met.
He might be there for you and act like he is in a relationship with you still.
To be your anchor again, the person whom you would go to first when something interesting happened.
He will try to make the situation like you never broke up.
Those messages of good morning and goodnight might still be a thing, or he might send some stickers and emojis.
He might be doing this to make you feel comfortable, so you will think that you are in a relationship again.
Be aware, however, that it is a trap. He definitely regrets losing you if you are still receiving messages like this.
Now to recap what I said previously. If you find out that he started changing his behavior or his social media posts, or he starts texting and calling you, it is certain that he has not moved on.
He regrets losing you and through his actions, he may try to win you back again. If you are waiting for this to happen, then go for it.
Give him another chance if you want your ex-boyfriend back and hope that this time will be different.
Ways to make him regret losing you
If you want to make him regret losing you, the best thing you can do is give him time and wait.
Wait for him to start dating other women, so he has other women to compare you to.
1. He needs to compare you to other women
This is especially applicable if you were your ex-partner’s first love or if he had very little previous experience in relationships.
A lot of the time, men don’t realize and don’t appreciate what they have until they lose it.
Maybe he doesn’t know how valuable you are unless he goes out there and finds out that you are the only one for him.
Maybe he was fixated on your bad qualities and didn’t realize that everybody has them. And not just others, but him also.
You should give him time to date other women as then he will surely realize that you are a great catch in comparison to others.
2. You need to get over your ex
You won’t make your ex regret losing you if you don’t get over him.
I know that heartbreaks can be difficult but if you crave your ex’s attention and if your focus is still on the person who completes you, then you are not over them.
Don’t just give up when times are hard.
Sometimes it might take a couple of months or a year to truly heal, but you must tell him indirectly that you are okay with being single.
The real thing that matters is you. Practice self-care and self-development as a way to get over him.
Use the time that you spend single to better yourself, if you think that your relationship may get a second chance.
You need him to make realize the new good things about you because they will outweigh the bad from the past.
Put the focus on you and show your ex that you don’t need him to live life to the fullest.
Show him how strong you really are despite the unbelievable difficulties that you faced and find your own happiness.
Show him that you don’t need him and believe me, he will come running back to you.
3. Use good memories as a way to make him regret losing you
The best way to make your ex-partner regret losing you is to bring up old memories.
Make him regret the choice that he made and make him realize that he needs you.
However, you should be careful not to bombard him with those old good memories. Subtle hints are a true lifesaver.
You should remind him how the two of you laughed together by bringing up certain situations that you experienced.
Maybe the time when he fell while you were ice-skating together or something similar.
Just a reminder, those memories could also be something else.
Do you remember those tough times when you were there for each other? Yes, those times.
You could remind him how much you supported each other then. It will definitely make him realize what a catch you actually are.
Let’s face it, we all have flaws.
But those times when you were there for each other were precious and he might be scared that other women won’t be there for him.
4. Fill yourself with positivity
Don’t fall into sadness or despair even if he left you. You should not give in to the sad moments and turn it into despair or sorrow.
You should focus on the positive and bright side of the breakup.
Maybe he was just not meant for you and someone better will come along and bring joy and happiness to your life.
If you have bad energy, it will bring negative thoughts into your life. Odds are that something negative will happen to you if your thoughts are negative.
If you are positive and have positive thoughts, chances are you will attract someone with the same set of thoughts.
The people around you will notice the change in you and you will become more attractive to them.
He will definitely regret losing you, but you shouldn’t be so occupied by those thoughts.
Chances are that your ex-partner will come back to you as soon as you shift your negative thoughts.
Don’t ever feel down just because another person doesn’t want you in their life.
5. Ignoring him will make him regret losing you
We want what we can’t have. It’s as simple as that. Our brain is wired that way.
The reasons why the two of you broke up might be numerous.
Maybe he broke up with you because you weren’t a challenge to him or he thought he would never completely lose you.
However, you should think about whether you have given him the right to think that. Maybe you were the one who became too comfortable.
Don’t ever give your man the idea that he will have you for the rest of his life without putting the effort into your relationship.
The thing is, ignoring someone is a really good tool to make him want you back and at the same time, make him regret losing you in the first place.
Don’t see it as relationship advice, but you shouldn’t block out the feelings that you had for him because they will eventually torment you.
You will be hurt at the end of the day.
However, what we do when we are hurt is what defines us. You should never repeat the same mistakes over and over again.
A great way to reignite the spark between the two of you is to ignore him because it will make him want you more.
He will realize that he made a mistake by letting you go. Eventually, he will come running back to you.
6. Take care of yourself
There is no need for me to tell you that men are visual creatures. They fall in love with what they see.
Don’t be surprised if he breaks up with you because he doesn’t find you attractive anymore.
If you want to make him regret losing you, the best way to do so is to get in shape. Subscribe to a gym membership and be consistent.
The thing is, it will make you healthier and at the same time, you will make him regret losing you, so it’s a win-win situation.
After a couple of months, he will notice you have changed, trust me. Even if he doesn’t see you, some of his friends will tell him how much you’ve changed.
In the end, remember you are not doing this because of him, but because of you. You are the one who is important now and not him.
Eventually, he will start missing the things that he had in the relationship.
Another thing to keep in mind is to not give him too much attention.
7. Whatever you do, don’t ever play the victim!
Whatever you do, don’t feel sorry for yourself just because someone didn’t see your worth.
It is demoralizing and sad, and you will be filled with negative thoughts that you didn’t have before.
No other person will come close to you if you pity yourself.
You need to come out stronger, better, and wiser. Eventually, other people will find you attractive.
Don’t live in the past and remember you want him to regret losing you and not vice versa.
Don’t just sit in your room, watch sad movies, and eat ice cream. You have much more to give to the world than you can imagine.
As I said earlier, there are different signs that show you that he regrets losing you.
Remember that love is something that we are not able to control, it is not in our hands. If you push things, it may backfire on you.
Don’t expect anything and then you won’t be crushed if nothing happens. Prepare for the worst and be the best – that is my best advice to you.
You are strong, valuable, and beautiful, and you should never let a person decide your worth. Remember, you are a great catch.