Many women will agree with me that modern dating is quite tough these days. Most will tell you that it’s tough trying to be seen in a sea of picture-perfect women. Some even ask themselves: If I stop chasing him, will he notice me?
They put in the effort to find someone worthy of their time and love, and for that guy to notice them. All they ever want is a stable and healthy relationship.
The thing is, most of these girls get their hearts broken because they believe it was their fault that the guy left them. They’re really convinced they’re not going to be loved ever again.
It’s true that many girls have been through toxic relationships and come out with scars that aren’t that easily healable.
In order to avoid being heartbroken, a girl like this may start wondering if she should stop chasing him to get him to notice her. The tricky thing is, sometimes you really have to make the guy chase you in order for him to notice you.
And I know that playing mind games with a man seems immature to you, but that’s the way the cookie crumbles.
I was once in a relationship where I had to play hard-to-get and play those silly mind games so that the guy wouldn’t leave me. And the truth is, I never felt comfortable in the relationship. It felt like I was dancing on thin ice, ready at any moment to crack so I’d fall right into the freezing water.
And keeping his interest was always a struggle. I felt like I was never good enough for him. Our relationship could never turn into something more serious because of those games.
So if I stop chasing him, will he notice?
Well, to answer this question, first we have to solve the mystery of how men’s brains work when falling for someone. You might think that it’s impossible to know whether or not a guy is falling in love with you, but it’s not.
Why chasing a man will never work
If you’re really into a guy and are already chasing after him, STOP before you dig your own grave. Here’s why.
Men have something called the “hero instinct” embedded into them
This is something that’s part of who they are. It’s something that they cannot hide or deny. It’s naturally set in a man’s brain. You can’t change it and neither can he.
The thing about the hero instinct is that men have to feel like they’ve accomplished something significant and that they really impressed you.
For as long as humans have roamed the planet, they’ve been proving themselves to one another through wars or other things, and the same goes for love.
They’re always trying to impress a girl as much as they can so that they sense they’ve achieved something important.
And if you’re too easy for him, he won’t feel like he needs to impress you anymore. Why? Because he’s already “conquered” you. He already has you in the palm of his hand, so you don’t pique his interest anymore.
That’s why he’ll quickly move away from you to find his next challenge. Which brings me to my next point.
Men like to be challenged
Men and women are constantly faced with many challenges. The difference is that men adore them. They like to be challenged. They still have this primal instinct within them, and that’s why they love the thrill of the chase.
If they don’t see any purpose in chasing a woman, they simply won’t do it. They want to work for it, to sway a woman. They don’t want her handed on a silver plate. Men know that they have to work to get what they want.
A sense of accomplishment is what they’re looking for.
We all want things that are out of our reach
This is something that doesn’t apply just to men – everyone wants what they can’t have.
Usually, we talk about wanting things that are purely in terms of physical appearance such as a six-pack or a better nose, as well as material goods such as a big house or a sweet ride.
But this is something that can be applied to relationships as well. Normally we are attracted to those we can’t have. Maybe it’s someone who already has a significant other. Or it could be someone who’s just playing hard to get.
Whatever the reason, wanting something that’s out of our reach is pretty common. Don’t feel bad if you’re falling for a guy that’s playing hard to get. It’s quite normal for that to happen.
So if I stop chasing him, will he notice?
Well, the easy answer would be: Yes, he will. He’s not blind not to notice a woman pulling away from him.
But the reality is that he’s trying to figure out whether or not he genuinely misses you. This is something that can last anything from a day to a couple of weeks.
In the meantime, it’s important that you stick to your plan and remain focused on your end goal. Don’t fall into the trap of chasing him again so that he notices you.
Also, you shouldn’t try to “influence” his opinion by dropping cute text messages from time to time. Don’t check up on him as he’ll see you as desperate and craving his attention.
Remain focused and strong in your feminine power.
What’s the best way to prove to him that you stopped chasing him?
Believe it or not, there are certain tips that you can follow so he notices you stopped chasing him. Eventually, if you apply some of them, he’ll sure notice it and come running back to you in no time.
A word of warning, though. Don’t use these ways to lead good men on. This is strictly for those women who always end up as second options.
1. Shift your attention to your own happiness
The best way to show him that you stopped chasing him is to focus on your own happiness. The more you focus on yourself, the more he’ll notice that you are completely fine on your own and that you don’t need him at all.
You show him that you’re happy with the circle of people you have in your life. Your happiness doesn’t depend on him being around you. And you are a complete woman without him.
Once you show him that, then he’ll definitely notice that you stopped chasing him completely. And he’ll respect you more for it because he’ll know you have your own life and are totally happy on your own.
On the other hand, if you’re clingy or needy, that’s a huge red flag for guys. Don’t count on them chasing you. It will only prove to him that’s how you’ll be in a relationship – and that’s the last thing guys look for nowadays.
2. Show him that you have other options
The number one mistake women make when it comes to dating is that they stick to one man and have a hard time letting go of him.
Sorry to break it to you, but if you’re one of those women, then you’re doing it wrong.
“But, if I stop chasing him, will he even notice?” Well, of course, he will, but you shouldn’t be glued to him all the time. If that’s the case, he won’t be that interested in dating you in the first place.
One of the best ways to show him that you stopped chasing him is to let him know that he’s up against some good-looking guys who are all competing for the same prize – YOU.
Show him that you have other choices as well, and he’ll definitely notice that you stopped chasing him.
You can always be a bit flirty with other guys in front of him. Or have fun with them when he’s near you.
You have to make sure he sees that he’s not your only option, and that he needs to fight to get your attention. Only then will he chase you and be proud to call you his girlfriend once he finally wins you over.
3. Be mysterious
One of the easiest ways to show him that you stopped chasing him is to be mysterious. Keep a couple of things for yourself.
Don’t show all of your cards to the man the first time you go on a date. That’s not how you’ll win him over.
In fact, he’ll be bored the next time he sees you and think that something’s wrong with you because you’re so open to tell things like that to a complete stranger.
Blabbing about yourself all night on your first date is a major turn-off for guys. Instead, what you should do is to keep some aces up your sleeve and be a little mysterious.
You can always give him a hint or two about the things that happened to you, but for the most part, keep them for yourself.
If you stop chasing him in this way, trust me, he will notice. Use his male psychology to your advantage and he’ll be instantly more attracted to you.
4. Show him you have a great sense of humor
Just like women, men also want a woman with a great sense of humor. Someone who is always up for some fun activity and who isn’t just focused on the negative aspects of life.
So, to answer your question “If I stop chasing him, will he notice?” the answer is yes, but you have to try to keep things light and fun. And whatever you do, don’t mention your issues.
That doesn’t mean you should sweep every problem that arises under the rug. It’s just that there are too many bad things in the world and because of that, it’s way better to focus on the positives.
In that way, he’ll see that you’re fun to be around and be able to relax with you. So, if you want to get him to notice you without chasing him, try to talk only about good things and see what happens.
Will he be uptight? Or will he try to be around you as much as possible?
If you think that you don’t have a sense of humor, then you can always try to get to know him better and ask him about his life more.
He’ll be flattered that you take interest in his life and hobbies and he’ll notice that you stopped chasing him.
5. Love yourself more
I know that it’s quite difficult to focus on yourself once you’re head over heels for someone. You try to make yourself more presentable to him, and you even change a bit so that he notices you.
But you should never change for a man who’ll be there for you only for a short time.
If you really can see your future with this guy, then it’s okay not to have the same opinions as your partner. But if you see yourself being with him only for a short period, there’s no point in changing yourself for him.
Usually, guys don’t fall for girls who can’t stand up for themselves and don’t respect themselves enough. So, for him to notice that you stopped chasing him, you should love yourself more. Only then will his interest in you rise.
6. Be confident
One of the ways to show him that you stopped chasing him is to be more confident. Guys love confident girls.
Why? Because that means that you have it all – you’re good-looking, smart, and confident. And you’ll need all of that if you want to attract a high-value man.
If you’re not naturally confident, just try not to be so obvious about it in front of him. You’ll feel much better about yourself once you start exuding confidence.
Don’t reject your flaws and quirks – try to change them to please not only your guy but yourself too. Accept and understand that you’re not perfect and neither is he.
7. Be patient
For a guy to notice that you stopped chasing him, you have to be patient. Good things never happen overnight and you should wait some time to see how he reacts.
I know that you’re crazy about him, but you shouldn’t come across as pushy or desperate because he’ll instantly lose interest in you.
You might have forgotten this, but men function that way. If you stop chasing him, he’ll definitely notice it. Remember how he ignored you when you were acting all needy and clingy?
Guys don’t want a woman who’ll praise them all the time. They want a woman who respects herself and who cherishes her own time.
8. Your mutual friends can help you
It’s always a good thing to have friends in common with your love interest. Why? Because in case something happens, you’ll always be able to find out certain things about him.
However, always be careful how you talk about him in front of them as they’ll tell likely him everything you said.
On the other hand, if you only have good things to say about him, he’ll see you as a high-quality woman. That’s when he’ll notice that you stopped chasing him and he’ll start to chase you instead.
9. Show a bit of interest in him, but not too much
It’s always a good idea to show a guy you’re interested in him. The thing is, some girls overdo it and therefore come across as needy or clingy.
And if you show zero interest, then the guy will quickly leave you as he’ll think he has no chance with you.
If you want to show him that you stopped chasing him, then show him that you’re interested in his life, but not too much. Don’t smother him with questions.
Let him come to you and say what he wants to say. And when he does, just stop there. He’ll notice that you’re not chasing after him anymore and that’s when he’ll become more drawn to you.
Tell him a little more about yourself and show him what he’ll lose if he doesn’t make an effort to win you. That’s when he’ll make you his top priority because he’ll see you as someone who’s hard to get yet worth it.
10. Surround yourself with other guys
It’s always a good thing to show your guy that he has some competition if he wants to win you over. You shouldn’t feel guilty if you surround yourself with some guys, as long as you know when not to cross the line.
And if you want him to notice that you’ve stopped chasing him, then spend some time with others – it could be friends, coworkers, or even acquaintances.
Just be careful not to come across as desperate, otherwise, your guy will quickly move away from you.
Make him believe that there are other guys interested in you too, then watch how he’ll start to chase you. He’ll work even harder to get your attention because you’re suddenly the grand prize everyone wants to win.
As you know, guys want things that they can’t have. And once you focus your attention on other guys, he’ll fall head over heels for you.
What happens after you stop chasing him?
Well, there are a couple of potential outcomes once you stop chasing him. But rest assured, the response will most likely be positive and he’ll start to chase you instead.
Hey, who knows, maybe you realize he’s not the right man for you after all.
He’ll start to miss you
Once you stop chasing him, he’ll realize that he misses you. When you refrain from sending him messages or calling him, he’ll start to miss your presence and attention.
If you were previously always around him and contacting him for no reason, then he’ll notice that you aren’t around that much now.
He’ll realize that he took you for granted, so that’s why he’ll chase you back. He’ll miss your good morning texts and funny photos you sent him.
In short, he’ll start to wonder where you are and what you’re up to. So, don’t be surprised if he starts checking up on you constantly, just to see how you’re doing.
He’ll enjoy the thrill of the chase
If he feels the same way about you as you do about him, then he’ll realize that it’s up to him now to chase you.
That’s why he’ll start wooing you. He’ll take up the challenge of chasing you because – as we’ve established – men love to be challenged.
He’ll notice that the tables have been turned and that the ball’s now in his court. There’s no doubt that he’ll rise to the challenge, so don’t be surprised at his response.
First, he might message you, but those messages will quickly turn into something more serious. He’ll ask to see you in person because he misses you.
He might leave you alone
There’s always the possibility of him not noticing that you stopped chasing him. You shouldn’t be disappointed if he doesn’t chase you back because then you know that he wasn’t that into you in the first place.
That means he isn’t worth your time or effort and you should move on from him.
I know it’s difficult to accept the fact that he might not be into you, but you’ll recover from it, trust me. The right man will come along, you just have to be patient. And the right one will definitely chase you.
If you start chasing a guy, it’ll almost always have the opposite effect on him. You might come across as needy or desperate, which is a huge turn-off for guys.
But if you stop chasing him, he’ll definitely notice and quickly start to chase you.
Men like the thrill of the chase – they don’t want to be chased. They like being the hunter, not the hunted.
Be patient, don’t reveal too much about yourself from the very beginning, and before you know it, he’ll be head over heels in love with you.
You definitely deserve a man who makes a real effort to convince you he’s the right one for you. Don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve.