Think aloud
Did you know that when you have a crush, you instantly become more clumsy? Yes, it’s true, and there are many more interesting facts about crushes that I’m happy to share with you.
But before I start, let’s talk about those butterflies in your belly for a minute. Having a crush means feeling intense affection toward some person. It’s a feeling almost everyone has experienced at least once. And many people will likely crush on someone multiple times.
Sometimes your crush is a good friend of yours. But it could also be someone you don’t know that well or you never even met. Still, whenever you bump into them, you can’t help but stare at them and imagine various scenarios.
They invade your dreams, and the songs you listen to finally get meaning. You spend days dreaming about the next time you’ll see your crush on the street, and you even find yourself reading articles about your feelings. If this all sounds familiar to you, continue reading to learn something new.
Facts about crushes you never knew before
The things you’ve read so far are just the tip of the crush iceberg! Are you prepared to hear 29 more? I bet you are. Let’s get into it.
1) It lasts for 4 months
Okay, here’s the first fun fact I have for you. The attraction you feel toward your crush changes as time passes. It may change because you met them and then as time went on, you realized things you like and don’t like about them.
Or, it’s also possible that during all this time you never met them and the feelings started fading away. All of that is normal and it happens to everyone who has had a crush. And you know why?
Because the average crush lasts for 4 months. If it fades away, it wasn’t anything serious. However, if it lasts longer than that, you’re most likely dealing with something else. And that’s falling in love.
2) A long crush could indicate a medical condition
If you feel like you’ve had a crush on someone for way too long, it might be an indicator of a medical condition. Have you ever heard of limerence? No worries, I’ll explain.
Long-term crushes combined with an unhealthy amount of thinking can sometimes turn into a psychological condition known as limerence. It occurs when you’re constantly thinking about one person and you can’t stop doing it. It is an involuntary state of obsession. Limerence can even originate from childhood developmental problems or trauma.
People who experienced it said that they craved emotional reciprocation. The thoughts they had were uncontrollable, overwhelming, and relentless. Some even had trouble breathing because it was so overpowering.
This little-known fact about crushes might sound a bit scary, but it is easily treated and doesn’t leave long-term consequences.
3) Only 1% of people pass the crush phase
According to various studies, only 1% of crushes lead to a successful relationship. Therefore, the chance of you and your crush getting together is pretty small.
However, don’t lose hope. Look at all those happy couples you have as friends. If they’re together now, some of them had to have crushed on each other at first. So that means they succeeded!
Also, most of those “wasted crushes” failed because no one made the first move. If you have a huge crush on someone you’ve never even broken the ice with, don’t be afraid to do something. At the very least follow them on Instagram so they know you exist.
You never know, you could be in that 1% of victorious crushes too!
4) The process of falling in love with someone doesn’t have a set number of days
Let’s move on to a brighter fact about your crushes. The process of falling in love with someone doesn’t have a set number of days. What does that mean?
It means that no one can predict how long it will take them to fall in love with someone. There isn’t a set amount of days, years, or seasons to do so.
Sometimes it’s after only a few days spent with that person that you realize you’re soulmates and there’s no need to wait to get together. However, you might be friends for many years before you realize you’re perfect for each other.
How long it takes to fall in love depends on the people, the context, and the way they met. But one thing is for sure – love at first sight is indeed possible!
5) Fantasies are usually better than reality
I think we’ve all enjoyed at least a few rom-coms. We even imagined our love life like that.
Road trips, hundreds of roses, beautiful sunsets, and kissing in the rain. No stress, just happiness and good times.
These are things we all want, but unfortunately, it’s impossible to live that sort of life. It’s important to be aware of that, so we won’t end up too disappointed.
Because our fantasies are scripted, we typically only imagine the good times when we fantasize about our crush. We make up a story that we’d like to be in and that’s favorable to us.
But in fact, reality can’t be the same as the script. It has a lot more gravity, thus it will never be as good as our fantasies.
The great thing, though, is that if you find your soulmate, you’ll be able to live a life pretty darn close to the one you desire.
6) You and your crush probably have similar personalities
Here’s another interesting fact for you, our crushes usually have a similar personality to ours.
According to several studies, people are more likely to fall in love with individuals who share similar values, morals, and qualities with them. Why does that happen?
Well, people that remind us of ourselves are the ones we find most attractive. At first, it sounds a bit weird, maybe even narcissistic. But if you take a minute to think about it, you’ll realize it actually makes sense.
When looking for a partner, we are mainly searching for a best friend. We want that person to fit into our lives seamlessly. Therefore having similarities can only be helpful.
7) You’re more attracted to people with different eye color
Did you know that you have more chance of being attracted to people who have a different eye color than yours, than to people with the same color?
Well, now you know. The University of Vienna conducted a study on this and proved it to be true. What they also discovered is that you’re more likely to have a crush on people who have bigger pupils.
And why is that? Some say it might be due to genetic factors. Several evolutionary biologists think that we are attracted to those who have genes that would offer their children higher levels of immune system functioning. By this rationale, they would make great partners.
But even if those traits might be beneficial to your future kids, you shouldn’t settle for someone just because of that. True love doesn’t come with a checklist!
8) Our crushes make us nervous
Did you know that it’s a fact that our crushes make us nervous?
When we are around someone we find very attractive, our stress levels start rising. It can take the form of nervous habits. Often, you won’t know what to do with your hands or you’ll find yourself making some moves uncontrollably.
For instance, women tend to adjust their hair and play with earrings or necklaces. And men will try to readjust their shirts or touch their watches. Stuttering is also a common occurrence, or even developing a mental block and not knowing what to say.
Having a crush on someone frequently involves a kind of tension. We might call it a “good stress.” Interestingly, however, regardless of whether stress is caused by something good or something bad, the body has similar responses.
9) The Baader Meinhof Phenomenon
Ever heard of The Baader Meinhof Phenomenon? They’ve given it a complicated name, but it’s easy to understand. It’s the effect of noticing something much more than before once it is stuck in your mind.
Maybe you or your friend bought something and after that, you started seeing it everywhere around you. With other people, on Instagram or TikTok, on TV, etc.
It’s the same when it comes to your crush. Psychologists say that once you learn something about your crush, you will notice it much more.
For example, if your crush is called Harry, you’ll quickly start noticing around you many different scenarios including Harry Styles, Harry Potter, Prince Harry, and all other Harries in the world.
The thing is, it was always there, it’s just that you never paid attention to it before.
10) Racing pulse
Now here’s one of the undeniable facts when you have a crush. It’s not a clichĂ©, it’s a real thing and your heart legitimately beats faster when you see the person you like.
And what’s even more interesting is that’s not the only time your pulse will speed up. It can happen when you’re only thinking about your crush, receiving a text from them, talking about them, or even hearing their name.
Little things such as these can trigger the brain to release epinephrine and norepinephrine into your bloodstream. And that makes your heart beat a bit faster than usual.
It can’t harm you, so don’t be afraid. It’s just a little sign that you’re starting to like a certain someone very much.
11) Your sense of smell plays a huge role
Scent is a powerful tool. But what does that mean when it comes to crushes?
We are usually most attracted to people who remind us of something we already love in our life. It may be the scent of our favorite perfume, flower, washing powder, or body lotion.
Might sound a bit odd at first, but when you think about it, you’ll realize it actually makes perfect sense. Let’s put it like this. Our sense of smell is closely linked to our limbic system. And that’s the part of our brain that controls things like memories.
So, if some person reminds you of your favorite scent, your brain will probably associate them with something nice. It will also make you feel all those positive feelings, like feelings of attraction.
12) Curiosity levels increase
When we are attracted to somebody, we naturally want to get to know them better. So if you’re already talking to your crush and the conversation is full of questions, it can make you fall in love with them quicker.
Those people who are interested in you will ask questions with sincerity. They will carefully listen to your responses, and won’t be afraid to share details about themselves.
When you’re responding, you’re actually hoping that you’ll say something your crush will like. And that’s one of the situations that can trigger the aforementioned racing pulse.
But when you’re the one asking questions, you’re wishing to get an answer that’ll make you happy. And speaking of happiness…
13) Flirting makes you happier
It’s proven that flirting can boost your mood. It may increase feelings of self-confidence and happiness, and reduce anxiety and depression.
So if you think your crush could be interested too, don’t be shy. Be a bit flirty around him, watch his response, and plan your next move. Use this fact about your crush to your advantage. As I said, flirting can make you more confident, and confidence is attractive. So it’s a win-win situation.
Just always remember, flirting is just one of the intros to relationships. There are many more things to consider before deciding to take things to the next level (like making sure you’re not a backup plan, they’re over their ex, they want the same kind of relationship as you do, etc.)
So be careful and be sure of what you’re looking for before you make any moves.
14) Profiles on social media play a big role
Studies have shown that around 80 percent of first impressions are based on our looks. So if you have a new crush and are looking for ways to attract him, your photos on social media must be unique and beautiful.
York University did research and discovered that profile photos were, in fact, more important than body language or verbal communication in terms of attraction.
However, be aware of the fact that pictures can be deceptive. If you want to present yourself in the best way, try to use a flattering angle and shoot in natural light.
If you’re the type of person who’s always unhappy with their photos, ask your best friends to choose one. They wouldn’t lie to you – instead, they’ll hype you up. Remember that no one is perfect, so don’t stress out over every little imperfection you see in yourself.
15) Crushing on someone is actually addictive
Many relationships fail at the very beginning. It usually happens after the initial excitement of experiencing something new, once the period where we’re full of hormones and endorphins ends.
Have you heard of oxytocin before? It’s the hormone responsible for helping mothers bond with their newborn children. What’s interesting is the fact that when we have a crush, the same chemicals flow through our bodies.
It is very strong and when it is no longer present in our body, it might feel like you’re going through a drug withdrawal. Your mood might drop, and you may be easily annoyed, frustrated, and grumpy without any special reason.
16) You’re more likely to have a crush on a person you know well
The fact is that you’re more likely to have a crush on your friend or a coworker than someone you’ve just met. Studies have shown that more than 70% of people between the ages of 18 and 35 said that at some point they had a crush on one of the two acquaintances.
Why is the number so high? It could be for very logical reasons. You spend so much time at work or with your friends that your heart and mind get used to them.
When you get used to someone, you feel safe, happy, and relaxed around them. So your body may misinterpret those feelings for falling in love.
Remember that friendships are really important when it comes to finding a suitable partner as well. So the tricks your mind is playing may end up being helpful.
17) Smiling!
When someone likes or has a crush on a person, they all act similarly. One of the repeated actions is smiling. They always smile whenever their crush is around. But it’s important to know the difference between different smiles.
There are many types of them. Some are fake and easily recognizable. Some are just evil, and if you’ve watched many psych thrillers, you won’t have trouble recognizing them either.
However, if you see that the person is smiling with their lips and eyes going upwards, that’s the one! It’s a smile you give only to those people you really like or are attracted to. It’s honest and it just happens.
You don’t even know how it looks because you can’t fake a smile like that when you’re taking a selfie. And that’s what makes it special. So, remember, a sincere smile can attract your crush – a fact!
18) Eye contact can tell a lot
When you like someone, and you want to know whether they feel the same way, you should focus on their eyes. They can tell a lot about how someone perceives you.
Psychologists say that when a guy has a crush on a girl, he tends to hold eye contact with her. But, girls do the opposite. They try to avoid eye contact as much as possible.
So if you see her looking around while talking to you, it probably means that she finds you attractive or has a crush on you. And if you notice a boy has his eyes locked on you, he’s most likely thinking about how to ask you out.
19) People who use emojis are perceived as more likable
One more fact about crushes – researchers have found that people who use many emojis in text conversations are perceived as more friendly than those without them. Therefore, we’re more likely to have a crush on them.
So if you ever feel anxious about your crush, remember what you’ve just read. A simple emoji may be all you need to show them how you feel.
It’s important to trust your instincts and go for it! If you don’t try something, you’ll never get answers. So don’t give up, you have what it takes to capture your crush’s heart!
20) Speaking loudly so you get noticed
Have you ever passed by someone and then they started talking louder? Or maybe you were the one who did that? That’s what happens when you’re crushing on someone.
Sometimes we do it on purpose. But often, it’s unintentional. When we see someone we’re attracted to, we want them to notice us, right? If they’re not looking in our direction, we need to act quickly. So we get panicky, and the only thing left to do is talk loudly.
That way our crush will probably be able to hear us, hopefully, turn around and greet us, or at least be reminded of our existence. It’s not the best choice, but it can still work.
21) Confidence makes you more attractive
One of the keys to “attractiveness” is self-confidence. People are drawn to those who show they are happy and satisfied with themselves.
Here’s a little fun fact for you: When you have a crush on someone, you usually let them talk a lot.
And why is that? Because you subconsciously enjoy listening to them and seeing how confident they are.
If you don’t love yourself, how can other people love you? You need to know your worth, and that’s how you’ll find the right partner. Don’t fall for everyone who comes and gives you a bit of attention. Be careful and choose wisely.
22) You’re unable to focus when you have a crush
Did you know that your trouble concentrating can be caused by having a crush? No, well now you have a new addition to your collection of facts about crushes that you can share with your friends.
It’s pretty logical, though, right? When you start liking someone, that person captures your mind. Everything you do, see, or hear reminds you of them. So it’s very easy to get distracted because of them.
Let’s say you’re listening to music and trying to study, then you notice a black Nissan Juke passing in front of your house. Your crush also drives that car! Then you lose your focus and start daydreaming about you and your “future boyfriend” driving in that car.
See how easy it is to get distracted?
23) It’s difficult to lie
When you like someone, it’s difficult to lie to them. It’s even more likely that you will overshare than say something untrue.
That happens because being near your crush makes you shaky and anxious. Therefore, you may blab things out without thinking about them twice.
Being around the person you’re attracted to might make you act like a teen in love. On top of that, it can make you tell them the naked truths about your life because you’re trying to impress them.
24) You see them as the most attractive person ever
Looking at your crush through rose-colored glasses affects the way you see them. Psychologists suggest that you will see that person as 20% more attractive than other people do.
You’ll focus on those parts of them you’re most attracted to and you’ll be amazed. You’ll believe that they have no flaws or ugliness, and it’s impossible that there’s something wrong with them. Your chosen one is simply just perfect.
Even if your crush is Lucifer incarnate, with the worse personality ever, you won’t care at all, and that’s a fact!
25) They see you as the most attractive person ever
The good thing for you is that someone will look at you the same way. And hopefully, it will be your crush.
Everything I’ve just said about the perceived perfections of someone’s crush can also be applied to you. So keep an eye on those who are visibly amazed by everything you do. They might be the one for you!
26) We are easily attracted to people wearing red
One of my favorite facts about crushes is this one. We are more attracted to people who wear red!
Think about it. Red is the color we connect to romance. You know, red roses, red wine, red heart, beautiful red dress, red lipstick, red tie. And there are so many other items that are red and attractive.
Ever since a young age, we’ve seen perfume commercials, usually with a beautiful couple and red roses around them. Or we watched movies where women wore red dresses and lipsticks to their dates. Men ordered red wine and maybe wore reddish suits.
That’s how it was planted in our mind that red is the color of love. So when we see someone wearing that color, it easily catches our eye. And our mind involuntarily connects it to all those scenes of romance we’ve seen before.
27) You’ll start mirroring each other
Did you know that if we’re interested in someone, we instinctively mirror the body language of that person? Maybe you even noticed how some couples pick up on each other’s habits and traits? It actually happens more often than you can imagine.
Psychology says that we do this to make our partners feel more comfortable. Because it shows we are totally fine with that kind of behavior and it lets them know they are free to be themselves.
Here’s the cool part. When you’re talking to someone and find they start repeating some of your gestures or maybe sitting in the same position as you. Or you’ve noticed that they have started using a word or a phrase that you constantly say?
It might be a big sign that they have a crush on you!
28) We are attracted to people who can make us laugh
It’s already proven that people are drawn to those who have a good sense of humor. Especially when it comes to long-term relationships.
So if you’re on a quest to find your soulmate, you need to remember something. If he can’t make you giggle at least a few times a day, he’s almost certainly not the one.
Also, don’t be afraid to show your humorous side. You’re witty, show that. Don’t be afraid that your joke or pun isn’t good enough. It will be hilarious to the right person.
One of my favorite facts about crushes is that people like their partners because they’re easy to get along with. They share similar hobbies and interests, but that’s not all. They also adore being in each other’s company.
So, the best way to attract someone is by doing the things you love together and making each other laugh.
29) Similar interests are attractive to us
It’s said that opposites attract, but wouldn’t it be nicer to be with someone with similar interests to yours?
Of course, the two of you are not the same person. There will be some topics that you probably won’t agree on or some interests and hobbies you won’t share.
But when you have a few of the same or similar interests, you get a chance to spend more time together, plan interesting dates, and enjoy doing the things you both love together.
Studies found that couples who have more similarities, not only in their personalities but in their interests too, were happier and more successful than those with many differences.
We’ve reached the end of the quest for facts about crushes. I hope you learned something new, and that some of them gave you food for thought. If you know some more interesting facts, feel free to share them with us in the comments.
