Think aloud
A disrespectful woman isn’t someone you want to be around for a long period of time, because she knows what she’s doing.
Whether she’s a woman you’re dating, or someone you’re in a long-term relationship with or even married to, it doesn’t mean you’re immune to her.
When a woman disrespects you, it isn’t always easy to spot, because you may excuse her behavior as the time of the month or it might be a bad day for her.
However, when you excuse her behavior like this, how does it make you feel?
Having a disrespectful partner isn’t something you need to find an excuse for. You need to confront her about it.
Are you sure she’s disrespecting you? Do you know how to deal with it?
Signs of a disrespectful woman
Let’s start by finding out if the woman in question is actually being disrespectful toward you.
If she does any of the undermentioned things, your suspicions have been confirmed.
You need to make sure that you really pay close attention to the way she acts around you and other people. Maybe she’s disrespectful toward everyone?
Or is it just you?
Whatever the case, you have to be alert and always ready to spot the signs.
1. She doesn’t listen
The first sign is also the most obvious one. The peak of disrespectful behavior is when someone doesn’t want to listen to what you have to tell them.
She doesn’t respect you if she’s always doing something else while you’re talking to her.
She doesn’t seem to even realize that you’re talking to her. However, she’ll still ask you days later to tell her the same story.
The worst thing about it is that she will make you feel like you’re crazy and accuse you of not telling her anything in the first place.
It will get frustrating over time as you will only fight more. You did tell her, she just didn’t listen.
2. She’s always late
The most disrespectful people are people who are always late. They don’t respect you or your time.
If the woman in question is always late then she really is extremely disrespectful.
If someone is late, the least they can do is let you know in advance and not let you wait for them for half an hour, or maybe even longer.
3. A disrespectful woman will make everything about her
There can be no effective communication with a woman who wants to make everything about her.
She will turn every single one of your conversations to her advantage and somehow make it about her life and her problems.
Even though you might feel the need to talk about something very important to you, she won’t give you the time of day.
This is especially relevant when you’re talking about problems in your relationship or marriage and every time you tell her how you feel, she will come back with something like: “What about my feelings?”
4. She doesn’t keep promises
Another sign of disrespectful behavior is when a woman doesn’t keep her promises.
You put all your hopes into one of her promises, but she chooses to ignore it.
She will find any excuse for forgetting or she will push your frustration aside, telling you that it wasn’t important in the first place.
Keeping your promises is a very important factor in every relationship. It shows how invested you are in it and how much you care about your partner.
Of course, you can forget about a promise you made once, but if it’s a constant occurrence, then it’s just blatant disrespect.
5. You can’t trust her with your secrets
You need to have a lot of trust in someone to tell them secrets about yourself. It’s really hard to find someone with whom you can be completely vulnerable.
A disrespectful woman will not be able to keep those secrets. She might not even want to hurt you, but she will expose them to other people.
You trust her with something so sensitive and she chooses to betray your trust. If this isn’t a red flag then I don’t know what is.
6. A disrespectful woman won’t take your feelings into consideration
This is a really clear sign of a lack of respect for your partner.
You might be wondering about all those times she hurt you in some way and whether it was intentional.
If she’s a disrespectful woman then it certainly is. She knows what will hurt you the most and she aims right for her target.
She will use her knowledge of you and your insecurities and hurt your feelings right there and then.
It doesn’t matter whether it’s a serious fight or petty bickering, you will always walk out of it with a broken heart.
7. She flirts with others right in front of you
So, you two are in a happy relationship, right? Then why is she flirting with other men right under your nose?
One reason why she does that is because she doesn’t respect you. This is especially a problem if you two are married.
If your wife disrespects you like this then it isn’t something you can easily fix.
This woman chooses, on purpose, to go up to another man and flirt with him while you’re watching.
Flirting behind your back is a problem in itself, so why does she take it a step further?
This woman has a lack of self-respect and self-control. If she really chooses to do this, then it’s a clear sign of disrespect.
8. She’s always on her phone
It doesn’t matter what you’re doing, she is always on her phone.
You wouldn’t even let your close friends disrespect you by paying more attention to their phone than you. So why is she doing it?
You can see her mindlessly scrolling through social media or texting someone and smiling.
Does she have someone else in her life? Is the content she sees there more important than the dinner you two are sharing?
Married couples should be able to talk during dinner, not ignore each other and scroll through social media for hours.
This is a huge sign of disrespect and rudeness that you shouldn’t ignore.
9. A disrespectful woman will make anything more important than you
You and I both understand that there are things that need our immediate attention.
Those things might be family issues or when something serious happens to one of our friends.
However, you should always make your partner a priority. That’s why you’re with them.
You were ready to live your life with them and make them a priority.
If she makes anything and everything more important than you, then that makes her a real narcissist.
This also includes all those times you forgave her for not being there for you and every time she ditched you last minute to attend to something less important than your relationship or marriage.
10. She interrupts you when you’re talking
When someone is continually talking over you or interrupts you when you’re talking, it can damage your self-esteem, especially if that someone is your loved one.
We are taught to always respect someone when they’re talking and to let them finish what they’re saying before we say anything. It’s basic manners.
The fact that she continues to interrupt you when you are talking says a lot about what kind of a woman she is.
She is a disrespectful woman who won’t let you say what you want.
This is also a sign of selfishness because everything has to be about her.
She makes you feel like your opinions and your viewpoints don’t matter to her. You won’t be able to feel loved by someone like that.
11. She puts you down in front of others
Let’s picture a scenario, and if it’s familiar then it means your wife or girlfriend is very disrespectful.
You’re out at a bar with friends and you’re all laughing together.
What does she do? To continue being the center of attention, she starts putting you down in front of your friends.
That is a clear sign of narcissism. Don’t believe for one second that she doesn’t know what she’s doing.
She loves to humiliate you in front of others to make herself feel better.
She thrives by putting other people down, thinking that it only does something great for her popularity with others.
12. A disrespectful woman demands your attention
A disrespectful woman doesn’t care about what you are doing or if it’s more important than her petty problems.
She will demand your attention right away. This rudeness doesn’t have a filter, not even when you have to go to work.
However, if you tell her that you’ll be, “With her in a moment,” or, “Can’t it wait a bit?” she’ll get extremely frustrated and act like she deserves all of your undivided time and attention.
Of course, you should make your partner a priority, but only if your partner respects you too.
If she continues to act like she owns you and you’re obligated to spend all your time with her, then it’s blatant disrespect.
13. She doesn’t include you when making important decisions
Has your girlfriend/wife come to you with decisions she’s made before even asking for your opinion?
This could be about anything, from where you’re going out to dinner that night, to deciding what apartment you’re going to rent next.
These are very minor examples, but you get the point.
There are decisions in your life where if you want to have a healthy relationship, they need to be made together.
You have to ask your partner for their opinion if it includes both of you. That’s why her lack of a need to ask you for yours is a sign of disrespect.
14. She gossips about you
She is a disrespectful woman if she exposes your personal life to other people without regarding your feelings.
Your friend might have come to you and told you that she gossips about you often, or she might have told you herself – either way, it’s a huge red flag.
You don’t deserve someone who will go around and look for any opportunity to bad-mouth you.
You deserve a loving and caring partner who will support you. Someone who gossips isn’t what you need.
If she doesn’t respect you, she doesn’t deserve you!
15. A disrespectful woman will act as if you’re crazy
What does that even mean? No one can make you believe that you’re crazy!
However, have you ever had a fight where you called her out on the things she did and she called you annoying or overly sensitive?
Have you ever talked to her about the issues in your relationship and she just shut down all your allegations and told you that you’re crazy?
Only a disrespectful person would do such a thing.
Whenever you try to tell her that you’re not OK with something, she puts the blame on you, without even thinking about your feelings.
She never takes into consideration that she might actually be the problem.
16. She purposefully hurts you
Whenever you talk to your partner about the things that hurt you, you expect her to keep that in mind and not use it against you.
You were vulnerable for a moment and you gave her insight into the things that are very painful for you.
However, a disrespectful woman doesn’t care about that.
She will use the knowledge she has accumulated about you against you.
You just know that it’s on purpose because you made it abundantly clear that you are sensitive to those things.
A woman who doesn’t respect you doesn’t care about your feelings. She just cares about getting her way.
17. She doesn’t want to spend time with your loved ones
A disrespectful woman will always expect you to spend time with her family members or her friends.
However, she will never do the same thing in return. She will never go out of her way to spend time with the people you love.
Of course, this can take a toll on your mental health.
You’re constantly asking yourself whether you’re the one to blame and whether you’re the one who needs to change your friend group.
She always tells you that your friends are annoying even though hers aren’t any better, but you choose to spend time with them because you care about her.
You care about her feelings.
You will spend time with them even if you don’t like them. On the other hand, she avoids any type of contact with your family members and friends.
18. A disrespectful woman will ignore your boundaries
You are a human being with basic needs and as such, you have your own boundaries.
You aren’t a disrespectful man who will cross someone else’s boundaries and I applaud you for that.
However, a woman who doesn’t respect you in return will ignore your boundaries, especially in the bedroom.
There are physical boundaries you simply aren’t ready to cross and she doesn’t care.
It doesn’t matter how many times you have told her to stop, she doesn’t seem to care.
Boundaries are extremely important in relationships and if she’s not ready to respect yours, then she’s not the one.
19. She doesn’t acknowledge your accomplishments
In other words, she doesn’t respect you and takes you for granted.
A disrespectful woman won’t acknowledge your accomplishments and she will think that they’re nothing special.
She will ignore all the effort you put into your work or your relationship.
This is extremely damaging for your mental health, as we all need to be acknowledged for the work we put into our lives to better ourselves.
You might get to the point where you’re even questioning if you should stay together, as your loved one doesn’t seem to see your efforts.
That is exactly what a disrespectful woman will do to you.
20. She doesn’t introduce you to others
So you made it to the place where you were supposed to meet up with her friends or her co-workers.
However, this is your first time meeting them and it’s basic knowledge that she should introduce you to the group.
She has to introduce you to these people because you don’t know them and they don’t know you.
In order for you to become a part of her life, you really have to be a part of her friend group as well.
However, a disrespectful woman will not do that. She will not introduce you to people when you first encounter them.
Why? Is she trying to establish dominance? Is she so consumed by the attention that the other people give her that she simply forgets about you?
Whatever the reason, it’s extremely selfish and disrespectful.
21. A disrespectful woman will hide things from you
If you’re in a relationship with someone or if you’re married, there shouldn’t be any secrets between the two of you.
You should be able to talk about anything and everything.
You won’t have that when you’re with a disrespectful woman.
She will hide things from you, things like how much money she spends or if she’s talking to that guy you told her makes you uncomfortable.
All of these are signs of disrespect you need to look out for. The fact that she’s lying to you is extremely damaging to your relationship.
22. She always comments negatively on your appearance
Yes, we’re all a bit self-conscious about our appearance. However, we expect our partner to boost our self-esteem from time to time.
If she only comments on your appearance to say something bad about the way you look, then there is nothing good about it.
Especially on nights when you feel extremely good about yourself, she makes you feel awful with her comments.
This only means that she can’t handle the fact that you feel better about yourself than she does about herself.
How do I react?
Is there a way to be immune to her disrespect? Is there a guide on how to be respected by your significant other?
The truth is: no. You can try to gain your partner’s respect again, but it’s a losing game.
However, there is a question that you can answer for yourself if the signs above are relevant to the relationship with your partner…
Why are you still with her?
If you have good reasons for staying with someone who goes out of their way to disrespect you then that is an issue in itself.
You need to practice self-love and self-respect more than anything else.
You need to know that you deserve so much better than a wife or girlfriend who only knows how to put you down.
Of course, you can try to fix things. My advice for you is to confront her every single time you feel disrespected by your significant other.
You need to tell her how she makes you feel right away and know your own boundaries.
Love yourself enough to stand up to her and don’t let her get the best of you.
If she doesn’t react to your words accordingly, if she doesn’t want to change for you, then give her the silent treatment.
You might think that it’s childish but show her that two can play that game. Once you stop talking to her, she’ll know that you mean business.
Should I leave her if she is a disrespectful woman?
Can you guarantee that she will change herself for you?
If you strongly believe that then you shouldn’t leave her. You should try and work things out with her.
On the other hand, if you see that your relationship is doomed to fail, your efforts will be in vain.
No, “I love you,” and no, “I want this to work,” will make the relationship last if your significant other makes the conscious decision to be disrespectful toward you.
You deserve so much better. You deserve someone loving, caring, and respectful.
Your self-worth has been questioned for so long now that you might not know how to get out of this relationship, but you and I both know that it’s not worth it.
No one should make you feel bad about yourself. No one should have the power to disrespect you so many times.
Walk away. You deserve so much better.
