Think aloud
When you chase after someone who’s not good for you, there is always a particular feeling in your gut telling you to run in the other direction.
In this situation, we tend to fall into temptation and we ignore that feeling.
For whatever reason, you still believe in their potential, you believe that they’re not as bad as it seems.
When you chase after a man who’s bad for you, you make excuses for his behavior and you try to convince yourself that it could work out.
Even when you know that he’s bad for you, you still go after your desires and break your own heart along the way.
That’s why everyone needs some hard-hitting reminders for when we’re running after someone who is just bad news.
So in order to stop some of you out there from making a huge mistake and getting hurt, here’s a list of reminders why you shouldn’t chase after someone who is not good for you.
1. What would you tell your friend if she was in your situation?
My first reminder for you is to think of yourself as of one of your friends.
Would you let her make this mistake?
She probably wouldn’t hear the end of it if she did, as you would tell her all the reasons why it was the dumbest idea out there.
Asking yourself this question is the best reminder you can have. You care about your friends and their well-being so much and there isn’t a time when you wouldn’t call her out on her poor dating choices.
That is exactly why you shouldn’t chase after someone who’s not good for you. Be your own friend and take your own advice, as you deserve that.
2. It’s better to stay single than with someone who isn’t good for you
I know that like most of us, you have a soft spot for bad guys. You think of this guy as misunderstood and as of someone who just hasn’t found the right girl yet.
However, it’s so much better to stay single than to be with someone who isn’t good for you.
When you’re single, you can completely focus on yourself and your dreams. When you’re chasing someone who isn’t good for you, you are investing energy in them that you could invest in other parts of your life.
Your own growth and success are more important than being with a bad boy. That’s why you shouldn’t waste your time on him and spend it on yourself instead.
You could be single and happy instead of desperately chasing after a man who is bad news!
3. When you want to chase after someone who’s not good for you, remember that temptation is always bad
Temptation is a desire to do something mostly wrong or unwise. Why would you want to succumb to that desire?
Do you want more excitement in your life? Go bungee jumping!
It’s less dangerous than chasing after someone who is bad news. He will break your heart and it will hurt for a very long period of time.
You know that temptation is always a bad idea. You are tempted to love him and treat him right, even though you know that he won’t do the same for you.
Please try to resist this temptation. I know that it’s hard, as you see all the things that could go right, but you know deep down that it’s nothing but an extremely bad idea.
4. When you want to chase after someone who’s not good for you, remember that you are not alone
When we feel alone or lonely, we tend to easily fall into the belief that we should chase after someone even if it’s not the best idea.
Because of your loneliness, you believe that you need him in order to be happy. However, you don’t need him and you are not alone.
Even when you feel like the loneliest person in the world, you will always have your friends and family. Spend more time with them.
Send a group text to your friends and ask them to hang out whenever you feel lonely. Give your family a call.
You know that even if you do text him, you will have to wait for hours or even days for a reply. At least text someone who will be there for you.
Your loneliness isn’t a reason for you to chase after someone who’s not good for you.
5. There is a huge difference between what you want and what you need
The things you want and the things you need in your life are completely different.
You might want chocolate one moment, but you know that what you actually need is a salad and some water.
The things we want are usually things that make us feel very strong emotions and that give us excitement.
However, those things that only give us momentary pleasure are always very bad for us. They are there to fill a void for a very short period of time.
You must admit that you always feel bad after giving into the things you want instead of going for the things you need.
You need someone in your life who will treat you with kindness and care for you. There will never be a moment in your life when you will need anything less than that.
6. You will find someone much better, so don’t lose hope
We have all been in a situation where we thought that we had hit a certain age and that if we didn’t find love then, we never would.
You might feel hopeless now, but the universe works in mysterious ways. You can’t just think that because you haven’t found your true love yet that you have to chase after someone who’s bad for you.
Someone wholesome with a heart of gold will come into your life to love you just the way you deserve.
You will never have to think twice about whether they’re right for you. Your gut will tell you that it’s the right time to fall in love.
Right now, that same gut is telling you to run for the hills. However, the time will come when love will be right on your doorstep.
That’s why you shouldn’t waste your time on someone who will break your heart and leave you in pain.
The right man could be just around the corner.
