When a guy says you’re a great person, it makes you feel good about yourself and appreciated.
Still, you can’t help but wonder what he truly means by that.
Usually, someone who tells you that you’re a great person thinks that you have really good values and qualities.
Does it mean that they like you, though? Let’s back up a little bit before we figure out the answer to that.
Clearly, when a guy says you’re a great person, he’s giving you a compliment.
Women love to be flattered and guys are very well aware of that fact. Sadly, though, they sometimes use it to take advantage of you.
I already mentioned that receiving a compliment makes us feel appreciated, and we also feel cared for.
The person who’s giving the compliment knows the effect it will have on you, which is why someone might use it to give you an actual false sense of security and appreciation.
If you haven’t heard any compliments from men in a while, you probably long for desirability and attention.
This could get you to easily fall for a man who uses excessive flattery to take advantage of vulnerable women.
Usually, when a guy says you’re a great person, it’s a good sign.
I already told you that it most often means that you have really good values and qualities.
However, we can’t just take it for granted and ignore the less likely possible explanations.
Most men don’t speak in riddles and they’re usually being genuine when they give you a compliment.
As mentioned, people are not always honest though, and they sometimes use their words to trick others.
This is why it’s important that we discuss the excessive flattery a man could use to, well, use you.
When a guy says you’re a great person, it’s not the same as when he says you’re beautiful.
He’s complimenting you on your personality, not your looks. Men who want to use you will usually focus much more on what’s on the outside.
But the big question is, how well do you know him?
If the two of you barely know each other and he gives you all sorts of compliments, it might be a red flag.
Maybe you really are a great person, but how does he know that?
Does he know something about you that led him to that conclusion?
Did you do something that made him conclude that you’re a great person and want to tell you that?
These are all things to take into consideration and if your answer to those two questions is, “No,” he might not be genuine.
He wants to make you feel good about yourself so that you’ll relax around him, as it’ll make it more likely for him to get what he wants.
On the other hand, maybe the two of you have known each other for a while now and he really thinks that you’re a great, kind, and amazing person.
The fact that he complimented you on what kind of a person you are instead of the way you look is a positive sign.
He probably enjoys your company, likes how he feels when he’s with you, and wants to let you know that he appreciates you.
Since he didn’t compliment you on your physical appearance but on your personality, he may well care for you.
Maybe he truly likes you and there could be something there. Usually, this is the meaning behind this kind of compliment.
Alternatively, maybe you did something specific that made him say that you’re a great person.
When a guy says this, it could be right after he has seen you helping an old person cross the street, or maybe you helped him with something or offered your help or advice.
He could have simply responded to your actions by saying that you’re a great person.
It could also mean that he likes you, but doesn’t have to.
Most of the time, when a guy compliments you on what kind of a person you are, it’s safe to assume that he likes you.
Still, you should keep in mind all the other things I mentioned and not jump to any conclusions.
There’s another problem I need to mention too…
Let’s say that when a guy says you’re a great person, it definitely means that he likes you… but does he like you as a friend, as a person, or as a potential partner?
The expression, “You’re a great person,” could be followed by, “… and the kind of person I could spend the rest of my life with.”
On the other hand, “You’re a great person,” could instead end with, “… but I only see you as a friend.”
Someone could even use this expression to gently let you down. A man could genuinely think that you’re great, but still not want to commit to you.
When a guy says you’re a great person, these few sweet words aren’t enough to figure out the real message.
Don’t ever forget that actions speak louder than words. Even if he’s saying all the right things, you need to look at what he does too.
He’ll invest his effort and time into you if he’s interested in you. You can only be completely sure that a guy truly cares about you if he shows that.
He’ll ask you questions to learn more about you and find out what’s important to you.
He might ask you about your hobbies, goals, interests, career, and family.
It’s important to look for these signs he likes you when he says you’re a great person.
Let’s try to figure out whether he really likes you and in which way.
What it means when a guy says you’re a great person
If a man recently told you that you’re a great person, it might have gotten you a little confused.
This is especially confusing if you like him but you don’t know whether he likes you back.
When a guy says you’re a great person, does it mean that he’s into you? As you’ve already learned, it could, but doesn’t have to.
Most often, it does mean that he likes you. Still, liking someone doesn’t have to mean that they want to have a romantic relationship with you.
Maybe he’s attracted to you, maybe he sees you as a friend…
When you want to know what it means when a guy says something like this, you need to consider other things besides words.
The way a guy says those words and his body language could change the meaning of them.
Here are some of the most likely reasons he said that you’re a great person:
1. He’s into you
If a guy said that you’re a great person because he’s into you, there’ll be other signs as well.
Let’s mention some of the most important ones to look for.
He’ll mirror your body language and use every chance to touch you. A man who’s into you will want to be close to you in every way.
When the two of you talk, does he stand closer to you than when he talks to others?
Comparing how a man behaves around you to how he acts around others can always help you a lot.
Does he make prolonged eye contact with you? If he’s into you, his pupils will become dilated when he looks at you too.
How does he act when you talk to another attractive man? No human being can completely hide it when they’re feeling jealous.
A man who’s into you will probably get defensive, anxious, or even mad when he sees you with another man.
He’ll also talk about you to your friends, and they’ll notice he likes you even before you do.
Also, if he’s into you, he’ll base his plans around the ones that you have.
Just like women want to look their best in front of men they like, so does a man when he likes a woman.
This means that when this guy sees you, he’ll adjust his hair or clothes.
Let’s not forget to also mention one of the biggest known signs that someone likes you.
He’ll stare at you, and when you catch him, he’ll quickly look away or smile.
He might also get nervous around you and you’ll see him fidgeting or blinking more.
Additionally, there are some less well-known body language signs someone likes you.
When a guy who likes you sees you, he’ll stand or sit more upright and uncross his legs and arms.
Maybe he often looks at your lips, which is a sign he wants to kiss you, and when he talks to you, it won’t be with the same voice he does with others, but a deeper one.
2. He just thinks that you’re a great person
Maybe he thinks that you have a great personality, but it doesn’t have to mean that he wants to be with you.
In this case, he will have positive body language, but won’t do all the things I mentioned earlier.
When he sees you, he’ll smile, and when he’s around you, he’ll uncross his legs and arms and show his palms…
However, he won’t get agitated or defensive if he sees you talking to some other guy and he won’t use any chance to touch you.
He won’t look at your lips and he won’t make prolonged eye contact either.
Surely you know someone who you think is a great person but you don’t want to be with them.
You like their company and wish them all the best, but you’re just not into them that way.
This guy might be feeling that way about you if he’s not showing the signs he likes you that I mentioned before.
He probably respects you, and maybe even admires you, but he doesn’t see you as a potential girlfriend.
Maybe, if the circumstances were different, he would. Even if he likes you, maybe he said that he’s not ready for a relationship.
He could have recently broken up with someone or just isn’t emotionally ready to commit to anyone for some other reason.
Who knows, maybe he even thinks that you’re such a great person that he doesn’t deserve you because he’s not as great.
3. He likes you as a friend
Maybe he said that you’re a great person because he feels very comfortable around you. He enjoys your company but likes you only as a friend.
In this case, his body language and behavior will be the same around you as around the other female friends he has.
It’s always good to notice how a man acts around other women and compare it with how he acts around you.
This also helps detect players and those who give compliments to all women.
When a man compliments you, it’s always a good idea to check for signs he’s actually a nice guy, not a camouflaged bad boy.
If he likes you as a friend but you would like him to see you as a potential girlfriend, you should hint at that.
This is very good advice if you have been friends for a while now and you recently started feeling attracted to him.
Maybe he has no clue that you could be more than friends. He values your friendship and respects you, so he hasn’t ever thought about you that way.
Put the idea in his head and it might turn out that he would love to be more than friends.
If, on the other hand, he clearly doesn’t want to be more than that, you have only two options.
Either you will accept him as just a friend, or you’ll end the friendship because you’ll never see him only as one.
4. He would like to become more than a friend to you
I mentioned a situation where the two of you are friends and you want it to turn into something more… Well, what if he does?
If your male friend told you that you’re a great person, maybe he’s the one who wants to be more than friends.
Maybe he hasn’t told you that because he values your friendship and doesn’t want to lose you.
Friends often develop stronger feelings for each other but keep quiet about it. You need to learn how to tell whether a guy likes you but is hiding it.
Maybe he’s not hiding it at all, but even if he is, there’s something he can’t hide and that’s jealousy.
As mentioned above, how does he act when he sees you with another man?
A guy who’s just a friend to you won’t mind seeing you flirt with someone else.
He might even give you dating advice and encourage you to go after someone you like.
If you’re in a relationship with someone else, your friend won’t mind seeing you together. He might even become friends with the guy you’re with.
Unless, of course, he would like you to be with him instead.
If he wants to be more than friends, he’ll get defensive or apprehensive when you’re around another man.
A guy friend who shows signs of jealousy is surely not just a friend to you and doesn’t want to be just that.
I hope this has helped you figure out how he feels about you, but there are some questions that will help you too.
What can you do to realize what it means when a guy says you’re a great person?
If you want to know whether it means that he’s into you, answer these questions:
1. How does he react when he sees you?
When you like someone, you have certain reactions to seeing them.
The way this guy reacts when he sees you could help you determine whether being a great person means being a person he’d like to date.
People have emotional responses to those they’re into.
This emotional response shows in them changing their behavior and body language upon seeing the person they like.
As stated above, when he sees you, he’ll sit upright and uncross his arms. He’ll make space for you and adjust his appearance.
He’ll try to be near you, his pupils will dilate and he’ll raise his eyebrows and smile.
All this shows that he doesn’t just consider you a great person, but a person he’s interested in as well.
The best part is that he really likes you for you, not just the way you look.
Otherwise, he would have given you a superficial compliment, not such a meaningful one.
2. Does he act differently around you than around others?
It’s very useful to pay attention to how he acts around others and compare it to how he acts around you.
How does he behave around other women he knows? Maybe he’s just the kind of guy who gives everyone compliments.
Of course, it could also be true that you’re the only one he considers such a great person. Pay attention to his body language and his behavior.
Is it different when he’s around you? If it is, it’s a very good sign and likely means that he’s attracted to you.
Naturally, you need to look for other signs as well to know for sure, and I already mentioned them earlier.
3. What kind of relationship do you have with him?
Your relationship with this man is also important in figuring out whether he’s genuine and likes you.
Is he your friend or someone you recently met? If your guy friend told you that you’re a great person, he probably meant it.
He feels very comfortable in your company and really likes your personality.
This means that he definitely likes you in some way, but does he want to be more than friends?
It’s very possible and very likely true if he’s showing signs of jealousy. If, on the other hand, he’s someone you recently met, he might not be genuine.
Maybe he meant that you seem like a great person, but maybe he’s just a player.
He’s probably attracted to you, but it doesn’t have to mean that he has serious intentions.
Get to know him better before rushing into anything to make sure that he’s a great person too. Take your time and learn more about him.
If he’s a player or just wants something casual, he’ll eventually get tired of waiting and leave you alone.
On the other hand, if he wants something meaningful, he won’t mind spending a lot of time with you before getting involved.
In fact, he’ll be glad to get the chance to learn more about you because he’s genuinely interested in you.
4. Has he shown multiple signs that he likes you?
Maybe he showed one of the signs he likes you, but not the rest of them.
Saying that you’re a great person and showing just one of the signs isn’t enough to mean that he’s definitely into you.
If there are a lot of signs showing that he likes you, he most likely does. Still, there’s something else I need to point out.
If you’re into him and want him to be into you too, you might fool yourself into thinking that he is.
We tend to see signs that aren’t there when we really, really want them to be there.
It can be comforting for a little while, but it’s bad and it’ll be even more painful once you face the truth.
What if he’s really showing most of the signs he likes you? Well, he probably does like you and if you like him back, you should show him.
Ultimately, the only way to know with certainty what something he said meant is to ask him.
Simply ask him, “What did you mean when you said that I’m a great person?”
Sure, he could lie, but he’ll most likely give you an honest answer. Once you hear his explanation, it’ll be clearer where you stand with him.
Don’t forget that if you’re into him, you can always ask him out. It’s not the man’s job to make the first move anymore.
What’s the worst thing that could happen? If he rejects you, at least you’ll know the truth so you’ll be able to move on instead of wasting your time.
On the other hand, he could be glad that you asked and it could finally turn you into a couple!
You can’t know until you try, and he already thinks that you’re a great person, so the odds work in your favor!