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17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

You’ll see the signs your ex is pretending to be over you if he still wants you back but is scared to admit it.

Does he still love me? If you’re asking yourself this question, you’ll soon stumble upon the answer.

Does my ex want me back? I asked myself the same question when I was wondering whether my ex still loved me.

The thing that really helped me see things clearly is the same thing that will help you, and it’s the signs that show he’s not over you.

How to know if he misses you after the break-up? All you need to do is pay close attention to the signs your ex wants you back but is scared to admit it.

He can try to hide it as much as he wants, but the signs he’s not over you will still be there to show the truth.

Has your ex taken back the things he had at your place? That’s the first thing people do when they are really done with someone.

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

So, if he is anything like my ex, and avoids taking his things back or returning yours, it’s one of the signs your ex wants you back.

I asked myself whether my ex still loved me, and he gave me the answer without saying it. That’s when I learned how to know whether he misses you after the break-up, and I’m going to share my knowledge with you.

So, if you’re wondering if he wants you back, read these signs your ex is pretending to be over you. Those signs he wants you back but is scared to admit it will tell you what he doesn’t have the guts to say.

However, what will you do after you see the signs he’s not over you? Will you take him back, wait for him to come back, or just enjoy the fact that he’s miserable without you?

The decision is up to you, but keep in mind that the signs your ex misses you just prove that he still loves you, not that he will or should come back. That part is up to you two, and you’ll need to talk things out if you want to give your relationship another chance.

For now, let these signs your ex is pretending to be over you speak the truth and let you know what he can’t say. Read them, and you’ll know whether he’s thinking of coming back, or if it is over between the two of you.

If he’s showing most of these signs that he wants you back but is scared, you’ll know that he still thinks of you and cares about you deeply. Let’s see what they are and find out the truth.

Signs your ex is pretending to be over you

1. He stayed in touch even though he didn’t need to

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

Staying in touch when he doesn’t even have to is one of the more obvious signs your ex misses you.

Does he text you out of nowhere or have a lot of excuses to call you?

The thing about guys is that they don’t really need the attention of their ex unless they’re still in love with the person in question so if he pops into your life every now and then with some lame excuse, it’s one of the signs your ex is pretending to be over you but still loves you.

Look at it this way; you two have broken up, so there’s no need for him to stay in touch.

Why is he doing it then? Well, the only explanation is that he still loves you and can’t move on.

2. He says he wants to stay friends and really means it

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

“Let’s stay friends,” is the oldest break-up line, and people don’t usually mean it. However, when your ex says he wants to stay friends and actually means it, he’ll try to make time for you and this shows that he’s not ready to cope with the break-up.

We all know that exes can’t really be friends, so trying to be that can be painful since you’re reopening old wounds. If he wants to be friends with you and proves it by hanging out, it could be one of the signs your ex wants you back.

However, you need to be careful when it comes to this sign because even if he has the best intentions, it could turn out bad. You can try being friends with him if you want, but it will probably hurt, so it’s better to see all the signs and know for sure if he loves you.

3. He had an extreme emotional reaction to the break-up

Does your ex have extreme emotions about you? It doesn’t matter whether it’s deep sadness, hate, love, or anger; as long as your ex has extreme emotions, it’s very likely that there’s still love behind it all.

After all, aren’t love and hate just two sides of the exact same coin?

My ex was very angry at me after we broke up but later admitted that he was still in love with me. Don’t think I’m the only one, because this is often the case.

Anger is an emotion that, most of the time, masks hurt and remember that the opposite of love isn’t hatred but indifference.

So, if your ex is really very angry with you, it doesn’t have to mean that he hates you, it could mean that he loves you. He is hiding how much the break-up hurts him by displaying anger.

4. He has the need to keep talking about the break-up

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

Maybe he keeps talking about the reasons for the break-up and keeps rehashing things with you and also texts you about why he had to leave you.

All in all, it seems like he keeps bringing up the break-up even when it makes no sense.

Does he also talk or joke about giving your relationship a second chance and getting back together? All these things mean that he is trying to sort it all out.

Why does he keep talking about it? You’re still on his mind, and he didn’t get the closure he needed.

Will that closure actually be getting back together? Maybe.

5. He shows off and brags about his accomplishments

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

Perhaps you hear a lot about how he got in shape at the gym or got a new job. To sum it, he’s bragging about his self-improvement, and it seems like he’s showing off.

Maybe he started a new hobby that he’s sure you would approve of. One explanation is that he wants to make you jealous but it’s more likely that he wants you to be proud of him because he still hopes to get your approval.

Who shows off for the people they don’t care about? We only do it for those who mean something to us, so this is one of the signs your ex is pretending to be over you.

Even if he’s just trying to make you jealous, it shows that you’re on his mind and that what you think still matters to him. Why else would he brag so much about his accomplishments and self-improvement?

6. He hasn’t taken his things back

If he is stalling and doesn’t want to finish things between you two by taking his things back, he might want you back. He needs everything to be the way it was, and he takes comfort in knowing his things are still at your place.

As I mentioned earlier, when people want to tie up loose ends, they return each other’s things, therefore, removing all reminders.

Does he still hold on to your things and refuse to bring them back? If you want, you can tell him that you want to return his things and get yours and see how he reacts.

That’s the point where he won’t be indifferent if he still loves you. However, if you have already returned each other’s belongings, don’t think that it means it’s definitely over.

Check out the other signs your ex is pretending to be over you to know for sure.

7. His friends and family tell you to talk to him

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

Do his friends or family members try to convince you to at least talk to him again? These people know him best, so if they are doing that, it means that they know how much he still loves you.

You’ll see them dropping hints that he cares about you and misses you. He probably hasn’t been subtle about his emotions around the people he cares about, so they are your best allies if you want the truth or maybe they even got sick of him talking about you all the time.

If you still talk to some of his friends, be sure to talk to them now. You don’t have to ask them directly about him, but if they are hinting that you should talk to him, it shows that they know how much he misses you.

8. He’s not dating anyone

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

Has your ex decided to find himself and therefore hasn’t been dating since the break-up? If your ex hasn’t moved on, it could be because he’s hoping to get back together with you.

Another explanation could be that the break-up hurt him so badly that he isn’t capable of imagining himself with someone new yet.

Does he seem miserable after the break-up, or is he doing okay but doesn’t want to date yet? Either way, it’s very possible that he still loves you, and that’s the reason he hasn’t been with anyone new.

How long has it been since you broke up? Take that into consideration when thinking about this sign.

Everyone needs time to move on after a break-up, and that’s the time when people usually decide to get back together if they are still in love so don’t wait for him to find someone new and instead, talk to him about it.

Maybe he’ll confess that he still loves you or he’ll lie that it has nothing to do with you.

9. He’s dating a lot

However, what if your ex has been dating a lot of women?

Think about it and consider whether any of those relationships have the potential to be a serious relationship. Probably not, and he’s only trying to fill a void in his heart with all these different women he doesn’t care about.

Maybe he chose one particular girl who he pretends to be dating but never calls her his girlfriend. You get the picture; he’s probably just trying to forget you and find you a replacement or maybe he just wants to blow off steam.

If he had a meaningful relationship with you but now dates women he can’t even call girlfriends, the break-up hurt him badly. He doesn’t want another serious relationship because he hasn’t moved on from the one he had with you.

No matter how much it looks like he has moved on, he really hasn’t.

10. He has a rebound girlfriend who dislikes you

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

One of the weird signs your ex is pretending to be over you is if his rebound girlfriend dislikes you or hates your guts.

Emotional venting is a part of being in a rebound relationship since the person didn’t have time to process the break-up before moving on. Therefore, his new girlfriend has heard him talk about you a lot.

Maybe she’s supportive of him, but when it comes to you, she has her own feelings, and they don’t make her evil. She’s only human, and it’s only natural for her to dislike you.

He has over-shared because he isn’t over you, and she’s aware of that and if it wasn’t like that, she wouldn’t have such an extreme emotional reaction to you.

To sum it up, if he still loves you, his new girlfriend will dislike or hate you.

11. He stalks you on social media

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

Does he still like and comment on your posts a lot? If he monitors the things you post on social media, it’s one of the signs your ex is pretending to be over you, but still loves you.

He sees your posts as breaking news about your life that he needs to feel included in, in any way he can.

How about his posts on social media? If he has been posting a lot lately about how perfect and happy his life is now, he’s trying to get to you.

Even if you want him back, however, the best decision is to unfriend him. You don’t need a consistent reminder of him, and it’s tempting to keep checking his profiles.

Unfriend him for now, because you can always go back to being friends if you get back together.

12. He contacts your friends and family

Does he still keep in touch with the people who are closest to you? Why would he do that unless he still cared about you?

Your friends and family are his sources of information about you. He wants to know what you’ve been up to, and he can’t ask you directly, so he asks the people who are close to you.

If he didn’t still care for you, there would be no need for him to stay in touch with your friends and family. Maybe you’ll get a message from him through them because he’s scared to tell you to your face how much he has been missing you.

13. He treats you very well, even though he doesn’t have to

The mirror for how you feel about someone is the way you treat them.

Is he persistent in showing you his good side? This shows that he cares about you, wants your approval and secretly still loves you, and he can’t get himself to treat you badly.

You don’t even need him to treat you well, and you expected him to show his bad side now that you’re exes. Still, he stayed nice to you and always will, because you hold a place in his heart that no one else could fill.

14. He’s interested in your love life

Maybe he asked you if you have started dating yet or always brings up the person you’re dating.

However, aren’t you interested in his love life as well? All exes wonder who their ex is dating, and it’s only natural.

It doesn’t have to mean that he still loves you, but the way he does it will show you if he does.

Does he act competitive toward the person you’re dating? Maybe he makes weird comments?

If you sense that your ex is acting weird about you dating someone else, it’s probably because he misses you. It’s hard to generalize this, but you know your ex best, and I’m sure you’ll be able to tell whether he is just curious or still loves you.

15. He started drinking a lot

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

Some people think that alcohol can heal a broken heart. Of course, it can’t, and we all know that, but in those hard times, we still choose to believe otherwise.

Has your ex been going out and drinking a lot? It could be that he’s trying to forget you by drinking his sorrows away.

If you don’t know if he has been drinking, does he go out a lot? You’d think that going out is something a healed man does to meet new women, and this could be true.

Still, it could equally be true that he’s going out just to get drunk and forget about you. The best way to tell is by checking out the next sign – what he does when he drinks.

16. He calls you when he’s drunk

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

It’s very likely that your ex will drunk-dial you, like many exes do as soon as they get their hands on alcohol. Still, this sign is not something to be happy about.

Whatever he tells you when he’s drunk, you can’t believe that it’s really true. The only thing it proves is that he has been thinking about you and probably misses you.

However, does it mean that he loves you? Even if he says those words, you can’t know for sure because he’s drunk.

Maybe the drink gave him the courage to say what he would say sober, but it’s equally possible that it’s just the alcohol talking so whatever he tells you, he’ll need to repeat it when he’s sober.

Still, it gives you a great opportunity to call him the next morning and tell him what he told you. Ask him if he really thinks that when he’s sober and he’ll either blame it all on the alcohol or admit his true feelings.

Either way, he’ll have to come up with something once he’s sober and he’ll be hungover so he’ll probably go with the truth. You have nothing to lose, and he has plenty to explain.

Just don’t take seriously anything he tells you when he’s drunk, whatever it may be. Wait for the next morning, and you’ll find out what’s really on his mind.

17. He’s still always there for you

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

Maybe he still offers to help you with things or answers and comes over whenever you call to ask him to help you. So, perhaps he is such a good guy, but no one’s that good unless they still have love in their heart for the person they’re helping.

Actions mean much more than words, especially when it comes to men.

Is he still always there for you whenever you need him? Maybe he’s the first person you call when you have a problem or he offers his help without you asking.

Either way, it shows that he misses you and still cares about you deeply.

I’ve put this as the last sign because it’s the clearest one but rarely ever happens. If you have an ex who’s always there for you even though you broke up, it’s most likely that you’ll get back together again.

Now, the only question is, do you want to get back together with him? If he’s showing these signs, he wants to come back, and now it’s up to you whether you’ll give him another chance.

Good luck!

17 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You But Wants You Back

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