Think aloud
Maybe you didn’t love each other enough, there was infidelity involved, or you simply weren’t ready fyouor a serious commitment at the time. Whatever the reason was, you have broken up, and he seems to have moved on with his life. Sometimes an ex will come back, but other times, what’s done is done, and there are clear signs he will never come back.
Sometimes you will consider going back to him and wish things would be as they were before.
In these moments, everything that was wrong with your relationship and caused you to break up in the first place are put aside; your rationality is slowly waning because your heart just wants to love again.
But you have to ask yourself – has he changed? Could things really be better? Would he appreciate you this time around?
I am sure you know the answers to these questions.
Always remember that there is a reason you broke up and if things couldn’t work out the first time around and there are clear signs he’s over you, it’s time to leave the past where it belongs – behind you.
Keep in mind all the things that bothered you while you were with him. Surely there are things that you just couldn’t get over and trust me, they haven’t changed.
Are you really ready to listen to the lies and fake promises again? Do you really think he will suddenly become better at communicating?
Some bridges are supposed to burn, and it is the best option for both of you.
Sometimes, however, there could be signs he wants to get back together, and there is a chance that he will work harder to keep you around.
But if there are signs your ex will never come back, let him go, because if he doesn’t want to change, he definitely never will.
Returning your stuff, stopping all contact with you, looking away, and having a new woman in his life are all signs he will never come back because they show that he no longer believes in having a future with you, and your relationship is over.
So if he has moved on, why don’t you?
If you are desperately looking for subtle signs that he wants you back, you are just torturing yourself with the past and not allowing yourself to move on in the present and create a better future.
Even if he has moved on, if you want to see the signs that he regrets letting you go, you will find a way to notice them, because he is surely partly regretting that your relationship is over.
If he loves you, he will think about getting back together from time to time and show signs that he regrets breaking up with you.
But sometimes things that fell apart just can’t be fixed anymore.
Use the fact that he has moved on to move on as well.
Don’t fool yourself that there are signs that he wants you back but won’t admit it because no matter how true that is, if he doesn’t want to change and fight for you, he didn’t deserve you in the first place.
Even though men will often come back, sometimes that isn’t an option anymore, and he has decided to continue his life without you.
Maybe he is actually doing you a favor.
Don’t chase after him because women shouldn’t chase men, especially if it’s a question of exes, and it should be the other way around.
Here are some signs he will never come back:
1. He has found someone new
Finding out that he has already found someone new to love can be a huge hit to your ego, especially if it happened soon after you broke up.
Even if he still has some feelings toward you, those feelings are not the same, and it’s not the love you used to have.
All that’s left of that love is a shared past.
Let me tell you something from personal experience. My ex left me for another woman, and I was devastated.
I kept asking myself if he would ever come back to me. We were on and off before that, and no matter how bad things got, we would always get back together.
When he met another woman and started a relationship with her, it was one of the clear signs he would never come back again.
It was a heartbreaking moment for me because until then, there was always that hope that we would continue to get back with each other because we had a special bond that just couldn’t be broken.
Only once he finally started a relationship with someone else did we finally stop that crazy on-and-off relationship.
And let me tell you something; looking at what happened from this perspective, I am honestly grateful to that girl. Thanks to her, I am now happily married to the man I love.
If she hadn’t appeared in my ex’s life, we would probably still be in an on-and-off relationship until it completely drained us.
This way, I got the chance to find the love of my life, and the same thing will happen to you, so don’t be angry with his new girlfriend, if he has found someone new.
Thank her, because she is actually doing you a favor.
Sometimes, an ex comes back after dating someone else, but most often, it’s one of the signs that he is never coming back.
2. He returned your stuff
People who want to get back together will avoid returning their partner’s stuff. They will even use it to talk to the person they broke up with again.
But if he had no doubts about returning your stuff and has cleared his place of any reminder you were ever there, it is a clear sign that he no longer sees a future with you, there is no going back and he also has no doubts about letting you know that.
One of the signs that he wants you back but won’t admit it is if he is holding on to your things and avoids returning them.
He may even return them bit by bit because they are the only things that are still connecting you, and he wants to use them to see you and talk.
However, if he simply returned your stuff with no emotion and no discussion, and it was the only time you have talked since the break-up, he is determined to move on and wants to let you know that you will not be going back to his place ever again.
You might be tempted to say something like, “Keep it,” or, “Throw it away if you don’t want to have it anymore,” but this is just unnecessary drama that will only show your weakness toward him.
If he wants to go, let him go, and even help him pack and hold the door for him. You don’t need someone in your life who doesn’t want to be a part of it.
3. He is not contacting you
Subtle signs that he wants you back are those phone calls and messages you exchange, which still keep a connection between you two but when those stop, and he makes it obvious he doesn’t want to have any contact with you anymore, he has decided to move on, and you should let him.
Don’t humiliate yourself by calling him if he doesn’t want to talk to you.
When your ex stops all communication with you and cuts you off completely, it’s one of the signs that he is never coming back so you shouldn’t be asking yourself, “Will he ever come back to me?” and torturing yourself with similar questions.
4. He looks away
A man who doesn’t want to have anything with you anymore will avoid having eye contact with you so when he sees you on the street, he will look away.
He is ashamed of how things ended and doesn’t want you to try to fix it.
Perhaps he couldn’t stand to see the love you still have for him if he looked you in the eyes.
Don’t give him the pleasure of knowing how your eyes tear up when you see him.
5. He says he doesn’t love you anymore
There couldn’t be a more apparent sign that he will never come back than him saying these exact words.
If he tells you he doesn’t love you, maybe he is lying, but believe him and don’t let him hurt you again.
You don’t want to keep obsessing about someone who clearly doesn’t have feelings for you anymore.
Maybe he’s lying, but are you ready to risk it? Do you really want to get into a relationship with someone who claims he doesn’t love you anymore?
Accept that it’s one of the signs that he is never coming back and move on.
6. He avoids seeing you
If returning your stuff is the only time he wanted to see you and otherwise he is avoiding going to places he knows he could find you, make peace with the fact that your relationship is over.
He doesn’t want to see you because he doesn’t want to get back together. Right now, all he needs is to be away from you so he can figure things out.
It’s either that or he has made the decision never to get back together, but either way, you should stop torturing yourself with the question, “Will he ever come back to me?”
7. He is getting married
Having to deal with him being with someone else is tough enough, but if he is getting married to that person, it is over between you two, and you should stay calm and respect his choice.
Do exes ever come back after dating someone else?
After dating someone else, perhaps sometimes, but after getting married to someone else, not usually.
If your ex is happily married to someone else, you should lose all hope of getting back together because it’s one of the obvious signs that he is never coming back.
8. He avoids the people who know you
If he doesn’t want to have anything to do with your friends and family, he has cut you off entirely and doesn’t want to have anything to do with you anymore.
It’s not about him suddenly being rude, and he likely didn’t directly tell anyone that he didn’t want to see them anymore; he simply started to avoid all contact with those connected with you.
Even though those people might think they have done something wrong, it’s not about them.
The truth is, he couldn’t stand all the questions about you and your break-up or questions about if you will ever get back together.
He also doesn’t want any reminders of your relationship, and you and those who know you would only remind him of it all.
9. He is not jealous
Every man who wants to get back with his ex will show he’s jealous if she is seeing someone new. If he is not, he just doesn’t care anymore.
Men usually get jealous when they see their ex with someone else, so, if he was still at least a little interested in you, the thought of losing you to some other guy would upset him and make him jealous.
He would be tempted to get you back just because he doesn’t want anyone else to have you.
However, your ex isn’t showing any signs of jealousy.
Maybe he even saw you with someone else, or people told him that you’re dating someone new, but he didn’t react at all.
He doesn’t want to prevent you from dating again, and he doesn’t care that you have moved on.
Your ex won’t fight for you with other men or compete with them for your affections because he didn’t want them in the first place.
He doesn’t care whether you’re in a serious relationship or just trying to make him jealous and get even.
And that’s not all, because he even wishes you all the best when it comes to your future love life and he wants you to have a happy, healthy relationship with someone else.
10. He is not trying to win you back
If he wants to get back together, he will show it and work on it. If he is not trying to win you back, it is because he doesn’t want you back.
I know how hard it can be to accept this, but when a man is interested in you, he’ll chase after you and pursue you with everything he has.
Nothing will be able to stop him from doing so.
His effort shows how much you mean to him, so if he’s not trying to win you back, it’s one of the clear signs that he is never coming back.
11. He doesn’t respond when you flirt
If you try to make a move on this guy whenever you talk to him and do your best to look good for him, but he doesn’t fall for your tricks, you need to give up.
No matter how many great memories from your relationship you mention to him, he shows that he couldn’t care less.
You send out all sorts of flirty signals, but he doesn’t respond to them, and you never get the feedback you are hoping for.
Let’s face it, he simply doesn’t ever want to come back.
12. You don’t exist on his social media
All of us tend to post sad status updates and songs on our social media accounts when we’re heartbroken.
When a man is hurting after a break-up, he’ll most likely post a song that has a special meaning for the two of you, or he’ll post a deep quote that describes his emotional or mental state.
Of course, he will try to make it less obvious, but most people will get it anyway, especially you.
However, your ex doesn’t do this, and it’s one of the signs that he is never coming back.
That’s not all, because your ex even deleted all evidence from his social media that you ever were in his life, or has even blocked you.
He needed to delete all these traces so that he could definitely move on and prove to you that he’s not coming back.
13. He cheated on you and doesn’t feel guilty
If your ex dated someone else while in a relationship with you, you shouldn’t even want him back.
If the two of you broke up because he cheated on you, it surely broke your heart, but how did he feel? Was he sorry because he cheated or because he got caught?
If he didn’t feel guilty at all, didn’t even say he was sorry and pretended like nothing happened, you shouldn’t be wondering, “Will he ever come back?” because you shouldn’t want him back.
All the excuses he told you are just that – excuses. It’s not just that it’s one of the signs he will never come back, but a sign that he never even loved you in the first place.
14. You cheated on him and hurt him badly
Maybe he didn’t cheat on you, but you cheated on him, and that’s the reason you broke up.
This doesn’t mean that you don’t have the right to want him to come back, but it could mean he isn’t coming back.
It’s true that mistakes happen, and if you’re genuinely sorry for what you did, you could get another chance.
However, if you hurt him badly and broke his trust, he probably doesn’t want to give you a second chance.
Maybe he loved you wholeheartedly, but you broke his trust and his heart by cheating on him.
He doesn’t think that he could ever trust you again no matter how sorry you are, so he’s probably never coming back.
15. He used the worst break-up line
Did he break up with you by saying, “It’s not you, it’s me,”?
That is the worst break-up line ever, and it usually means that the relationship is definitely over forever.
I know that you have a need to fix things, but if he told you that it’s not you, but him, he wanted to tell you that he doesn’t want you to fix it, and it’s simply not possible.
The reason the two of you broke up is him, not you, and you can’t change him, no matter how ready you are to change yourself.
This isn’t a challenge, but one of the signs that he is never coming back, and you need to accept that.
The line, “It’s not you, it’s me,” is there to let the person know that there is no hope of ever getting back together; it’s simply over.
16. He told you that you need to move on
He is losing his patience with you, and you don’t have meaningful conversations anymore.
You don’t talk about salvaging the relationship or about your future together.
It looks like he’s moving on, and the day comes when he tells you that you need to do the same.
Perhaps he’s just tired, whether it’s of seeing how much you’re hurting because of him, or of your efforts to get him to come back.
All he wants is for you to move on, and you definitely should.
I know how much it hurts to hear that someone you care deeply about doesn’t feel the same way about you anymore, but isn’t it worse to spend a lot of your precious time wondering if he will ever go back to you?
Life is too short to waste your time hoping he’ll come back one day when he just wants you to move on and find happiness elsewhere.
You need to focus on yourself, emotionally, mentally, and physically.
Go out there and do the things you love doing, instead of giving yourself false hope that one day he’ll come back to you.
There will be other men, and you’ll one day realize that him not coming back to you is a gift. You now have the chance to find the true love of your life, you just need to move on first.
