Is your boyfriend the jealous type? Has he accused you of being a cheater just for having male friends? It’s not hard to guess if he is a jealous person if he does things like this on a regular basis.
He likes you very much and wants to be the only guy in your life. That could make him clingy, but possessiveness is a whole other topic.
You need to look out for the early warning signs of jealous behavior and that is why I will tell you about all the signs he is jealous. You should know that unhealthy jealousy is caused by low self-esteem.
He will play hard to get and flirt with other women, but as soon as you talk to a guy friend, he shows signs of jealousy.
Wanting to be the only guy you love is great, but possessiveness is a red flag. His jealous behavior will show in text messages as well and he is probably also stalking your social media.
You can’t have a guy friend without being accused of being a cheater. There are many signs he is jealous and possessive, and the sooner you see the red flags, the better.
His self-esteem is probably hurt because some ex cheated on him, and now he has become a jealous guy.
If you were wondering how to tell if a guy is jealous, this article is for you but if he is showing signs he is jealous and possessive, his unhealthy behavior will drive you crazy.
I had a jealous boyfriend whose low self-esteem caused him to do a lot of bad things, including harming my self-esteem. Every little thing I would do would cause suspicion in him.
So, if it turns out that you have a jealous boyfriend, read these signs he is jealous but hiding it. They will show you what you will have to put up with, so you can decide if it is worth it.
20 subtle signs he is jealous because he likes you
Get ready because I am going to tell you about all the signs he is jealous as well as how to tell if a guy is jealous over text.
I am sure that he loves you and that his jealousy is a part of his love, but don’t tolerate just about anything.
Some behavior is unacceptable and he has to work on his trust issues, otherwise you’ll have to deal with his jealous outbursts for as long as you two are together.
That won’t be very long unless he puts effort into changing his behavior. There is no room for that much jealousy in a happy relationship so read on and find out if he really is that jealous.
Signs he is jealous but hiding it
1. He doesn’t like it when you talk about someone else
When you talk with excitement about something that happened with your co-worker or a male friend, he won’t like it.
He will respond by gasping and making faces, which are body language signs of jealousy and it will make you feel like you have done a bad thing.
Next time you talk to him about some other guy, make sure you pay attention to his body language.
If he is the jealous type, he will show signs of jealousy at the very mention of some other guy’s name.
It might happen that he even gets jealous if you’re talking about a female friend or co-worker; anyone who takes your attention off of him is a threat to him.
2. He plays hard to get
Your jealous boyfriend might start acting strangely for no apparent reason. Keep in mind that his wish for you to chase him is another sign of jealousy.
Being with a jealous guy isn’t easy, and he will be suspicious of every little thing you do. He will need you to prove your love for him on a regular basis.
If you have done something that he didn’t like, he will act strangely instead of talking to you about it, which is one of the signs he is jealous but hiding it.
He will choose to act like he is over you just so you could try to win him over again. Don’t believe him when he acts like this, because it’s only a method of a jealous person to get you to prove you care.
3. He gets paranoid when you go out
Spending time away from your boyfriend will make him jealous. It’s one thing when he gets sad because you are going out without him but a whole other thing is when he tries to stop you from having a life outside of your relationship.
If he gets paranoid when you go out and thinks that you are going to be unfaithful to him, it’s one of the signs a guy is jealous and likes you.
The fact that he can’t control what you do when you go out makes him nervous and that’s because he is afraid of losing you.
But as I said, it’s okay when a guy is clingy and that is the reason why he doesn’t like it when you go out but it’s a whole other thing if he is certain that you are going to flirt with your male friends.
He has to understand that spending time away from each other is necessary for a healthy relationship but you have to trust each other enough to be okay with it.
4. He shows up unexpectedly when you’re with friends
As I said earlier, it’s healthy for you two to have a life outside of your relationship but when he shows up unexpectedly when you’re with friends just to make sure you won’t flirt, it’s unhealthy.
If you were wondering how to tell if a guy is jealous, there’s your answer. Showing up to check on you is one of the signs a guy is jealous and likes you. He could even be jealous of you for having friends to hang out with.
The jealous type of guy will want to keep an eye on you at all times. If he could, he would watch every move you make and put a tracking device on your phone.
Little things like showing up at the places where you hang out with friends are red flags. These telltale signs will warn you that you are dealing with a jealous partner.
5. He gets upset when others give you compliments
It’s not that he thinks it isn’t true that you’re beautiful, it’s just that he wants to be the only one who will tell you that.
You will see the warning signs when your boyfriend starts getting upset when others compliment you and it’s one of the signs a guy is jealous and likes you. He is so scared that someone is going to take you away from him that he sees it in every compliment you get.
According to him, there’s no reason for someone else to compliment you besides wanting to get into your pants. This shows that he has major trust issues that he needs to work on.
You are a beautiful woman and it should be perfectly fine when others notice it too.
6. He doesn’t like any of your friends
Sure, your boyfriend may not like all of your friends but when it comes to this guy, he doesn’t like any of them.
This is one of the clear signs he is jealous. He doesn’t want to share you with anyone and that is why none of your friends is good enough in his opinion.
He will badmouth them and keep you away from them until you have no more friends. It might not be that serious in your case but it was in mine. Jealous men want to isolate you.
My ex hated everyone I was friends with or wanted to be friends with so I gave up and dedicated myself to him. Once we broke up, I didn’t have anyone. That’s one of the reasons why I kept going back to him.
So, don’t make the same mistake I did, and don’t give up your friends for him.
7. He stalks your social media
Don’t be surprised when your boyfriend asks you about a comment from some random guy on one of your social media profiles.
God forbid that any guy would give you a ‘you’re beautiful’ comment on your picture. You might not even know who that guy is, but in your boyfriend’s mind, that guy will become your lover.
That guy is a threat to him as someone who wants to take you away from him but that isn’t how a normal person thinks.
So, be sure that he will use any chance he gets to go through your profiles and he will even try to read your messages which will cause him to start a huge fight about some conversation you had with another guy.
8. He wants to make all your decisions for you
Some signs are very clear, but there are more subtle signs like this one. It’s perfectly natural for a guy to want to be involved in making decisions that concern you as a couple but when he wants to make all the decisions for you and make up your mind about something, it’s one of the signs he is jealous.
That controlling behavior is unacceptable. He may also go mad if you do something without telling him first… Those subtle signs stop being so subtle. You shouldn’t let him control your life like that.
If you didn’t know it, you have every right to do things without telling him. Some decisions concern you and you only.
9. He makes fun of the things you like
When your boyfriend is negative about the things you like, it’s one of the signs he is jealous. For example, if you love opera, he will make fun of it.
That’s jealousy in its purest form. It’s somehow threatening to him if you have a hobby, and he doesn’t. But if he has a hobby, he sees you as competition. Relationships shouldn’t work that way.
Your boyfriend should be supportive and understanding of your hobbies, not jealous because you have them. If in addition he makes fun of your accomplishments, this guy has a serious problem.
You don’t have to take that from him. Either he will change or you will find someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved.
10. He wants to ruin your self-esteem
This might seem psychotic to you, but your guy might be trying to tank your self-esteem. He won’t hesitate to call you names and make you believe that you are not good enough.
His goal is to make you believe that nobody else but him will ever want you. My ex was an expert at this. He seriously made me believe that no one would ever love me and that I would accomplish nothing.
It took a lot of time and a lot of effort from my husband so I could get back to normal. This kind of thing is one of the toxic signs he is jealous.
Don’t let him convince you that you are worthless. He is the one who is insecure and convinced that no one will ever love him so he’s projecting his own fears onto you.
11. He wants to know all of your passwords
It’s great when you are so comfortable in a relationship that you have no secrets. Still, this guy has an ulterior motive for wanting to know your passwords.
Stalking your profiles and checking your phone when you can’t see it isn’t enough for him anymore; now he wants to get access to know about everyone who tries to contact you.
Trust me, that will cause a lot of fights so don’t give him your passwords and tell him that he needs to trust you more. If he can’t do that, then this relationship is already doomed. Set boundaries before he puts a GPS on you.
12. He tries to make you jealous
You aren’t allowed to talk to other men, but you will catch him flirting with other women; he is trying to make you feel what he feels.
His attempts to make you jealous are crazy, but they work, don’t they? This way, when you confront him about talking to another girl, he can just remind you about the time you talked to another man.
The way you feel now is the way he felt then, and he won’t miss a chance to point that out.
However, it’s not only that he wants to make you jealous; this guy thinks he has the right to do the things you aren’t allowed to do. You two will never be equal in a relationship and it’s simply because he is that jealous.
13. He shows off and acts tough
The tough guy act is nothing new to your boyfriend. In fact, when he walks into a room, he has that ‘anyone have a problem?’ attitude.
But the funny thing is, he is the only one with problems and serious ones for that matter.
That cocky attitude makes him feel like a man when, in reality, he isn’t tough at all.
He is actually a very insecure guy and this is his way to hide that fact. It’s also one of the signs he is jealous because, with this behavior, he is trying to scare away his opponents. Like watching the Animal Channel, isn’t it?
14. He tags along wherever you go
This guy wants to be by your side at all times. That might sound romantic, but in this case, it really isn’t. He actually just wants to keep an eye on you and make sure you don’t do anything you shouldn’t.
Still, since you could expect such a guy to forbid you from going anywhere, tagging along isn’t so bad. His jealousy, however, is very bad and he needs to work on it.
Do you want to be walked on a leash for the rest of your life? If you don’t do something about it, you might well be.
15. He makes you feel guilty
Do you feel guilty all the time? Even when you know you haven’t done anything wrong, you still somehow feel guilty and this is because his paranoid thoughts that you are cheating on him have gotten into your head.
Maybe you talked politely to another man and now you can’t help but feel guilty because you know he would freak out about it. Still, try not to forget that he is the only one who sees something wrong with that.
You have the right to talk to anyone you want, and why would you feel guilty for being polite? Even a little casual flirting should be fine in a relationship as long as it’s clear that it’s just that but your man sees a threat in everyone you talk to and that is making you feel guilty about talking to other men. Remember that you haven’t done anything wrong, it’s all about his jealousy.
How to tell if a guy is jealous over text
16. He stops texting to show you he’s upset
If you were wondering how to tell if a guy is jealous over text, one of the signs he is jealous but hiding it is when he stops texting.
This applies if you two usually communicate through texting and he cuts you off because he’s upset. My ex would do this to me all the time.
When he would get mad about something I did, or at least he thought I did, he’d stop all communication.
No matter how many apologetic text messages I would send him, he wouldn’t budge. It’s the phone version of the silent treatment, and it’s annoying as hell!
17. He freaks out when you don’t respond
How to tell if a guy is jealous over text is easy. Just try not responding to his texts. That will drive him crazy if he is showing signs he is jealous.
It’s especially true if you’re not responding while you’re out with friends. He will be so jealous that he might even try to come and find you to see what you’re doing.
You have to understand that when you aren’t responding, he’s picturing the worst scenarios. The worst scenario in his mind is that you are too busy cheating on him to respond.
No matter how insane that sounds, it’s what he thinks when he can’t reach you.
18. He texts you all the time when you go out
What are you doing? Who’s there? Are you drunk? How many people are there? Did you dance with someone?
If these questions are familiar to you, then you already know about these signs that he is jealous. When you’re out with friends, he will text you all the time to check on you.
You going out without him is his worst nightmare. Since he has such major trust issues, he will have the need to check up on you constantly.
He is picturing you drunk, dancing with random men and forgetting about him.
19. He wants you to report to him
When the question, “How was your day?” turns into, “Where did you go and with whom?” you’re in trouble. Your boyfriend wants you to report to him, which is one of the signs he is jealous.
All those paranoid questions are actually telltale signs that your boyfriend is one of the jealous ones.
Your texts have turned into detailed information about your whereabouts. Relationships shouldn’t be like that, and he will have to learn to trust you more.
20. He sometimes blows up your phone
He will be blowing up your phone when you’re with some other guy and it will even happen that he starts a fight over texts just to keep your attention.
You can’t cheat on him while you’re texting, can’t you? That is why he is trying to start a fight. My ex would do that all the time, and actually, most of the fights we had were through texts.
That’s his way of keeping you occupied. He will ruin every night out you have without him and that was his intention in the first place.