Think aloud
Let me guess. You’re lying down, scrolling through your phone, and asking yourself, “Oh God, should I follow my crush on Instagram? What if he ignores me? Or maybe he’ll text me?? I don’t know what to do!”
I know you’re very nervous. You’re probably second-guessing even the thought of clicking on that Instagram icon. You’re looking at it, and it’s staring right back at you.
There’s no need to be worried. Want to know why? Because I’m here. And I’ll help you figure out how to make the right move. But let’s not stop there. Let’s make him fall in love with you.
It’s easy peasy lemon squeezy, trust me…
Should I follow my crush on Instagram? It’s the right time if…
Okay, I promised to help you figure out if you’re taking the right step or not. It sure is what you want to do, but we just need to find out when the right time is to follow your crush on Instagram.
Well, let me provide you with some situations where it’s fine to click that “follow” button.
1. You’re constantly stalking his profile
Do you agree that when someone catches our eye, the first thing we do is usually check their Instagram profile? We do that in the hopes it will tell us more about the person. It usually does. And what happens if we like what we see there? Correct! We continue stalking their IG.
If you’re reading this article, then I guess it’s happened to you too.
You probably started checking up on his profile more often than you know is “normal.” And if you’ve caught yourself visiting his Insta every single day or even multiple times per day, you might as well just follow your crush at that point.
If you really like him, but you’re not friends IRL, it doesn’t really matter. Shoot your shot. Give him that “you have a new follower” notification. I bet he’ll like what he sees.
2. You already know each other in real life
I don’t mean that the two of you have to be very good friends, but if you’re at least aware of each other’s existence, then following them shouldn’t be a problem. It’s obvious that you’re aware of his, now you just need to determine if he’s familiar with your face or name.
If he already knows who you are, there’s no need for you to worry. He won’t feel weirded out when he sees you’ve followed him out of the blue. Since you’re friends, acquaintances, or he’s at least heard of you before, following him on IG shouldn’t be anything strange.
If he has no idea who you are, he might be a bit confused by your action. But don’t let this discourage you. You can still follow him. It might even make him scroll down your profile to find out who’s the girl behind that profile picture of yours.
3. You have lots of mutual friends
How did you find out about him? Is he a friend of a friend? Maybe you go to the same school or gym? Whatever it is, it’s best if you have some mutual friends. Why am I saying this?
Because it’s one of the easiest ways to blend into his list of followers. The more mutual friends you have, the safer it is to follow your crush on Instagram.
He might not even know who you are, but when he sees how many people there are that you both follow, he’ll see you as a real person, not just some random follower. And then, he’ll probably give you a follow back.
Trust me, this works perfectly. You can even add a few people that you know if you saw them on his profile. Just to make those numbers a bit bigger. To this day, I’ve always been followed back by the people I have many mutual friends with (just saying!)
4. He asked you about your profile
I know there are many of us who are a bit shy when it comes to social media. We overthink everything. From posting stories to following people. And imagine what happens when it’s time to follow our crush on Instagram.
I get you, this is your safe space. It might feel scary, but it’s a pretty simple thing to do.
Especially if…
He asked for your Instagram??? Girl, hear me out, if he’s already asked about your Insta in some way shape, or form, then I don’t know what you’re waiting for. You have the perfect excuse to follow him so you better stop wondering “should I follow my crush on Instagram”!
Let’s look at the facts. You say that your crush already asked you something about your social media accounts. Why would he do that unless he hopes you’ll follow him? Would you ever show interest in someone’s username if you didn’t fancy that person at all? No?
So go ahead and do it. There’s no need for you to second guess. Just hit that follow already!
5. You already have him on some social media
You’re telling me that you already have his number or you’re friends on Facebook and you’re still wondering “should I follow my crush on Instagram”? Then why are you making such a big deal about following him on Instagram? It’s not much different.
If you ask me, Instagram is the best app to make someone notice you. You’re never gonna go to Whatsapp and try figuring out what’s going on in his life from the profile picture he’s had for the past 6 months. Or Facebook, which he probably only uses for staying in touch with his family.
On the other hand, Instagram is the place where you’ll be able to see what he’s interested in, where he’s at, who his friends are, and much more useful information. So if you already have him as a friend somewhere else, stop waiting and add him on Insta too.
6. You feel it’s the right thing to do
All this talk was the introduction to the most important advice I have for you. Listen to yourself!
You might think that that’s a phrase you’ve heard tons of times before, but trust me, it’s true. While reading this, you’ve probably gotten enough strength to finally do it, or you realized you’re not ready yet. (I believe it was the first option, am I right?)
Whatever you choose, it’s important that you’re happy with this decision. If you want to take more time, that’s fine. But I want to tell you that you probably don’t need time. You’re thinking about him and researching the best tactics, which means that you really want to follow your crush on Instagram.
Sometimes fear likes to mess with your head and makes you feel like you’re not ready for something. But if you listen to your heart, you’ll realize that there’s only one life. And why shouldn’t you try to fulfill your wishes and make thousands of memories?
What’s the worst that could happen? Him not following you back? His loss. (But I’m sure he’s also waiting for your name to pop up.)
So, don’t be afraid. Go get him, girl!
5 ways to make him follow you back
Let’s say you’ve stopped asking questions like “Should I follow my crush on Instagram?” And you actually took the plunge. Yay! Congrats! I’m proud of you.
Well, now that you’re following him, we need to make sure he’ll click that “follow back” button. I promised that the steps we’ve already talked about are easy, right? See, I’m always telling the truth.
So trust me when I say, that the next steps are even easier. Let’s take a look at them together.
1. Make your profile public
There’s an unspoken rule that if you want to gain more followers, you need to have a public profile. My profile was set to private, I had a few new followers from time to time, but that was it. It was always someone I already knew in person.
Then, one day I decided to make it public. I got tons of new followers. Even the guys I used to fancy and wished they would have added me.
That’s how I realized that not many users would want to follow an Instagram account where they can’t see your photos that show your face. It makes following you quite tricky because they don’t know who’s behind that little profile picture.
It’s not a good choice to have a private profile, with only a few pictures, if you want to follow your crush. Because he might even think your account is fake.
Think about it, why would they request to follow you back? In my opinion, nothing you post on social media is that well hidden, so having a private profile doesn’t mean your privacy is safe.
So, if you want your crush to follow you on Instagram, change your account from private to public.
2. Make your profile interesting
Don’t be the same as everyone else. Endlessly posting stories from the vacation you’ve been to a few years ago. Sharing daily selfies (which are all practically the same). Only body-fishing people.
There’s no need for your profile to be full of pictures of you in a bikini. Of course, you can post that also. But share something that says more about you as a person.
Maybe your favorite hobby, graduation ceremony, or latest project – whatever shows your crush how unique you are.
3. Use your mutual friends
Use your mutual friends whenever you can. How? Okay, hear me out.
Your mutual friend posted a new picture on Instagram. Comment on that photo. Write something about how you miss them, and you need to go out soon. Or compliment that friend, but something over the top. So it’s noticeable.
It will give the impression that you two are very close. And why is that important? Because your crush is bound to see it. And then, he will definitely want to check your IG profile out.
P.S. Do it only if you really like this person. Don’t mess with the people you’re not a fan of.
4. Like one of his old photos
If he still hasn’t followed you back, you can try this. Liking an older post is an old trick, but it still works. If you want to make sure he definitely notices you, try this. It’s a way to let him know that you’re interested.
Maybe he wasn’t intentionally ignoring you. So, as soon as he receives the notification of someone liking one of his older posts, he will most likely visit your account and follow you back.
5. Be yourself
The last tip I have for you is to always be yourself. Don’t post something you’re not interested in just to grab his attention. It’s okay to use these tricks, but be sure to always show who you really are. Because that’s the whole point, right?
Stay true to yourself. I’m sure he’ll like you even if you don’t know anything about his favorite club or movie. In fact, you’ll have many topics to talk about.
5 ways to make him fall for you using Instagram
Congrats! Now the two of you are following each other. It’s time for your final move – making him fall for you.
I prepared these 5 effective tips for you. Are you ready to make him crazy about you? Yes? Then what are you waiting for?
1. Leave a comment or a few likes
This is the safest way to start. And if you’re too shy to text him that soon, it’s a great start.
Always like whatever he posts. I know you’re probably checking his profile multiple times a day. And you have the biggest chance to be the first one to see his new post. But don’t always be the first “like” he gets.
Balance it. Be the first, then be the last, but make sure that your name is always there in his notifications.
Then if he likes a few of your posts, you can even comment something on his picture. That’s how you’ll surprise him and be on his mind the whole day. Especially after your first comment.
Just a word of caution: Never comment on every post!
2. Occasionally reply to his story
Are the two of you already familiar with each other? You’ve been liking or maybe even commenting on the pictures you share. Then it’s completely fine to reply to his story from time to time.
Reply only to those stories you really like, or when he’s shared something you’re interested in. That’s how you’ll make sure your reply isn’t pointless and you’ll know how to write something that actually makes sense.
Don’t do it too often. Make sure that it’s enough for him to remember and get familiar with you. But not too much so you seem like a desperate girl waiting for him to post a new story.
3. Slide into his DMs
Okay, now that you’ve already replied to a story or two, you’re probably ready for the next step. Sliding into his DMs.
The same rules apply to this. Do it, but never overdo it! You can start by asking him something you’ve seen on his profile. Maybe you’ve seen that he went to the cinema and watched that movie you’ve really been meaning to see. Ask him if he would recommend that movie.
Or maybe the two of you support the same club. Write something about that after a game, or the end of the season. Trust me, you have tons of options. There’s no need to be afraid. Just don’t start texting him every day.
4. Grab his attention
If you want your crush to follow you back on Instagram, you need to grab his attention somehow. He needs to notice your posts and stories, and stay interested in what you’re sharing.
Instagram’s algorithm is set up in a way that it mostly connects you with people you have similar interests with. Let’s say you’re into movies but your crush is interested in sports. And if you both post a lot about those topics, you probably won’t end up on each other’s home pages a lot. So get to know him!
No, I’m not suggesting you lie about your interests. I’m just telling you to figure out a few things the two of you have in common. Then, when you find it, use it to catch his attention.
Maybe you saw him post that Bastille song you really like. Great, you both seem to be fans! Wait for a few days, then share something similar. But be careful not to overdo it. You don’t want to make it too obvious.
5. Don’t involve your friends!
I know you probably want to talk about him the whole day. It’s totally fine and cute. It makes you want to sing Love Is In The Air all day.
But be careful. And no, I’m not saying you should keep quiet. You’re free to talk and tell your friends about your new crush. But warn them to be careful.
You know how it goes, you tell them who he is, and they go to his Instagram profile… Oh, a public profile! Then they look at his photos, scroll down to check his trip to Dubai in 2018, and then boom. One of them accidentally likes his picture!
Then the only thing you can do is hope she removed it before he was able to see it. If he saw it, then he might be a bit creeped out. He’ll wonder why your friends are stalking him, and what is it that you’ve told them.
So don’t risk it.
And now we’ve reached the end. Thank you for trusting me. I hope you’ll never have to ask yourself whether you should follow your crush on Instagram again!
