Think aloud
Leave him alone, he will come back.
After years of loving someone and making sure that they always felt safe next to you, it has come to an end.
Love wasn’t enough to keep you two together and you have broken up.
Your heart has shattered into pieces and the only thing you can think about is getting him back, because his absence hurts.
It hurts to think that those arms won’t hold you anymore. It hurts that you won’t feel his lips on yours ever again.
You want him to come back to you! You’re ready to forgive and forget, but what if he isn’t? Should you confront him and tell him how you feel?
Leave him alone, he will come back
Does that even make sense? To leave someone and let them experience life to know that they should return to you?
Maybe it’s blind optimism, but it’s worth a shot!
People always say your ex will miss you and he’ll make the first move if you go out and live your own life.
However, what do you have to do for that to happen? What can you do to make him regret losing you?
1. Don’t be the first one to contact him
If you contact him right after you have broken up, his only thought can be that you are still clinging on to him.
I know that it’s hard, but don’t be the first one to contact him.
Your fingers will tingle with the need to dial his number or send him a text, but don’t do it.
Leave him alone, he will come back. He will realize how much he misses you in your absence.
He will wonder why you’re not contacting him and he will make the first move. Just don’t rush it.
2. Don’t try to stay friends with him
The worst thing a person can do after a breakup is try to stay friends with their ex.
Of course, your ex can be your friend sometime in the future. Right now, you both need some time alone.
You have to stay away from each other, because otherwise, he won’t feel like he has actually lost you yet.
He will then wonder why you refused to stay friends with him and your absence will move him to action.
If you do decide to stay friends with him, he won’t feel like something is missing in his life.
You will still talk and text and you don’t want that. You want him to come back to you and realize how much he needs you.
3. Be open to new experiences
Breakups bring us all to a point where we have self-deprecating thoughts that won’t let us get out of bed in the morning.
What if I told you that it won’t bring him back?
If he doesn’t see how much you’re enjoying your life without him, he won’t try to contact you. Leave him alone, he will come back.
However, unless he sees that you have a life of your own, he’ll just think that you’re stuck feeling pity for yourself. Instead, be open to new experiences.
Go out with your friends to places that you never thought you would. Go have dinner with your family.
Try out things that scared you before and show him that you can actually have fun without him.
4. Get back on the dating scene
When you’re still trying to get over a breakup, the last thing you feel like doing is getting back on the dating scene.
However, if you don’t even consider it, your ex will think that you are still waiting for him so he can come back whenever he wants.
Do you really believe that he’s staying celibate after your breakup? Sorry to break it to you, but he isn’t.
Leave him alone, he will come back. You will realize this once you see how jealous he becomes when he finds out you’ve been dating.
At least flirt with other men, because at this point, they will boost your self-confidence. Flirt with them and see what happens. At least give it a chance.
5. Don’t respond when he does reach out to you
You might think of me as mad, but believe me when I tell you that it does work.
If he texts you for the first time since your breakup, then it means that he misses you.
You shouldn’t jump at the first chance to talk to him.
You will seem too available and he will know that he can have you whenever he wants. Ignore his texts. Ignore his calls.
Make him think that you are living your life fully and he can’t interrupt that anymore.
This will prove to you that when you leave him alone, he will come back.
6. Work on yourself
You are a gorgeous, beautiful, and strong woman. When you leave him alone, he will come back, because he will miss having that beauty next to him.
However, working on yourself means that you have to work on yourself in every aspect.
Start eating healthily again and leave the post-breakup ice cream for some other time.
Wear the clothes you feel most confident in, especially if they were clothes you couldn’t wear while you were with him.
Show him how gorgeous you actually are and that he has lost all that beauty. He’ll come back to you when you remind him of how attractive you are.
Of course, looks aren’t everything and you shouldn’t put all your worth into your physical appearance.
It’s just the icing on the gorgeous cake that is yourself.
You are so much more than that. However, your physical appearance is also very important.
7. Start a new hobby
Do whatever it takes to seem unavailable to him.
When you leave him alone, he will come back because your life will seem so exciting that he will want to be a part of it again.
Your entire focus shouldn’t be on getting him back. Finding new hobbies and living your life to the fullest might help you realize that you don’t need him.
You will feel better than you ever have before and getting back together with your ex might not even be on your agenda anymore.
8. Don’t wait for him
This is the best option. In life and love in general, it’s best to work on yourself and focus on your own achievements. If he wants to come back to you, he will.
Leave him alone, he will come back to you. Don’t just sit around and wait for him to come back, though, because it’ll just hurt more.
Make sure that you are happy with yourself and if he does decide to come back to you, you’ll be ready.
You can show him that you will be happy with or without him and he will want you back before you even realize he’s actually gone.
Don’t worry. Be a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it. He will admire that and come back to you!
