Think aloud
Sometimes, we make too many excuses for someone who actually isn’t that great and we don’t know when it’s time to walk away.
We convince ourself that their soul is genuinely sincere and that their bad behavior will pass.
Over and over again, we keep forgiving them for the things that they’ve done, not realizing that we’re only making it harder for ourself.
Your man’s behavior crosses the line of toxicity and as time passes, it all gets worse.
But somehow, you keep hoping that he’ll change and that you’ll be able to salvage your relationship.
The sad truth is that when people don’t want to change and seek help, their behavior only gets worse.
They see that you’re allowing them to treat you badly, so there seems no reason for them to change.
You’re not speaking up so why should he think about making a difference in his behavior? That’s how it works.
But what are some of the things you should never let your man do to you?
What is he supposed to do for you to say that you’ve had enough and that it’s time to walk away?
1. He’s not supportive
Have you ever felt like your actions are never appreciated by your man? Has he been unable to express his support when you needed it the most?
If the answers to these questions are both yes, then I want to tell you that this behavior isn’t acceptable.
It’s not something he’ll change if he keeps repeating it over and over again.
Sometimes you simply need him to tell you that things are going to be all right and that he’s there for you.
But it seems that those words will never be able to come out of his mouth.
No matter how much you’re struggling, you always fail to receive a word of support from him.
And trust me, if you have to ask him for it then he’s not worth it.
The truth is that no matter how hard you try, he’ll always act the same way. He doesn’t care about your feelings and that’ll never change.
2. He acts like the victim all the time
Every time you face an issue, he acts like he’s the one who’s hurt most by it. He always acts like the victim, even if you tell him that he’s not right.
This toxic behavior will slowly suffocate you and you’ll feel like you’re wasting your energy.
You’ll keep explaining to him that things aren’t the way he sees them but it’ll feel like you’re talking to a brick wall.
If he doesn’t care about what he did or how he made you feel but instead he keeps convincing you that he’s the one who’s been hurt, leave him.
It’s time to walk away.
Walk away from him before it’s too late, as people like this never change. They always try to make the situation work in their favor.
And trust me, by doing that, he’ll make you feel stupid and you’ll have to stop for a second to ask yourself what’s going on.
It’ll feel like the two of you aren’t looking at the same thing, as he’ll keep creating his own version of the story and you’ll be surprised by his words.
3. He doesn’t respect your boundaries
We all have boundaries and they differ from person to person, but the important thing is that your partner should always respect them.
If you find yourself in a relationship where you constantly need to explain your boundaries, you should walk away immediately because things could get worse.
When he doesn’t respect your boundaries, it means that he doesn’t respect you.
And you should never be with someone who has no respect for you, as that’s the thing that comes right after love.
If your partner keeps telling you that your opinions are wrong and that you shouldn’t cherish your beliefs, know that he’ll never change.
Once he does this, he’ll never know how to stop, and he’ll always try to convince you that your boundaries are over the top and too much.
4. He fails to understand that his behavior is hurting you
If you’ve noticed that your partner doesn’t understand that his behavior is hurting you, the first thing you should do is openly tell him how that makes you feel.
If he keeps making the same mistake even after you warn him, then it’s a clear sign that it’s time to walk away from him.
Toxic people usually believe that they’re always right and they have trouble listening to what other people may have to say.
So, whenever you tell him that he hurt you, he’ll fail to understand why.
Like a broken record, he’ll keep telling you his own version of the story without any wish to listen to what you’re telling him.
Trust me, if he doesn’t try to make a change after the first time you try to explain some things to him, he won’t change later in the future.
5. He makes you feel like you’re never right
Have you ever felt like whatever you do doesn’t seem enough?
It always seems to him that there’s something that you could’ve done better, even though you gave your best.
This behavior is also toxic and it’ll forever remain like that.
You may do your best to prove to your partner that what he’s saying isn’t right but he’ll always fail to listen to you.
You could scream the words out of your lungs but he’ll never be able to hear what you’re saying.
He’ll have his own path and he’ll never stray from it. You’ll try to show him that his road is taking him in the wrong direction but it’ll be in vain.
Toxic people have their own vision in their head and no matter how much you struggle to prove to them that they’re wrong, it’ll simply never change.
When toxicity overtakes someone’s mind, it’s hard to escape from it. As long as they don’t see an issue, there’s no way for them to change their behavior.
So, if your man shows any of the signs of this behavior, it’s time to walk away from him and save yourself from the bad life that it’ll bring you.
If he’s not willing to change now, he won’t be willing to change in the future!
