Think aloud
The moment you locked eyes with this Sag guy, you knew he’d be your biggest mistake. You’re no stranger to complicated relationships so you didn’t think twice when he asked you out on a date. Unsurprisingly, now you’re wondering how to know if a Sagittarius man is playing you.
You were under the impression he was completely and utterly fascinated by you from the moment you met. After all, he listens to your every word with such dedication, takes mental notes of the silly little things you mention, and makes you feel heard and appreciated.
But, it didn’t take you long to realize you’re not the only woman who feels that way in his presence. Unfortunately for you, Sagittarius men are known for being social butterflies and enjoying pleasurable interactions with other people. It’s in their nature to make you feel like the only woman in the world!
It’s no surprise you’re wondering whether the two of you are on the same page. You initially thought you were headed down the serious relationship path, but now you’re not sure if he has the same intentions. So, how can you know if this Sagittarius man is playing you?
First things first, lose the rose-colored glasses! You’ll never figure him out if you’re too busy drooling over his picture-perfect facade.
Believe it or not, Sagittarius men are pretty straightforward once you see them for who they really are. You’ll blow his good guy cover in no time!
Understanding a Sagittarius man
If you’re trying to get to the bottom of a Sagittarius man’s intentions, good luck. There’s a reason this sign is known as the roamer of the zodiac. Sag guys are free spirits who value their independence more than anything in the world.
This archer prides himself on his intense personality.
He’s extremely extroverted, enjoys meeting new people, and charming them with his addictive sense of humor and compelling nature. You wouldn’t be the first victim of a Sag man’s carefree flirting spree!
Sadly, this zodiac sign is one of the most narcissistic people you’ll ever cross paths with.
A Sagittarius man loves being in the center of attention, as well as being praised and admired for everything he does. You shouldn’t be surprised if you find out his intentions aren’t as genuine as you initially thought they were.
His reputation precedes him. A Sagittarius man is infamous for being a devout opponent of commitment. He loves the thrill of the chase but doesn’t have any interest in extending the efforts once he gets what he wants.
Not only that, this man is no stranger to having multiple partners at the same time. Yikes!
That’s not to say a Sag man can’t fall in love! Quite on the contrary, when this archer sets his heart on someone, he won’t shy away from expressing his feelings.
He’s honest and blunt – you shouldn’t expect him to admire you from afar and wait for you to make the first move.
So, how to know if a Sagittarius man is playing you? Does he share an honest connection with you or is he only looking to boost his ego? Keep reading to uncover some of the most obvious signs pointing to this archer’s trickery.
10 obvious signs a Sagittarius man is playing you
Truth be told, he’s beyond cocky, drives you insane with his constant hot-and-cold behavior, and doesn’t seem to be on the same page as you when it comes to commitment and long-term relationship plans. This Sag screams trouble!
But, you can’t seem to shake this feeling that there’s more to him than meets the eye. How can you ignore the fact the two of you share an incredible connection, have the same adventurous and spontaneous spirit, and thoroughly enjoy each other’s company?
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to define your relationship. If he’s not willing to have an open conversation and talk about his feelings, you should reconsider your intentions with this man. Observe his behavior and check if he’s manifesting any of these obvious red flags.
1. He’s hot and cold
This is one of the most obvious signs a Sagittarius man is playing with your emotions. He’s unpredictable and hard to read, but once he figures out you have feelings for him, he won’t hesitate to use them to boost his ego. He loves the attention you give him.
Be honest with yourself now: Do you call him to check why he hasn’t returned any of your calls and messages? Do you spend hours waiting for his reply, making promises after promises you’ll keep him waiting for you just as much? But then you never do!?
Your Sagittarius man is having the time of his life knowing he can do whatever he wants without any repercussions. You’ll welcome him back with your arms wide open as long as he shows a tiny bit of remorse and showers you with his misleading confessions of affection.
You might try to excuse his behavior by thinking he probably has a lot on his plate, and he can’t afford the luxury of being the man you need him to be (right now). Honey, you need to switch your prescription glasses because you can’t see the truth! This Sag is playing you and you need to run away.
2. He needs space
This archer loves his freedom and independence. He can’t stand the idea of being tied to one person, one place, or spending the rest of his life in a boring routine.
A Sagitarrius man is already pretty reluctant to the idea of being in a committed relationship – take away his alone time and you have a recipe for disaster!
Setting boundaries and making sure your needs are fulfilled are incredibly important in any relationship regardless of zodiac sign. But…
There’s always a but when talking about Sagittarius men. It isn’t uncommon for this archer to use the excuse of needing some alone time while he’s busy doing something else (with someone else). You shouldn’t be surprised if you find out he simply enjoys spending time away from you.
You’re in quite a prickly situation – you don’t want to accuse him of doing something he’s not, but you also don’t want to be the fool who fell for his lame excuses. The best thing you can do is have an open conversation with him and hope for the best outcome.
3. He doesn’t have time for you
A Sagittarius man loves the thrill of the chase!
Don’t be surprised if he goes all out trying to impress you, spends hours and hours convincing you to give him a chance and go out with him, but then loses interest as soon as you start mentioning the c-word (argh, the dreaded commitment)!
This archer loves his independence more than his own mother. He’ll make sure to keep you around because he’s a narcissist – he can’t afford to lose free praise and admiration. He’s flattered that you fell for his charms regardless of the fact he has zero interest in pursuing a relationship with you.
He probably tells you he’s busy, puts the blame on his incredibly demanding schedule, and manipulates you into thinking you’re overanalyzing the situation.
How dare you invite him to your cousin’s wedding when you know he’s got a presentation in two weeks!? Come on, he’s clearly busy!
If your Sagittarius man is only spending time with you when it’s convenient for him (preferably late at night when everyone else is asleep), he’s simply not that into you. This zodiac sign would never let a woman slip through his fingers if he had any intentions of pursuing a serious relationship with her.
4. He’s ghosting you
How to know if a Sagittarius man is playing you? He stops caring about his alpha male facade, replaces his confidence and arrogance with utter cowardice, and decides to ghost you. He’s suddenly not man enough to talk openly with you!
It usually starts with him making excuses whenever you invite him to do something fun together.
He has to work long hours, he already made plans for the weekend (and forgot to include you), he has to puppysit his neighbor’s dog. He never runs out of excuses because he thinks of them on the spot!
You know better than to believe him or wait for him to come around. He’s just looking for an easy way out and if you have any self-respect, you should leave the door open. Don’t give him the satisfaction of knowing he hurt your feelings.
Unfortunately for you, a Sag man can be unpredictable. He might change his mind mid-ghosting you and invite you to hang out with him. If so, you know what you need to do.
Hang up the phone and block his number. Trust me, he’s either just bored or in need of another ego boost!
5. He doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends or family
Major red flag alert. If a Sagittarius man doesn’t want to introduce you to some of the most important people in his life, you’re not one of them. This archer prides himself in having an amazing relationship with his fans… I mean friends!
All jokes aside, a Sag man will always introduce the main lady in his life to the rest of his circle. He’ll want to make sure she’s accepted and appreciated before he makes any long-term plans with her.
If he hasn’t introduced you to his friends yet, he’s probably not planning on keeping you around much longer.
Have you ever tried inviting yourself to a family function, or a night out with friends? There’s a slight possibility he isn’t avoiding introducing you to them, but he’s not sure it’s the right moment yet. Ask him and observe his reaction.
If he starts making excuses, accusing you of being needy and annoying, and manipulating you into thinking you’re expecting too much from him – run, girl, run. He has no intention of keeping you in his life for anything more than a fling!
6. He doesn’t post about you on social media
Let me tell you – times are changing, and if you’re not a part of his Instagram feed, chances are you’re not a part of his life! A Sag man loves being in the center of attention and he views social media as the best tool to flaunt his amazing lifestyle.
He goes on a hike and posts about a dozen Insta stories showing off his perfect body, the amazing view, and the most delicious-looking sandwiches you’ve ever seen. His Instagram feed is filled with pictures of his adventures, trips to foreign countries, and most importantly – his friends and family.
Yet, you’re nowhere to be found. The two of you have been dating for a while and you’ve visited some of the most extravagant places. You’d think he’d want to post everything about your time together, but he seems to always have several excuses ready to go.
He forgot his charger, he’s having inexplicable issues with his WiFi, his iPhone camera stopped working – you simply stopped asking after he told you he couldn’t post any photos with you because his cousin would get jealous that you didn’t invite him to join you on your trip. Yeah, right!
Not posting you on his social media is a major red flag!
There are so many reasons he might avoid showing you off – you might not be the only girl he’s dating, he might be lying about you to his friends and family, or he might even be ashamed of people seeing him with you. What a tool!
7. He flirts with other women
I shouldn’t have to explain this one, but here we go. A Sagittarius man is one of the most flirtatious zodiac signs (look out for Geminis and Scorpios, too!) This archer loves using all his charms to seduce women and make them fall in love with him.
More often than not, he won’t stop flirting with other women simply because you ask him to. He doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong and you shouldn’t be surprised if you catch him showering another woman with compliments right in front of your eyes.
It’s in his nature, so it must be acceptable, right? Absolutely not – you should never let him convince you that this kind of behavior is something you should tolerate. If he’s flirting with other women while he’s on a date with you, imagine what he’s doing behind your back?
If you’re wondering how to know if a Sagittarius man is playing you, this is your answer. He isn’t planning on staying committed to you for much longer.
Let’s face it, he’s probably avoiding having the talk with you and slowly starting to ghost you. Do yourself a favor and leave him behind!
8. He isn’t emotionally invested in your relationship
Are you an Aries, a Leo, or a Libra? If you answered yes to any of these questions, chances are you’re completely compatible with a Sagittarius man. You have a great possibility of bonding with him on all levels – emotional and physical.
Even if your zodiac sign tells you otherwise, you know that creating a lasting bond with this archer shouldn’t be a difficult task. He put all his efforts into sweeping you off your feet and making you feel like the only woman in the world, yet you still haven’t truly clicked as a couple.
So, how are you supposed to know if a Sagittarius man is merely playing you? If he isn’t making any effort to bond with you on an emotional level, you shouldn’t even ask yourself whether he’s playing you or not. His intentions are clearly purely physical!
As cruel as it sounds, emotions are the last thing on his mind. He’s having fun chasing you around, using all his charms to seduce you, and enjoying the fruits of his labor.
He pulls away every time you mention commitment because he doesn’t see himself in a romantic relationship with you.
9. He doesn’t care about getting your feelings hurt
He doesn’t post you on his social media, flirts with other women in front of you, and ghosts you once you start talking about commitment. There’s no easy way to say this: He never planned on being in a relationship with you.
A Sagittarius man will do anything in his power to make the people around him fall for his charms. He loves being in the spotlight and thrives when others praise and admire him. He’s like a houseplant – you can never give him too much attention.
So, if a Sag man suddenly stops caring about your feelings and doesn’t make an effort to make things right with you, chances are he doesn’t plan on keeping you in his life for much longer. You were simply just another one of his glorious conquests he can look back on with pride.
Keep your chin up, girl! You should celebrate the fact you got out of that toxic relationship before it became serious.
You deserve to be with someone who puts effort into becoming a part of your life because they see themselves by your side for the long haul. Don’t waste your tears on a Sag player!
10. He doesn’t want to have the talk
Sagittarius men are incredibly passionate when in love, and they will do anything in their power to prove their affection to the woman they desire. They’ll shower her with attention, spend all their free time by her side, and use every opportunity they have to tell her how they really feel.
You might think your Sagittarius man is shy, nervous to talk about his feelings, or even waiting for the right moment to have the talk with you. While you shouldn’t put all men in the same box, you have to admit that this zodiac sign isn’t known for being introverted and timid in expressing himself.
Quite on the contrary, the archer prides himself in being one of the most confident. He’s not the type to spare your feelings by avoiding direct confrontation. He’s direct and blunt – so if he wants to be in a relationship with you he’ll tell you that himself.
Trust me, a Sag man gets what a Sag man wants. If he wanted to be with you, he would do everything in his power to make sure you never have to wonder about his intentions.
You shouldn’t be disappointed, dating a Sagittarius man is a task in itself (even if he was crazy about you!)
How to know if a Sagittarius man is playing you? If he’s keeping you away from his friends and family, flirting with other women, avoiding having the talk, or even ghosting you, he has no intentions of staying in your life for the long run.
What do you do if a Sagittarius man is playing you?
First things first, come to terms with the situation. Take as much time as you need to process and deal with your emotions. You don’t want to look back at this failed attempt of dating an emotionally unavailable Sagittarius man and utterly regret the way you handled it.
Know your worth! It’s not your fault this archer couldn’t recognize and appreciate the value you bring to the table.
He was too busy checking you out to notice your witty sense of humor. Let’s be honest, what else should you expect from a man who needs constant validation from his circle of groupies!?
Chin up! There’s plenty of other fish in the sea. I know you wanted this specific mentally challenged pufferfish, but that’s only because you had no idea you deserved better.
All jokes aside, you shouldn’t waste your time pining over some guy who couldn’t even be honest with you.
So, let’s revise. How can you know if a Sagittarius man is playing you? If he’s showing any of the red flags we mentioned above, it’s time to pack your things and run while you still have the chance. You can thank me later!
