Think aloud
Is your husband online more than he used to be? Or has he suddenly started hiding his phone from you? It could be nothing, but it could also mean that he’s being unfaithful. Well, I’m here to show you 10 mistakes he’ll make that will help you figure out how to catch a cheating husband on WhatsApp.
While reading this, I suggest you open Notes on your phone and write every sign that rings a bell with him. Keep in mind that even if you recognize his behavior, you still need to talk to him or get proof before confronting him.
Maybe he has a reasonable explanation for everything. But he’ll also need to prove to you that there’s nothing to worry about.
Now that we’ve made everything clear, we can finally start.
Do cheaters use WhatsApp to cheat?
There are many different kinds of cheaters. From emotional cheaters to those who will actually take action. All of them are unfaithful and you don’t deserve to have to stay with them. Now, that’s easier to do when you know for a fact that he’s been cheating, but how do you figure it out in the first place?
There are two most common paths that unfaithful people choose. They meet someone while they’re out with the boys or at work, or they text someone on social media. But even if they met someone in person, they would still most likely stay in contact with them over the phone.
That’s why many cheaters use WhatsApp. There’s a fear that their girlfriends will notice a new follower on Instagram or a new friend on Facebook. But no one needs to see their contacts list on WhatsApp, and they also have the opportunity to name the person whatever they want.
So the simple answer is yes, cheaters can and do use WhatsApp to cheat. I know that I probably scared you a bit, but don’t worry because I also have the answer to how to catch a cheating husband on WhatsApp. Let’s check it out together.
How to catch a cheating husband on WhatsApp? Look out for these 10 mistakes
As I said, it’s unlikely that someone will lie for a long time without making a single mistake. And cheaters easily make them because they are trying to live two lives at the same time, which is very demanding. If they couldn’t handle being in one relationship, imagine how difficult it must be for them to be in two.
Here are some of the most common mistakes that the majority of these cheaters make. Read carefully and try to see whether they apply to your husband or not. I hope for your sake that you don’t recognize him, but it’s better to be prepared than blindsided.
1. He’s constantly texting someone
Have you noticed that your husband has suddenly become obsessed with his phone? Yes? Then I have a few questions for you. How much time would he usually spend on his phone before you noticed the change? And what about now? What is he mostly doing on it?
If you answered that he’s constantly texting someone, it’s possible that we’re on the right path to catching a cheating husband who uses WhatsApp. Okay, there’s no need to immediately panic. There are some things you need to figure out before reacting.
Do you know the person he’s texting, or have you seen a name you aren’t familiar with? Does he always smile and laugh while holding the phone?
And when you ask him what’s funny he’ll probably say that one of the boys wrote something funny in their group chat. But if your instinct tells you he’s lying, try to find out who he’s messaging that much.
2. He’s online at weird hours
You’re usually the first one to wake up because you like to take long showers in the morning. When you get up, you usually check your social media accounts and reply to the messages you got while you were sleeping.
Sometimes you see something interesting you want to send to your husband, and you see his “last seen” information. But one day, you noticed he was online at weird hours. He went to bed at 2 AM, but his WhatsApp says he was online at 3:14 AM. That’s something that could raise suspicion.
If you noticed that and you think he could be texting someone else, don’t immediately tell him what you’ve seen. Instead, check it a few more times again.
If he appears online in the early mornings or long after he went to bed, you should take a look into that. Ask him to explain the situation and see whether anything will change.
P.S. If he told you he just couldn’t sleep and that’s why he was online, but now he’s never online at that time again, check his other social media. It’s a bit weird that he can suddenly sleep well after he realized you can look at his “last seen” info.
3. He’s acting differently
The things I mentioned above can also be considered as acting differently. But there’s something else I want to add. Let’s say that the two of you usually go to bed at the same time. Lots of married people do so, or at least go soon after each other.
But now he’s suddenly stopped going to bed with you. He says he’s not tired, he wants to watch a movie or just chill and play a video game. But you’ve seen he’s staying up late to be on his phone. It’s something he’s never done before, so it just smells fishy.
Or you notice that he uses his phone while you’re having dinner and he doesn’t pay much attention to you. When you ask him about it, he says he’s just texting a colleague because of some issues at work.
These changes in behavior might mean that you’ll need to be prepared to catch a cheating husband who chose WhatsApp as his weapon.
4. He activated password protection
You’ve always known your hubby’s password, but the other day you needed his phone and you realized you can’t unlock it. You typed the password but it said it’s the wrong one, so you thought you accidentally made a mistake. So you tried again, but it was the wrong one again.
In that moment, you even forgot what you needed the phone for. The only thing that was on your mind was why he decided to change it. And why he didn’t tell you anything about it. You reckon he’ll probably mention it soon, so you don’t say anything.
But he doesn’t. Then one night, you’re getting ready for date night and he gets a message. Like always, you yell that someone texted him and you pick up the phone to read the message out loud. That’s when you see he even used the option to hide notification content.
You stand there confused and he runs to take his phone. When you ask him about it, he tells you that he doesn’t want his coworkers to read his messages as he leaves the phone everywhere. But he doesn’t bother to tell you the new password.
If this sounds familiar, it could be a sign that he’s hiding something.
5. Unusual changes on WhatsApp
Have you seen some unusual changes on his WhatsApp account? Apart from being online at odd hours, there are other things that raise suspicion.
Most guys don’t change their profile pictures that often. They usually have the one they like the most and use it as much as they can. Is your husband also like that, but now all of a sudden he’s started frequently changing his profile photos on WhatsApp?
Or even worse, he always had a photo of the two of you, but now he’s changed it to one where he’s on his own? That’s a situation that definitely allows you to ask him for the reason behind his action. Because so far it only looks like he’s trying to impress someone new.
Another change on WhatsApp that could point to a cheating husband and help you catch him is having weird names in the conversations list. Maybe you noticed that he’s texting someone named “Mike-work” every day, even though you’re pretty sure you’ve never heard of a Mike from work.
These are some really subtle signs that he might be unfaithful.
6. He’s deleting messages
We’re halfway to finding out how to catch a cheating husband on WhatsApp, and this one is probably one of the most obvious signs.
If it’s out of character for your husband to regularly clear his messages, yet now he’s started deleting every conversation or some specific ones, then it’s very likely he’s hiding something.
When you ask him about it, he’ll probably try to find many excuses, but don’t immediately believe him. Some of the most common excuses for deleting messages are: “It’s not safe anymore, social media is spying on us,” “I needed to free some space,” “I don’t need to keep those chats,” and similar phrases.
It could be true, but it’s more likely that he thinks you’ll get mad if you find something. So he’s decided to get rid of any incriminating evidence.
7. He archives and mutes conversations
Another aspect of messaging is the option to archive them or to mute the conversation.
More and more people are saying that they’ve noticed their partners having loads of archived chats and those they kept muted for some time. Some of them even had both for the same chat. Later it turned out that they were cheating.
By archiving a chat, you’re moving it from the list that’s visible when you open WhatsApp. That way you can easily hide whatever you want. And the person will have to enter that special part of the app to see all the conversations that have been moved there.
And why do cheaters mute their chats? Easy, because they don’t want to risk getting a notification while they’re with you. So if you spotted your husband has done something like this, you should consider asking him about it.
8. He avoids phone calls when you’re around
Has he started avoiding picking up the phone when he’s around you? If so, then it could be another sign that he’s hiding something. But don’t jump to conclusions just yet.
Is it possible that he’s preparing a surprise for you? Is your birthday or the anniversary around the corner? Perhaps he just wants to keep his plans away from your ears and eyes.
If, however, it’s been going on for quite some time and it doesn’t seem that he’s preparing something special for you, then consider it an alarm bell.
Feel free to ask him who called – he’s your husband and honesty is the key to a happy marriage. But if you feel like he’s not telling the truth, allow yourself to be a bit toxic, and approach him while he’s talking on the phone. Maybe you’ll be able to hear the person on the other side.
9. He never leaves his phone unattended
When you’re living with someone, it’s totally normal to leave your phone wherever in the house. You’ll use it and just put it down if you need to do something else. You won’t worry about who’ll take it because the only person who can is your spouse or the kids, if you have any.
However, if you have a cheating husband who likes to secretly chat on WhatsApp and hopes you’ll never catch him, then you’ll probably notice a different behavior. He’s started carrying his phone with him all the time. Or he leaves it only among his things.
You might even see him panicking whenever you get close to his phone. Those are some really big signs that he might be hiding something or someone from you.
10. He uses airplane mode when he’s with you
And the last thing I noticed while dealing with cheaters was that they love airplane mode. It took me long before I realized that they don’t use it to save battery. In fact, it’s used so they can’t receive any phone calls and messages from the person they want to hide.
Sure, they could do the same if they simply turned off the phone, but that would be too obvious. So they choose to trick us with this option. If you ever spot this, don’t hesitate to ask him about it. He probably won’t be able to give a reasonable explanation, because there isn’t one.
Wrapping up…
Now that we’ve reached the end, take a look at your notes. How many signs did you write? Only one? Then it’s unlikely he’s using WhatsApp to cheat. But if you’ve seen an alarming number, you should have a talk with him or find concrete proof if you don’t think he’ll be honest when you ask him about it.
I hope you’re now confident in how to catch a cheating husband on WhatsApp, and that you haven’t recognized your husband in the things I’ve mentioned. But even if you have, you’re a strong woman who will figure out the best way to approach the situation.
I believe in you. Good luck!
