Think aloud
I get it – crying over a guy is something many of us have done at some point (yep, guilty as charged!). But let’s be real, does it really get us anywhere? Honestly, probably not. There are some guys out there who just don’t grasp emotions on the same level or realize how their actions can leave us feeling let down or hurt.
So, let’s dive into some things that definitely aren’t worth shedding tears over when it comes to guys. Let’s empower ourselves to focus on what truly matters!
If he’s not there when you need him the most, he’s not worth your tears.
When life throws you a curveball and you’re facing a problem, naturally, the first person you turn to is your boyfriend. He’s the one you want to share everything with, hoping for understanding and advice.
Imagine you urgently need him, but he’s out enjoying pizza with his buddies and prefers not to cut his time short for you. It’s not about genuine obstacles that keep him away, but rather his choice not to prioritize you. After that call, you’re left feeling hurt and alone, tears flowing uncontrollably.
But pause for a moment—does he truly deserve your tears? Of course, he doesn’t! Someone who isn’t willing to drop everything to be by your side during tough times, offering a comforting hug and listening ear, shouldn’t occupy a place in your heart that brings tears.
It’s often easier said than done, but believe me, those who aren’t willing to give even a small piece of themselves for you simply don’t deserve your love. It’s a hard truth to accept sometimes, but valuing yourself means recognizing that your love and affection should be reciprocated with equal effort.
If you’re the one doing all the work in your relationship, he’s not worth your tears.
If you find yourself consistently giving your best and putting in the hard work for your relationship, while your partner remains a bystander, then he’s definitely not worth your tears. A healthy relationship thrives on equal participation and mutual dedication.
Both partners should be willing to compromise, engage in deep conversations, and actively contribute to strengthening the relationship.
If he shows no effort in planning dates, avoids discussing problems, forgets important dates, or seems generally disinterested, ask yourself—why shed tears for someone who doesn’t appreciate your love and commitment?
Such a person doesn’t deserve someone who genuinely loves and invests in a relationship wholeheartedly. It’s essential to value yourself enough to seek a relationship where your efforts are met with equal enthusiasm and care.
If he doesn’t value you, he’s not worth your tears.
You know the saying, “We don’t know what we have until we lose it”. But have you ever wondered why some people wait until it’s too late to regret their mistakes and oversights?
If your boyfriend can’t give you a simple compliment or acknowledge your accomplishments, even though it means the world to you and brings you happiness, then he’s not worth your time, let alone your tears.
If he fails to thank you for all you do or show how much you mean to him, it’s a sign. Understanding someone’s love language takes effort, but if your partner isn’t willing to invest that time in you, you’ll always feel unappreciated and like something crucial is missing in your relationship.
If he fails to recognize the wonderful things you bring into his life and doesn’t appreciate you as the unique individual you are…forget about him. It’s important to be with someone who values and uplifts you, where mutual appreciation and effort create a fulfilling partnership.
If he lies and breaks promises, he’s not worth your tears.
If your guy continually lies to you, leaving you with a sense of insincerity and a lack of trust, it’s natural to feel hurt and even threatened. Trust forms the foundation of any relationship, and when it’s compromised by deceit, it can deeply affect your emotional well-being.
Similarly, if he repeatedly makes promises he doesn’t fulfill, his words lose their meaning, and you find yourself constantly disappointed and helpless. However, it’s important to realize that shedding tears won’t resolve these issues.
A person who isn’t honest with you and doesn’t keep their word isn’t worthy of a single tear let alone the hours spent crying. Remember, my dear, tears won’t change someone who doesn’t value honesty and integrity in their relationship with you.
Instead, focus on valuing yourself and seeking relationships built on trust and mutual respect, where promises are kept and words hold true meaning. That’s where you’ll find genuine happiness and fulfillment.
If he cheated on you or mistreated you, he’s not worth your tears.
This one is pretty obvious to me, but…here we go. If a guy has cheated on you or treated you poorly, it’s crucial to recognize the red flags and take action immediately. Deep down, you probably already know this, but sometimes it’s hard to accept.
You feel defeated and betrayed, and your emotions swing from anger to profound sadness in a matter of seconds. You find yourself crying constantly, struggling to believe what’s unfolding. And what about him? He shows no care or remorse. The sooner you grasp this reality, the sooner healing can begin.
I understand how difficult it is—your tears are a testament to the pain you’re experiencing. But believe me, he isn’t worth those tears. I hope that you can begin to see this. A man who knowingly and unapologetically hurts you in any way doesn’t deserve all the qualities that make you special.
You deserve a man who respects and cherishes you, someone who values your heart and treats it with the utmost care.
