Think aloud
You’ve been waiting for a text or a call from him for a while now.
No matter how obvious it is that he’s never going to contact you first, you still hope that he cares enough to do so.
Maybe he’s even supposed to apologize, but he’s not going to send anything at all.
You’ve even gotten used to it, in a way. You’re used to being in a one-sided relationship where you’re the only one who fights to make it work.
So, you take your phone and you start writing a long text to him. For the hundredth time, you put a lot of thought into finding the right words.
Maybe this time, he’ll understand and finally reciprocate your feelings… Perhaps a message is not enough so you should call him instead…
Put that phone down right now! Do not send him that text, and don’t call him either.
You’re making a lot of effort for someone who doesn’t deserve that you make any.
Don’t ask that man to come over, and don’t even think about begging him to at least talk to you.
You’re wasting your tears on a man who couldn’t care less about causing them.
One day, some man will wipe them away for you, but you need to do so on your own now. You also need to ditch the man who caused them.
You’re fighting with everything you have to keep him around, but there’s really no need.
I know you love him, but he’s going to drain all your energy for nothing.
Your feelings are obviously not important to him and he doesn’t feel the same way. Let him go and let him be.
He needs to come after you and match your efforts.
If he does that, there’s hope that you have something real and maybe you have a chance. But we both know that it’s not going to happen, right?
Step back and give him a chance to do it. Maybe he’ll surprise you, but please don’t get your hopes up until or unless it happens.
If he doesn’t come after you and match your efforts, stop wasting your time. It just means that you’re not meant to be together.
Trust me, I know how you feel. You really don’t want to force him to stay with you because you know that you can’t force love.
Still, you do it, because you just want him to stay no matter what it takes.
But it should matter what it takes.
If making him stay takes forcing him to do it, he clearly doesn’t want to.
Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you?
I know why. You’re crazy about him and love him with all your heart.
Trust me, I get that, but don’t you deserve to be with someone who feels that way about you too?
No one should go to such great lengths just to make someone they love see them.
Don’t beg him to make time for you, and don’t fool yourself that he can’t. He just doesn’t want to.
If he wanted to be with you, he would shower you with attention, not make you beg for it.
It’s really not that hard to keep in touch. No amount of work or responsibilities can stop you from contacting the person you care about.
He shouldn’t feel obligated to be there for you, it’s something he should do willingly.
Maybe he’s just not ready for a committed and true relationship, and you have to accept that you can’t make him.
You love him so much that you think that you can wait for him to be ready… but you have to understand that you’re not doing either of you any favors by waiting.
Maybe he’ll never be ready, so do you really want to wait forever?
All that that waiting will cause you to both get stuck in an unhappy relationship that deprives you of everything you deserve.
I know that you’re hoping that things will change, but don’t hold your breath.
Don’t hope that he’ll eventually pay more attention to what you need and start treating you better.
I know that you hope that he’ll become invested in the relationship and be more present, but you know what?
He should have done that a very long time ago.
If you’ve been together for a while now and nothing has changed, you can be sure that it never will.
Don’t try to be someone you’re not to make him love you. The man you’re with needs to cherish and love you for who you are.
You accepted him with all his virtues and flaws, right? Well, he should do the same.
Think about two pieces of a puzzle. If they don’t naturally fit together, can you make them?
Maybe, but you would have to significantly change what they originally are or sometimes destroy them in the process.
You have to understand that love isn’t supposed to be hard and you can’t force it.
When you love someone, it shouldn’t feel like you’re fighting a battle that you lose every time.
Love is not supposed to bring you more pain than joy and more painful tears than joyful laughter. If it’s like that, it simply isn’t love.
We often believe that love involves suffering and pain, but that’s not love, or at least not one that’s reciprocated.
Once you find the person you’re meant to be with, you’ll realize what true love actually looks like. Real love simply flows and doesn’t hurt.
Maybe you feel like you really love this man, but it’s not real love if he doesn’t love you the same way.
Real love is never forced and it works out because both people want it to.
Sure, they too have to face some problems, but they face them together.
Why would you even want to be with someone you have to force to be with you?
You’ll find someone who’ll willingly do anything to be with you. Anyone who you have to force to stay by your side, you need to let go of.
You deserve someone who’ll freely and willingly love you just the way you are.
Don’t ever forget that, and don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t ready to do that.
