Think aloud
Sometimes, you just have to be willing to walk away from him to make him realize that he’ll lose you. It can be hard to gather that strength, but it might be exactly what your relationship needs to survive.
There’s incredible power in walking away from a man and sometimes you have to use it to make him open his eyes.
Many circumstances require you to be willing to walk away from him and make him see that he’s losing you.
For instance, maybe he doesn’t want to commit. Walking away from him might just be the kick he needs to snap out of it and get over his fear of commitment.
Most importantly, if he doesn’t treat you right or ignores you, you must be willing to walk away from him. It might feel like the hardest thing you ever had to do after investing so much energy and time into the relationship, but you must.
Maybe you think that you should always fight for a relationship, but it’s not how things work. If you’re not fighting for the relationship together, you’re fighting against each other.
Make him fight for you, not against you. He needs to realize that you’re not going to put effort into a relationship he isn’t willing to work on.
You’re about to learn exactly when and why you need to be willing to walk away from him. Keep reading because sometimes, to save a relationship, you have to be ready to leave it.
6 situations where you need to be willing to walk away from him
We can all sense it when something’s wrong in our relationships yet we often choose to ignore it. Maybe we think that by ignoring the issue, we’re saving the relationship.
But we’re not. Sometimes, there are valid reasons to walk away from a man, and ignoring them won’t make them magically go away.
I know that it can be confusing, frustrating, and heartbreaking, but walking away is sometimes your only option. Deep down, you know that he’s not worthy of the energy and time that you’re willing to invest because you still love him.
You’ve probably spent a lot of time thinking about giving him a second chance. He’s given you no reason to think that things are going to change though.
When a beautiful relationship turns into a toxic one, you have to put a stop to the bad behavior. If he’s not even bothered by how hurt you are, you have to leave.
I know that you need strong reasons to really be willing to walk away from him, and here they are.
1. He lies to you
Lying is sometimes necessary, but most often, it just creates pain. Most importantly, it is unhealthy for a relationship and utterly unacceptable if you want to have a happy one.
You might even know the real truth, but your man is hiding it from you. When you confront him about it, he just covers the first lie with more lies.
This is a clear sign that you need to be willing to walk away from him.
2. He doesn’t want to be with you in public
When the two of you are alone, this guy is crazy about you. But when you’re in public, he wants people to think that you’re just good friends.
He doesn’t want to be seen with you in public and he’s only affectionate and loving behind closed doors. He tries to convince you that he’s just taking it slow, but you know that he’s looking at other women.
Someone else would proudly introduce you to everyone as his girlfriend, so don’t tolerate this behavior.
3. He doesn’t ever text you first
A guy who is serious about you would definitely text you first. But in your case, it’s always you who initiates the conversations, and it’s a very bad sign.
He always has excuses ready such as being busy, his phone battery dying, being in a meeting… You might even believe him if this hasn’t become a regular thing.
He gives you these excuses all the time and you’re tired of being the one who always texts first. It’s a clear sign that you should show him that you’re willing to walk away.
4. He only sees you when it’s convenient for him
When you love someone, you always make time for them. If this guy only talks to you when he feels like it instead, he’s not a keeper.
He calls you up only when it’s convenient for him – when he’s in the mood or when he’s bored. This indicates that he considers you as only an option, not a priority.
You’re not there to amuse him when he’s got nothing better to do, so save your dignity and walk away.
5. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends
You’ve been involved with this man for a while now yet you don’t know any of his friends. And even if you do know some of them, you know very little about them.
Maybe he doesn’t even want his friends to know about you and is keeping your relationship a secret from them. Introducing you to his friends would mean that he’s serious about you, so why doesn’t he do it?
He’s probably not that interested in a serious relationship. Perhaps it’s better that you walk away from him now rather than later.
6. He’s only interested in a physical relationship
Maybe you are amazed by his sweet talk and regular compliments on your physical appearance, but that’s it. He doesn’t talk to you about the important things and avoids talking about your future together.
You need to be willing to walk away from him if all he seems to be interested in is physical intimacy and he doesn’t want anything serious.
10 reasons why you need to be willing to walk away from him
When you walk out on him, you’ll sure get your message across. He’ll realize how serious you are and have to make some changes if he cares about you.
He will have to admit to himself that you deserve better since you’ll leave him with only two options.: either he changes for the better or accepts that it’s over.
This means that, by walking away, you’ll force him to reveal how he truly feels about you.
If he loves you, when you walk away he’ll feel miserable and afraid that he’ll lose you forever. This will force him to do something about it if he wants to keep you in his life.
He also will want you more when he sees that you’re willing to walk away. Independency is always attractive and every man wants a strong woman by his side.
The best part is that you’ll also make him miss you. He’ll notice your absence in his life and realize what it would be like without you.
If he cares about you, he’ll finally give you the love and attention you deserve.
Here are all the reasons why you need to be willing to walk away from him:
1. Men love the chase
You probably already know that it’s natural for men to chase after what they want.
Often, when a woman always puts a bit of extra effort into the relationship, the man becomes lazy. He feels no need to fight for what he has already won.
Basically, your man is not going to feel the need to put effort into the relationship if you always do. You are not equally invested in the relationship and that can ruin everything.
Men do like to get the attention of the woman they’re with, but they only get partially invested if they’re not chasing her. Don’t deny him the opportunity to pursue you because men get a kick out of it.
If you’ve been putting more effort into making the relationship work than he has, pull away. Show him that he will have to chase you if he wants to win your heart back.
Men like winning the heart of a woman and it needs to be a challenge for them so they would see it as a personal achievement. If they do, it boosts their ego and makes them feel more like men.
Making him chase you will force him to value you more. If he has to go after you, he’ll appreciate having you around much more than he would otherwise.
2. Men love a challenge
Without a doubt, men love a good challenge and this is one more reason why you should be willing to walk away. Even when a woman is hard to get, a man will persist at trying to win her over because he thrives on a challenge.
Men think that challenges give meaning to the dating process. The feeling that they’ve conquered something is a natural drive for men that pushes them to take action.
Your guy might naturally lose interest in you if he doesn’t see winning you over as a challenge. Walking away from him will finally set one up for your man and make him want you more.
If you instead make things easy for him, he’ll be too lazy to invest his energy into keeping you happy.
Be willing to walk away from him and it will challenge him to go after what he wants and fight for it. If you don’t make it easy for him to win your heart, he will treasure it more.
3. He’ll miss you
If you’ve given this man a lot of attention so far, now you can use that to your advantage. If he’s not reciprocating the attention and love you give him, just cut him off.
He will miss your attention and ultimately, he will miss you.
By walking away from him, you are denying him the things he expects from you – the things he’s used to. You will make him see how his life looks without you and he’ll realize how much you add value to it.
He’ll feel your absence and yearn to have your attention again.
Maybe you always used to call him, were constantly available to him, and did things no one else did for him. When you’re gone from his life, he will feel the absence of these things and miss them.
He’ll realize that he has to fight for you and it will make him love and want you even more.
After you walk away, he’ll reminisce about the good times you had together and want you back.
4. He doesn’t want to be alone
Let’s face it, no one likes to end up alone. People will even stay in relationships and hang on to them purely because of the fear of being alone.
This sounds bad, but it can actually be a good thing if you use it to motivate your man to fight for you.
When you give him space, he’ll feel this fear of ending up alone. If he cares about you, it will make him go after you and fight for your relationship.
If you treated him right, he will surely want you back. Everyone goes where the love is, and your man is no different.
If you gave him nothing but love and support, he won’t like it if you take it away from him by walking away. When you give a man your heart and walk away, he’ll go after you.
If he’s being distant or isn’t willing to commit, you will leave a hole in his heart when you leave that will make him want to change. Once he feels lonely in your absence, he’ll be motivated to go after you and win you back.
Leave him alone and walk away. If he truly cares about you, he’ll be running after you in no time.
5. He’ll be forced to reveal his true feelings for you
Men are often afraid to be vulnerable or too proud to reveal their true feelings for a woman.
Your man might have a big ego, but underneath it, there may be genuine feelings for you. Truth be told, he might not even be aware of it himself.
Women often do all the work in the relationship and it results in imbalance when it comes to emotional investment. When a man isn’t actively showing his feelings, they slowly start to decline since nothing is igniting them.
He is also aware that there’s someone fighting to make the relationship work and keeping the love alive. This makes him dependent on you for all the attention and love.
Make him show his true feelings for you by testing him.
Be willing to walk away from him and make him worry about losing you. This could turn the tables and make him show the same love and attention he’s been getting from you.
6. Men appreciate love only when they lose it
As you know, people often appreciate things and realize their true value only when they lose them. Make him realize how valuable you truly are to him by walking away if he’s not entirely committed to you.
Maybe he takes you for granted and thinks that you’ll stick around no matter what. This might be the reason why he doesn’t realize your real worth.
When you walk away from him, he will have to show his love for you. He will realize that he’s dependent on you and reveal his vulnerable side.
In addition, he’ll think about all the benefits of you being a part of his life. He’ll think about what he has done to make you walk away as well.
Most importantly, he won’t want to allow himself to lose you ever again. The truth is, no one likes to lose something, especially if that something is people who care about you.
7. It increases your value
When you lose something important just to recover it after a while, you treat it differently from thereon out. The memory of being away from that something and the fear of losing it again are intensified.
As a result, the value of that something increases. The same goes if that something is actually a person who showed you love just to walk away afterward.
Women who walk away from men to make them commit increase their own value by doing this. They also unravel the true feelings of the men they’ve left.
Despite all this, walking away from someone you love inevitably comes with doubt and fear. It makes you question your decision and wonder whether it’s worth it.
This is especially true if you don’t see your man running after you.
You have to understand something though. If your man doesn’t choose to chase you once you walk away, at least you’ve left a man who doesn’t reciprocate your feelings.
He would’ve never valued you and given you the love and the attention you’ve been giving him if he doesn’t go after you.
You deserve someone who would be terrified at the thought of losing you. If this man isn’t, you’re better off without him.
Respect yourself enough to walk away from a guy who doesn’t respect you.
8. It helps you develop a deeper connection and increased affection
Losing someone can even count as a traumatic experience. It’s something that’s hard to forget.
Seeing someone walk away and reconciling with them afterward changes the communication in a positive way.
You will be overwhelmed by strong emotions when you walk away. After your partner goes after you, your feelings for him will increase as well.
In the same way, your partner will feel a deeper connection with you when he sees you walking out on him. If he fights for you and wins you back, a positive turnaround will increase his feelings for you as well.
You’ll love each other more than you ever did before, which is why it’s always good to spend some time apart.
Don’t ever forget that a strong woman will never chase, force, or beg – she’ll walk away.
9. He will become more possessive
If your partner neglects or ignores you, you have to be willing to walk away from him. Choosing to spend some time apart might finally get him to snap out of it and treat you the way he should have all along.
As you already learned, giving him some space will increase his affection for you.
When he sees you walking away, he’ll have the “fight or flight” response. If he cares about you, he’ll choose to fight to keep you around.
Once he decides to go after you, he may become more possessive. This happens because the fear of losing you increases, leaving him not wanting to be away from you again.
The possessiveness I’m mentioning is the positive kind, not the unhealthy one. If you sense a negative possessiveness, it might be best to really walk out on this guy.
See how he’ll react when you walk away, but don’t hesitate to put his feelings for you to the test.
10. He’ll become aware of your true feelings
You’ve probably already talked to your man about his attitude but he’s did nothing to change it. As you know, actions mean more than words, so walking away might finally get him to snap out of it.
Men generally respond better to actions than to words. When you leave him hanging for some time, he’ll realize that he has to change his behavior if he wants to have you in his life.
He’ll have to make some positive changes when he sees that it’s the only way to make you stay.
Seeing you walk away will be a wake-up call for him and he’ll know that he could lose you forever. He’ll also know that you won’t condone his bad behavior anymore.
Maybe he wasn’t aware of how much his attitude bothers you. Now, he’ll become aware of your true feelings and finally show his.
Stay strong!
