Hey there girl,
I’ll start this letter with a simple sentence: You’ll be good. I promise you that.
I know that right now my words don’t sound comforting, and they probably won’t for some time. But, eventually, you’ll see I was right. Not because I need your confirmation, but rather because I know what I’m talking about.
A couple of years ago, I was in the same place. My heart was broken, and my soul was aching. I couldn’t think, I couldn’t eat, and I didn’t want to leave my four walls. The person I thought I loved the most, left me. I was devastated.
I swore I’d never love again. I’d never let anyone hurt me that much. No one would ever come close to me or have the power over me he had.
I locked myself in a stone castle, with those big doors made of steel. I thought I was bulletproof. Oh, how wrong I was…
That was the period I was the most vulnerable human being. I’d cry for hours alone in my bedroom, just so I could go out with a smile brighter than the sun. And no one knew how much I was suffering. Not even my closest friends or family.
I convinced myself that I was the reason he didn’t want me in his life anymore. I was the one who wasn’t worthy of his love, and I was the guilty one for feeling this way. Was he the reason for my suffering? Of course not. I blamed myself for being hurt.
How could I let someone cause me so much pain? Is it possible that you can love and hate someone at the same time? Apparently yes, because that’s how I felt back at the time. I loved him with every fiber of my being and I hated him with the same intensity.
He was my poison and my remedy. My safe place and my worst nightmare. And I just couldn’t shake him off…
It’s time for you to start loving yourself.
And I’m not just saying this; you’re supposed to have self-love. You have to give yourself all the love you’re holding inside. You’re worthy of love and deserving of respect, which he didn’t give you.
I know you’re not afraid to love. Not receiving it back is what scares you. You’re not afraid of commitment or compromising, but of the possibility that the other person won’t do the same for you.
And that’s okay, baby girl. I swear.
You are broken, but you’ll heal. And only you can save yourself. Nobody can do it for you.
Get your pieces together and make some stained glass windows on that castle, or mosaics. Prove to the world that you’re unstoppable. Come back stronger than you were before.
Tell them you’re not afraid to put yourself out there again. In fact, show them how you should be treated.
Take yourself out on dates, travel on your own, and laugh until your stomach hurts. Meet new people, discover new roads, and never settle for less than what you deserve. You did it once, and it’s more than enough.
Get up from your knees and show them that you’re a Wonderwoman.
Meditate, take up a new hobby, go hiking, and explore uncharted territories – within you and around you. Be proud of who you are and walk confidently with your head held high. Don’t let your past determine your future. Be brave, be adventurous and take risks.
Only then, while you’re pushing those boundaries of yours, will you be able to truly love yourself. Embrace every flaw and sprinkle some of your magic wherever you tread. Don’t be afraid of the dark, because inevitably, the light will appear.
Accept yourself completely and be ready for new challenges. I know he’ll want to come back, probably just to see if he still has the power over you. Prove him wrong. Choose yourself this time and get rid of him for good.
To the girl who’s scared of falling in love again… You’ll love encore une fois.
Or more than once if I’m being honest.
As soon as you learn to trust yourself again, you’ll start loving. The life you’re living, the people around you, and every little thing will make you smile. Don’t expect this to come overnight, but be ready for a change.
Because, undoubtedly, you will be different. Your view of the world will change and you’ll accept it completely as it reveals itself to you. And then, when you least expect it, new romantic love will knock on your door.
By this time, you should be ready to give it a warm welcome. Don’t deny it just because your heart was broken. You don’t want to make a mistake. Because this love is going to stay.
This man will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, solely because now, you know what you deserve. You’re well aware of all the things your partner is supposed to have. You won’t have to compromise on how you love.
You’ll love him wholeheartedly, even though you’ll be afraid in the beginning. But, he’ll prove to you that he’s there to stay. And he’ll love you back.
You’ll feel his love in every word he says, every touch, and his every gaze. He’ll spoil you with kisses and embraces. You’ll finally find your safe harbor in him and you’ll know it.
To the girl who’s scared of falling in love again, I promise you, you will give your heart to the man who knows how to handle it with care. Who kisses every scar you have and makes sure you never suffer again. He’s going to show you what true love really is.
Believe me when I say this, loving someone who loves you back is the most beautiful feeling in the world. And it’s worth every obstacle that pops up because each one of them prepares you for your own oasis of serenity amidst this crazy world.