When a guy says he wants to see you again, can you believe him? Well, we all know that actions speak louder than words.
When a guy says he wants to see you again, it could be the truth and mean that he likes you.
Usually, it’s true that he would like to get to know you better even if he’s not yet into you.
On the other hand, he could just be trying to be polite or avoid an awkward situation.
You aren’t always honest, especially after a bad first date, right?
Sometimes people say that they would like to do it again even though they actually think the opposite.
But what if your date was amazing? Maybe to you, it was, but does he feel the same way?
No matter what he says, you have to look at his actions to determine the truth.
People don’t have to say the truth, but in a way, they always show it. By looking for clues, you can tell what someone wants and how they feel.
I’m going to help you figure out whether the guy who told you that he wants to see you again was telling the truth.
There are a lot of things you need to consider, so keep reading.
When a guy says he wants to see you again, is he telling the truth?
Let’s get to the bottom of this. When a guy says he wants to see you again, it could mean that he’s interested in you.
It could also mean that he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by being honest.
So, what does it mean when a guy says he wants to see you again? How can you know whether he’s being honest or not?
Most importantly, do you want to see him again?
In order for me to help you answer these questions, you first need to answer a few of mine.
How did your date go? When a guy says he wants to see you again, it’s usually after the first date.
Let me ask you some questions about that first date so I can answer the question on your mind.
1. Did the conversation flow naturally?
It’s really awkward when the two of you are on a first date and seem to have nothing to talk about.
When there are awkward silences and the conversation doesn’t flow naturally, it’s a bad sign. It shows that you simply don’t have enough or any chemistry.
On the other hand, if your conversation is so interesting that time seems to fly by, that’s great!
It’s also a sign that your date will actually want to see you again.
What about when a guy says he wants to see you again, but you didn’t talk much on your first date? He could be lying to you, but maybe he’s not.
Maybe your date wasn’t so great but he would like to have another one anyway.
Just because you didn’t really click right away, it doesn’t have to mean that you never will.
Maybe he’s aware of that, so he wants to see how it goes if you see each other again.
2. Did his body language show that he wants to see you again?
You can tell a lot about a man’s intentions by paying attention to his body language.
Did he greet you with a smile and a hug? If so, that’s a very good sign.
How can you tell by his body language if he wants to see you again?
Did he lean in when you talked? Did he offer to walk you home or to your car or did he wait with you for a taxi?
These things show that he wants to see you again. If he hugged or even kissed you at the end of the date, you can be pretty sure of it.
3. Did he text you after the date?
The way a man behaves over texts is also a great way to find out how he feels about you.
A person who wants to see you again will always respond to your texts and they’ll do so quickly.
They will also put thought into their messages instead of responding with only a few words.
If this guy texted you right after your date while he was still on his way home, it’s a huge sign.
In that case, he’s definitely interested in you and you’ll get together again.
Another thing you should pay attention to regarding his texts is the number of emojis he uses. A person who likes you will use a lot of them when they text you.
4. Did your date last long?
The amount of time someone is willing to invest shows their interest.
How long did your date last? Maybe you just agreed to get a quick drink but you ended up talking for three hours.
We all know what happens when we find ourselves on a bad date – we end it quickly.
Maybe your date ended quickly because he had to leave but he told you he’d like to see you again.
In this case, unless there was a real emergency, he lied.
Keep in mind that people sometimes invent a fake emergency to get out of a bad date.
If you were on a date longer than you intended to instead, it’s a good sign. Maybe he even seemed sad that the date had to end.
Perhaps he had to work in the morning but he stayed late with you. Maybe he wants to see you again as he’s not done seeing you yet.
When a guy says during the date that he wants to see you again, instead of at the end of it, he most likely means it.
5. Did he talk about the future with you?
A man who really, really, wants to see you again will make sure that it happens.
This means that he’ll talk about the future with you, and suggest things you could do.
He might want to schedule a second date while you’re still on the first one.
Any talk about the future is a great sign. When a guy says he wants to see you again but doesn’t mention a second date, you simply can’t be sure.
On the other hand, if he makes plans with you, there’s no doubt about it – you’ll see him again.
6. Do you want to see him again?
This question isn’t really a part of finding out whether he wants to see you again, but I wanted to mention it anyway because it’s still the most important one.
When you’re wondering how some guy feels about you, you often neglect to wonder about your own feelings.
Forget for a second about whether he wants to see you again or not. Do you want to see him again?
Sometimes we get so lonely that we want to keep dating even someone we’re not really that into.
If you want to see him again, ask yourself why. Do you think that there could be something there or are you just in a rush to find a boyfriend?
Since you’re trying to figure out his feelings, I’m guessing that you like him. Hopefully, he likes you too.
Still, there’s a chance you showed him that you like him, and he didn’t have the guts to tell you that he doesn’t feel the same way.
It could be an explanation as to why he said he wants to see you again if he didn’t mean it.
Don’t be too worried though, because this doesn’t happen too often. When a guy says he wants to see you again, it’s most often the truth.
However, on those rare occasions when it’s not, it can really hurt when you don’t see it coming and that’s why I’m reminding you of this.
Most often, when a guy lies about it, he’ll say it at the end of the date or after you say it first.
If he said it during the date or texted you afterward, he probably meant it.
Here are some fairly sure signs he wants to see you again to help you figure it out:
1. He makes plans with you
A guy who makes plans with you doesn’t even have to specifically say that he’d like to see you again.
Maybe he lets you know that he’ll text you about his schedule or that he’ll message or call you in a couple of days.
He could mention that he’s free next Friday, and ask about the plans you have that day.
Maybe he talks about a movie he’s been meaning to see and asks whether you’d like to watch it too.
If he wasn’t being honest, why would he bother discussing the details of seeing you again?
Be careful if he just said something like, “We’ll be in touch.” This is one of those lines people use when they don’t really intend to see you ever again.
If you wanted to make plans and he just said something like that or sounded vague on purpose, it’s a bad sign.
He’ll give you a timeline or formulate a plan for getting in touch if he really means it. Avoiding getting into details is a sign he doesn’t.
2. He keeps in touch
A guy who is interested in you will make an effort to contact you and stay in touch.
When a guy says he wants to see you again, he’ll call, text, email, or use social media to contact you.
If he does these things, it’s very likely that he wants to get together again.
Of course, he could be waiting for a few days before contacting you and doing this on purpose, but if it’s been a while and you haven’t heard from him, he’s not that into you.
3. He doesn’t kiss you
Naturally, when a man kisses you at the end of the first date, it’s pretty clear that he’s interested. But what if he didn’t kiss you?
It might surprise you, but it could actually mean the same thing.
Of course, if the date was bad, he didn’t want to kiss you and that’s why he didn’t do so.
But what if the date was good and he was showing signs he likes you but he didn’t kiss you?
Maybe he has a special plan for your first kiss and builds up the anticipation by not doing it right away.
It could be his way of trying to make you want him more.
4. He surprises you
After you saw each other, you didn’t expect anything… but he surprised you by sending flowers or a cute text!
If he did something that he never said he’d do and it came as a pleasant surprise, it’s a great sign that this guy wants to see you again.
He wouldn’t have bothered to do that if he didn’t.
It doesn’t have to be something as romantic as sending flowers with a thoughtful card.
Maybe he simply texted something like, “I had a great time tonight,” after your first date.
Now, why would he do something like that if he didn’t mean it?
There are ways to know whether a guy likes you over text that could help you decipher his messages!
After reading all this, you probably already have a good idea about whether you’ll see him again or not.
What if you don’t have an inkling though? Maybe he showed signs he wants you bad and you had a good date.
He said he wanted to see you again, but he disappeared. Why would someone act like they’re into you and then completely disappear?
Unfortunately, this can happen. He could make you think that he’s into you and then never call you again.
This leaves you feeling confused and angry even if you didn’t even like him that much in the first place.
It’s his fault that you started believing that there could be something there, right? So why on earth would someone do something like that?
One explanation could be that it’s just something he does because he likes being liked.
He wants to receive validation, and once he makes you like him, he moves on to the next girl.
This is very wrong, but luckily, there aren’t that many men who’ll do this.
If you had the bad luck of running into one, don’t be sad about it. You actually dodged a bullet if you ask me!
He played with your heart even before you gave it to him! Why would you even want to be with someone who would do that?
Another more likely explanation is that you want different things. He could be only looking for something casual, while you made it clear that you want a relationship.
Maybe he made you think that he likes you because he actually does. He just doesn’t want to commit and knows that you do.
Of course, he could tell you this instead of leaving you guessing. Unfortunately, though, dating is not so simple and people aren’t that straightforward.
He might be feeling guilty about only wanting to use you or maybe you told him some of your expectations regarding a boyfriend that he’s not comfortable with.
He could also be afraid that he’ll lose your interest if he doesn’t meet your expectations.
The truth is, you’ll never really know for sure unless he opens up and tells you the truth.
What can you do about it? The best thing you can do is let him go and forget about him.
When a guy says he wants to see you again, but he never does, he doesn’t deserve you.
It doesn’t really matter what his reasons are. The guy lied to you almost as soon as you met him.
What kind of relationship do you think that you could have with someone who is capable of that?
He actually did you a favor by disappearing.
If he hadn’t disappeared, maybe you would have ended up in a relationship with a man who has no problem lying to you.
You still don’t want something like this to ever happen to you again, right? What about the things you can do in the future?
Is there a way to make sure a man wants to see you again? There are some things you can do to get a guy to keep asking you out. Here they are:
1. Realize that he probably needs more time than you do
Most men operate on a much slower and different timescale than we do when it comes to commitment and dating.
When you meet a guy, you need to understand that it’s very likely that his pace is a lot different from yours.
Of course, there are some men who will very quickly make their intentions perfectly clear. There are, but it rarely happens.
Most often, you’ll encounter men who take a lot longer to make the decision to get serious with you.
At first, a guy is simply trying to get to know you. It takes time for him to finally feel comfortable enough with you to open up.
He’s not going to consider you a part of his life so fast. This can be frustrating, but it’s normal.
We often get discouraged when a guy doesn’t move things along the way we think he should.
Keeping in mind that he needs more time than you do will help you be more patient.
2. Don’t decide right away that he’s the one
When we start feeling intense chemistry with a guy, we tend to think that he’s the one.
Instead of simply enjoying the first couple of dates by living in the present, we think about the future, which means that we start acting like we’re already in a relationship.
Even though this can happen to a man too, women experience it so often that there’s a name for it.
When you fall for someone very quickly, even though you’ve known them for a very short time, it’s called an instant relationship.
This most often basically dooms a potential relationship you could have with them.
There are many reasons why an instant relationship is bad. For one thing, you become blind to any potential red flags.
There are some important things you need to know about a man before committing to him, and you end up skipping this step.
Another big problem is that the guy will notice that you already think that he’s the one. He feels your expectations and isn’t yet ready to deliver.
This will put a lot of pressure on him and cause him to withdraw.
3. Take your time
When you’ve just started to date someone, simply try to get to know him.
Do you like him? Is he the right man for you?
Figuring out the answers to these questions is what the first few dates are there for.
Don’t rush to decide and take your time. There are a few reasons why it’s best to take your time when dating someone.
Making an informed decision regarding whether he’s right for you takes time, while you learn more about him.
When you take your time, you prevent yourself from falling for him before being sure that he’s worth your time.
It also helps you prevent a possible heartbreak. If you take your time and it doesn’t work out, you won’t feel heartbroken.
When you start dating a man, follow his lead, and treat the first few dates just like he would.
This means that you look out for yourself, have fun, and take your time.
Give yourselves the time and space to learn more about each other without any assumptions or expectations, which will create the conditions needed for developing a real relationship.
It always takes time to build a solid foundation. You need to share positive experiences, which will draw you closer to each other.
You can’t really have a secure, lasting relationship if you don’t build a firm foundation.
Follow this advice in the future and any man will be much more likely to really want to see you again.
Maybe all this has helped you see that he really does want to see you again, but is he into you?
Even if he wants to get together again, it doesn’t have to mean that he likes you already.
You will need to look for proven signs he finds you irresistible.
Good luck!
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