Think aloud
If you’re having a hard time realizing whether your guy is honest about the way he feels or not, here are 9 signs that will help you with that:
1. He opens up about his past trauma.
You know a man is deeply in love with you when he starts telling you about his past. This means he trusts you and feels safe enough to talk about people and events that shaped his personality.
You get surprised at his level of honesty, but also feel honored because he shared all of that with you. All you want to do is just take the broken pieces and put them back together. You can’t bear to see him hurt, so you do your best to be nothing like those who caused him pain.
You feel closer to him than ever, and this encourages you to open up, as well. On top of that, your bond gets stronger than ever.
2. He talks of the little things that bother him.
Another sign a man is being honest with you is him talking about his daily troubles. A lot of the time, men are reluctant to talk about such things because they’re used to solving things on their own. So, if he starts doing it, that means he sees you as a sanctuary where he can be his real self.
If this happens, appreciate it. Listen to him, validate his emotions and, if needed, give your advice.
3. You notice he’s a little nervous.
Do his hands tremble? Does he keep playing with stuff he finds? Is it hard for him to look into your eyes? All of these are behaviors people exhibit when they’re feeling nervous.
After all, it’s not easy to open up to someone, even more so for men. Of course, it’s not the same for everyone, but it is the sad truth that they are taught to be tough and self-sufficient.
So, if he defies this and sees a person of trust in you, that’s a pretty big deal.
4. It’s not hard for him to apologize.
When a man truly cares about you, he will never let you go to bed feeling sad. He will never prolong the fight more than necessary.
He will rather strive to solve in maturely. The focus will be on the problem itself, not on satisfying his own ego. If he realizes that he’s hurt you, he won’t hesitate to apologize.
Your feelings matter more to him than the satisfaction of winning a fight.
5. When something hurts him, he tells you.
None of us are perfect. We are bound to make mistakes. You will hurt him, and he will hurt you, but that’s something we accept when we truly love each other.
Moreover, when that happens, none of you should stay silent. Your man knows that bottling things up can only escalate the situation later on. So, he tells you what bothers him the moment it happens.
Don’t think this is criticism. It’s not his intention to make you feel guilty. If he tells you that he’s hurt, with the intention to solve the problem, he just wants to take care of the relationship.
6. He gives you his full attention.
When you are together, you don’t see him reach for his phone. He barely even looks around him. All his attention is focused on you, your eyes and your words.
And it’s the same when you aren’t together. No matter how busy he is, he finds time to check in and let you know what he’s doing.
He doesn’t want you to worry, but at the same time shows how much you matter to him by devoting time to you even when he doesn’t have any.
7. Talking about exes is no big deal.
A lot of the time, it’s awkward to talk about exes in great detail. Even when they no longer mean anything to us, the pain is still real, and opening up about it takes time.
In the beginning, he was probably reluctant to do this, but then you notice him talking about it more, slowly but surely.
This means you’ve earned his trust. He’s ready to open up his heart to you because you’ve won him over more than you realize.
Appreciate his honesty. Soak in all that he’s told you and strive to love him the way he deserves.
8. He’s curious about your life.
He’s not the only one talking about his past. He’s only inquiring after yours, always asking questions and showing interest in all that made you who you are.
But he’s also never pushing it. You never feel forced to say anything because he created a safe space for you to express all your feelings.
All in all, he’s interested in truly knowing you, but also showing you his real self.
9. He values your relationship.
A man sees you as his special someone when he constantly puts in the effort. He doesn’t stop trying as soon as he wins your heart. He continues treating you with kindness and respect because he loves you, not because he wants to get something in return.
If you’ve found such a guy, know that he truly appreciates what the two of you have. Value him just as he values you because finding that kind of love is the most beautiful feeling in the world.
