You meet a guy who seems like a perfect match. As you get to know him, you start thinking that he could actually be the one.
You like everything about him, and at one point, you realize that you don’t want to lose him. You don’t want to live a life where he’s not beside you.
But your wishes aside, it looks like he’s the kind of guy who’s hates labeling. You’re apparently dating but your relationship is still a well-kept secret.
And no matter how much you love him, you don’t want to live a life like this. You don’t want to be someone his friends don’t know about. You would rather be the girl he can’t stop raving about, but it looks like you won’t be getting that any time soon.
So, as you’re trying to fall asleep, you’re wondering why he doesn’t want to label your relationship. If he actually loves you like he says he does, then why doesn’t he want to make things official?
Well, here are possible reasons why you’re still the one no one knows about even though around only you he acts like you’re his girlfriend.
1. He’s not looking for anything serious
Let’s be honest. If he doesn’t want to put a label on your relationship then he probably isn’t actually looking for a relationship.
He wants someone so he’s not alone but his goal isn’t to get himself into the serious stuff.
Maybe he just got out of a relationship and the thought of entering a new one right away scares him. Or he’s the type of guy who can’t date one woman at a time so he dodges commitment as swiftly as he can.
It’s not that he doesn’t like labels. It’s the fact that labeling your relationship will make him lose all of the other girls and that’s not something he wants.
Keeping everything private sounds like a way better option right now.
2. You’re just a convenience
He was feeling lonely when you walked into his life. You showed him that you like him and that’s when he realized that he could make you stay for as long as he wants.
You may act like a couple whenever no one’s around, but trust me, his feelings for you aren’t real. He’s only using his sweet words to seduce you and prolong your departure.
I know that you don’t want to hear these words right now, but you’re only food for his ego. The moment he gets bored, he’ll leave you and there won’t be much you can do about it.
Don’t get your hopes up. The chances of this relationship working out are practically zero.
3. It’s all moving too fast for him
Maybe he doesn’t want to label your relationship because it’s all moving too fast for his liking. He’s not used to meeting a girl and making things official with her within the weeks of dating.
This whole scenario scares him and that’s why he’s trying to prolong the moment of labeling your relationship. He thinks that he needs more time to figure out what he actually wants.
If he rushes things, he may end up in a place that’s bad for both of you. He’ll realize that he isn’t happy while you won’t get your expectations met.
In the end, no one will be happy and that’s what scares him the most.
4. He’s still not over his ex
Perhaps the actual reason he started dating you was because he just ended his previous relationship. He needed someone to get his mind off his ex and that’s when he stumbled upon you.
Even though it hurts, you’re just a rebound and nothing more. You’re his attempt to get his ex out of his system.
And now you’re asking him to put a label on your relationship when to him, it was never an actual relationship. He was joking around with you only to free himself from all of the post-breakup stress.
Honestly, you shouldn’t expect him to change his mind as he already knows that you’re not the one for him. Getting your hopes up will make matters even worse because, at one point, you’ll finally realize that he doesn’t want anything with you.
Unfortunately, you were just a girl he used to get over the one he loved, that’s all.
5. He doesn’t feel like you’re the one for him
It’s obvious that you like him a lot as you want to put a label on this relationship. You don’t want to lose him – you’re already head over heels for him.
But do you know if he feels the same way about you? Do you think that he believes you’re the one for him?
If he doesn’t want to label your relationship then there’s a possibility that he doesn’t see you as his one and only who he can’t live without. To him, you’re just a regular girl and you probably don’t make his heart skip a beat.
I know that I just broke your bubble of happiness as you didn’t want to hear these words. But at the same time, the sooner you realize that he doesn’t think you’re the one, the easier it will be to move on after him.
When you give him all but get nothing in return, it becomes obvious who loves more in this “relationship.” And when it’s you who’s chasing after him, then you must know that this thing won’t end well for you.
6. He’s a player
This one sentence sums it all up. If he doesn’t want to put a label on your relationship, then there’s a strong chance he’s a player.
We all know that players hate the idea of having one woman only. To them, it sounds like they’ve failed in life.
His goal is to seduce the hearts of many women, so he wouldn’t ever agree to commit to you only. If he did, then he would lose the reputation of a heartbreaker and it’s the worst thing a player can go through.
So, don’t even think about giving him more time as he’ll never change. Once a player, always a player. His heart belongs to many and will never settle for only one.