Think aloud
Being in a relationship with an emotionally immature man can really beat you down and make you question your own worth.
Truthfully, having someone by your side who always protects you, someone who proves to you day in and day out that you’re the one for him, is one of the greatest experiences you can have. But not everyone is lucky enough to find a partner who truly appreciates them.
Before you meet the man of your dreams, you have to go through a lot of pain and suffering dealing with those who are wrong for you. And that includes those who are emotionally immature.
So, how can you recognize if a man is emotionally mature or not? Well, luckily for you, the behavior of those men is very strange and identifiable, so if you can relate to any of the following things, then you should let your partner go.
1. He makes empty promises
Does it seem to you as if your partner says one thing but does the opposite? If the answer is yes, then you’re dealing with an emotionally immature man.
One day he’ll promise you the world, how he’ll love you forever and how you’re the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen. The next, he’ll completely ignore you. A man like this won’t ever back up his words with actions because he can’t wrap his head around the fact that words can have an impact too.
He’s all talk, but when it comes to putting actual effort into your relationship, he’s passive and does nothing.
If you recognize this type of behavior from the very beginning, then you’ll better believe that nothing will change in the future. You won’t be able to trust him and will have major issues.
Suddenly, you’ll be engaged in a one-sided relationship with a partner who just sits and enjoys his time. That’s why you have to pay more attention to his actions rather than his words.
2. He’s extremely needy and clingy
Being clingy and needy may be cute if you’re in the honeymoon stage, but that type of behavior shouldn’t last forever.
Maybe you noticed that your partner relies on you for everything. Whatever the situation may be, he always lets you do all the work and solve the problem for him. He seeks reassurance from you despite being a grown man.
His ego is extremely fragile, that’s why he always comes to you to boost it. He has low self-esteem and lacks faith in himself and his capabilities.
Sooner or later, you’ll grow tired of it. You’ll eventually not feel like his girlfriend anymore, but more like a cheerleader – or worse yet, this mother. The worst thing is that you can’t expect him to support you because he’ll be too focused on his own needs and worries.
On top of that, an emotionally immature man will talk for hours on end about his meaningless dramas. However, when it comes to hearing you out, he’ll quickly get bored and walk away from you.
3. He only talks about himself
It’s all about him. Whether we’re talking wishes, dreams, or goals, the focus is on him and not on you. He’ll make sure he’s satisfied and happy, and disregard everybody else around him. Why? Because he doesn’t care about anyone but himself.
Often, people see this type of man as arrogant and self-centered. He speaks highly of himself as if he’s the smartest person in the room.
But he’s doing that only to cover up the fact that he’s insecure and needy. And as time passes by and you spend more time together, it’s only going to get worse.
If this description fits your man, then you should definitely make a run for it and never look back. He’s a self-absorbed narcissist who’ll always put you last.
4. He doesn’t open up to you
Usually, men are pretty reserved when it comes to sharing personal stuff with others. They don’t like talking about their feelings because they think it makes them look weak and vulnerable. And that’s okay if you two aren’t in a relationship.
But as you get to spend more time with your partner, you need to express your emotions in one way or another. Whether that be through your words or actions, it really doesn’t matter.
An emotionally immature man will hide his feeling at all costs. And why? Because he’s afraid he’ll lose his power if he shows you his vulnerable side.
An honest conversation could help you, but that’s only possible if you’re not dealing with an emotionally immature man. He’s very skillful at avoiding the subject for as long as he can.
So, if you see that your partner makes no effort to open up and share his feelings, then I’m sorry to break it to you, but he most likely doesn’t have any for you.
5. He can’t commit to you
Despite being in his thirties or even forties, he still feels that he’s not completely ready to commit to any kind of responsibility. Instead, he runs away the second things start getting serious.
He still isn’t in a place when he can see himself in a committed relationship. So, if he doesn’t make any future plans and avoids calling you his girlfriend, then you need to be careful. Because a man like that won’t stay for too long by your side.
And if you think that you can help him, just stop and walk away. This is something he has to deal with it on his own. Don’t waste any more of your precious time or energy on him and instead, focus on yourself.
Let him go. Find your happiness elsewhere.
