Think aloud
The question every woman has asked herself at least once in her lifetime is why men come back months later.
Imagine this scenario; you and your man were dating and had fallen in love with each other.
Suddenly, he asked for space, broke up with you, and you were left wondering what had happened between the two of you.
You decided to implement the ‘no contact rule’.
You spent some time focusing on yourself and started to work out, spend more time with your friends, or just enjoyed your time being free.
Your ex-boyfriend didn’t even pop into your mind. The person who broke your heart months ago was long gone.
Suddenly, a message arrives on your phone. It is him. The guy whom you used to date and who gave you a heartache.
And you are left puzzled by his behavior. He treated you poorly, so why would he contact you now?
You ask yourself why men come back months later. What does he want from you?
Why is he contacting you? Is there a possibility that he is still in love with you?
The man left you because you were no longer a challenge to him. It is a simple truth that you need to hear.
If a man knows that you love him, there is no point in him chasing you anymore, because you give him the security that he needs.
That is why men cannot stay in love.
You might hate me for breaking the truth to you, but men don’t come back months later because of love.
If he truly loved you, he would not have left you in the first place, especially not for many months.
You cannot possibly think that it takes months for a man to realize that he loves you.
Instead, it could take months for a man to realize other things that could make him come back later.
1. Men come back because they thought the grass would be greener on the other side of the fence
The number one reason why a man leaves you and then comes back is that he has this illusion that he could do better.
Reality hits him a few months later when he finds out that the grass isn’t greener.
Men want to have their freedom but when they go through a breakup, they think that they can party like crazy, hang out more with their male friends, have as many girls as they want, and finally find someone who is better than their previous girlfriend.
And we all know that men are ego-driven.
After a while, they become tired of the single life and they realize that these girls who seemed to be better are actually worse.
They realize that those girls have all sorts of issues, besides not accepting their flaws, like you did.
That’s when an epiphany happens. He realizes that he made a mistake and he tries to sneak right back into your life.
It would be a huge mistake to take him back because he doesn’t realize the love that you had.
He could not see your worth the first time around and there is no guarantee that he will see it the second time.
2. Men come back when you have grown as a person
Another reason why men come back months later is when they see that you have grown as a person, and that you leveled up and got a better man.
If you want to see your ex flooding you with messages and attention, you just need to become a much better version of yourself.
Trust me, he would not recognize you and he would come right back to you.
Start working out at the gym, change your hairstyle, and develop as a person and believe me, your ex will reach out and ask you how you are doing.
That is because previously, he lost interest in you. To him, you were boring and miserable.
However, now you have changed, he thinks that you are a completely different person, one he can now explore and get to know better.
Suddenly, you have become a challenge to him and he likes that.
3. Men come back because they were testing your limits
This one is interesting. A man might not be doing this on purpose.
If the guy you are dating regularly breaks up with you and comes back, there is a high probability that he is actually testing your boundaries.
He does this to see what kind of behavior you will endure and accept.
He might break up with you right before a trip with your friends or just before you are going to a concert.
And after you come back from that trip or that concert, he asks you to get back together with him.
I know it is confusing, but you should not blame the guy for it. You are the one who got back together with him in the first place.
If a man sees this pattern of getting back together with you, he will use it.
4. Men come back when they become nostalgic
The thing is, if you have strong and happy memories, chances are that your ex will experience something that will remind him of you.
Those moments will trigger the same feelings and emotions that he felt when he was with you, and his desire will be to get back together with you.
Be careful. Don’t let him lure you into a trap of feelings and sensations.
Maybe he just wants to experience those emotions again, only to leave you the moment they disappear.
You have to keep in mind that men leave for a reason.
If you want to consider taking him back, the problems that you had in the first place need to be addressed and dealt with.
5. Men come back when they honestly want you back
People make mistakes every day and there are men who genuinely need a break.
Don’t get me wrong, that is not a bad thing. They might need to work on some issues alone.
I know this because I was once one of those guys who needed to fix some issues on my own in order to have a healthy relationship.
However, this reason is tricky to figure out. A guy who wants to get back together with you needs to take a real leap of faith.
If a guy wants to come back months later, you should wait and see how he behaves.
This is particularly important if you liked the guy the first time around. The least you can do is listen to what he has to say.
