A lot of us have been with guys who just didn’t know how to treat us the right way.
From letting us wait for their reply to begging them to show us love – we made a lot of mistakes thinking that those were parts of a healthy relationship.
We thought that we had to stick through if we wanted to make things work.
But after years of being played with, I realized that this thing I keep calling love can’t be it. It’s not “love” if he plays with my feelings and keeps walking out of my life all the time.
It’s not “love” if he takes me for granted and says words he knows hurt me.
How could that be love?
I’m not supposed to beg him for attention under the excuse that relationships take a lot of work.
This wasn’t a fight to make the relationship thrive.
This was more like the pain of fighting with a man who treats me badly and makes no effort to change his behavior.
It was a game in which I was the one who ended up being hurt all the time. He made sure to show me he’d play with me as long as I kept quiet.
Once I realized that, I made a plan. I was no longer going to be a toy for someone to play with.
Instead, I’m gonna be a woman with feelings and emotions, a woman who sticks up for herself even when no one’s backing her.
Because I went through the same thing, I know that he treats you badly only because you let him.
And you’re the only one who has the power to stop him.
Once you stand up for yourself, he’ll no longer be able to walk over you.
He won’t be able to treat you how you don’t deserve anymore because he’ll see you’re no longer willing to take it.
You should always demand the best for yourself. If a guy isn’t ready to give you that, walk away from him.
You’re the creator of your own life. If you let him see you’re weak, he’ll know he can manipulate you.
He’ll make you beg for love and chase after him, even though he knows he doesn’t deserve it.
But the second you tell him that you’ve had enough, he’ll have to stop with his bad behavior.
He’ll see a strong woman rising from the ashes – one who doesn’t let him walk over her.
He’ll see the confidence and be afraid to play with you from that point on.
When he realizes that you finally know what you deserve in life, he won’t be able to make you chase him.
You’ll show him that you want real love and you’ll open the door for him so he can leave because he has no idea what real love actually means.
He pushed you over every boundary you had, but it’s time to stop that. If you don’t make a move and take power into your hands, then who’s gonna do it?
You think that he’ll stop manipulating you when he sees that you’re breaking apart?
Of course he won’t. He feeds on your pain – that’s what toxic men do.
They seek out a victim and play with her confidence. But they’re able to do that only for as long as she lets them.
Trust me, a time will come where you won’t be able to take it anymore. You’ll realize that the thing you have isn’t even close to love.
All that chasing, fighting, and constant drama have no touching points with love.
It’s all forms of manipulation and bad treatment, and no one deserves that.
That’s why you have to stick up for yourself. You have to love yourself the hardest.
Only after that will you know how to recognize those who don’t love you.
You’ll know how to make a bad man go away from you because you’ll be aware that he doesn’t deserve anything you have to offer.
He’s toxic, and you’re worth so much more than spending your life with someone who cares about himself only. People like that never change.
Trust me, he can keep playing this game forever. Tossing your heart back and forth – that doesn’t hurt him at all.
He doesn’t see the pain he’s putting you through.
But once you show him that his game is over and that he’s the loser, he’ll no longer have the power to do what he used to.
You’ll be the one who takes things into her own hands.
To do that, you’ll need confidence.
Even if your heart is beating out of your chest when you confront him, don’t let him see that.
Don’t let him hear the crack in your voice. That will give him power.
Instead, be brave. Muster the courage to stand in front of him full of confidence.
Let him see the power in your eyes. Let him see that you’re holding the reins now.
He no longer has control over you. His time of walking over you is over and the only thing for you to do is wave him goodbye.
You’ve had enough of begging and chasing after him. You’ve followed his lead even when it was taking you the wrong way.
Now that you realize he’s been slowly crushing you this whole time, the time has finally come to leave him.
To stand up for yourself and to show him that you’re stronger than he thinks.
You may seem weak to him, but inside of you, there’s a power that he has to see now. Otherwise, he’ll keep treating you badly forever.
So, grab your confidence and show him your power. If you let him treat you the way he does, he’ll make you feel like a toy.
And you’re so much more than that!
So, stand up for yourself and don’t ever let a man walk over you. You’re made for loving, not for bullying.