They can keep telling you that you care only about yourself. They can keep calling you selfish because you know your limits and you’re not willing to cross them.
Let them do that, but also let them see that you only want the best for yourself. And if that means cutting some people out of your life, then you have every right to do so.
No one should tell you who should stay and who should go. No one knows how other people make you feel, so it’s not their job to determine if you’re doing the right thing by letting go of them.
These are the types of people you should cut out from your life right away. They won’t make you happy – if anything, they’ll only make your life worse.
The choice to let go of them doesn’t make you selfish. It only shows that you love yourself enough to recognize what’s good and what’s bad for you. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
1. Those who make you feel like you’re not good enough
If someone makes you feel like you’re not good enough, then you don’t need that person in your life anymore. Cross them out and forget that they exist because their presence won’t make you happy, no matter what.
Bluntly put, people who keep putting you down are toxic and they don’t deserve a chance to change. Let’s be real, even if you decided to give them one last shot, they still wouldn’t bother to work on themselves.
They are unhappy with who they are and out of that comes their need to make other people unhappy as well. They feed their ego when they see you suffer and that’s why they will never have a positive impact on your life.
If you keep them in your life, the only two things you’ll get are negative emotions and a degrading view of yourself. And that’s the best they can give you.
So, cut them out of your life and let yourself feel the beauty of living a life without those who thrive on your pain.
2. Those who refuse to admit they’re wrong
We all protect ourselves, our opinions, and our beliefs. But when you make a mistake, the only right thing to do is to admit you’re wrong. That’s how reasonable people tend to react.
But the stubborn type of people who believe they’re always right will never admit to their mistakes. They will keep fighting for their viewpoint till their last breath.
Those who want to be right all the time never apologize – they just keep trying to convince you that you’re always wrong.
It’s pointless to keep them in your life as all they’ll bring to you is frustration and suffering when trying to fight against them. Why waste your time on them when you can surround yourself with those who’ll improve your life instead?
3. Those you have a history with and keep you stuck in the past
We all have those people who used to be an important part of our lives. You shared all these amazing memories with them, but somewhere down the road, you went your separate ways.
Now, this person acts like glue, keeping you stuck in the past, no matter how hard to try to move on.
You want to move away from everything holding you back, but you think that you’ll appear selfish if you cut out that one person who used to be your whole world.
Trust me when I say, though, that there’s nothing wrong with growing apart and moving on. There’s nothing wrong with choosing your future over a past that’s preventing you from growth.
If that person really wants the best for you, they won’t resent you for choosing your well-being. Instead, they will support you in doing what’s best for you.
4. Those who don’t respect your boundaries
You’ve most likely been in a situation where you crossed some boundaries that other people have set for themselves. You did the wrong thing and probably apologized for it once you figured out your mistake.
But some people will keep pushing your buttons, no matter how many times you point out to them that they should stop. They ignore all of the boundaries you set for yourself, thinking that they know what’s best for you.
As time goes by, you realize that they have no intention to change. They continue acting the same way (until they get bored), and there’s nothing you can do about it.
If that’s the case, the only option is to walk away from them and cut them out of your life. If you don’t, you’re setting yourself up for a long ride of having to tolerate someone who doesn’t give a damn about you.
And that’s wrong on so many levels.
5. Those who have different views on basic human rights
Do you know anyone who believes they have the right to comment on the lives of others? They think that they know best and always give their opinion, even when no one asks them to.
And usually, those opinions are completely different from yours and go against basic human rights.
If you can’t tolerate these people, then the best thing to do is to distance yourself from them. Cut contact and let them see that you’re not willing to waste your time with those who think they have a right to decide on the lives of others.
When your views on basic human rights differ, then it’s okay to choose what you morally think is best. Even if it means that you’ll lose someone who’s supposed to be your friend.
6. Those who don’t make you happy anymore
Sometimes, you don’t even need to explain to anyone why you’re cutting someone out of your life. When you feel that someone isn’t making you happy anymore, you don’t need to come up with excuses to stop hanging out with them.
Instead, you simply cut the ties that are holding you together and walk away from them freely.
When spending time with them drains you, their talking sucks up your last ounce of energy, and you start looking for excuses not to see them – that’s exactly when you should end things for good.
When someone no longer makes you happy, you have to know when to stop trying.