Does the title of this article make your blood boil? While there’s nothing wrong with being on your own, there’s a possibility you’re so keen on being alone because you haven’t found the right guy. And before you go on a rant about being an independent woman who doesn’t need a guy, hear me out.
You’re better off on your own than in a relationship that makes you rethink every decision that led you to that point. That makes you feel unwanted, unappreciated, and uninspired.
That brings out your inner demons and makes you do things you never knew you were capable of. That makes you wonder whether or not he loves you, he’s going to text you back, and he’s going to say “I love you.”
You’re better off on your own than in a relationship with a guy who isn’t ready for commitment but is ready for sleepovers, cuddles, and breakfasts in bed. A guy who keeps tabs on every step you take, every person you talk to, and everything you decide to wear, but doesn’t keep tabs on himself.
You’re better off on your own than being in a relationship that leaves you feeling unhappy and unsatisfied most of the time. But…
It doesn’t mean you’re better off on your own under any circumstances. It doesn’t mean you should push everyone away just because you’re scared of getting hurt. And certainly not that you should give up on love for the rest of your life.
You just haven’t found the right guy – yet. When you do find him, you’ll understand why everyone around you told you to keep looking. When you do find him, you’ll understand what you’ve been waiting for this entire time.
And who is this right guy we’re speaking of? How can you be sure the guy you’re speaking with is the right one for you? Well, when you do find him, you won’t have to ask that question. You’ll simply know.
The guy you’re speaking with isn’t ready for a relationship? He wants to take things slow and see where it goes from there? He seems as if he would be the right guy for you, but he isn’t.
The guy you’re speaking with has a great personality, but you’re already noticing a bunch of things you want to change about him? The fact that you want to make a completely different guy out of him should be a sign in itself. He isn’t the right guy for you at this moment, and that’s all that matters.
The right guy is someone who wants the same things you do. Someone who accepts you for who you are. Someone who makes you want to be a better person.
Meeting the right man is one of the biggest challenges you’ll ever face. Let’s be honest, you don’t have time to go around looking for a guy you’ve never met, hoping he will check all the boxes, break all the stereotypes, and tear all your walls down.
Yet, you can’t help but wonder the reason you haven’t found him yet. What are the odds you’re the one who’s responsible for getting yourself in such a predicament? What are the odds you haven’t found the right guy because you haven’t been the right girl?
You’re not far from the truth.
To find the right guy, you have to be the right girl. You have to mirror the attributes you’re looking for in a guy. You need to become aligned with what you’re hoping to attract.
So, there’s nothing serendipitous about meeting the right guy. You just haven’t met him because you may have been preoccupied with feeling sorry for yourself and focusing on the negative aspects of your life.
You need to get your marbles together, become the person you’ve always wanted to be, and see what happens.
To find the right guy, you have to believe he’s somewhere out there. You need to envision meeting him, welcoming him with arms wide open, and enjoying his presence in your life.
There’s nothing odd about doing that, you’re simply helping the law of attraction do its thing. Trust me, you’re setting yourself up for failure if the first thing you think about in the morning is how you’ll never find someone to share your mornings with.
Or how you’ll never meet someone who checks all boxes. The right guy for you is out there, you just have to find a way to cross paths with him.
To find the right guy, first determine what you want. You can’t count on the law of attraction to help you lock eyes with the right guy if you have no idea who he is or who you want him to be.
And that’s completely normal. You wouldn’t be the first woman who doesn’t know what she’s looking for in a guy. Does he have to be tall, dark, and handsome? Does he have to be charming and successful?
A businessman or an artist? A bookworm or an obsessive gamer? Once you figure that out, you’re on the right track.
To find the right guy, you have to be all-in – committed and prepared to accept the love you deserve. You have to put all your time and energy into making yourself available for the right guy.
Since you think you’re better off on your own, you might not be in a hurry to find the right guy. You might be taking things slow, figuring out whether you want to be with him or not, and pushing him away because you’re making him feel like you’re not that into him.
And lastly, to find the right guy, you need to stop wasting your time on the wrong one. You need to make it as easy as possible for the right guy to come into your life and sweep you off your feet.
Trust me, he won’t be able to do that if you’re hiding behind your emotional baggage. You have to get rid of the idea that you’re better off on your own.
While you’re enjoying your peace and solitude, you might be missing out on the most amazing thing that could ever happen to you. Wouldn’t it be better to simply take the chance?