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You Can’t Make A Man Treat You Right, But You Can Make Him Wish He Had

You Can’t Make A Man Treat You Right, But You Can Make Him Wish He Had

After crying my eyes out one night, I told my friend that I realized that I wanted to be single forever. No man was worthy of this much pain, right?

With a sigh of desperation, she looked at me and I could see her mood changing.

Yes, we had been listing all the reasons why he wasn’t worthy of me anymore.

Whenever someone from your friend group goes through a breakup, there is always one who will do anything in her power to show you that you are worthy of love.

She will cry with you and tell you why you’re perfect just the way you are.

There is, of course, the obligatory gossip about your ex and why he isn’t worth one single tear.

She looked at me, while I was wiping away the residue of mascara that was running down my face, and said the life-changing words:

“You can’t make a man treat you right, but you can make him wish he had.”

The first thought that struck me was: Why hadn’t I thought of that?

We have always been taught that we are the ones who should show other people how to treat us right.

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If I had a dollar for every time someone told me that I need to make a man treat me right and respect me, I would have been rich by now.

But what if that’s not true? What if we’re not responsible for whether a man respects us or not?

What if all of that is on him?

He should have been the one to treat me right!

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He should have been the one to show me how a man is supposed to treat a woman right.

There shouldn’t have to be a crash course on respecting a woman every time a man gets into a new relationship!

This last relationship of mine was a real trainwreck. I fought with the knowledge that it would be over soon and it was.

There was no one who could have told me that he didn’t treat me right, because I convinced everyone that he simply didn’t know better.

How many times have we done that?

Tell ourself and other people that the man in our life simply doesn’t know better, that he never had a woman teach him how to treat someone right?

Let me ask you this: Why does it have to be you and me?

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Why does it always have to be us getting our hearts broken and pretending like these wounds don’t hurt?

They are painful as hell and we shouldn’t have to deal with it!

If a man doesn’t know how to treat you right, then leave and let him later wish he had known better.

You and I are not instructors, and we are not experiments for men. We are human beings with real feelings.

Just because someone doesn’t know how to treat us right, it doesn’t mean that we have to take all the hurt until they learn to.

At the end of the day, should we suffer for the happiness of another woman in the future?

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No one can guarantee that this man in particular will stay in your life forever, so should you really deal with all that hurt just so another woman in this world can be happy with him?

No man should even enter a relationship if he doesn’t know how to treat a woman right.

This is extremely important, because we act like we’re obligated to teach them the basics. It might seem like a new concept, but we aren’t obligated to!

We should not sit around and pretend that having to teach grown men how to treat someone with respect is normal.

Once you realize that he isn’t treating you right, walk away.

“Leave him,” has never really been the best advice, but right now, there isn’t much we can do to change that.

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Until men learn that they can’t play with our emotions anymore, this is the only thing that’s left for us to do.

Once you walk away from him, he’ll wish that he had known how to treat you right sooner.

You’re someone who bends over backward for the people she loves. You’re someone who loves unconditionally and with her entire being.

But at what point was it deemed okay for men to take someone like you for granted?

Guys think that they’ll keep us even if they put in the bare minimum.

We need to stop that nonsense right now!

It doesn’t matter how hard you try, you’ll never be able to teach a man how to treat you right.

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Something like that is his decision only. He’s the only one who can choose to treat you right and show you that you are special.

When the relationship is over and he looks back on what you two went through, he’ll regret all of it.

You won’t even have to do much, except respect yourself enough to let him go when he wants to leave.

Believe me when I tell you that he’ll regret the fact that he didn’t treat you the way you deserved back then.

He will imagine all those times and he will think of better outcomes.

He will wish that he had known some things sooner, because letting go of a quality woman like you is a sin.

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When my friend told me those words, that you can make a man wish he had treated you right, my tears dried and my breathing evened out.

The way my entire body relaxed at that realization is indescribable. I wanted to hug her, but she was on her way to make us another cup of tea.

You and I shouldn’t have to teach a man how to treat us right. Rather than that, walk away when you see that you are miserable with him!

Let him wish he had known better and let him feel the pain he caused you.

You are no man’s educator, please know that.

Walk away once you realize that you deserve better and let him learn it the hard way.

It isn’t and it never will be your responsibility to teach a man basic human decency.

You Can't Make A Man Treat You Right, But You Can Make Him Wish He Had