When trying to figure out why trust is so important in a relationship, we all have our different answers.
One will say that it’s there to solidify the bond, another that it’s a crucial component in order for a person to love.
The reality is, there are many reasons. I’ll be the first one to say that a relationship without trust isn’t a healthy one. It’s not a relationship that any of us would want to be a part of.
A healthy relationship needs trust to be successful. If you want to make your partner and yourself happy, you have to be able to trust each other.
When you first start dating, you see things through rose-tinted glasses. You’re in the puppy-love stage and still trying to build trust.
Every little thing you do for each other – the communication, affirmations, and reassurances – they’re all building blocks for trust.
You work on trusting each other because you’re aware of its importance. You know what it means to be in a relationship with someone you can’t trust.
Throughout your life, you’ve probably encountered many people that betrayed your trust. You put so much effort into showing them that you’re worthy of their love and friendship, but that obviously didn’t change them.
Because of experiences like that, there is quite a bit of trauma that follows you into new relationships. You may have trust issues, which makes it even harder for someone else to trust you back.
It’s a two-way street.
What is trust?
“None of us knows what might happen even the next minute, yet still we go forward. Because we trust. Because we have Faith.” – Paolo Coelho
By definition, trust is the assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something.
In the context of a romantic relationship, trust means you believe that your partner is absolutely reliable.
When you’re with him, you’re confident that you’re completely safe. Your emotional shields are down and you’re able to be vulnerable with him.
This also means that you’re physically more relaxed because you don’t have to be anxious about what he will or won’t do to you.
When you trust your partner, you know that he’ll fulfill his promises and keep your secrets.
Even when times get tough, he won’t just blurt them out to the world.
But the most important thing to understand is that every person has different ways of expressing their trust.
Why is trust important in a relationship?
“If we do not trust one another, we are already defeated.” – Alison Croggon
When you think of it, trust is more important than love in a relationship.
Love is an emotion, and emotions are never stable. They can fluctuate, depending on the situation.
Sometimes, the love you feel for your partner is overwhelming. Other times, it’s just a little spark that you could just as well ignore.
But trust? Trust is something that can be lost in a matter of seconds.
You and your partner worked so hard on becoming this beautiful team. Is there anything more special than trusting each other absolutely?
Trust forms the very core of our romantic relationships.
Even though it’s the one thing we build the rest of our relationship on, it’s still extremely fragile. You can lose someone’s trust in a flash, so don’t play with it!
But why is trust important in a relationship? Are there any actual reasons?
1. Love needs trust for it to work
“Love is supposed to be based on trust, and trust on love, it’s something rare and beautiful when people can confide in each other without fearing what the other person will think.” – E. A. Bucchianeri
If there was an actual way to know that a person would leave you hanging when you needed them most, would you still love them?
If you knew he was going to cheat on you, would you still be with him?
There are many reasons why we need trust in a relationship for it to work.
If you want to believe that you can question someone’s loyalty and still have a lasting relationship, you’re mistaken.
In your previous relationship, you needed a while to be assured your heart won’t be broken and you still remember how hard that period was for you.
You can still be attracted to someone who deceived you, but you can never love them again.
Every single time you think of him, your heart breaks a little more.
Lack of trust is nothing more than a silent promise your relationship won’t last long.
2. Trust makes you less anxious
You know that feeling of absolute stillness and comfort when you can trust your partner?
When he goes into a club with his friends, you know that he won’t go messing around with another girl.
He won’t cheat on you just for the hell of it. He doesn’t need that type of validation when he has you waiting for him.
It also means that when he makes a promise, he’ll keep it. If he said that he’s going to pick up something so you don’t have to go, he does it.
Personal relationships rely on this. When you have a trustworthy partner, your entire relationship becomes so much lighter and you don’t have to feel anxious about anything.
You don’t have to pace around the house until he comes home, you don’t have to blow up his phone with calls and texts.
You know that he’s faithful to you and you can go to sleep without any paranoid thoughts.
That also means that he trusts you back. When you’re doing something without him, you don’t have to worry whether he’ll get upset.
He knows you’d never do something that would hurt or anger him.
That’s why trust is so important in a relationship!
3. With trust, it’s easier to resolve problems
There isn’t a perfect relationship out there in the world. Every couple needs to put a lot of work and effort put into their relationship.
If you’re unable to give that to each other, then it will fade into nothing.
You need trust for it to work!
You trust the process that you two are going through, and you trust each other.
That’s why it’s so much easier to resolve issues between the two of you.
You’ll find something wrong in your relationship at the weirdest times. There may be anger and even hurtful things said.
When you trust each other with your hearts, you know you would never go too far and intentionally set out to hurt each other.
You trust him to criticize you and your behavior, while at the same time knowing he’s doing so to make your relationship better for the both of you.
When you’re sure of the trustworthiness of your partner, when you understand how important trust is in a relationship, your problems will be solved much easier.
4. Trust keeps your heart safe
When you’re in a trusting relationship, you know without a doubt that your heart is safe.
Trust is important in a relationship because earning it is extremely hard. They say that it’s easier to earn than it is to give, though.
So when you have someone else’s trust and you trust them back, it means that you’ve been through a lot to get there.
Especially if you’re someone who’s had issues trusting people in your past. When you come from a long line of disappointments, you start guarding your heart more tightly.
People need a lot more to gain your trust. Your trust issues have kept your heart safe all this time so that you could keep your peace of mind.
So when you do reach the point of trusting someone, you know your heart is safe in their hands.
It took you a lot to trust them, so they must have earned their spot.
5. Trust helps you heal
As said before, we all have some unresolved trauma from our previous relationships. We were broken by someone we loved.
That led to us having a very low level of trust.
You know what I’m talking about when I say that now people have to bend over backward for you to trust them.
But once you realize why trust is so important in a relationship, you’ll also realize that it’ll help you heal.
When you trust someone after a long time, you’re ready to open up to them.
You’re ready to love again and heal whatever broken part of you needs mending.
Trusting your new partner will help you heal from your previous emotional wounds.
That’s why your loved ones are always the best option when you need some healing.
This is when you’ll start rebuilding trust in all your close relationships.
6. Trust allows you to accept each other
When you and your partner trust each other, you don’t ask questions.
Granted, some actions will need an explanation, but you won’t ask questions that show your displeasure with a situation.
Your partner will simply know to never put you in a situation where you doubt them.
So that’s what happens when you trust each other and you’re able to accept who the other person is.
You’ve gotten to know each other and made the conscious decision to be together.
It also means that you have to accept each other.
You know that accepting him means trusting that whoever he is beneath his skin won’t break your heart.
7. Trust makes you more confident in your relationship
Is there anything more beautiful than two people who walk into a room together, absolutely confident in their relationship?
When you trust each other, someone can’t just break you up.
There are many reasons why trusting each other makes you both more confident.
Your mind isn’t clouded with constant internal nagging and questioning!
You can go through your day, knowing that your man isn’t scouting for other women online.
A successful relationship is truly one where you can undoubtedly trust each other. You’re confident that whenever your partner makes a decision, it’s in your best interest.
If someone came up to you and told you that your partner cheated on you, you’d first want to talk things through with him before assuming anything.
You even trust each other with your phones because you know neither of you has anything to hide.
It’s a perfect balance that shows how confident you are in yourself and your relationship.
9 signs your partner is trustworthy
When you’re building trust at the beginning of a relationship, you’re subconsciously looking for every little sign that may show you he’s not trustworthy.
Trust is the key ingredient in creating a loving relationship, so it’s absolutely understandable why you’d want to test how much you can trust your partner.
Trustworthiness is not only a sign that your heart is safe with him, but it’s also a sign that your partner is mature.
So now that we know why trust is so important in a relationship, here’s how to know for sure your partner is someone you can trust.
1. He doesn’t hide his phone from you
I would love to say that phones don’t play such an important role in society and our relationships, but they really do.
Especially in romantic relationships.
People tend to hide many secrets on their phone because practically their whole life is on it.
So if there are any secrets, they’d definitely be hiding their phone from their partners.
That’s why it’s really a sign you can trust him when he doesn’t mind you seeing his text messages.
He’s texting his friends and coworkers right there with you’re sitting on his lap.
He might even go the extra mile to show you who texted him the other day or he’ll scroll his news feed while you’re still looking at his phone.
That’s because he has nothing to hide from you.
2. He’s introduced you to his friends
Our friends are an extremely important part of our lives. They know almost everything that’s happening in our lives.
You’ve heard more often than not that a man’s friends always know when he’s having an affair.
And if he’s said something bad about you to them, he wouldn’t dare introduce you to them.
That’s why it’s such a big deal that you meet his friends.
So if he introduces you to his friends, then he also deems trust an important part of your relationship, so you can safely trust him.
Especially if, when you meet all of them, they tell you that they’ve heard many good things about you.
He isn’t hiding that part of his life from you, which means that he trusts you as well. That is the first step toward a serious relationship.
3. He’s affectionate in public
Maybe you’re not a big fan of PDA, but there are many ways to show affection for your partner.
For example, when you’re outside, he doesn’t mind holding your hand, openly flirting with you in front of his friends, and hugging you.
This means that everyone around him knows that you two are together.
If he’s refusing to be affectionate in front of others, it’s a clear sign he’s trying to hide the fact that you’re in a relationship.
But by being openly affectionate, he’s making sure everyone knows (especially you) that you two are together.
You can trust a man who isn’t trying to hide your relationship.
4. He replies to you quickly
If he’s worthy of your trust, he won’t make excuses why he’s not able to reply to your texts or answer your calls.
He replies to you right away and doesn’t make you doubt him for a moment.
Of course, sometimes it’ll take him a little while longer if there are urgent matters he needs to deal with, but you always know why.
He’ll let you know he’s in a meeting.
But he doesn’t make you wait for a reply or leave you hanging.
He knows that trust is important in a relationship, so he lets you know that you can always trust him to reply to you.
5. He asks for your opinion
There are too many men out there who don’t look at their female partner as an equal.
You can’t trust a man like that to not betray you and break your heart.
But if he’s making sure your opinion is always considered, he trusts that you’ll make a good decision.
You can trust him if he asks for your opinion. He wants to include you in his decisions.
He also wants to let you know all of his plans so that you know he has your best interest in mind as well.
A man who asks for your opinion is a man who sees you as an equal. He would never put you down or think of you as less-than.
Why is trust important in a relationship if not to trust your partner enough to always consider their opinion?
6. He keeps his promises
He would never promise you something he couldn’t see through. A trustworthy man would never make a promise just to break it afterward.
When you meet a smooth-talker, he’ll make promises that’ll seem too good to be true, and they probably are.
A smooth-talker won’t think twice about promising you the moon and the stars.
But your boyfriend is not like that. A clear sign you can trust him is if he makes a detailed plan about how he’ll come through on his promise.
He would never give you his word just to disappoint you afterward.
He won’t be vague about his plans, but rather very specific.
So when he promises you that he’ll take you out, he’ll tell you the day, time, and place where he’ll pick you up.
7. You’re his biggest priority
It’s normal for someone to cancel plans every once in a while. He doesn’t cancel those plans often, but when he does he makes it up to you.
You can trust a man who makes you his biggest priority. He’ll put anything and everything aside to be there for you.
He knows his friends are important, but if you need him, if you feel bad, he’s there in a heartbeat.
He’s truly worthy of your trust.
It’s important to know your partner will be there for you. And you’ll always be there for him when he needs you – you won’t think twice about it.
That’s exactly what happens when you’re aware of how important trust is in a relationship.
You’re confident he has your back, just as much as you have his.
8. He doesn’t gossip
You know those men who can’t keep their mouths shut about their exes?
They’ll talk about how crazy they were and how they’re happy their ex is out of their life.
Not just that, but they’ll say awful things about the people around them.
The worst thing about it is that they never say these words right to the faces of the people they don’t like. No.
Men like this really don’t deserve to have a kindhearted woman by their side.
Is your boyfriend like that? Does he make sure he knows all the juicy gossip of the town? If yes, then you can’t trust him!
But he’s not like that, is he?
He’s probably a sweetheart who’d never badmouth anyone! Apart from it not being his style, he knows it would mean you’ll lose your faith in him.
A guy who runs his mouth can’t be trusted because he’ll talk about you behind your back as well.
Why is trust important in a relationship? So that you know you’re safe together with all your secrets.
You can definitely trust your man if he doesn’t gossip.
9. You can depend on him
Reliability and trustworthiness go hand in hand.
Your boyfriend is truly worthy of your trust if you can always rely and depend on him.
He’s promised you that he’ll always be by your side and you truly believe him.
You can depend on him to hold you when you’re crying. You can rely on him to get you food when you’re sick.
A man like that is really husband material!
You both know that trust is so important in your relationship and you can build a happy life together if you hold on to it.