Being in love with yourself has such a bad rep all over the world. As if it’s a sin to look at yourself and see the person you love the most in this world.
Society deems it as egoism or an attack on everyone else around us. That’s because so many people thrive on knowing that you don’t love yourself enough to put up boundaries.
Others always see an opportunity to use your lack of self-love against you. It’s like their own way to find someone willing to be their little punching bag.
Especially when you’re in a relationship.
So many women fall in love with a man before they’ve even fallen in love with themselves. Sadly, that’s what leads them into a deep pit filled with pain and agony.
You’re in a relationship with the guy because you love him, but he’s not good for you. He always makes you feel like you’re nothing more than a waste of his time. You’re a burden to him and he doesn’t even try to hide it.
He has his way of pretending like everything’s fine, all the while breaking your heart with each one of his actions. But you feel like you’re breaking apart from the inside out.
There’s nothing you want more than to have him love you the way you love him. You want to see him put you first, to spend the night in his embrace and never leave his arms.
But you know that it won’t be possible when it comes to a man like that. He doesn’t see you as someone worthy of such tenderness.
He sees you as a woman who needs to be able to take care of him. A man like that only knows how to take things away from you. He’s not capable of giving anything in return because there’s nothing to give. He’ll look at you and only see someone who exists to make him happy.
But what happens when you fall in love with yourself?
When you see yourself as the most special person in your life, there’s nothing that’ll be able to change that. You’ll see your full potential, make yourself the biggest priority, and be able to leave any situation that doesn’t benefit you.
That includes him. You’ll be able to walk away from him.
When you give yourself a moment to think about him, you’ll understand that there’s actually nothing good that he brings into your life. You’re just scared to be alone when all you want is to have someone who’ll love you.
Nonetheless, once you fall in love with yourself, you’ll realize that being alone is so much better than being with someone who doesn’t deserve you.
When you love yourself, you only choose to surround yourself with people who show you the same amount of respect. You know how much you love yourself, so you refuse to settle for anything less than that.
You’ll take yourself out on dates. You’ll want to spoil yourself above anyone else. That’s when you’ll start to appreciate your alone time because you’ll know that no one can treat you as well as you can treat yourself.
It’s so hard to do that nowadays. We’re conditioned to hate every single part of ourselves because otherwise, the world will stop spinning. As dramatic as that sounds, you know very well that it’s the truth.
We’re taught from a very young age that we need someone else to complete us. Our parents and society at large say we have to be more humble and we need to lower our voices.
They continue to teach young women that they’re arrogant if they love themselves. They tell us we’re high maintenance if we take care of ourselves.
That’s why you fell in love with a guy who’s not right for you. The people around you conditioned you to be with him because they didn’t know that self-love is the most important thing you need to find in your life.
And you don’t even have to search for it, it’s always been within you. The only thing you need to do is not be afraid to show it.
Because once you fall in love with yourself, being alone truly doesn’t sound that scary anymore.
When you love yourself, you’ll see how content you can be with the things you can give to yourself. You’ll cherish your life and free time above anything. You’ll never let anyone disrupt your peace because you’ll know how sacred it is to you.
So, if you’re afraid to be alone, start finding ways to fall in love with yourself. Start seeing yourself as your best friend and as the perfect human to spend your time with. Never put yourself last or let anyone else disrespect you.
Once you understand the importance of these things, you’ll see that you don’t need a man to love you. You’ll never need someone to validate your feelings or to take you out on a date.
You can do all of these things by yourself and for yourself.
You’ll finally understand that you’re not lacking anything for being without a partner. And it’s so important to know that you’re not giving yourself over to a temporary fix for your loneliness.
You’re not lacking anything if you decide to stay single. You’re not half of a whole when you choose to be single.
If anything, it’s the complete opposite.
Once you fall in love with yourself, everything will finally make sense because you’ll enjoy your solitude instead of putting up with someone’s empty promises.
And believe me when I tell you, that’s when you’ll realize how much scarier it is to be in a relationship where you feel lost and confused than to be alone.